can you explain wifes behavour

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Was in the same predicament as you. Did all of that worked 80 hr weeks, helped at home, did the dishes etc etc. This is what the "Women" of this world tell you to do- all crap, doesnt always work.You see if she has gotten to this stage, she is in a rut, and whether or not you are the cause, you WILL be blamed for it.At this stage she is probably starting to think about leaving you. Now before anyone jumps on me, have a think about it- classic signs-Is there anything you can do about it??? You fucking bet there is, and this may come as a bit of a surprise-Stop doing all that helping around the house, and pandering to her every need!What women really want is an "Alpha" male. A man who takes charge!Even if you are not the stereotypical Alpha, you can fake it!First, you need a life OUTSIDE of the home- a hobby or the like!Motorbikes, gym, something to get you OUT of the house. This is the start!Next- don't beg for sex! EVER! Do let her know, that if she plays her cards right, you MIGHT let her suck your cock, when you get back from your ride, but ONLY if she has dressed in your fav knickers or the like!You need to call the shots. At first will be tough, but you gotta show her who is boss!Remember at all times though, to treat her with respect and love! But you are the MAN! Period!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I wouldn't have suggested that but nobody here knows your wife as well as you do if you think that'll work, by all means, give it a shot. but if not, try fixing your relationship problems first. If you go to a counsellor, try to not bring up the lack of sex in the first 2 mins and if you listen you might even find out what her real problem is. Fix that and the fucking usually follows

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Was a little tipsy when writing the above, but the argument still holds fast.For too long women have been trying to shape there men into what they want, then once the man has been "Whipped" into line, they get bored.A womans natural tendency is to always want for an Alpha male. It's genetically imprinted. As not all men are alpha males, you must fake it.There is soo much more to this argument, but you get the gist!Too many "Metrosexual" whipping boys in the world, and not enough "MEN".

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Are you spending too much time at work and not enough time with your wife? Bad relationships don't usually have great sex... and if you aren't getting on well the sex will suffer. I know from personal experience that when a woman is unhappy with one aspect of her relationship she will not feel like having sex with what she views as the source of her problems... and just because you aren't fighting today doesn't mean there isn't any latent issues. Sadly this was the behaviour I resorted to prior to the breakup of my first marriage. However my ex husband was a useless piece of crap who simply sat on the couch all day while I worked and did everything else. My current husband and I play with a bloke for whom the sex has left the marriage but they are still very much in love. She doesn't know he strays with us, and that is for the best. I agree with Luvitruf, you need a hobby outside the relationship, something that gives you pleasure. Whether it's riding motorbikes or other women being happy within yourself may be enough to peak her interest in you again. Either way you win. Curious suggested counseling which I agree is a really good idea, but it doesn't work overnight. It takes time and commitment from both parties.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Ever thought that she is getting her enjoyment outside of her marriage?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  what luvitruf said.. guys lose their sex drive just like girls do... talk about how you are going to forfill YOUR needs as adults.. either try swinging and spice it up, or move on to someone else...whats the point of a sexless relationship zzzzzzzzzzzzz great sex takes effort from two , not one guy (or girl)

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  You need to get a couple of young girlfriends on the side.

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