M65
No one night stands..
October 18 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's like you have never read anything in this forum by the women or understand women to ask this question. I am really surprised. It's to weed out all the fuckheads that think women are going to immediately drop to their knees and such their dick.. All those men that think they are a God's gift, and if a guy meets a women with the idea that this could be just a ONS then it usually is one and often women want more than that, because ONs are often sexually unsatisfying (I really should take up drinking I know) and because some women just plain don't want one night stands. 😳 Tell you what Jay, I really wish that all men were bisexual that way you could all fuck each other stupid.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've read your posts over the years jay_me and they seem to flip from insightful to ... well, putting it politely ... not. I can't tell if this is a 'not' post or if you're just throwing a cat among the pigeons so you can sit back and watch the feathers fly. No feathers here, just a few facts. This is not a sex site. It is a site where adults can connect - for sex or other things. There are no rules that say you have to be open to ONSs if you're on this site. Some women - and even a small handful of men here - are genuinely not interested in ONSs under any circumstances. I'm one of them and my reasons are my own business, though I've chosen to express them from time to time in forums and a little on my profile. Telling people in your profile that you're not interested in ONSs is in part to keep the tossers at bay - like Meeka said - and in part to save wasting anyone's time e.g. mine because I don't want to be contacted by men who only want a casual fuck, and theirs because they don't want to go through the obligatory messages with someone who's not going to put out. Honesty is rare enough on here, perhaps stop knocking people for being open and transparent about what they're seeking.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are there any gentleman on this site?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know we're all different and events in life makes a man or a woman who they are. I've read all the comments regarding annoying men etc. But I feel starting with a defensive comment a little negative and off putting. No one is more fussy than me when it comes to being choosey , so it's not like I don't understand . Obviously we prefer to read a profile full of positives.. far far more inviting.. Making a statement in a profile is one thing, but you still need to weed out the chaff from the hay regardless... so you may as we'll be polite to start with. Meeka, bi guys are your speciality.. although still the minority ? Besides' I'm sure you have enough on your plate without wanting to recruit more...
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RHP User
12 years ago
If a woman meets someone where the chemistry is explosive and things really hot up I am sure most women will go with the flow. But this doesn't mean that this is their intention or what they want as a general rule.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've always had the belief that .... unless timing/geography/travel were a factor..... that the concept of a ONS was allocated to those who frankly dont deserve a second. ..... If you/ they were worthwhile, you'd want a repeat, right!!! (And who's want a less than worthwhile experience?!) DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
A rare occasion when I agree with you. Well put.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You say a women that says no ONS is saying to a man she isn't to be messed with.... And that's a bad start? Really? What are you implying here exactly? Sometimes I find your attitudes so old fashioned and not in a good way. 👎
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's is right. A ONS is an experience you don't want to repeat because it wasn't that good. And who wants that? There are people who do enjoy ONS though and they like the stranger aspect of it but not everyone is into that, so I think it's fair enough that they specify that on their profiles.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seems obvious enough to me that those saying " no ONS" are really sending a clear message saying.... "I'm not just your hole of convenience.... I expect respect, won't tolerate the shitty behaviour that seems typical in this site, and require you to make an effort" DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Another one who rarely agrees with Mischeviouslad, but well said here. I don't think being a not to be messed with woman is a negative, well the guys I meet don't seem to think so! I don't want one night stands, how boring and what a waste of effort on a site like this. It takes a little while before the trust that I need to feel safe is built. Why put in so much for a quicky?
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RHP User
12 years ago
If a woman know herself so well.. Im sure the good old dig em out and weed em out principles applies regardless.. whether the anti ONS is in your profile or not. Its not up to me to be telling females what they should and should not be doing and I never have. Quite simply I put it out there for discussion. Lilmissfussy : My post was not intended to challenge you or anyone else.. If thats what you feel is right for you ' so be it. It was only bought about after reading a profile that got me thinking. My opinion is exactly that, a opinion" this doesnt make me right or wrong and your comment re cat amongst the pigeon was well off track. I think Meekas post probally fired you up, but I can assure you, the intention was a open discussion on the subject and thats all. Meeka is in the middle of another one of her big mother fucker anti Jay moods atm' and will throw every imaginable negative she can write. Really Meeka, who really cares ? Apart from being a thorn in the side.. no one gives a shit.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seriously, I think most, and I mean most males would agree with this statement. Meeka mentioned Im a lil old fashion ' she got that right if showing a lil respect and a few manners means old fashion. I know when a light is green ' red or even amber. Not that hard really...Without doubt' there are those who think differently, I dont get to see what you girls receive in your mail box so I ask the question... No need to shoot the messenger..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Jay_me and Chev are twins,separated at birth
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RHP User
12 years ago
I suspect the reason you don't get it.......is because you are exactly the type of guy that I'm trying to avoid by stating I'm not up for a one night stand. I'm trying to avoid the kind of man who lets his little head overrule his big head when things get hot and horny. I'm not at all defensive, I just know how I operate, the circumstances under which I'll have the most enjoyable outcomes and therefore my playmate too. Naturally I want the best for both/all of us, so why not set it up that way from the start?- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm not into ONS. I feel the best sessions are built on the connection and no matter how well you get along initially, it takes more than a short time to get that connection. I agree with DG, "that the concept of a ONS was allocated to those who frankly dont deserve a second. ..... If you/ they were worthwhile, you'd want a repeat, right!!!" It just shows I chose badly to start with and need to refine my decisions over selecting.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Let's face it, everyone has there own reasons for being on this site albeit a ONS or No ONS... Every one to their own.... What I understand by the no ONS is that these women have also had those Neanderthal men responding with crap like " I want to f... You" big noting themselves and just generally treating any women with disrespect...seriously that is enough to make anyone angry... Thinking that this is purely a site for ONS, as lil_missfussy says it's a site to connect! to meet like minded people who want to explore whatever is important to them at the time...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' Jay_me and Chev are twins,separated at birth Both of them have big ears but neither of them listen.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just spat out my coke over my puter!FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Men on this site say exactly the same thing. It is not only women who stipulate they would prefer a deeper connection you know. There are a lot ofpeople on line who are only looking for instant gratification and that is fine. More power to them. I don't want a ONS. It makes me feel cheap, used and dirty (not in a good way) the chances of me achieving orgasm the first time round will be slim to none so it will be unsatisfactory sex. Why shouldn't I be upfront and state what I want? My profile is where I make my preferences known first up. It is my sales pitch. If a man does not like my sales pitch he can continue window shopping. His loss! I have stated unattached men because that is what I want. Many state must be over a certain height, must look after themselves, must have a 10" penis and be able to go all night long. The point is... I can stipulate anything I like..... It is MY profile. Not yours! If all you want is a ONS... Then YOU say so and give us the option of saying I will pass thanks! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
When I read this in some female profiles it leaves me a lil puzzled. ? The first thing that comes to mind' is this the right medium for them to state this being a sex site n all . ? No where is it ever advertised that this is a sex site Seems to me any hard line you call that a hard line comment oh puleeez comment such as this limits the ladies chances of finding the guy she's looking for anyway.? I can assure you a lot of girls make contact with guys they find attractive so it doesn't limit anything Wouldn't it be easier to omit this line altogether and roll with the feeling at the time ? My profile I can write what the fuck I like in it to deter people away if that's what there after Surely she can say no if she's not feeling it ?Yes' it does tell any potential suitor what she expects from them , but then again it also sends the signal Im not here to be messed with .. True no one messes with me and that's how my profile is written Not a good way to start anything if you ask me... that's your opinion, but yeah I guess being honest from the start is a bad way to start something.I think most guys dont expect anything on a first date anyway, and if it turns out that way, well and good. C'mon ladies, am I wrong or right on this one.. ? Your completely wrong OP
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RHP User
12 years ago
Appreciate where your coming from but I would challenge you statement that I am the type of guy you are trying to avoid. Just because I ask the question doesn't mean I'm THAT type of guy. Talk about judging without knowing the facts.. Just goes to show how defensive some of you women become. If you know me... You can judge... But you don't.. Really ' you are the type I would avoid like the plague...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Stop following me around like a bad smell... It was recently mentioned to me you talk crap, and of course I have to agree... Stalking comes to mind... Get lost....
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RHP User
12 years ago
As usual , I take what you say with a grain of salt... You have a chip on your shoulder as big as Ayres rock... You never miss a chance to defame... Over you ages ago...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I clearly said my feathers weren't ruffled. It's usually pretty obvious on here when the are :) Your question was pretty silly for a grown man who's been around here as long as you have. No-one's offended that you asked the question, just a bit stunned and disappointed by it. Cop it on the chin like most of us do when people don't like what we have to say.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was going to pass you a shovel to dig yourself out of the hole you have dug yourself Jay_Me....but then I thought its a lot more fun to watch you did yourself deeper To comment on your Op...you mention rhp is a sex site then further down, you mention first date, a tad confused yourself maybe?As far as what it written on my profile...I can write whatever I please.If you find it difficult to accept strong assertive women stating what they want then its YOU who has the problem, not the women.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Now get your opinionated arse over here so I can dress you up purdy and have my way with it- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
What is your understanding of what a one night stand is? I think you seem to have missed a big point just because a woman says no ONS that doesn't mean she doesn't let things flow and if the mood is right she may have sex with someone on the first date. Can you see the difference? Because I don't think you do. What do you mean when you say one night stand Jay?
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RHP User
12 years ago
He is clearly gagging for us I reckon. 😆
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RHP User
12 years ago
Evil grin- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
That will get him gagging. 😘
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RHP User
12 years ago
this gives a whole new meaning to ''doing the nasty''....wanders of whistling Cyndy Lauper.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Cyndi Lauper.... You mean "girls just want to have fun" Freya? Shhhh don't anyone tell Jay that. 😋
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RHP User
12 years ago
The very reason Im weary and keep away from over opinionated woman 40 and over... Dont know if its a chemical change or just plain narkism.. Dont blame me, have a good look at the way you handled this topic. then tell me if it deserves the crap you feel is justified.. Dont think so..I can only guess you read the opening question without bothering to read the following posts..Meeka .. EB.. you should know by now Im no wilting violet... If I deserve some flack, fair enough.. but this is just plain demeaning for the hell of it... Again... read my following posts then you might ( I said might ) get the picture.. Cindy Lauper is just as old these days... up date girls... boom boom...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good on you for keeping alive a stereotype Jay_me! A woman can write whatever the hell she wants on her profile. I think that the guys that will "find 'em, bend 'em, fuck 'em, send 'em" won't actually pay any attention to what is written on a profile. PEOPLE are becoming very unconcerned these days about how they treat other people so many will lie their arse off to get what they want. I think that if a woman has "No one night stands" on her profile then there is a fair chance she's been done over by a guy or two, but it doesn't mean she's turned into a defensive person. It may just mean she just wants a deeper connection than just one night of sex. I think this topic is just a shit stir as you seem to be having a crack at everyone who comments.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Jay, you didn't se this coming??? Need to adjust your radar dude ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
or not ... lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tsk Tsk JayYou ask a question, but tolerate only sympathetic answers form the demographic you asked.Id have thought that a man of your age, would have a thicker hide and be more comfortable.No doubt I'll earn a rebuking for this.Oh well.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Are there any gentleman on this site? Is it egotistical to say yes and put my hand up?Think I'll have another glass of vino and watch this from afar...however, will add... RHP is not just a site providing a mechanism to "Date for Sex" it also provide a means to "Date for a Relationship" and meet friends just as any other mainstream sites like RSVP and MeetUp (et al) do.Once people realize that they may become more understanding as to why people put what they do in their profiles... I think I have no NSA/ONS on my profile... and that is because I want more and won't engage bed wise with someone unless I like them enough to want (and hope) for more, if the chemistry isn't there and it turned out to be a ONS then so be it (as long as we can still be friends!) but an NSA/ONS encounter is not the intention.And yes, I kind of agree with DG, Timing, Location and other factors (fantasy come true) also can make for a ONS situation but that would be a very limited occurrence for me.hmmm... maybe another glass is not the best option
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are very defensive and you always make it personal. Originally I called you old fashioned and not in a good way and for this you have a huge go at me and try to belittle my opinion as a some irrational rant. Jay, it's not women that have the problem. You know when you keep having to say that an entire group of people are wrong and only you are right.... Ever thought it's actually you with the problem? I already know you will disagree with me, so let's agree to disagree and leave the insults out if it. Hey?
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RHP User
12 years ago
You got that right... I didn't see this coming at all, I can't believe the personal flack over such a straight forward question... Everyone presumes I'm the person who thinks that way.. NOT TRUE.. Gavin McSparkles.. You make a lot of sense.. Even though that was not what I was thinking, you made some telling points. DG... That can't be further from the truth.. I don't seek sympathetic replies from anyone, that's a silly thing to say, but I think you would agree some of the replies have been more than a little over zealous. It's not in me to accept personal abusive comments , then roll over and have my belly scratched.. However, it would be nice to hear from some women who have a different prospective, not just the narks...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just read a man's profile where the header said...Looking for exiting encounters...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Men write in their profiles they are only interested in one nights stands or only interested in sex and nothing else. Isn't that limiting who they can meet ? Shouldn't they meet up with women and see how things go? Rather than limiting themselves so much that they only have one night stands they are never getting to know anybody. To me it's the exact same thing in reverse. Isn't having this mentality the wrong impression to give and they wrong way to start a something? Am I right gentlemen ??
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RHP User
12 years ago
You're right Meeka... just remember, we men are simple beasts
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RHP User
12 years ago
For you to avoid me like the plague Jay me. You are quite correct in assuming I'm an opinionated over 40 year old. Probably all you will ever know about me, probably all you need to know! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
We are all hear for a similar but also different personal reson. The main idea to hookup So if it on its on there is chemistry But If its not in then it's not on There is no harm in trying why be here if your not Ha fucking ha Hit me up I'd you want a good time not if you are a time waiting tease And we will see if you get lucky or not or your first meet Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some people just want on ongoing fling if we were to find the "rite" one it sure not here And if it turns our to be more than a good thing best of luck to you but this is still a HOOKUP SITE
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RHP User
12 years ago
Having any luck with that? 👀
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abcplus1
12 years ago
We probably should be on a dating site considering what we are looking for.....but they don't cater to couples seeking a third so here we are.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Meeka is that true what you said at the start that women don't meet drop to their knees and suck guys dicks??! Dammit! Will take that off the list;-) EB you and Meeka can teach me a lesson whenever you like! Jay points for sticking with your view whether it be right or wrong think it has created a very funny forum and certainly got some claws out!- Posted from rhpmobile
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Hawt1
12 years ago
Different people want different things at different times.I bet some women that meet first play later occasionally slip.I bet also some Casanovas get looped by the furry/unfurry lasso.I prefer people to be honest with their intentions as I am in mine, the relationship seekers I avoid, not here after all to break a heart, friends is fine.Personally, I am shopping around, I would like to have a lover or two or even three all together at once preferred.. lolsApply within.. But one day yeagh if some one really special comes along that I can connect with and when my life isn't complicated so that I can share it with out bringing a massive burden I could feel comfortable to commit and don't mind monogamy actually.With the right person, it can be nice.Respect is the key.. always was, "no one night stands"... fair enough, NEXT PROFILE.My two cents for what its worth
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RHP User
12 years ago
(Are there any gentleman here anyway) yes there are still a few of us left ! Ill say this I've had random partners over the years but I've never ever once had a one night stand (I put it down to self pride and respect) my random sex has never been on a first meet either...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Amicus is a gentleman.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Evolution will no dought create woman as the superior race!! As soon as they can self inseminate there egg as they evolve and well turn "Her--Maphrodite". Quite a number of women on RHP think they are already((you know who you are)) superior RoyalHotPie maybe, RedHotExcuses is no different than all the other sites targeted for singles!! In the way of why can't women accept , and speak the truth , ? Because a lot have stereotyped categories that they segregate into little groups ? Assumptions are exactly the same class as expectations we should not have them !! And only form a conclusion based on what actually may happen and probaly has happened in the past!! So you take a snub nose lady!! That is hypocritical !! In denial of her sexual needs!! Dishonest to herself And her colleagues!! How the hell are they going to believe even start to try and believe anything a man says !!?? As i see it most men don't say no sex on first date?? Unless man not interested! Unless woman not interested! Most are keen to fuck as sometimes its a long process , and yes we respect that right!! So maybe some ladies show some respect to men and cut the dictation of , and domination of every meet if you cannot have sex on first date fine tell the man face to face as he may not like you and leave anyway ?? Cmon Redhotpie members critical screening has taken place if you are? Attracted Turned on Horny Happy Comfortable And now oh shit a need to fuck this man now?? Guess what you been llying to yaself being a dictator and disrespectful and a waste of time. That's not cool,! And definately not RedHotPie.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Fantasyplus
12 years ago
Different Strokes.....My way of thinking is...if your great in the sack, they wont want a ONS either :-) So she better make sure she brings her A Game or she might be the dud in the sack, not the malesFor me their has to be chemistry or it's an instant red light! In saying that, I have had a ONS and whilst it did end well....someone couldn't quite grasp the whole concept of the ONS....he returned the next day, and the day after that and so on.....13 years, a marriage and 2 miracles babies later...I still remind him he was ONS!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why do men still try and tell women what they should do? Because some of them think they know Why Why do some men think they know what's best for women? Its called patronising!Why do women have no ONS in their profile? To try and overcome the sense of male privilege that some men have. Can't they just say No? Some men don't listen. Its called date rape but its under-reported because women know they are the ones who go on trial, not the accused.Its a sex site: I'm so over hearing that line. And I wonder why some men need to try and make out that women are being irrational and nasty when they assert themselves and their right to have an opinion. In my opinion, that's misogyny. What I find truly hilarious and deeply disturbing is the number of misogynists who claim they love women and respect them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Jay_Me... So, let me get this right... "Being a sex site and all" it's not the "right medium" for women to make a statement on their profiles that they aren't interested in one night stands or one off encounters? However, you a man in your early 50's... can state that you enjoy suduction and cuddles? See how that could be a little confusing? Obviously from how your profile reads, you enjoy more than - just meeting some woman in a predetermined location... flashing her your official manly RHP sex site identification card (i gather rhp has those being just a sex site and all)... Not speak to her...at all- the badge flashing cuts down on that ..rather, just bend her over ... Pound her senseless for 2 minutes... Cum.... Tie up your trenchcoat... Adjust your dark glasses... Slap her on the arse and walk away. Because, isn't that what we are all here for? This Being just a sex site and all? Everything on RHP is personal perception- you could have read what I have written here in 50 different ways depending on your mood... In was written with light sarcastic humour... Not whilst donning my "man hating uniform" and frothing at the mouth... So, my perception is that women (such as myself) who have statements written on their profiles such as what your post is about are actually saying "I'm not looking for men to send me messages saying lets fuck I have 5 minutes, I can be there in an hour or other such messages as I want encounters that excite me and fulfil me, not some random guy that I don't know let alone like..." Just because I have a vagina and am single on Rhp does not mean i am on here for anything more than intimate encounters, that I'm a man hating yet horny wench, or that I'm too damaged to date. It's a fantastic thing to be honest and upfront from the very beginning especially in an online community such as this.... That way there are no disappointments, no unrealistic expectations, no unnecessary time wasted and people can actually then have a real chance of finding what they are truly wanting whether that be just sex or an intimate encounter/s. My last point to make is that it's not only unfair to have made your "women over forties" comment. it's unwarranted considering you asked for ladies to give you their opinions and they did... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I get where you're coming from Jay_me. However this being a sex site means that a certain percentage of the ladies want to be wined and dined, romanced, taken to the opera in foreign countries and bought expensive presents before the will even consider the subject of sex and then you'll still have to wait until you've met the parents. I suggest you try a well known free dating site where the women are looking for relationships yet after a few emails they are happy to meet you for a drink and then it's onto yours or her place for some good old fashioned sex. Strange eh!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had to think long and hard about replying to this thread, but I really don't have anything to loose do I. It seems that Jay made a basic and fundamental error, how dare he express an opinion that cast doubt on the women here. He should be locked up in stocks in the local village square so all women can throw rotten vegetables at him. I thought Jay had asked a very valid question, and although I don't agree with all he said. Anyone can put anything they like in their profile, it is their own form of advertising after all. Like Jay I have read a fair number of profiles where it is clearly stated that the woman is NOT after ONS and the such, and good luck to them. I dare say there are male profiles that say exactly the same thing. This post took the normal progression most threads do here. Some women took umbrage at OP's post, a the rest jumped on board because well, that is the way things work here. And naturally, we have the handful of men who HAS to agree with the women on every post as well. It appears that whilst women can have an opinion, and even brag about having an opinion, doom and ridicule await any male that has an opinion that differs from theirs! The funny thing is, this post is really non-essential as most of the women here have complained bitterly, frequently and with the required venom on how men don't read profiles anyway, so what difference does it make what people write anyway. Mooka (who can feel another sabbatical coming along soon). P.S. Meeka, to answer your question of "Are there any gentlemen here", I will add "Are there any Ladies here?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Talk about over completing life! Just go with the flow and reeelaax! I live in the tropics, so maybe I'm a bit loco, but all the negativity and blagh blagh blagh is NO good. Live every moment for what it is, not for what it isn't!! The way I see 'this site' is have no expectations, just good times. The moment you starting thinking too much and analyzing 'what she thinks and what she doesn't' is time to hit eject!! Just grab life and go nuts!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well said, game set and match I think......
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wonder.. what would women's thought/reaction.. to a guy's profile that says "no one night stand please"?
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Fantasyplus
12 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' P.S. Meeka, to answer your question of "Are there any gentlemen here", I will add "Are there any Ladies here?" Yes and Yes.....There is nothing wrong wrong with being a Lady in the street and a whore in the bedroom, same goes for Men, they can be Gentlemen in the street and Sex God's in the bedroom. They are on here, you just have to find them...and if your lucky enough to find them good on you...I speak from experience
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madotara69
12 years ago
I found your post as usual, quite fair and reasonable. Where the forums are here to raise question to better understand social behaviour, like this topic, I can only see that Jay me has approached the idea as gentlemen like. He has not attacked the question just asked it.Isn't Jay me just raising question that all relationships begin as a one night stand and that either one or both would decide to asses the situation accordingly.The question this post raises to me is... If a lady that states no ONS, decided to make the event a ONS because she decided that there was no further interest with the guy she had hoped him to be.Where would this leave Jay me for asking the question. puzzled perhaps?Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didnt realise there was any reason for police informers to be on rhp, after all that is the most used definition of nark.Jay_me...you ask a question, you get your answers.Its not the womens problem if you dont like our answers.Maybe the 3 out of 5 on your friends list who are over 40 can provide you with the answers you seek.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me'The very reason Im weary and keep away from over opinionated woman 40 and over... Dont know if its a chemical change or just plain narkism.. Dont blame me, have a good look at the way you handled this topic. then tell me if it deserves the crap you feel is justified.. Dont think so..I can only guess you read the opening question without bothering to read the following posts..Meeka .. EB.. you should know by now Im no wilting violet... If I deserve some flack, fair enough.. but this is just plain demeaning for the hell of it... Again... read my following posts then you might ( I said might ) get the picture.. Cindy Lauper is just as old these days... up date girls... boom boom... Resounding YEP
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Hasnt this been entertaining - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Spartanis' I wonder.. what would women's thought/reaction.. to a guy's profile that says "no one night stand please"? And if I liked the rest of their profile and they were in my geographical area, I'd send them a flirt or a message. Sure wouldn't make me ask questions about why!Thanks for opening up the flip side Sparty.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hotshot_101' I get where you're coming from Jay_me. However this being a sex site means that a certain percentage of the ladies want to be wined and dined, romanced, taken to the opera in foreign countries and bought expensive presents before the will even consider the subject of sex and then you'll still have to wait until you've met the parents. I suggest you try a well known free dating site where the women are looking for relationships yet after a few emails they are happy to meet you for a drink and then it's onto yours or her place for some good old fashioned sex. Strange eh! Ignoring the fact that your comment isn't really related to the OP, all I can say is you must have some crappy screening methods. There are plenty of women on here happy to have sex without needing trips or presents. Or...maybe....no... the problem couldn't be YOU could it???
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hilloo' Talk about over completing life! Just go with the flow and reeelaax! I live in the tropics, so maybe I'm a bit loco, but all the negativity and blagh blagh blagh is NO good. Live every moment for what it is, not for what it isn't!! The way I see 'this site' is have no expectations, just good times. The moment you starting thinking too much and analyzing 'what she thinks and what she doesn't' is time to hit eject!! Just grab life and go nuts!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
From my profile"I'm definitely not seeking a relationship (seriously who goes looking?) but if the right guy was to rock my world - Meh - I may or may-not go running in the opposite direction! I am looking for friends with benefits. Friends to head out with or just stay in with. The less first meets I have to go through the better."Am I still RedHotPie worthy?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'paintmeIAM' Amicus is a gentleman. You're too sweet dear lady... can I buy you a drink sometime?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Mooka (who can feel another sabbatical coming along soon). P.S. Meeka, to answer your question of "Are there any gentlemen here", I will add "Are there any Ladies here?" Mooka... Don't wander off, come to the next Meet and Greet... you'll see there are quite a few Ladies on the forums and, whilst they may not agree with us and each other on every topic, they are all friendly and fun to be around.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I respect you as a person...... But, I think your vitriolic response to Freya was unwarranted, disrespectful, and not something I would've expected from someone who claims to be well mannered. Freya's comment was quite easily identifiable as tongue in cheek. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Jay_me specifically said at the end of his post "c'mon ladies, am I right or wrong on this one?". And you're surprised that women who think he's wrong have said so? You know, given he asked and all. I think it's mind-boggling for a lot of us women (JMO) that any man on here with j's obvious life experience would ask something as short-sighted as why we put ONS on our profiles or would bother suggesting that we're foolishly and inadvertently limiting our options (when we're so clearly sensibly and deliberately limiting them!) and even more, would suggest that saying no ONS means 'don't mess with me!' like we're all heinous ball-breakers. It was, in my opinion, a very silly question. I'm not at all surprised that women, and some men, have pointed that out. I agree though personal attacks are not necessary.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nope I do ok on here thanks, but hey keep firing the shots but adjust your aim as you're not even hitting the target yet!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hotshot recently started a thread how he has been on RHP for a year but he hasn't been lucky enough to actually meet any women face to face. So I find his comments a little unfair. I still don't think Jay_Me has understood what a one night stand is. Or is he saying only women who will have ONS should be on RHP? I don't really get it... Still. What is the problem with having no ONS on your profile? In absolute honesty I don't get why men have a problem with it? For a lot of chicks, we have better sex when we get to know someone first. So I would prefer to have no sex than bad sex. Doesn't everyone? Or is it true, that for men even bad sex is better than no sex? I find that some of the guys attitudes are really lacking in understanding. Yes it's a sex site or hook up site... But I still want good sex not just ordinary wham bam thank you m'am ... Oh and thank you sir for absolutely nothing. You have to accept that a woman's idea I a good time is slightly different to yours and no amour of birthing will change that. I don't want to be wines and dined... But I do want time to get to know you and flirt a bit. For me it's important part of the lead up and foreplay.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Spartacus.... men's profiles often state they are looking for a deeper connection. Mooka....after all these years on the forums if you still think that there are no ladies here and it is a lady you truly seek... why the bloody hell are you still here? . I am opinionated, over 40, been on this forum longer than most. I must be getting wearied as I remember when Meeka first started she always tried to soothe ruffled feathers and I was considered the bitch of the forums. . Jay me.. If it is a ONS you seek only and nothing more, there are places you can buy that by the hour. At least then you know up front you are gonna score! . Honestly does it really matter? The country is going up in flames, bush fires burning out of control, lives and property lost, many of my friends are fighting those fires as would I be if I wasn't needed more at home right now. . But hey, getting a quick sexual gratification fix and calling "NEXT" is so much more important. Yes I can get that... NOT! . Relationships can and do start on sites like this. Much more so than on straighter sites because we are all looking for the same thing. Not, as someone so eloquently put it... To hook up... more to make a connection. A connection requires more than a quick fuck in the park. If that is what you want, say so in your profile.. . Move along folks... Nothing to see here!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It should read " You have to accept that a woman's idea of a good time is slightly different to yours and no amout of bitching will change that. "
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RHP User
12 years ago
No, that isn't what Jay was asking. He has asked why women have no ONS because they sound like hard arses. But the reason women have that is often because they get lots of messages with how about it, you know the messages I am talking about. There are heaps of men, just look at some of the responses on this thread, who are only interested in sex and pretty much ONS. And that's fair enough, but it's also fair enough for a women to say that a ONS is not her intention or what she is looking for. And Of course, we have all had ONS before. But I think you will agree Mado, that there is a difference between someone planning a one off encounter to someone hoping that things may lead to more but just didn't.
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RHP User
12 years ago
are we going to trade insults? I would never for instance call you an antediluvian boofhead, because that would just be plain rude
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Hotshot recently started a thread how he has been on RHP for a year but he hasn't been lucky enough to actually meet any women face to face. and tells me that there is a problem with his screening process, his approach, or both. But of course it's much easier to lay all the blame at the women's feet isn't it...
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madotara69
12 years ago
Once jay me clarified that he did not consider himself to pose a threat for the ladies idea of no ONS, it just showed to me the idea was for question. I felt that was completely ignored and rather the ladies share their thoughts as to why ONS mean what is what. It became a rally to hang Jay me out to dry.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well if I had said Jay you are having one of your tanties, and you are just a thorn in my side and no one gives a shit.... Maybe things would have gone more smoothly?? Jay started with the personal attacks Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just spent a beautiful day at Wooloomooloo with a group of friends . Terrific food, wine with incredible people plus we got to meet 2 stunning Swedish backpackers . Just what I needed , and not one thought about the way this thread had panned out. Yesterday ' was the only time I ever felt no matter what I had to say , someone was prepared to try and make it something else. I appreciate that since then things appeared to settled some and the topic levelled out. On reflexion' there were some things I wrote in the heat of the moment I regret. But in fairness I was only reacting to some untrue accusations that frustrated me. I don't regret the meaning of my original post , however I do regret the unprecedented reaction it attracted. On a personal note, I'm definitely not the type of guy to expect a female put out on a first date' ever '? Over a lifetime ' I would be lucky to have had a ONS on a first date maybe only 3-4 times, no more. Like the majority' it happens when it happens.. If anyone doubts this , read my profile, it states I encourage to meet first before anything. Just like everyone else, I like to feel something..
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RHP User
12 years ago
At the risk of getting into trouble myself I don't think the personal attacks are necessary. If we pay attention to the little grey box above where you enter your comment it states 'do not post anything that defames or vilifies'. A question was asked and answered. We are all allowed to have and state our opinion, not everyone is going to agree, that's what makes us all different. Sometimes we feel strongly about this and like to argue our point but I'm not sure it's really worth turning people off this site, that just makes less people to meet. Yes, I believe there are still gentlemen and ladies on this site, it's just sometimes we get wrapped up in emotion and type things in the heat of the moment. Please don't let moments like these ruin your time on this site, it's not worth it. We are all here for one reason or another, whether it's to find a ons, fb, fwb or something more, why let a forum post ruin that?
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RHP User
12 years ago
'One night stand' Sounds like a battle. We came, we saw, we fucked ass...not necessarily in that order- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
first post
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RHP User
12 years ago
Huh? If you are suggesting I personally attacked Jay in my first post you are wrong.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You would all be much happier. Seriously! 👍
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RHP User
12 years ago
No SEX For You!... You could bi happy bi the way...
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RHP User
12 years ago
No SEX For You!... You could bi happy bi the way...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Actually Meeka100 the thread I started was about unread emails an why that may be. I got some feed back on my profile which proved valuable and I made the changes and the tide has turned. As for sex is better if you've gotten to know someone first well that's not strictly true but if that's your experience then great if it works for you. I've been hugely disappointed sometimes when I've slept with someone I've gotten to know. The flip side of the coin is I've also had some amazing no holes barred one nighters. As for the bitching about my opinions on things then well they're my opinions and they are based on my experiences so they are not right or wrong. They are how I feel as are yours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Are there any gentleman on this site? Hello Meeka100 et al.A gentleman is identified by others by his actions not by himself based on what he says.A good day to you. Quoting 'Handmaiden' Men on this site say exactly the same thing. It is not only women who stipulate they would prefer a deeper connection you know. There are a lot ofpeople on line who are only looking for instant gratification and that is fine. More power to them. I don't want a ONS. It makes me feel cheap, used and dirty (not in a good way) the chances of me achieving orgasm the first time round will be slim to none so it will be unsatisfactory sex. Why shouldn't I be upfront and state what I want? My profile is where I make my preferences known first up. It is my sales pitch. If a man does not like my sales pitch he can continue window shopping. His loss! I have stated unattached men because that is what I want. Many state must be over a certain height, must look after themselves, must have a 10" penis and be able to go all night long. The point is... I can stipulate anything I like..... It is MY profile. Not yours! If all you want is a ONS... Then YOU say so and give us the option of saying I will pass thanks! - Posted from rhpmobile Agreed. It is your own profile. We are all individuals. Say what you like and reap the attention when you are contacted by a like minded person. Then you can both enjoy your ONS crinkling cellophane in full leather with those feathers poking out the back. (made myself smile)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Personally I don't think it matters if a woman says no ONS...I think she is tired of being contacted by guys who are just seeking a fuck.I'll contact a woman if I like what she has written in her profile...and having chatted to a few women on here, my perspective is that women are looking for something ongoing...not necessarily a fuck every night or once a week...but they desire a connection...chatting...emailing...texting...whatever form it takes...Just my opinion...S'nP
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well that didnt work like I thought, I wanted to thank you Meeka for the upstanding post... You have it so right.. I have once had the no on's on my profile to get rid of the fools that think they can just fuck anyone at anytime for only once when yeah it's not worth a bad root... Ta L
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RHP User
12 years ago
My profile used to be so sweet... then I learnt from the best to step it up a level. If they are still game to contact me - cool:DPrior to the overhaul of the profile, I'd get "Hey" message title, Content "Wanna Fuck?" that was generous normally its not even a question, "lets fuck", "I need my cock sucked cos Im so horny".... it goes on and on!! AND when you politely tell them RHP is not where to turn for free sex and blow jobs instead of paying a hooker, they get all huffy and start shouting "its a fucking sex site you stuck up bitch, you shouldnt be on this site" blah blah blah.... 3 years on and I'm still having a mighty smutty time, of my own doing... thank you very much! And that is why the No ONS or "wham bam thank you mam and get shitty when I ask for $50 sex encounters", are not pleasurable except for maybe the likes who have such low self esteem that they think thats all they can score... who knows? Not for me, Its easier to spell it out first than have to write a rejection. Hell I even have a height requirement in my profile and that doesn't stop em.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You would all be much happier. Seriously! 👍 Is there a book or course on that?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Amicus75' Quoting 'Meeka100' You would all be much happier. Seriously! 👍 Is there a book or course on that? Am assuming it isn't a "Self help" thing (being silly... must be the heat)
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Tall74nHard9
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Are there any gentleman on this site? Read the very first part of my profile .... Tall
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