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sex drive
December 23 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
Is it yours? Nothing much you can do. Just work with what you are comfortable with. Is it his? Get a new man...or several. Sometimes diet and exersize play a part. Sometimes it could be an underlying mental or medical condition. The problem is that sexual compatablility is important for an on going relationship so you will need to find someone who matches your sex drive.
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RHP User
15 years ago
im the one with a low sex drive , but when ever i have a partner he tends not to believe me casue i always have mulitple orgams, but it takes me a while to get in the mood , i dont get horny like most people and i can go months hell i can go years without having sex and it doesnt bother me,
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RHP User
15 years ago
Then why are you worried? If you are happy without isnt that ok?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I thought redheads are supposed to be fiery? :PI would say you are turned on by connections, not by sex. From the way you describe needing a lot of mood to get into sex.That's both good and bad but unless you are willing to experiment or go to "fetish" places in your head to simulate instant horniness, you might need to find a similarly infrequent sex drive'd partner so there is a compatibility.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would suggest a complete physical to make sure there is no underlying medical condition such as a misfunctioning thyroid condition or even depression which can affect the desirefor sex. If your partners do not beleive you...that is thier problem and not thiers.
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RHP User
15 years ago
When I was your age I did not have the greatest sex drive, it seems the older I get the more I want it. Don't feel there is something wrong with you, it might just be who you are at the moment.
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RHP User
15 years ago
normally im fine with having a low sex drive , howwever its when i find a partner that it becomes more of an issue, as i always seem to find guys who cant seem to get enough sex, i like to think its cause im that good lol. and ill keep my eye out for soem horny goat wed the next tie im shopping.
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Mr_MrsJones
15 years ago
When I was in my early 20s I had a lower sex drive than now. When I first got married it was a real issue and even now 12 years later it continues to be an issue from time to time. I never really thought there was anything wrong with me that is just how I was / am. I will say that getting a better opinion of myself and being more comfortable in my own skin have helped enormously. Being confident in the way you look and how sexy you are can be the biggest turn on not just for your partner but also for yourself.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have actually been celibate for the past 6 months without any reason to be, I just purely had no desire to have sex and when offers came along, I would make up excuses not to. I'm not sure if this is the same thing that you're experiencing but it's bizarre, this definitely isn't me. Mine is coming back now, hence joining this site to sort of get back on track. It could very well be just a phase, or I would think maybe you want a deeper connection with the people you choose to have sex with.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am going through a similar thing right now. I have found that it can be a big shock when the teenage hormones finally subside and you don't have the urge to fuck every man in sight. This change has made me much more fussy about my sexual partners and makes it much harder for me to be turned on.Also are you going through some difficult life issues at the moment? I have found that because I am under a lot of stress at the moment that it is hard to get my mind to focus on things like sex and getting turned on. My mind is almost constantly in a different place.Another theory is that because my mind is somewhat complex that I only get really horny in certain situations, such as being tied up and properly dominated. Perhaps there is a fetish out there that will make your sex drive go through the roof.Another reason why you have a low sex drive with males might be because you actually like females :P I can only hope, because you are gorgeous!Perhaps if you do find a partner but you have a low sex drive with him, then he just simply isn't the right one for you...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think that's a proper question for Doc Jean :p.Is the question really how do you fix a broken libido... or have you always had a low libido.... as to the latter... if you're basically happy without one, then that's they way you are built. You could rub a little mango on it every two hours. That's what I would like to do... errr.. I mean .. that's what I'd recommend. :p Dont worry about seeing a doctor or asking about hormone therapy. We got all the fruitful replies right here!HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
A tip I'd offer to help get the old blood pumping through your body when ever the opportunity arises.Excercise - Cardio and crunches.Boxercise/zumba and those sorts of high energy aerobic classes that get you moving and working hard are awesome for sex drive.Nothing quite like sweaty hot bodies and plenty of bouncy music to get the mind wandering.I add crunches in as a massive part of sex drive is self esteem and part of that is feeling like you are sexy because you look sexy. I find crunches help me feel like I've got a six pack and keeping my lean shape. It's bound to work for women as well as I understand that women are very critical of their appearance and looking down at yourself and seeing this sexy tummy and legs to die for would make anyone feel gorgeous.Good luck with it, Many lose their drive and others find it. The key is to keep trying and look outside the normal things to get you worked up. Medical and emotional are important tooR
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RHP User
15 years ago
Depression, anxiety--all can cause a low sex drive. If you are on the birth control pill, I hear that it can greatly diminish your libido. Also, if you are taking any kind of anti-depressant, they can really mess up your sex drive as well. EvilTwin81
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RHP User
15 years ago
Bettina Arndt (sexologist) in her books "The Sex Diaries" says that low sex drive for women and high sex drive for men is the normal state of affairs (no pun intended) for most long term couples.Her suggestion is:- Just do it - you'll most likely enjoy it when you get going, or- Have an affair - that usually cures low libidoRegardsMr. SR
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'perthbi21'Another reason why you have a low sex drive with males might be because you actually like females :P I can only hope, because you are gorgeous! Everyone's advice is ridiculous (with the exception of Stalky's mango rubbing... although he obviously missed the news about the WA mango crop while he was tied up in a seedy sex club somewhere in Europe). . The answer's right here... you two just need to lean in... and kiss. Oh yeah. And get some honey, and some pillows, and some playboy bunny ears... and a camera. I don't know about LilReds libido (I mean I hope this helps and all...) - but I'm sure everyone else will thank you for it
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi! Hun . You know maybe t's not a case your sex drive is low but the fact you haven't met that Special Guy who Lights Your Fire..Some Women can enjoy a Guy without emotional Intimacy just a Good Sex Friend ..I get the feeling from your vibes that you fit into the Catagory of Women who need to be in love with that Guy to really expess your self to the fullest..When he does pass by say Hello!You won't have this happen then...Good Luck with it and look at some herbal, remedies.etc ..Lol Lu:)
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RHP User
15 years ago
thanks everyone for all the advice so far its made my day reading the comments, just thougth id say im not on the pill , and im not taking any other medication either ,i dont drive so i have to walk/ride my bike, when i get bored at home i do crunches/push up etc, alhtough this doestnt help , the funniest comment was about rubbing mango , my main problem with that is i dont like mango so im not sure what else would do the trick , i think the woman who wrote the book and said get it over with and just do it or soemthign to that effect needs to not say that , thats like telling any virgin high school girl that its ok to sleep wth any guy who wants u to just becasue ull probably enjoy it, now im not saying i dont enhoy sex as i have mentioned i do but it just takes me ages to ge "worked up" and yes whilst id like to say that ive have great mind blowing sex before i cant , thts not to say i havent had good sex before but what can i say who hasnt gone thro the shopping list in thier mind during ssex , or was that just me ,
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok now you got me Little red-im a little confused as to why some one with a low sex drive would be on a sex -dateing site looking to meet guys?Are you hopeing this will help?
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RHP User
15 years ago
but not in the way that i just have as many one night stands as i can and hope that more sex will improve this "condition". i met my now ex off here so i know its a good site, althoguh im sure as with anythign there are a few idiots, im also here becuase it is a well known sex site and i figured people might be able to help me byt giving me ideas as to wat i should try.
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RHP User
15 years ago
hey little red i think the best way to do it is to experiment and try new things, it makes me more interested and works for me :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Read erotic novels. Watch erotic movies. Do erotic things. Fill your mind with fantasy, expose yourself to many varied types of sex. Choose your favourite erotica from them all. Your body will follow. perhaps create an alter-ego for yourself. Play and be happy.
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