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why being apprehensive about married men..?
March 14 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'TassieRose' to make it worse he is good friends with my cousin and his family as am i...so now not only did that take me out of the game and put me in my shell for a few days...but how do i face my family knowing iv just done that??? roxxy Oh Roxxy. That should be common ... maybe not in your family... but you know... common in the community... I mean to say.... Tasmania... derrrr! :pYes, you can spank me for that one.HugsStalkySounds like some-one wants the glad wrap Roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' ...not that he conned me and pretended to be single, he just didnt bother telling me he was married until i had swallowed his cum and he said "wow my wife never does that" Love that guys style, you have to give him top marks, successfully avoiding the married question and to top it off to tell you when your mouth was full. What a sence of humour he has! Thats a 10/10!Do you ask now?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'TassieRose' to make it worse he is good friends with my cousin and his family as am i...so now not only did that take me out of the game and put me in my shell for a few days...but how do i face my family knowing iv just done that??? roxxy Oh Roxxy. That should be common ... maybe not in your family... but you know... common in the community... I mean to say.... Tasmania... derrrr! :pYes, you can spank me for that one.HugsStalky boy do i have the toy for you....no spanking required, but it packs a punch im told lol roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
For all the women who say they wont play with married men because they are greedy and want the man all to themselves - do you ask if a prospective SINGLE play mates are fucking anyone else??? Do you then say no if they are?? Because ladies I hate to tell you all this - but thats sharing too... . Just a thought . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
The other thing I read is those ladies dont want to be sloppy seconds to their men, but due to the nature of how women are built that reference really refers ladies....and should be quoted by the men ....sloppy hot wet tight pussies! For the record....sloppy seconds is hot love it all part of a MFM 3 some ....Dont you agree? Quoting 'focusliason' For all the women who say they wont play with married men because they are greedy and want the man all to themselves - do you ask if a prospective SINGLE play mates are fucking anyone else??? Do you then say no if they are?? Because ladies I hate to tell you all this - but thats sharing too... . Just a thought . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
we steer clear of married men for many reasons. the main ones are that they are unreliable and unavailable. leaving at 9pm doesnt constitute a fun night in anyones eyes. nor does rushed midday rendezvous. or ill considered car-park interludes. we've also encountered some married guys who we felt straight up were bullies. pushy and arrogant and wanting to rush straight into play. we also insist that those we do invite for play be aware that 'spending the evening' may mean much much more than just an hour or two. married men are just not free to do this.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel'we steer clear of married men for many reasons. the main ones are that they are unreliable and unavailable. leaving at 9pm does not constitute a fun night in anyone's eyes. nor does rushed midday rendezvous. or ill considered car-park interludes. we've also encountered some married guys who we felt straight up were bullies. pushy and arrogant and wanting to rush straight into play. we also insist that those we do invite for play be aware that 'spending the evening' may mean much much more than just an hour or two. married men are just not free to do this. We have found the same all those examples we have experienced as well. With the exception: Married military men being posted away from home for a short period. Traveling business professionals whose work takes them away from home occasionally. Had one resourceful chap who suggested we send him a invite to a poker game / tournament. If the married guys are honest with us it does work.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Romancefor4' Quoting 'mikeandshel'we steer clear of married men for many reasons. the main ones are that they are unreliable and unavailable. leaving at 9pm does not constitute a fun night in anyone's eyes. nor does rushed midday rendezvous. or ill considered car-park interludes. we've also encountered some married guys who we felt straight up were bullies. pushy and arrogant and wanting to rush straight into play. we also insist that those we do invite for play be aware that 'spending the evening' may mean much much more than just an hour or two. married men are just not free to do this. We have found the same all those examples we have experienced as well. With the exception: Married military men being posted away from home for a short period. Traveling business professionals whose work takes them away from home occasionally. Had one resourceful chap who suggested we send him a invite to a poker game / tournament. If the married guys are honest with us it does work. ok..we thought you guys were 'swingers' and that 'swingers' didn't play with single guys or other womens husbands?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Romancefor4' ok..we thought you guys were 'swingers' and that 'swingers' didn't play with single guys or other womens husbands? Swingers are when Husband and Wife play together mostly with other couples partner swapping, that can be singles as well we are greedy. All we said is singles are not swingers because they are not husband and wife, singles are singles . Singles can play with swingers!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel'we steer clear of married men for many reasons. the main ones are that they are unreliable and unavailable. leaving at 9pm doesnt constitute a fun night in anyones eyes. nor does rushed midday rendezvous. or ill considered car-park interludes. we've also encountered some married guys who we felt straight up were bullies. pushy and arrogant and wanting to rush straight into play. we also insist that those we do invite for play be aware that 'spending the evening' may mean much much more than just an hour or two. married men are just not free to do this. agree totally roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quite simply, I have been cheated on, in a former relationship, and I know what it feels like. I would never want anyone else to feel that way - Male or Female. If you are going behind your partners back and invloved in any way sexually/physically/emotionally with another person that isn't your partner, that is cheating on the relationship. I want nothing to do with that. Mich
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Romancefor4' Quoting 'Romancefor4' ok..we thought you guys were 'swingers' and that 'swingers' didn't play with single guys or other womens husbands? Swingers are when Husband and Wife play together mostly with other couples partner swapping, that can be singles as well we are greedy. All we said is singles are not swingers because they are not husband and wife, singles are singles . Singles can play with swingers! ah yea ok i can see the logic in that? lol not! so.... a couple that play separately aren't swingers?
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RHP User
15 years ago
We have a lovely married friend who is indeed cheating on his wife, and we meet with him whenever he is available. He is respectful of our relationship, and wonderful to be with. He has other playmates also and would be cheating on his wife whether we were with him or not. He is an adult and is making his own choices. Is he a liar? no doubt. But with us he always keeps his appointments or lets us know in plenty of time when he can't, not a trait many single men can claim...Are we in any position to judge him? Absolutely not. Let he or she who is without sin cast the first stone...We don't make choices for other people. We make our own choices and own them. We can then accept full responsibility for what happens as a result of those choices. And we don't feel we have any right to make judgements on anyone else when we are far far from perfect ourselves. We allow other people into our sex lives and moral purists will tell you that's wrong... Just my opinion...Mrs Justswinging
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RHP User
15 years ago
Perhaps you need to define relationship as those are also changing from the days of fatihful monogamy... As you might know these days half of marriages end in a divorce and if that is caused in so many cases by "cheating" then maybe it needs to be redefined in society's perception... there could be more acceptance of sharing partners especially if it is just in the sexual sphere... just my 2 c
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RHP User
15 years ago
Too many prissy prudes on here moralise about rules for fucking. "Can only do it this way, not that way, must be love, must be committed, must be with 'the one'", or some such other romantic crap. This site and the reason for it is not a church, and those who pontificate about how all must conform to the right way to do things need to remember that sex and sexuality is about as mysterious and complex a human activity as it gets and the rules for sex get remade every single time we feel a pang of lust or desire for another. So, for all you agony aunts, fretting and worrying about true love, proper sex, and all the rest-get a life. As for me - i love women, i love what they do to me, i love exploring a woman's mind and body, i love the mind-bending sex that seems to come my way every time a woman lets me in and i go for it every chance i get, because it is never the same, ever. But, just for the prudes out there, the ones who have never been deceptive or never flirted, i'll try and remember not to fuck around. Honestly, i will.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Dirtyfuka'Too many prissy prudes on here moralise about rules for fucking. "Can only do it this way, not that way, must be love, must be committed, must be with 'the one'", or some such other romantic crap. This site and the reason for it is not a church, and those who pontificate about how all must conform to the right way to do things need to remember that sex and sexuality is about as mysterious and complex a human activity as it gets and the rules for sex get remade every single time we feel a pang of lust or desire for another. So, for all you agony aunts, fretting and worrying about true love, proper sex, and all the rest-get a life. As for me - i love women, i love what they do to me, i love exploring a woman's mind and body, i love the mind-bending sex that seems to come my way every time a woman lets me in and i go for it every chance i get, because it is never the same, ever. But, just for the prudes out there, the ones who have never been deceptive or never flirted, i'll try and remember not to fuck around. Honestly, i will. ahhhaaa someone's got a taste for the forums now. And gee, when you start explaining your fucking around and your 'real' reason for it, you don't even sound like such a swinging dick anymore In fact there may even be a little Nicefuka in there somewhere . But I reserve the right to take that statement back at anytime in the future
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi! I don't encourage the Attentions from Married Guys However occassionaly they do cross my Path. They Love their Wives and being with Her.Due to circumstances they have drifted apart thro; Lack of Commuication, Tiredness, Menopause,Usually they are in a Life crisis thro; work or overwork too, their sef esteem is suffering. He Pressures her for Sexual Intimacy to build his self esteem and gets knocked back, or isn't enough sex to satisfy him ....I Offer to relieve the sexual tension in the Marriage, so his desire becomes balanced once more . Providing he focuses on wooing his Wife I will help.I also share ideas way to spice up his Marriage ..I respect her Position in the Marriage. I've no agenda but to help ease this situation ,without any major upheaval that may destroy what both hold dear. I'm not the Other Woman ,Mistress. It's more Sexual Therapy but very enjoyable for all concerned, would be the best way to describe it .I have Managed to revive a few Marriages.I will contine to do so if and when required .Knowing the Man does Love his Wife want his Marriage.I'm not here to be Fucked By a Married Man who's self aborbed selfish, Only needs a Prop to fulfil his need.....Enjo Lu :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'thedoctor2640' Perhaps you need to define relationship as those are also changing from the days of fatihful monogamy... As you might know these days half of marriages end in a divorce and if that is caused in so many cases by "cheating" then maybe it needs to be redefined in society's perception... there could be more acceptance of sharing partners especially if it is just in the sexual sphere... just my 2 c obviously you cant be serious?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a non live in partner, (3 yrs) who doesn't enjoy sex! she won't allow me to go elsewhere for sex but i do anyway, I would rather hook up with a married woman because their least likely to want to own you, i've been " playing the field" so you say for 10 yrs and only stay with my partner because she has the best personality of any woman i've ever met, even single women who say they don't want a relationship end up wanting to own you after a few good fuckings, some of the married ones do to, people need to get it straight in their own minds first, either your looking for a casual fuck, a one niter, or a regular fuck buddy, i try to get everything on the table with a woman first so the rules and boundaries are set. but sometimes even that doesn't work, but married women are certainly the most reliable, some it's just one fuck, some it's a few fucks over a couple of weeks, and i still have a couple of married ladies that i've been screwing on and off ( no pun intended) for years now. The thing is that everyone is different, everyone has their own ideals and rules, what we must learn is we shouldn't judge others by what they do or don't do, if i contact a woman who says that she doesn't mind that i'm in a relationship i usually ask her how she would feel is she was my partner, if the answer is she would be upset then is't solong sweetheart, i won't go there, you have to have it rite in your own head, and don't judge others and let other people live their lives accordingly.If you won't play with a married woman/man because you think it's cheating thats fine! but don't tell someone else thats ok with it that they shouldn't be doing it, Cheers and let's just have some good honest fun!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
This thread has made interesting reading. I am surprised to see that on a site dedicated to sexual encounters there are so many people very focused on the 'morality' side of things and absolutly anti married people 'playing away' without partner consent. Guess that I am out of here now, may look in occasionally to read the threads but other than that it is obviously a no no for us married guys that are not getting any at home to come here in search of play. Thanks, I have seriously enjoyed reading the views. Bye.
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RHP User
15 years ago
This thread has made interesting reading. I am surprised to see that on a site dedicated to sexual encounters there are so many people very focused on the 'morality' side of things and absolutly anti married people 'playing away' without partner consent. Guess that I am out of here now, may look in occasionally to read the threads but other than that it is obviously a no no for us married guys that are not getting any at home to come here in search of play. Thanks, I have seriously enjoyed reading the views. Bye.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' ah yea ok i can see the logic in that? lol not! so.... a couple that play separately aren't swingers? A couple that plays seperately are in a open relationship, that couple can also be swingers when they play together. RHP gives the definations and explains the difference. Lets hear your defination? Instead of disputing what others say consistantly. Whats the big deal, "Swingers are more fun". Justswingingbi Love your post 3rd April , great swingers attitute top marks!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'davej69_4u' This thread has made interesting reading. I am surprised to see that on a site dedicated to sexual encounters there are so many people very focused on the 'morality' side of things and absolutly anti married people 'playing away' without partner consent. Guess that I am out of here now, may look in occasionally to read the threads but other than that it is obviously a no no for us married guys that are not getting any at home to come here in search of play. Thanks, I have seriously enjoyed reading the views. Bye. Hi again Dave, I dont think that you should take any of the responses to heart, and......if this comes out the way I dont intend to, I apologise ahead of time but I dont know how else to say it But....and its a big but!!! You did ask for peoples view points and rationilisation on why they are *insert subject title* and we all have to expect to hear the opposing side to any question. If you have taken it to heart and feel judged (cos there are many for AND against) that would say to me that it's possibly your own concience telling you the answer to your own question. Sometimes we come to a conclusion by ourself whether we realise or not at the time. . we continually say that sex and sexual compatibilty isnt the be all and end all of a relationship, but by god it can undo one in five seconds flat, I say it is terribly important. Why is it we wont leave a relationship because there is no sex? We would leave if there was no love, or no respect, but no you see people everyday who rationalise it or excuse it by saying, "Oh but they're the love of my life, and we get along most of the time, there's just no sex" A loss of sex is a loss of love and respect, and it makes me bloody furious when I see other women use sex as a weapon or a dangled carrot to get what they want. Take it away as soon as they're shitty about something their hubby hasnt done properly or god forbid he said the wrong thing , that right there screams no respect!!! . . Ive read your posts and I do believe you when you say you've tried everything, and it hasnt worked has it? is anything going to work and why not do you think? Could it be time to get off the egg shells and stop tippy-toeing around 'her'? . Put it on the table, tell her what you're thinking of doing or more to the point what you've had to resort to thinking. Leave her in no doubt about how much this affects you, and if nothing changes you might have another answer to a question you've prob asked yourself a million times. . yes i think this is my longest post everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr on rhp
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MadamDragonfly' Hi! I don't encourage the Attentions from Married Guys However occassionaly they do cross my Path. They Love their Wives and being with Her.Due to circumstances they have drifted apart thro; Lack of Commuication, Tiredness, Menopause,Usually they are in a Life crisis thro; work or overwork too, their sef esteem is suffering. He Pressures her for Sexual Intimacy to build his self esteem and gets knocked back, or isn't enough sex to satisfy him ....I Offer to relieve the sexual tension in the Marriage, so his desire becomes balanced once more . Providing he focuses on wooing his Wife I will help.I also share ideas way to spice up his Marriage ..I respect her Position in the Marriage. I've no agenda but to help ease this situation ,without any major upheaval that may destroy what both hold dear. I'm not the Other Woman ,Mistress. It's more Sexual Therapy but very enjoyable for all concerned, would be the best way to describe it .I have Managed to revive a few Marriages.I will contine to do so if and when required .Knowing the Man does Love his Wife want his Marriage.I'm not here to be Fucked By a Married Man who's self aborbed selfish, Only needs a Prop to fulfil his need.....Enjo Lu :) MadamDragonfly, i like your philosophy, and your rite there are some who just want to rack up the trophies, i was single for 7 yrs before meeting my lady, and like i said i stay with her because of who she is, it's just a pitty she doesn't enjoy sex, no med prob, it's just not her thing, so i do appreciate those women who think like you and can understand the needs of partnered or married men who love their partners/ wives, but do need intimacy, Cheers..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mikeandshel - not sure which one has written the response but yes I was serious, the society needs to redefine the view on sex and its place as it does not fit well into the monogamous relationship... It can have its place out there as other pleasurable activities. Lets say in the early days of our civilisation sex was recognised as one of the needs for men and women - it was not uncommon for wealthy families to have slaves specifically for sexual needs, even a husband and wife would go down to the slave market to purchase one each (whatever suited them, not necessariy another man and woman :-) This is just an example, I'm not advocating slavery as such at all, just pointing to the fact that this was "normal" in society's viewpoint of the married partners to do. Even though there is a lot of sexualisation of everything out there there seems to be the perception that sex only has its place between two committed people .. ??? WTF, could not we finally see that sex is a fun activity that can be done in a safe and secure way between consenting adults in designated areas...?!? And if some people are doing it let them do it without being judgmental about it...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'thedoctor2640' Mikeandshel - not sure which one has written the response but yes I was serious, the society needs to redefine the view on sex and its place as it does not fit well into the monogamous relationship... It can have its place out there as other pleasurable activities. Lets say in the early days of our civilisation sex was recognised as one of the needs for men and women - it was not uncommon for wealthy families to have slaves specifically for sexual needs, even a husband and wife would go down to the slave market to purchase one each (whatever suited them, not necessariy another man and woman :-) This is just an example, I'm not advocating slavery as such at all, just pointing to the fact that this was "normal" in society's viewpoint of the married partners to do. Even though there is a lot of sexualisation of everything out there there seems to be the perception that sex only has its place between two committed people .. ??? WTF, could not we finally see that sex is a fun activity that can be done in a safe and secure way between consenting adults in designated areas...?!? And if some people are doing it let them do it without being judgmental about it... so to move forward we have to go back the dark ages? it was never 'normal', nor was it accepted....otherwise it would still be common practice.
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RHP User
15 years ago
OMG this is my fantasy to meet a married guy I can just hook up with when we can and not have to keep explaining why I cant see him at certain times. Some single guys read no strings and get funny ideas. Single guys are ok but married / attached are better
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RHP User
15 years ago
And always a good read! I, for one, would much prefer a married man. He doesn't want anything from me except sex and I wouldn't have it any other way. I don't want someone to fall in love with me, I just want someone to pleasure me and leave me......preferably breathless. I believe married men have the ability to be discreet. Their time is limited and so is mine. Is it wrong, yes. Morally and otherwise. Do I feel for his wife? No. For all he knows she could be doing the same thing? Meh, that's not my problem. For what it's worth, I am married. Why do I cheat? Because my husband, while perfect in every other way, cannot match my sex drive.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Two perfect ladies in a row... !!! You're speaking my mind, same reasons I'd find a married woman with high drive to match mine would be the best FWB... Let's get a room !!! Preferably you'd both be free at the same time... looking up cheap airfares right now ;-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MadameHeather' OMG this is my fantasy to meet a married guy I can just hook up with when we can and not have to keep explaining why I cant see him at certain times. Some single guys read no strings and get funny ideas. Single guys are ok but married / attached are betterI agree, we do not stuff around and are reliable... anyway when are we catching up?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I Agree I dont Share,,,FullStop,,,
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RHP User
15 years ago
Really me too and im not married lol Serious there are so many nice single guys out there so why bother goes for married woman too unless its an open relationship and all parties are ok with that no secrets.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'CheekyMissBlonde'Why! I like to feel like number 1 Not seconds! Who wants to be someone elses slops! Not Me! xxxThere is no reason you would have to worry about that hun... lots of single guys to choose from nocking down your door hehe
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Shellzie' I Agree I dont Share,,,FullStop,,, Why should you have to hun there are plenty of single guys on here happy to make you there number one xox
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RHP User
15 years ago
complain about being someone elses slops if seeing a married man lol wtf do u think ur doing when seeing a single guy playing the field ? same difference... most men in here are seeing various women , ur never going to be there number 1 either unless ur looking for a monogamous relationship.. i hate that term "sloppy 2nds" some here like gang bangs now to me that's 2nds 3rds 4ths :) id rather married men we both know where we stand or who we stand with or lie down with in this case ;)ive done randoms a few times only because we got on like long lost mates and felt so comfortable with each other but im still very wary and make sure a friend knows where i am
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RHP User
15 years ago
Married men look for all the excuses in the world as to why they cheat, they cannot be respected. Personally, I wouldn't do it to another woman. Putting myself in her shoes - I'd be devestated to find out my husband was cheating. Even though there are plenty out there who deserve what they get, aiding and abetting isn't going to change what he is looking for. How low can we go. Liike others here, why would any woman want to play sloppy seconds and a weekly 2 hour special? If a man has no desire to leave his home comforts - including those in 'open' relationships, then he is not worth wasting time with, find a man who wants to be with you and wants to make you count! Everyday!
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platinumblonde69
15 years ago
Hmmm...Upon reading almost every comment here, I dont think there is a clear cut answer..We all have our reasons for being here...Maybe when a person gets to really know a person, it all becomes very clear why they do what they do...But...it also means that does everyone believe what someone tells them???....For single people its easy....For married people it is alittle harder...for all the reasons mentioned in other comments...I guess the bottom line is that u do what yr comfortable with....We all have different morals and values...but noone, except us, knows what kind of life we are living.. I chat to married men who have had sex with their wives once in the past 3 years....yet they arent shagging every woman they can...Most are after someone to talk to more than anything else...I could go on and on...but I think most get my drift... Plat
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'platinumblonde69' Hmmm...Upon reading almost every comment here, I dont think there is a clear cut answer..We all have our reasons for being here...Maybe when a person gets to really know a person, it all becomes very clear why they do what they do...But...it also means that does everyone believe what someone tells them???....For single people its easy....For married people it is alittle harder...for all the reasons mentioned in other comments...I guess the bottom line is that u do what yr comfortable with....We all have different morals and values...but noone, except us, knows what kind of life we are living.. I chat to married men who have had sex with their wives once in the past 3 years....yet they arent shagging every woman they can...Most are after someone to talk to more than anything else...I could go on and on...but I think most get my drift... Plat It's good to see that there some out there that are non-judgemental open minded people out there, MadameHeather, Sensua36, Lickrishfairy, platinumblond, you all need commending on your openmindedness, it really makes me wonder why some people are on a site such as this when they have such a possessive attitude towards their partners wether they be casual, one nite stands, regular meets or whatever, This is a site where people can meet other people for sex, friendships, relationships or whatever else comes from meeting new people, I'm not bisexual or gay but don't take offence to them being here, they are here for their enjoyment and pleasure, so are we, why should someone of one opinion try to impose their morals or beliefs on someone else, i've met too many single ladies in the past that said they only wanted a no strings casual thing, no ties, no commitment, sex only relationship, only to have them start planning family getogethers, invites to friends birthday parties and so on and then have them go of the deep end when i want to meet another woman for a bit of fun and excitement, Married, Single, Partnered, Open relationship, i don't really care! Like i said before, everyone has their own rules and boundaries, when you meet someone, get those rules and boundaries set in concrete first and if you don't agree, don't go there, and don't go shifting the goal posts half way through the game, Peace to you all, and lots of Fucking good SEX to everyone...
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RHP User
15 years ago
like u said we all have our own morals and motives. each to there own.. I do have one objection on a certain type of male that goes looking to satisfy his own needs 3 weeks after his wife has given birth! twice that has happened to me , that's a place a will not go !to reply to virtually, some things agreed upon some things not :) a 2 hr session once a week is totally fine with some that see married men. maybe that's all each needs, so many things to gain, the comfort, the company, the sex the talking. so much more to this site than just the sex side of it.i have met some great ppl, 2 that have become great friends as well as fuddies:) that satisfies our needs. maybe some don't want "MAN" problems to put up with ,let some other female take care of her partner in that respect. personally I like the walk in walk out attitude, tho some times I also have become a tad possessive lol but gave myself the kick in the arse for that one and got back on track but we all have the time to enjoy what we get so i make the most of it with lots of time :)my birthday is coming up and Im actually getting my 2 fuddies initials incorported into the tatt on my hip, hows that for closeness and committment lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
just because we dont want to fuck a married man/woman doesnt mean we arent open minded it is our choice just as it is theirs....sorry but someone has to have respect for their wife/husband it is my choice not to go near a married man and i stick by it nothing at all would make me knowingly change my mind on that i dont care why he is cheating, i dont care about his excuses...it is my choice not to go near him as for single men that are playing the field...i dont care if im number 20 for the day...he is allowed to fuck who ever he pleases, he is single just like i am...he isnt cheating on someone, he is free to fuck whoever he likes a married man isnt, because i can guarentee if these men went to their wifes and said "hey do you mind if i fuck another woman tonight" he would get slapped lol my life, my choice...i have to live with what i decide and i decide not to touch a man that i have no right to touch roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'irresponsibility'I choose not to be someone's second choice I agree with you there luv.
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RHP User
15 years ago
but just because someone is married doesn't make them the possession of the partner either.I do understand both sides, don't get me wrong but why is it when we marry we make a comittment to one person for life and then things change, women go off sex with there husbands,men turn off the women they marry, things get boring. Time changes people change, all one wants is that excitement back again.....we become someones property? we change with age wanting different things at different times in our lives also, single older women have different preferences as do married older women.... i couldn't marry again knowing i was with that person for the rest of my life and being a possession that no once can touch or even look at..... I know my attitudes have changed as I've gotten older and I would never have dreamed i'd be doing what I'm doing because when i was younger I was so totally against this sort of thing within a marriage....but I've changed a hell of a lot and we all need that fun and I don't think we lose respect for our partner just loose our individuality and sponteneity... why can't adults be like kids at times ? sometimes i let loose and act like a kid to bring some fun into someones life, they let loose then and we end up laughing our tits off. it was funny as a kid and it's still funny now but we don't let loose and only get told to grow up. life is a ferris wheel it just keeps going around and around until u say stop i want to get off and then u get on another ride that's more fun but u do get back on the damn ferris wheel ! :)enjoy life, enjoy sex, enjoy your partner whomever that may be that brings it to u:)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I knew a few would come round to my way of thinking. Married people need to fuck around like everyone else. Its all good.
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RHP User
15 years ago
TassieRose, very valid and just reply, wasn't saying you wern't open minded in all things, thats your choice not to go there and i respect that, what gets up my nose is the nasty abusive replies i get from ladies who state in their profile that their just wanting casual/ discrete meetings!!i have told my NON-LIVEIN partner that i can't ever give her total commitment, my needs are greater than what she can give, but she stays with me anyway, she obviously knows that i play elsewhere from time to time, she doesn't ask, i don't tell, when i'm with her i treat her like a princess and she appreciates that.I don't have a problem with what other people want to accept as right or wrong, only when they tell me I'M wrong for doing what i'm doing, Lickrishfairy, love your line of thought, if i ever get to brisbane one day would love to pop in for a chat / drink / or whatever!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Lickrishfairy' but just because someone is married doesn't make them the possession of the partner either.I do understand both sides, don't get me wrong but why is it when we marry we make a comittment to one person for life and then things change, women go off sex with there husbands,men turn off the women they marry, things get boring. Time changes people change, all one wants is that excitement back again.....we become someones property? we change with age wanting different things at different times in our lives also, single older women have different preferences as do married older women.... i couldn't marry again knowing i was with that person for the rest of my life and being a possession that no once can touch or even look at..... I know my attitudes have changed as I've gotten older and I would never have dreamed i'd be doing what I'm doing because when i was younger I was so totally against this sort of thing within a marriage....but I've changed a hell of a lot and we all need that fun and I don't think we lose respect for our partner just loose our individuality and sponteneity... why can't adults be like kids at times ? sometimes i let loose and act like a kid to bring some fun into someones life, they let loose then and we end up laughing our tits off. it was funny as a kid and it's still funny now but we don't let loose and only get told to grow up. life is a ferris wheel it just keeps going around and around until u say stop i want to get off and then u get on another ride that's more fun but u do get back on the damn ferris wheel ! :)enjoy life, enjoy sex, enjoy your partner whomever that may be that brings it to u:) its not about 'possession' its about respect, or lack of. we dont respect partnered people who play without the knowledge of their partner.never will. nor could we then respect those who willingly play with them. enough said without using the language and adjectives this behavior merits.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel its not about 'possession' its about respect, or lack of. we dont respect partnered people who play without the knowledge of their partner.never will. nor could we then respect those who willingly play with them. enough said without using the language and adjectives this behavior merits. Thats it mikeandshel, RESPECT! I can respect your views and opinions on a certain matter, might not agree! but still respect, and no matter how strongly i disagree i wouldn't have to revert to using " language and adjectives this behavior merits " I know that nothing i say would sway your line of thought and thats not what i would want from you, but you bought the subject up! RESPECT! nobody has to agree with anyone, but we should have respect for everyone, Cheers..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Dirtyfuka' "Married people need to fuck around like everyone else. Its all good." I think this would make a catchy motto for my election campaign as the next Governor-General. Where do I sign up?Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'giquaraa' Quoting 'mikeandshel its not about 'possession' its about respect, or lack of. we dont respect partnered people who play without the knowledge of their partner.never will. nor could we then respect those who willingly play with them. enough said without using the language and adjectives this behavior merits. Thats it mikeandshel, RESPECT! I can respect your views and opinions on a certain matter, might not agree! but still respect, and no matter how strongly i disagree i wouldn't have to revert to using " language and adjectives this behavior merits " I know that nothing i say would sway your line of thought and thats not what i would want from you, but you bought the subject up! RESPECT! nobody has to agree with anyone, but we should have respect for everyone, Cheers.. no.....its not 'automatic' ...... you cannot expect 'respect' and certainly not from us. respect is earned. and it doesnt come cheap. regardless of what you and others think or feel, we wont and cannot respect you unless we choose to. and like i said, the choosings not for free and its not given easily. our 'default' point of view is one of skepticism. for respect to exist, there first needs to be trust, and quite frankly, we dont trust anyone who we dont know.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maybe I should close this topic, as I have started it... Perhaps best not to put anymore opinions, as I think we've heard them all. There is obviously the whole spectrum of views from Dirtyfuka who knows no boundaries to TassieRose who would not touch a married person with a bargepole - unless they removed their ring first and swore to her they have never been married :-) To me this shows that each of us is who they are, we have preferences and rules, and when we get together with someone we need to earn their trust and friendship, although I do believe some people are better of to join sites such as RSVP if they are looking for a monogamous relationship as they're not likey going to find a suitable partner for one here...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel its not about 'possession' its about respect, or lack of. we dont respect partnered people who play without the knowledge of their partner.never will. nor could we then respect those who willingly play with them. enough said without using the language and adjectives this behavior merits. Thats it mikeandshel, RESPECT! I can respect your views and opinions on a certain matter, might not agree! but still respect, and no matter how strongly i disagree i wouldn't have to revert to using " language and adjectives this behavior merits " I know that nothing i say would sway your line of thought and thats not what i would want from you, but you bought the subject up! RESPECT! nobody has to agree with anyone, but we should have respect for everyone, Cheers.. no.....its not 'automatic' ...... you cannot expect 'respect' and certainly not from us. respect is earned. and it doesnt come cheap. regardless of what you and others think or feel, we wont and cannot respect you unless we choose to. and like i said, the choosings not for free and its not given easily. our 'default' point of view is one of skepticism. for respect to exist, there first needs to be trust, and quite frankly, we dont trust anyone who we dont know. You miss my point, " automatic" definitely not for someone you KNOW, I don't know you, therefore respect your opinion, "earned" bullshit!! respect is either given or taken away, I'll never bow to someone else's ideals just to "earn" their respect! Seems as though this subject has gotten out of hand and has become more about being judgementle of others. I personally, don't judge others on their lifestyle choices or their opinions, as far as i'm concerned people can do as they please within the confines of their own lives but to pass judgement on others because of their lifestyle, and we're talking sex and relationships here, shows a shallowness of thinking and a mindset that they are above others and everyone else should conform to their rules, Let he who is without sin cast the first stone, To quote a respected peacemaker! Thedoctor is rite, there are other sites for people who have moral issues.. Gee i love a good discussion !!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
So much objection to 'married men'Yet I can go hang in a pub with a ring on and have women making the first move and get given phone numbers etc.Interestingly this happens a lot with married women... but yes single ones do it to.Last time it was Legacy Day (standing around in uniform) I ended the day with a heap of numbers, seems there are times when the attitude of Married=Bad doesn't apply. That said, I got a lot of guys numbers too.
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RHP User
15 years ago
One of the few honest n practical answers for this question.... it exists its there n even though people do it they wont admit it.. Quoting 'like_it_likethat' It's going on every day of the week all over the world and has been for centuries!! RHP and similiar sites would hardly exist if it wasn't. And I know from experience just as many women as men play up on their partners! It's ur life and ur choice. If u do it without permission then accept the consequences if u get caught! Just be up front about it if ur out there looking for casual sex!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think single girls don't want to meet married men, because most of the single girls are looking for a relationship or marriage themselves, and they don't want someone already taken, knowing that the man may never leave his wife. Some girls/women are not out for just a casual fling, they want more. If you get the married women looking around for fun, they have no problem with married men. It's only the single ones.
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