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Name and Shame
July 21 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'happywithlife21'He would have had a pretty poor rating believe me. Truthfully I don't even think he was there at all. The sad thing is, he was no Brad Pitt and I probably get more hits then him. His lose. My question was: "Don't you wonder what his rating of you would have been?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'happywithlife21'He would have had a pretty poor rating believe me. Truthfully I don't even think he was there at all. The sad thing is, he was no Brad Pitt and I probably get more hits then him. His lose. My question was: "Don't you wonder what his rating of you would have been?" Very good point Ms Mesmerised and it shows (one of) the fatal flaws in the rating system. Similarly, some time ago, I was abused and bagged really badly on the webcam chat on my 3rd outing there. It was by a 'regular' female user who had amassed a host of hangers on, all salivating for attention. Perhaps my initial comment could be taken as slightly out of bounds, (and should I say it was a light-hearted comment about a footy team - nothing sexual) but no amount of apologising or attempting to placate this individual would stop her rude and aggressive tirade. Ignoring didn't stop the weirdo either. Then the hangers-on joined in (hoping to gain popularity points no doubt) and the whole thing got ugly. : P The rant was one way traffic I should say, as I just don't waste energy in stoushes online with trolls and people with personality deficiencies on any forums Ok, I guess validations are ok, but lets face it there are cases of lurkers with multiple accounts validating themselves! Soo.. how can we sort the diamonds from the dirge? I will repeat my 2c, which is only a part solution, that all users should be required to validate. Given the adult nature of this site, perhaps that should be the case anyway. Me thinks it won't happen until RHP users insist on it tho. Suggestions? Keep em coming, so we can improve this site for the real users, not the weirdos, fakes and stalkers.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree a star system
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RHP User
12 years ago
my lady and i would never stand anyone up.....especially someone as sexy as you 3's a crowd...maybe you should meet us you won't be disappointed...we won't stand you up....maybe you should read our reply to"tasting cum"....honesty is best policy in these subjects as all you fakers will be sorted out quickly....and it's rude so there!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
good warning for others...i agree...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe there should be something in the etiquette section for all members just to remind them that we are real people making real sacrifices to make real meetings, and if they are not really serious about it that they should not agree to a meeting. I'm new to this, so I'm not sure why so many would stand someone up. I can imagine a few get cold feet, but surely not the experienced. It must be similar to the phenomenon of cyber bullying, people feeling a larger disconnect with the people they are communicating with just because it is through the cyber-sphere. Anyway, they must be mad to stand you up!
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Playful2looking
12 years ago
Married for sure. If they cancel out or disappear. A star system to rate people. I would never get a star coundn't get one at school either. I guess its a way of keeping track of who they have slepted with by the number of people who have rated them. He has been rated by 30 women must be good or she has a 5 star rating from over two hundred guys. Cool what day are you free. book me in for march 2016
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's actually pretty easy to just be honest, I think people have just lost that sim
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RHP User
12 years ago
Name and shame can lead to intolerable bullying, isolating and harassing people, causing enormous psychological and emotional damage. No one who has suggested it has suggested any sort of quality control or credibility checking system, and there is none. And of course, this is a diverse group of people; one person's reasonable activity may be appalling to another.Bad idea.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' I say no way. Any information about other members would be second-hand and completely subjective. I've heard things about men here before I met them that turned out to be completely fabricated. And that wasn't even from a jilted lover, but from someone who had heard things from someone else. But maybe a star system like EBay? How accurate was the member's self-description? ***** How satisfied were you with the member's communication? ***** How reliable was the member? ***** How would you rate the member's sexual skills? ***** Based on the number of stars, RHP would than calculate your Overall Experience: ***** This is genius! Of course, RHP would never allow their paying customers to ever think they are more than able to fuck all the hottest babes they can devour. Maybe if it was a voluntary profile setting?I would get many many stars. I would make so many fake profiles I would be number one every week RA
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RHP User
12 years ago
3s_a_party: he turned YOU down.. what a sucker! I would love to... mmmhhhmmm...
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RHP User
12 years ago
If someone doesn't turn up. Name and shame.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ivannahumpalot' If someone doesn't turn up. Name and shame. Anyone could make that up, and no one would be able to prove it was a lie. How many times would this happen:.Hey, he wasn't what I expected, wasn't great in bed, he was amazing but didn't call, or he pissed me off for whatever other reason imaginable..How can I get back at him? Oh, I know, I'll say he stood me up and give him a bad rating. That'll show him..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its just a common thing on these sites, I to have had the same problem. Couples,males as well as females have all given me this headache.I do get the impression that very often the chase is more fun than getting what is suggested by many......or is it bravado.But anytime your up my way....let me know
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QLDtwo4fun
12 years ago
We generally plan to meet people at a club or party. Having kids, the opportunites to get out can be limited. So by meeting in a club or party, if there is a no show, you haven't wasted a night. There are other couples out there. If they do show up, and everyone gets on, then you can play straight away.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've had quite a few mess me around. You chat online, develop a rapport then make a time to meet and... nothing. Am I chatting to ugly old men who portray themselves as the genuine article? Why does it keep happening??? Is it just a joke to them? I'm an optimist though. I believe the best from people because I don't lie. It can be frustrating...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Advice for you SacralChakra and others in your boat, get out to the forum drinks nights, real people (the keyboard warriors stay at home masturbating)The result is friendly, interesting, respectful sexual deviates... just like you and me... hp xoIn Melbourne for xmas...wingman and playmate required... apply within.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm relieved am but annoyed to see that this has happened to other people too and it's not just me but it is so unacceptable. Honestly we have lives and often it takes a fair amount if planning to arrange to meet someone just for them not to show up. Why do it I would love it if someone would explain what they gain by standing u up do they jerk off and get a cheap thrill from the thought u r there waiting for them and they have no intention of showing up?? Honestly it would be such a good thing if they can be named and shamed because maybe they would think twice or at least u can be warned not to expect them to show up. It's makes u wanna just walk away. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had a few like that & even one that said they would be at meeting point on the morning of the mee but never showed or heard from again,i met someone th other day that turned up & all seemed to be good,then messaged her after meet to see it all went good for her as she had said it did but got no answer so messaged again the next day to let her know if she wasnt intrested she should have told me there & then as i Had traveled to meet her & told her I had a few no shows a well as few scammers,well that blew up in my face as she finally answered my text & told me she returned home to a sick child that day and had to travel th next day for work & was not happy with me,s I think no just incase because you never know these days and its hard enough to find genuine people without having you name shamed.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
At the end of the day if you disn't lose anything I'm sure, if you're smart; you will have gained something from the experience even if it's more resilience. Had a guy start chatting to me a few weeks ago. Organised to meet, first time he had a fatality which was fair enough and devastating because it was a young child. I offered to give him a lift to the airport but he was driving doen and would be gone all week. He txt a couple of times that week saying he still would like to meet. The following weekend when he returned I figured after the long drive he 'd be better off having some timeout after an emotional week and a long drive abd we could sort something out later. He thanked me, still said he'd like to meet. The following Thursday I txt a Hello. No response. The whole time this person was active on RHP. No skin off my nose, his loss. I deleted his number and haven't given him a thought since. Am I bothered by it, nup. If there's anything this hothouse of deviants, lurkers, wannabe's and psycho's has shown me is it takes all sorts. On the upshot there are a few nice and normal people here too. NEXT!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like i like i like, you could add the ebay ratings like they do for sales, only it would not be sales, that way, if it was your first foray, you would be in the newbie section, and if your old hat and skilled you would get an off with a rocket frequent flier award. i mean everyone starts out with the 1 - 50 section right, you want the 100 percent rating, it is a mark of honour, and well any guys who thinks that he is shit hot can instantly see if he really is or not. Fuck i have a twisted mind!!! mmmmnnn now where would i be on the scale??
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cob427sc' i mean everyone starts out with the 1 - 50 section right, you want the 100 percent rating, it is a mark of honour How will the people concerned with a 100 percent rating ever be themselves again on dates? Talk about mind fucks. .I went a date once with a guy who at the end of our date asked me to write him a validation. Turned out he had presented himself in a way he thought I would like, so he would get a good "reference" from me he could use.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'cob427sc' i mean everyone starts out with the 1 - 50 section right, you want the 100 percent rating, it is a mark of honour How will the people concerned with a 100 percent rating ever be themselves again on dates? Talk about mind fucks. .I went a date once with a guy who at the end of our date asked me to write him a validation. Turned out he had presented himself in a way he thought I would like, so he would get a good "reference" from me he could use. Sorry I was being sarcastic but not to you, , i have slighty bent dark humour, In reality, be yourself, shit happens, you don't always click just be enthusiastic, take direction, learn, get better, and just remember your only as good as they think you are hehehe. but in all seriousness, a star if you show up, a star if you do what you say your going to do , and you are not an asshole you get two stars and a special sticker if your not a raving lunatic, what could go wrong??????
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cob427sc' I like i like i like, you could add the ebay ratings like they do for sales, only it would not be sales, that way, if it was your first foray, you would be in the newbie section, and if your old hat and skilled you would get an off with a rocket frequent flier award. i mean everyone starts out with the 1 - 50 section right, you want the 100 percent rating, it is a mark of honour, and well any guys who thinks that he is shit hot can instantly see if he really is or not. Fuck i have a twisted mind!!! mmmmnnn now where would i be on the scale?? 3s_a_party you probably dodged a few bullets by being stood up.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Rating a person on their sexual ability is really demeaning... Sometimes that first experience isn't too crash hot...when i met my ex i wld never have gone out with him again on first performance. It was rushed. We were both tired and we had partied all night. Well, the second meeting was out of this world...we gave each other so much pleasure... And we aren't bidding on an ebay item are we??? Different scenario. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why on earth would anyone stand you up OP? You look like a barrel of fun to me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
3's_A_Party. This is a difficult one; however overall too subjective. What may work for one person, may not necessarily work for another especially if it's a one off NSA. I think it's quite rude that they've stood you up. They obviously lack integrity. We're all here to have a little fun.And it does take effort, sometime a substantial amount, to get to meet someone. I say just block and move on or qualify them better. If something came up at there end they should have had the decency to message and inform you. Unfortunately you do get all types here and they're in both genders. Better luck, Koz.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I dont understand how melbourne men would justify not showing up, just look at the OP and you would want to put the effort in...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Now that can be a bit tricky , I believe there are too many deceitful people out there . In one fashion exposing the cowards and dishonest would be a good way to stop you ladies being let down or disheartened . Now the other side of that coin , petty revenge ( the lady had an awesome time and the male has his issues and doesn't want to take it any further ) I could see that accruing and like the old saying , mud sticks , once denounced and innocent , it would make it extremely hard and stressful to deal with . To be honest , I find it almost impossible to fathom you being stood up .
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a pretty new member around here and can't believe how much time some members have to waste! My overall experience so far has been great,I've met two gorgeous ladies who I'd call friends in a heartbeat,chatted to a few interstate members who are great...and have been screwed around by one fake profile,probably some strange dude masquerading as an attractive woman...who knows,who cares. Speaking to others I've met on this site it seems the ladies get a lot more time wasters...one lady was impressed I turned up for coffee on time! I was amazed,what guy in his right mind wouldn't want to meet an attractive lady? Guys joke about understanding women....I struggle to understand some guys!
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RHP User
12 years ago
most likely they are fakes or they got caught by the other half I've been stood up a few times before its a pain in the ass spend the time getting read rock up to the meet point end up eating by yourself and then going home again
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '4Steve' I'm a pretty new member around here and can't believe how much time some members have to waste! I struggle to understand some guys!
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Seachange73
12 years ago
the ratings can open a can of worms that could get out of hands. I feel for you when these timewasters make you commit (the time and energy and enthusiasm they put in to convince you to meet them is astounding at times ) for a meet and then disappear a few days before. Just baffling. I only had 1 experience with a 42yo guy and he was really keen, we had a couple of chats on the phone on top of the emails and text messages but on the day approaching the meet, not a peep. And I thought he was lovely but you just never know. His excuse for not showing up of lost of contact was he had a cold or flu or some pathetic excuse. No contacts or no courtesy calls/text. I have been very choosy and discerning in my contact so far and this was a big disappointment. A few weeks later, he comes hobbling down my ether door and wanting to keep in touch and meet again. A big no for me as there are a lot of men out there more willing to chat and meet if we hit it off. His loss. So just take it as a lesson that despite the fact there are lots of great guys out there, we will always be disappointed with an arsehole or two. Just brush it off your shoulder, keep your chin up and head high and keep forging ahead. Life goes on. good luck.
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