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single guys????
September 15 2010
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ocean_man
15 years ago
Now I could ask, why is it so hard for single girls not to assume EVERY single guy doesn't read because some single guys ignore what is in your profile. But that would be a gross generalisation too !
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RHP User
15 years ago
i totally agree with ocean guy . Myself , i read EVERY profile i take an interest in , having said that - i don't bother with messages or flirts these days anyway . If it bothers you to that extent just lock your profile - no biggie .
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't get why single women don't make more of an effort to check out the forums before adding yet another generalised 'single guys' thread. Maybe they did 'read' your profile... I can assure you I put some effort into making sure I understood the gist of your post before posting in reply. Why is it so hard for some to use caps, spelling and punctuation? Quoting 'ocean_man' Now I could ask, why is it so hard for single girls not to assume EVERY single guy doesn't read because some single guys ignore what is in your profile. But that would be a gross generalisation too ! LOL ocean_man... Hugs... Mrs P
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MrnMrsPeachypear'I don't get why single women don't make more of an effort to check out the forums before adding yet another generalised 'single guys' thread. Maybe they did 'read' your profile... I can assure you I put some effort into making sure I understood the gist of your post before posting in reply. Why is it so hard for some to use caps, spelling and punctuation? Quoting 'ocean_man' Now I could ask, why is it so hard for single girls not to assume EVERY single guy doesn't read because some single guys ignore what is in your profile. But that would be a gross generalisation too ! LOL ocean_man... Hugs... Mrs P I was staying away ...couldnt agree more MrsP and I cant even be bothered to stand up for the single guys and say how its isnt just them...oh wait...I just did...lol Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Dating sites are a strange place with many strange people exhibiting strange behaviour. Please explain to me how these messages/flirts/chat requests or whatever you're getting are such a great inconvenience that you need to make such a rant on a new thread, when the subject has been done to death in these forums? Were you too lazy to do a search for an applicable thread? Were you not bright enough to do the search? Did you just want to draw maximum attention to the fact that you have horrendous punctuation skills not to mention that your post almost make no sense? Since you're making assumptions please allow me to do so. I assume you're a non working mother (I hesitate to say unemployed bcause that would assume you are actively seeking work) as you are online now. I also assume this based on your spelling and particularly punctuation, as I don't believe you would qualify for a job that requires a computer. Now assuming you don't work, are you telling us you're short on time to read through the contacts, too lazy or all that reading gives you a sore brain? Is it too much to ask for you to just be flattered by the attention and continue on your merry way especially when the service you have subscribed to is FREE? Yes FREE! I can't believe someone would complain about getting something for FREE! If you paid for your subscripton and got NO CONTACT you would have cause for complaint but you're getting all this attention from men for FREE and you're here complaining that some of them are too old and asking if it's so hard for them to read. Well sweetheart, I read you're profile and much of it IS HARD TO READ lol.. You think it's too much to ask for you to put up with men seeking your attention yet you don't feel it too much to ask to take up our time with a post that has the punctuation and sentence structure of a 10yo? Perhaps those that have responded are just more tolerant and obliging with their time. Some things that you and possibly others may like to consider.. Men on this site are no different to other sites. Bitching about the men on this site does not endear you to other men. If someone gives you FREE dog poo soup you DON"T have to eat it. If you eat dog poo soup, complain about the taste then eat some more dog poo soup, who is the fool? Certainly not the cook or the dog poo soup! So tell me again how you're unhappy with the FREE subscription you have to this wonderful place many of us are happy to pay for...
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RHP User
15 years ago
As to whether your profile is legit or someone has a real beef with you & created a bogus one. Call it women's intuition but something here just doesnt add up. For your sake, I hope Im way off base.
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RHP User
15 years ago
no matter what my profile says.....it has said everything from just want sex to leave me alone just here for the forums and everything inbetween...i rarely get any mail so not only is no one reading my profile no one is even looking stop your whinging roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wow, this one was a train wreck right from the start... I'm confused, so many girls blather on incessantly about single guys Not reading their profiles adequately, now we're being told we shouldn't. Accordingly I'll not read yours (judging from the other comments I've not missed much), but if single guys don't read it (as you request) how will they know you're only after a certain age range? I'm not certain you really thought this one through. Now, I know this isn't being very fair, and I'm stereotyping horribly (and I guess it is no different to guys on forums who name themselves after the car they have or something) but I've never had a very positive interaction with women (and it is always women) that give themselves an online name relating to their kids/partner like "JimBob's lady friend", or "Little johnny's mum". I don't know why, but it just seems to never be good. It isn't so bad when 15 yr old girls do it, you make allowances for them, cause oftentimes their mind has temporarily ... erm... vanished (or so it would seem). Anyone else notice this? Anyway, welcome to the RHP forums, it's a friendly bunch. Can I suggest a follow up thread on being stood up by Single Guys? (single guy to RHP threads what Used Car salesman, Dodgy Landlords, and Lebanese gangs are to ACA or Today Tonight) :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Now imagine if I started a thread that was negative towards single mothers and stereotyped them.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Of course I'm being facetious Rugged
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RHP User
15 years ago
grain of salt for my chips?sounds like if I'm in need of a few more chips the OP has one on their shoulder I can aquire
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am going to stick up for her ! I am sad you all seem to attack this gal like indeed a pack of ....... yes you finish it ! Leave her alone you boofs ! She is new and we all were at one stage or other , we have all made mistakes and said stuff thats been bought up before ..... ok not all of us but many of us ! - yup me ! May I suggest that it's bought up lots because there are many silly little single boys ....... more than other profile types I would guess and they are at times silly and not very selective. STOP getting all precious about what's being bought up ! I really dont care what people want to bring up I just dont bother commenting if I dont like it ! Lets not become a too cool for school club here and get all clique kids ...... as I said some time back now, this is like a school yard so be cool to all the kids in the sandpit......... Now connors mum you go on and bring up what ever you want ..... hey how about those turtles at Mon repos ! I watched a thread about bullying the other day really well discussed ......hmmmm mrs p i am not using caps !!!!!! and too much punctuation !!! whats that all about ?????? And Ruggedly that's the least Gentlemenly I have seen you. (No it's not really a word). Be nice you lot ..... or I will be very sad with all of you..... which in fact which, I am. Brae ....... sad and disappointed
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RHP User
15 years ago
and I think it's discriminatory how you are looking for guys between 23 & 29 only, and that you live in Bundaberg, surely it wouldn't be too much to ask that you live somewhere else??? Oop's, wrong thread.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
So, to connors mum - men who don't read profiles are really just testing us (or pestering us)...they want a reaction, and for some unknown reason, we give them one! They incite us - make us mad, so that when the real men (who read our profiles) message us, we miss the signal. Why? because we are so defensive or consumed with the "little boys" that we haven't kept ourselves open to real possibilities. If you know what you want and what you are looking for, it's easier to ignor the pesky buggers. Just my thoughts.... Jx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Connorsmum we all have thought and experienced this sweetie but I hate to break it to you that it isnt just single men but everyone. It is a numbers game on here after all and for many the thought that the more flirts and msgs they send out the more likely they will get a positive response..not fair but thats the way it is for many...the only advice I can give is to create a template reply and send that out it is quick and easy... ..on the flipp side I will have to stand up for a number of single guys who do read profiles, only respond to those they feel they are compatible too and unfortunately they get lumped in with the rest...which is definately not fair on them either... Chin up...have fun...and ignore the few idiots... Kisses Focus *sitting in the corner awaiting her punishment*
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'looking2try3' I am going to stick up for her ! I am sad you all seem to attack this gal like indeed a pack of ....... yes you finish it ! Leave her alone you boofs ! She is new and we all were at one stage or other , we have all made mistakes and said stuff thats been bought up before ..... ok not all of us but many of us ! - yup me ! May I suggest that it's bought up lots because there are many silly little single boys ....... more than other profile types I would guess and they are at times silly and not very selective. STOP getting all precious about what's being bought up ! I really dont care what people want to bring up I just dont bother commenting if I dont like it ! Lets not become a too cool for school club here and get all clique kids ...... as I said some time back now, this is like a school yard so be cool to all the kids in the sandpit......... Now connors mum you go on and bring up what ever you want ..... hey how about those turtles at Mon repos ! I watched a thread about bullying the other day really well discussed ......hmmmm mrs p i am not using caps !!!!!! and too much punctuation !!! whats that all about ?????? And Ruggedly that's the least Gentlemenly I have seen you. (No it's not really a word). Be nice you lot ..... or I will be very sad with all of you..... which in fact which, I am. Brae ....... sad and disappointed Sorry Brae this isn't a personal attack at you but at what you're standing for.Single men get slaughtered on these forums, time and time again we are the proverbial punching bag of RHP. RHP isn't RSVP, it has a clear intention to its purpose. That very same purpose attracts us nice people to this site because it avoids those "awkward uncomfortable moments" of attracting a mate and then sharing our kinks and desires with them. We're all here because we're not happy looking in clubs and pubs and dating sites to find what we're after.I think at this stage of our human evolution we're all comfortable with the fact that the males of most species on the earth are given the genetic make up for procreation. It's seen in real world situations like lions and elephants and apes. That instinct is what drives men to see a single female looking for someone on a "sex site" as it's been put in posts before as an open target. I've been mild mannered and civil tongued up to now but there is a reason I'm not standing in an open arena with a red flag trying to find the tame bull. Through out our lives we're told that women chase the bad guys, they never say yes on first contact and they often don't know what they really want. If I attempted to be all that women want... wait scrap that it's not possible. So now when I read what a woman wants I take it with a grain of salt. I'm sure I'm not alone in this either.The part of it all that gets my goat is the whipping boy status we get when we chase those who want to be chased. As others have said before delete,delete,delete and leave the gender bashing at the doorstep.Everyone is entitled to their opinion it's the fine art of expressing it tactfully that is key. At the end of the day both sexes have their flawed members, for every guy who is bad there are exponentially the same number of girls who are bad. You have to take it all in stride. As Ruggedly put it what do you expect would happen if a single male wrote a post attacking single girls or something.I know exactly what would happen
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RHP User
15 years ago
THANK YOU ! Onebrightstar .......quietly the cleverest gal on RHP my female version of Mooka. (Yes, he smiles) Focus you always make me smile .......... nicely done chicken ..... thanks for helping Connors mum out with a clear explination........ I would only punish you because you like it not cause you were naughty in anyway ! I have had a blast at single boys when I got on here years ago but all on here were kind enough to be friendly and made it easy for me to be heard ...... many are now regreting it ! I remember Gaz sometime ago saying he may have heard about swallowing cumm a million times ....on the forums .....your getting to be a grampa around here mate ..... but each time he hears it different and after all who doesnt like hearing about people swallowing cum .... I thought it was about swallowing cumm gaz ...... sorry if it wasnt ??? I know know I take the piss all the time ..... but lets all be a little gentle with each other ....hold hands and sing kumbaya together. Brae ..... thinking about swallowing cum and singing Kumbaya ....... ewwwwwwww
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RHP User
15 years ago
I dont mind at all ........ and no dont take it personal because mate it didnt attack ME ! (thanks) I disagree thou .... I was not standing for up for bashing at all in fact...... read my post again ......Hey ...... what is it you think I am standing for ? For the record if you read some of my post I talk about single boys and the fact that they are not all bad ..... I may have even here and there thrown in a question to provoke a conversation about the fact that they are not all bad ! Sadly the good guys get lumped in with the bad due to generalisation ......... we do generalisation well here in Australia "oh should he be looking after young boys .....he is gay you know" "hold my hand sweety" the mother says to the child as they pass the aboriginal in the street (possibly on his way to donate blood or volunteer his time at a homelss shelter) or the "unemployed single mum" generalisation or all muslims are terrorists......or dare I say "all girls like bad boys" ...... we do it well ! Single boys get a bad rap .....is all that needs to be said ..... they are not all bad at all ...... in no way ! I have a single boys profile as well I just have better posting privilliges on this one ! I revert to one bright star .... she is after all ......one bright star ! Brae ....... and thankyou for no beating me up to bad ..... a gent !
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RHP User
15 years ago
stop it Brae, we're having fun playing in the sandpit ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Profiles are written to be read !! Thats all i have to say .
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RHP User
15 years ago
Welcome to the forums. Sorry for my shortness of reply this morning and my late reply this evening, I meant to get back much earlier. I'd like to explain that there have been quite a few threads asking if 'single guys' can read and the last time I answered one of those, a week or 2 ago, I counted 6 threads altogether on the first pages of the main forums. I could have added that it isn't just the guys AND not all of them either. It only seems like it because there's so many more compared to women and couples. I can't imagine how it would be to be a 'single' guy on RHP who reads the forums and sees these constant comments aimed at them and it was that I was thinking of as well as those who who will believe it without even thinking. My mention of caps etc were more in reaction to your mention of reading which seemed, to me, to be an ironic thing to say. Normally, I really do my best to understand as you can see at http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Translation-needed-29867 Now, on topic. I can't tell you why people would go to so much trouble to contact profiles that so clearly don't match but I imagine there are many possible reasons. It occurs to me that there are not that many ways to access a profile. Through the amateur pics page, the forums and search immediately come to mind. If you're getting lots of 'I think you're hot! What do you think of me?' flirts, it may be from the 'Hot or What?' amateur pics page. Not a lot you can do about them if they're also guests anyway. Other than that people shouldn't even find you if they set their age on the quick search. It has nothing to do with reading. Age really has nothing to do with attraction either. ;-) Some things you can do include setting your auto-reply to perhaps say, you are only interested in 23-29 yr old men and won't be replying to anyone outside it. You can also set your flirt and message inboxes for matching only. I hope that was more help. Haha you're not looking yourself Roxxy... sure am luvvin the pic. Niiice. Oh Brae, like I could resist having a look... I thought these might give you a laugh... http://guyism.com/2010/04/derek-jeter-is-gentlemenly-sometimes-for-minka-kelly.html http://www.prlog.org/10209542-pete-hyltons-newest-recalls-racings-gentlemenly-roots.html I can't sing Kumbayah... sorry... never have been able to... the mmm in Kumbayah tickles my lips! Really! I end up twitching & scratching. Besides it reminds me of sheep! BahhhhahahahaHugs... Mrs P >>> late on a Thursdee
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RHP User
15 years ago
I wake up to this ............... nice. Thanks all .......... you made me smile and that's just about all you need in a day for it to be succussful .....oh that and breathing ! Brae
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'looking2try3' And Ruggedly that's the least Gentlemenly I have seen you. (No it's not really a word). Be nice you lot ..... or I will be very sad with all of you..... which in fact which, I am. Brae ....... sad and disappointed Mate, you aint seen nothing yet! This girl like so many others, has launched an attack on guys who have simply been interested in her. They may have been seeking a relationship, a quicky or something else. Nobody has seeked to harm her, take from her or make her life difficult, all they have done is offer something be it sex or otherwise. Now I don't know about you but I find it flattering when a woman of any age, race, looks or otherwise show an interest, I even find it flattering when I get offers and interest from guys and anyone who knows me knows I'll never go down that road. There's no harm done and I make no complaint and everyone is cool. Who could blame them for wanting me? They are only human after all In the last 6 months I have had interest from ome young ladies on RHP, 4 of them to be exact all aged between 18 and 25. I have checked their profiles and NONE of them have an age range set that includes me however THEY approached ME. I have also met women who are out of my usual age parameters, broken my own guidlines as such. People do it, perhaps there is something sexy about the person or you have a gut feeling you might just click in some way... It happens. Now this little urchin has come out the gate bucking and kicking and attacked the core group that pay the bills in here. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to work it out and the group most responsible for meeting the costs are the group least empowered in this environment. The attitude I see in her post is one of "How dare you annoy me with your advances, your old and as if any girl would be the least bit interested in you". Her original post is combative, I believe she is ungrateful for a service she gets for free and she doesn't even have the sense or common courtesy to provide a post that is comprehendable on first read. In this pond her post is equal to a first time sailor navigating the Southern Ocean on a floating doner kebab with a souvlaki stick for a mast and a chip packet for a sail. Rather than piss and moan about the situation, she could sign over some of her hard earned/Dole/pension/trust fund and PAY for a subscription, then she can lock her profile and approach ONLY the guys/girls she's interested in. HOLY BUMSEX BATMAN WHAT A GREAT IDEA!! If she turns around and says "I'm not paying for this it's not worth it" then it's NOT WORTH COMPLAINING ABOUT!! No credit card is not an excuse either, you can get a pre-paid one from a service station these days. So basically Brae, if she wants to put it out there in a forum she needs to be able to take the rebuttles that may ensue. The girl was NOT polite, friendly, understanding, accepting and most of all articulate in her post so I don't think a "between the eyes" reply is "ungentlemanly" I think it is warranted. But I do respect your opinion and think you're a very nice man. No I won't have sex with you
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RHP User
15 years ago
Doesn’t it say “preferred age range”? I have a preferred age range as well but that doesn’t mean I automatically exclude everyone outside of this. While I’m here, I have to say that there are plenty of pretentious princesses on this site. I have sent out a few polite messages to say hello (mostly to those that I fit into the specified age range) only to find that most times I don’t even get a reply. Now I know that you girls get overwhelmed by contact and it is hard to keep up with the replies…and I can understand that. What I can’t understand is those who have read my message, looked at my profile and then can’t even be bothered to send a quick reply. It doesn’t take much to say “thanks, but no thanks”. Do people think that because it is not face to face contact that common courtesy doesn’t apply? My apologies to the nice ladies on here who do reply. To borrow a phrase from an intelligent nice lady here…”just my opinion!” Now I better get on my horse and ride away before I get run out of town. Jake
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RHP User
15 years ago
God its gunna get boring don't you think ! Ruggedly you gotta slow down ...... you can't beat people to a pulp on the first visit or my friend (you called me a nice man .. now we are friends .... there's still time to pull out)First mate lets lull them in to a false sense of security then pow ! This pool is going to get rather small ...... the fish rather untastie and we will all start eating our own ! ............ and you ya handsome bit of meat I do not fancy eating ! The problem would be solved if all the single guys were just content on fucking each other ! ( Gaz ..... what do you think ?) Sadly if we start attacking ....... and mobbing all the single gals then thats all , all those paying single blokes are gunna get cause they scared all the fish away....... and truly I dont wanna eat you or fuck you ! lol lol ! Sarah has a single girl profile , no end of knobs sending her ..... can I fuck ya messages .... surely we live in a world that says if you say your not interested , you can be left alone ? Or do we revert to who ever pays the most has all the rights ? I am not sure but I did not know I could "lock" our profile to stop unwanted advances for years until now we have had a platinum and still got those same knobs , even those on lower levels than us, asking if they could fuck sarah ? No mate all attention is not good attention ! Really its not ! God this is distracting , fark I need to work ! Gotta wrap this up ! Ruggedly its a complex world ...... but if we all each every new kid there will be us boring old lot talkin the same shit ..... it does get boring, really it does, newbies make the pool interesting (wasnt I doing the whole school yard thing... how did I get to a fish pond ...oh it was you and urchins !) Oh and Stop hiding it you know your already my girl ............. Brae ..... thinking about the forum on staying to the topic ??????? Oh and Sydboy if I was that way inclined mmmmmmm you be my man as well !
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RHP User
15 years ago
First, Jake88 is right on the money - it shouldn't be that hard to provide a brief but polite reply.Here's another twist though. Men pay for their membership so they can send messages, but women are far less inclined to as they don't need to. As a result, a number of women (or posers?) put up false profiles because it's free and easy to do so. When a man reads a new profile, he accordingly attaches less veracity to it than one he knows to be genuine. Speaking for myself, I've come across enough of these bogus profiles that I think it's quite natural to take any profile with a grain of salt.Men not reading profiles may well be part of the problem, but so to is the ease with which a new profile can be created, immediately drawing hits. We men may be simple creatures, but we do adapt our behaviour over time...
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RHP User
15 years ago
both have damn good points....its all about common courtasy on both sides it doesnt take much for the men to read a womans profile but it doesnt take much for a woman to answer with a thanks but no thanks either and i really hate defending the men...but the gorgeous tee has a point too leave the damn men alone....the single men get picked on way too much i dont read a profile when i answer an email iv said that before...but nobody is having a go at me (for once) so can we give the men a break please ladies ohh and connorsmum...be careful hun with that prifile you could have all sorts of weirdo's trying to get hold of you and your kids if i could give you some advise..change it xx roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
If may add my 5 cents... How many couple profiles state 'Seeking: MEN,Couples, Women' etc but when you scroll down a bit lower, you find "No Single Men' Gets a bit confusing sometimes.
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