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Would you meet a blind date?

October 01 2010

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Here's the deal.I've had the opportunity to meet up with a couple of married women and after asking for at least one pic I was refused.I even requested a pre meet to ascertain whether they would like me and vice versa and was again refused,the response I got was " looks are trivial, and if you want to meet up, it'll be straight to the point"Now I just can't get myself to meet up to have sex with someone and find them unattractive,I'm not looking for a supermodel,far from it,all I want is some attraction,is it too much too ask? Am I being too shallow or have my requests been reasonable.It's been nagging me that what few opportunities I've had have been squandered,but ultimately the ramifications of that decision not to proceed will remain unknown. What do others think?David

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    hmmm If you have sent them photos then they should reciprcate or at least agree to meet. They ARE aware that you are not operating as a gigilo? hee hee That said if you agree to meet up...lol They cant force you to have sex with them!! If they aren't your type then say hello and make your excuses and leave! And my final imput is that I hope they are married ladies with permission to play cos cheating is wrong. Keep searching, the right nuible lady will turn up! Mrs H xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    You don't stare at the Hearth while you are stoking the fire...so the old saying goes....ehehehehe Did you offer to send a pic of yourself??..If so, fair enough, you should expect some kind of exchange. If not, then maybe these ladies may think that you are like the sad small percentage of the men on this site..looking for pics to spank the monkey over...and have no intention of ever meeting up..I am sure that is not the case David..and, no, it is not asking too much for a physical attraction... If all else fails..meet them in pub..and make sure you have your Beer goggles are well and truely fitted...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Oh I should state that I had indeed given access to my gallery which has all sorts of picsI'd rather not be put in the position of having to decline an offer at the last minute in a hotel room,I'm a bit too considerate of other peoples feelings and would hate to reject someone at said moment.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Go with your gut! If it doesn't feel right, then chances are it probably isn't.There's plenty of fish in the sea. Dont settle for second best!!There is no way I would agree to meet someone who refuses to show me a pic of themselves.Have fun

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    If I was a betting man, I'd put a lazy $20 on the notion that the lack of picture was what tipped you over the edge, but it wasn't the only thing that you had doubts about. I bet you were to meet at the time and place of her liking - one or two suburbs from her home, but considerably further from yours. She was setting all the terms and although it rankled you somewhat, the little head was doing the thinking.Both people take a risk with a first meet, but if they're both straight up, they share the risk. There has to be a certain amount of trust built up - if it's not there, getting straight to the point doesn't seem very likely. By asking the question, maybe you've already answered it for yourself.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Well both ladies seemed fine on the phone,intelligent and articulate,so no hesitations there.I'm glad others agree with me, I mean I did send pics and obviously they both liked what they saw,so I guess from the replies I've gotten here,it's not too much too ask for a measly pic or two.Thanks Y'allDavid

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Got to question the fact of not even showing u a pic! I say dont bother a waste of time!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I have only met one person without the benefit of cam. This was because he is a local man, was married and we had spent many weeks emailing back and forth, asking questions to determine if we knew each other or not. It turned into quite a guessing game. However, we did eventually meet in public and got on great and subsequently saw a lot of each other. If you meet someone there is never any pressure that you HAVE to play with them. It is a two way thing and if they are not attractive to you, then simply make an excuse and walk away. Always arrange to meet for coffee or a drink first. Somewhere public. This gives you an "out" if needed. I like to get to know people slowly via emails, chats, text and calls. I prefer to see them on cam at some stage, this is more to determine that they are who they say they are. I know a guuy who paid for a woman's airtickets to fly to him and when he met her at the airport was nothing like her pics. Her cam was convieniently broken. Well, a cam costs less than $20. It may not be a good cam but at least it can give one an idea that the person is being upfront. My view point? No cam, no pics, no meet. It is a simple safety measure for me! Fionabee

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Yessss....I have been on a blind date (couldn't send me a pic...bla bla blah...something about the phone/computer/camera broken). He was prepared to travel and I was happy to meet him for coffee with view to sexy liasions....so when he arrived, of course nothing like how he described himself....I said, "I am so sorry that you drove all the way to see me, but the answer is "no" because there needs to a least be a physical chemistry...and well there isn't one!" He tried to "yeah, but..." but he knew...he knew that he was trying to pull a swifty by not producing a pic, and he lost. And the moral of the story - unless they are "Rob the Dentist who can't show you his face"....pfft! You gotta know when to hold them Know when to fold them Know when to walk away Know when to run..... Cheers Jx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    We would imagine we have met 30-40 couples over the years and have experianced one no show. Guess what they didnt give us photos but they had ours, You turn up and you feel like you are on show, 15 minutes later we get text "Sorry cold feet" That was about 5 yrs ago, we have never had a no show since we insist on pictures of both so we can reconise them in public, so a cock and pussy photo does not meet our standards. And of course meet half way otherwise forget it....we say Next! Dont waste your time with nutters on here! Cheers NSW ....new age swingers

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Well thanks for all the replies and the general consensus seems to be on par with my decision to not follow [email protected] enlighten us?David

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I met one guy for coffee without ever seeing his picture... which made actually finding each other mid-CBD a bit interesting. In your situation though I think I'd give it a miss, it all sounds highly suspicious and dodgy... there should be nothing really preventing some kind of picture being taken and sent to you.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    they are acting way too suspicious

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