M63 F65
what comes first..?
June 12 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
LOL I think of it as junk mail, you know....your letter box is full of the stuff, saves you from getting sore feet going from store to store looking for the right one LOL Just sit back on the deck with a cuppa in your hand and browse through all the goodies, compare sizes and pricing, The store locater is a handy one too The contact us for enquiries is a great way for any further questions as to guarantees of compatibility, return policies etc. . I dont see why in theory though that it couldnt end up the purchase of a life time, that one special bargain. You're kind of getting all the shit out of the way before you hop in the car to seal the deal. You both just need to have a clear credit card and not hang on to old shopping bags right from the very start, if you're still a little unsure you can get it on appro first , then work your way up to lay-by . . You're just starting your shopping at the other end of the aisle first, the attraction is obviously already there for the sex, Check! Exploring ingredients you might not otherwise if you did the dating thing first, check! The trust builds along the way in a natural progression, check! Sometime or another you're going to find yourself in the feelings aisle, thinking WTF this wasn't on my list.... Oh well, might as well grab some in case He he he
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RHP User
15 years ago
After two failed relationships where we weren't sexually compatible I decided that it was more important to find sexual compatibility than common interests. I got lucky because I found someone that I clicked with both sexually and in personality.Why waste time dating getting deep and meaningful only to discover they are lousy in bed or not what we want between the sheets? I don't think sex is "bait", I think it's just another way of getting to know a potential partner if that is what you are after.Well done DGT. I think you've put it way better than I have!
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RHP User
15 years ago
This is primarily about sex for you. As a single person, I want to get to know someone first. Because I am going to have to travel...anyone by necessity, will need to get to know me fairly well by chat, cam and phone first. If they cannot or will not go the distance then we are not gonna meet...simple as that. Added to this is the problem that I am (in the words of more than one potential playmate) just too damn fussy. I want to know the person and actually like them before I invite them into my body. Sex still remains an intimate act for me and I am not about to be lured by promises of a big cock, plenty of oral and all the rest of the lies and b/s that gets spun. I am not interested in a one night stand. I am not interested in a fuck buddy. I want the friendship first and foremost. Any sex that may eventuate is a bonus.
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RHP User
15 years ago
You know I have almost always hated shopping until now (the exception being going shopping with a lady for linerie, sex toys or great shoes) and if you want a position on staff, DGT...you are hired pending a brief 3 hour personal interview and can look after all my shopping from now on... Quoting 'D_G_T' The store locater is a handy one too . You both just need to have a clear credit card and not hang on to old bags right from the very start...| The pay isn't great but the perks aren't bad...and I will overlook those odd out personal items that might just accidentally end up on the coporate card. And too, eliminating those "old bags" early on in the piece as you suggest here will save me a lot of grief. | Just for the record, the original post does seem like a bit of paradox if read in context but oh well...if I end up with DGT working hard under me even part-time and at least showing me what she could not help but buy for herself... | ...who's going to argue with the logic. | | We both like those new designer bags...and carry-on luggage only, please!
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RHP User
15 years ago
.....This is after all, a 'sex' site, primarily designed to 'hook people up' for fun and play, not a dating site for those after 'meaningful' connections......Isnt it??......... thoughts? BUT it is advertised as the oposite .. Its a dating site for singles and swingers .. with a distinct sexual conitation .. But either way .. people can find playfriends .. friends .. relationships .. and the occasional enemy .. all without leaving the comfort of their lounge chair ..
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RHP User
15 years ago
It may well be a generational thing; the idea that people use adult sites for hook-ups only fits in with the whole notion that men will happily shag someone they meet on RHP but don't want to date them, even though they're happy to "date" the same woman from RSVP who they're happy to lie to when they say "I'm only new to the whole internet thing".Mikeandshel- you've made clear over many postings that you are here for fantasy fulfilment and you pretty much only care for each other and don't paricularly care about the people you use to get your rocks off with. Completely fair enough, this is what floats your boat and it's some fun you have whilst enjoying your relationship with each other.I would love to find a partner in crime. I would love to find someone who is open, and intelligent, and kinky and a dirty little fucker as well as being a nice bloke who has a similar viewpoint of the world as I do who I could have a future with. I don't expect to find that and I certainly don't use sex as a bargaining tool to try and get it. In fact, I'm getting less sex now that I would like something more ongoing... which makes sense(it sucks but that's what happens).RHP is a useful tool for me (well it was moreso a year ago when I was shagging more)to easily explain my situation and get sex without going through the process of "getting to know" someone and then being rejected. So no, I don't think RHP is *just* for hookups. It can be utilised for several different things, and from a lot of the forum posts it would seem the swingers, and the singles, are looking for different things (generally).
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' It may well be a generational thing; the idea that people use adult sites for hook-ups only fits in with the whole notion that men will happily shag someone they meet on RHP but don't want to date them, even though they're happy to "date" the same woman from RSVP who they're happy to lie to when they say "I'm only new to the whole internet thing".Mikeandshel- you've made clear over many postings that you are here for fantasy fulfilment and you pretty much only care for each other and don't paricularly care about the people you use to get your rocks off with. Completely fair enough, this is what floats your boat and it's some fun you have whilst enjoying your relationship with each other.I would love to find a partner in crime. I would love to find someone who is open, and intelligent, and kinky and a dirty little fucker as well as being a nice bloke who has a similar viewpoint of the world as I do who I could have a future with. I don't expect to find that and I certainly don't use sex as a bargaining tool to try and get it. In fact, I'm getting less sex now that I would like something more ongoing... which makes sense(it sucks but that's what happens).RHP is a useful tool for me (well it was moreso a year ago when I was shagging more)to easily explain my situation and get sex without going through the process of "getting to know" someone and then being rejected. So no, I don't think RHP is *just* for hookups. It can be utilised for several different things, and from a lot of the forum posts it would seem the swingers, and the singles, are looking for different things (generally).thanks for that...an intelligent answer in a sea of buffoons.... finally... i see what you are saying...thanks for the insight.
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RHP User
15 years ago
You two are fucking priceless As one of the buffoons that replied to your thread and tried to keep it light and friendly and in good fun, have come away with the conclusion that no-one is going to get it 'right' with you guys (and I say this because you love to keep it a mystery as to who is typing) Done....over it
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' You two are fucking priceless As one of the buffoons that replied to your thread and tried to keep it light and friendly and in good fun, have come away with the conclusion that no-one is going to get it 'right' with you guys (and I say this because you love to keep it a mystery as to who is typing) Done....over it what are you on about? ...nothing anyones posted here is a problem...... i was called to work at 5am this morning, prior to being able to respond to everyone here.........didnt finish as i had to go........apologies, but it wasnt planned........
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' You two are fucking priceless As one of the buffoons that replied to your thread and tried to keep it light and friendly and in good fun, have come away with the conclusion that no-one is going to get it 'right' with you guys (and I say this because you love to keep it a mystery as to who is typing) Done....over it We need to help Mike and Shel in reconising their swinging journey, hold out a helping hand, be tolerant, we are convinced when he gets a Harley he will behave here.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Must be damn hard to be so perfect all the time.
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RHP User
15 years ago
the first response i answered this morning was the only one that would actually post........ i left at 5 for a 12 hour day, but without completing what i had begun......... the 'sea' of buffoons is the forums in general, and had i been able to complete and actually send what i had written, the this misunderstanding wouldnt have happened. apologies for the upset..
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RHP User
15 years ago
hey sorry everyone....damn 'net let me down this morning...had responses written for all, but ended up logged out of redhotpie before i could post them....work called and i had to rush away at 5am........sorry for confusion and what looked like a crass insult...was never meant that way........
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' LOL I think of it as junk mail, you know....your letter box is full of the stuff, saves you from getting sore feet going from store to store looking for the right one LOL Just sit back on the deck with a cuppa in your hand and browse through all the goodies, compare sizes and pricing, The store locater is a handy one too The contact us for enquiries is a great way for any further questions as to guarantees of compatibility, return policies etc. . I dont see why in theory though that it couldnt end up the purchase of a life time, that one special bargain. You're kind of getting all the shit out of the way before you hop in the car to seal the deal. You both just need to have a clear credit card and not hang on to old shopping bags right from the very start, if you're still a little unsure you can get it on appro first , then work your way up to lay-by . . You're just starting your shopping at the other end of the aisle first, the attraction is obviously already there for the sex, Check! Exploring ingredients you might not otherwise if you did the dating thing first, check! The trust builds along the way in a natural progression, check! Sometime or another you're going to find yourself in the feelings aisle, thinking WTF this wasn't on my list.... Oh well, might as well grab some in case He he he yes...i suppose...and cleverly put by the way......
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'celebree' .....This is after all, a 'sex' site, primarily designed to 'hook people up' for fun and play, not a dating site for those after 'meaningful' connections......Isnt it??......... thoughts? BUT it is advertised as the oposite .. Its a dating site for singles and swingers .. with a distinct sexual conitation .. But either way .. people can find playfriends .. friends .. relationships .. and the occasional enemy .. all without leaving the comfort of their lounge chair .. enemy? hope not? lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Must be damn hard to be so perfect all the time. no not perfect......showed that today......ouch? sorry.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl'I would love to find a partner in crime. I would love to find someone who is open, and intelligent, and kinky and a dirty little fucker as well as being a nice bloke who has a similar viewpoint of the world as I do who I could have a future with. I don't expect to find that and I certainly don't use sex as a bargaining tool to try and get it. In fact, I'm getting less sex now that I would like something more ongoing... which makes sense(it sucks but that's what happens). I love how you put that PBG, perfect absolutely perfect Chilli xxIf I knew what noise a buffoon makes, I'd make it now for you, Mike... hey..suitably cowed here ok? i left posts unfinished and caused offence (again)
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RHP User
15 years ago
My thoughts on why people dont want to get to know someone before having sex .Swinging is about sex...not about relationships at all usually.Most couples just want to have some fun, they care to know the name of the person / people they play with...they simply want to have some fun.Most people dont give real names anyhow..lolThere is a saying in the lifestyle.. I dont want to know your name i just want a fuck.Of course that doesnt apply to me, as i dont play, but i know it does apply to alot of our patrons, not about a relationship for them as they are already married, they dont care to have friendly cups of coffee etc...they just want some fun and then bye.Leesa xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint' My thoughts on why people dont want to get to know someone before having sex .Swinging is about sex...not about relationships at all usually.Most couples just want to have some fun, they care to know the name of the person / people they play with...they simply want to have some fun.Most people dont give real names anyhow..lolThere is a saying in the lifestyle.. I dont want to know your name i just want a fuck.Of course that doesnt apply to me, as i dont play, but i know it does apply to alot of our patrons, not about a relationship for them as they are already married, they dont care to have friendly cups of coffee etc...they just want some fun and then bye.Leesa xx we attempted to express the same sentiments in the forum title 'kissing' but were yet again ridiculed for the exact same things you write of. we dont want intimacy, or connections or ongoing friendships as a result of what we enjoy in our bedroom. our play lives are completely removed from our real or personal lives and we wish it to stay that way. there is no need to intertwine the two.........
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RHP User
15 years ago
My sentiments too..and what we see weekly at the club. So i think i can comfortably say that due to popular demand and my seeing people in the lifestyle EVERY weekend...i can honestly say people, that most are not looking for passionate encounters, more play fun. If they do look for passionate encounters they are usually single females or males seeking relationships.The saying goes.....GET SOMETHING ON IT AND GET IT OVER HERE...LOLI dont wanna know your name , Just fuck me....lolNot speaking on behalf of me of course but on behalf of 90% of our patrons.No relationships sort here....just romps...hehe
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RHP User
15 years ago
My 2 bobs worth....I think rhp offers different things for different groups that inhabit this crazy place.Just as people are seeking different things.Couples/swingers appear to be looking for appealing, like minded swingers for lust and fun, no attachments.Men : married, single whatever....looking for what ever they can lolWomen: married ...lust and fun, no attachments.Women: single....lust and fun with the possiblitity of a relationship with the right man..We all approach rhp with our own intent and that often is very different to others expectations.....I see rhp as a dating site knowing the potential of sex is very likely.I am a member of a 'vanilla'site and I am shocked with how many man contact me there who have no interest in sex!(and that is over an age range of 40 to 60)So I find myself here....and agreeing wholeheartedly with polar-bear-girls post about seeking a partner in crime. :).Basically, what couples are seeking here is very different to what singles are seeking, it is not a site that favours one group over another....I realise what I have said is a very general overview, but I think it covers all the bases.......and it makes the forums a very interesting place at times.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' My 2 bobs worth....I think rhp offers different things for different groups that inhabit this crazy place.Just as people are seeking different things.Couples/swingers appear to be looking for appealing, like minded swingers for lust and fun, no attachments.Men : married, single whatever....looking for what ever they can lolWomen: married ...lust and fun, no attachments.Women: single....lust and fun with the possiblitity of a relationship with the right man..We all approach rhp with our own intent and that often is very different to others expectations.....I see rhp as a dating site knowing the potential of sex is very likely.I am a member of a 'vanilla'site and I am shocked with how many man contact me there who have no interest in sex!(and that is over an age range of 40 to 60)So I find myself here....and agreeing wholeheartedly with polar-bear-girls post about seeking a partner in crime. :).Basically, what couples are seeking here is very different to what singles are seeking, it is not a site that favours one group over another....I realise what I have said is a very general overview, but I think it covers all the bases.......and it makes the forums a very interesting place at times. yes....what couples seek is very different to what singles are looking for...its a pity the singles dont see that...........
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachypear' Quoting 'MrsPeachypear' Hugs yas... Mrs P PS: it is possible to have your text different from the quote you are replying to if you sink far enough below the 'box' formed by the quote before clicking. Your cursor will appear a little to the left of the quote rather than directly below it. Glad to see that working for you lol.Hugs ya... Mrs P turns out that its pretty easy too...thanks for the heads up lol......
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