Why so hard to reply

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Lots of threads in the forums why. There is one of these questions asked almost every week. Research and you will see the same reasons, and same answers to your question. In short nobody has to respond. Sure it would be courteous, but they don’t have to. Comes with territory around here. Best start growing a thick skin to these things on this site. If you can persist you will get a favourable response one day.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  How do you know that the women here want magic mike type looking men?? Mr Dragon

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Good to reply and polite,looking forward to the replies to this from some of the regulars.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  This topic comes up every few days. I wish there could be a pinned post or something to save it being repeated over and over.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  6 years ago

  A no reply is a silent communication style of a "not interested". You want them to reply. It is you're own expectations to why and them not being met is what dissapoints you. People are individuals and they do not have to do what you want them to do. Its their choice. No use sending a message asking why they didn't answer your 1st message either. It's not going to work, especially if they didn't reply the 1st time. Best to move on and focus your energy and time into those who do reply. Ms Foxy

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  honkytonk

  6 years ago

  oh louis my lil padawan, fret not my man. as foxy said, no reply means they are not interested or been bombarded by 1000s messages and just have either not read urs yet or purely stopped opening them as they are overwhelmed. nothing is achieved by calling the non repliers out. just makes you come across a tad needy and never forgot women on here are similar to great white sharks. the great white can smell a drop of in millions of litres of water, so too a woman can smell a hint of desperation on a man by punctuation or a misdirected word. no need to try and rationalise, just move onwards.

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  nightingale8

  6 years ago

  Ha ha ha Love being compared to a great white. Keep that in mind for if/when you finally meet one. Dinner, drinks, take it to the bedroom... she comes up for head and gleans her pearly whites as she comes in for a bite.

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  HotNightsGC

  6 years ago

  Lol, this again 😂 A non reply is a no reply.

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  honkytonk

  6 years ago

  foxtel is showing shark week so the stat was front and square. my comment was made to highlight the female's ability to sense desperation. me thinks it is quite an apt analogy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  It's rough at first, I know what you're going through. Stick at it, it can take a while to find your groove. Women here are understandably cautious. Keep your ship tight, put your effort in and follow through on your words you will start to build a reputation and it opens doors. That thing about them being desperation sniffing sharks is spot on. Understand and get on top of your emotions first and foremost. As others have said this topic comes up occasionally and there are valid reasons for it, don't take it personally. And some of them are simply here for narcissistic supply. It is what it is. My best advice is that no reply is not necessarily a no, it's a "not right now". Wait a respectable amount of time and try again if you're still interested. Don't worry that you're harassing they have a couple of really simple options to stop it if it's actually bothering them. In that context, a no reply is better than a no. After you get a few nos you'll realize they aren't as comforting as you'd hoped. All the best mate, you have my respect for putting yourself out there.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Tryna get used to it,I can understand everyone’s got a type or look there looking for 🤷🏻‍♂️ and I fully respect that

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I just think to myself “I wonder how many ladies make the first message “

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Louis83, as a woman who once had a single profile on here I never needed to send a first message, or even had time to. I’d come on, sift through the messages in my inbox, reply to not even half of them in the time I’d spend here then go back to real life. It’s unfortunate for men and women alike, women are often overwhelmed and men are often overlooked 🤷🏼‍♀️ Ms Phoenix.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Hi Louis83. As said by honkytonk and Dragon_Pheonix, I've been told many times about the amount of messages an flirts that women get in the space of a day. Man couldn't answer them all and lead a productive life... I know it certainly isn't personal or intentionally rude on their part, but I'm told they do read as many as they can... They have to in order to find who and what they're looking for. SO... you do need to make you message stand out in the crowd. Make it something they will respond to because it's something they don't see often. I find a clear facial pic words fine. Or put one in your Private shots and tell them there's one there to see if they want. Hi deepestpurple… I don't know if a follow up is a great idea. I wouldn't send a 2nd message. It does tend to reek of desperation and some lady's might see it as too pushy... Just a quite word from an old dog... Lol

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Generally we reply to all messages and when you give a polite no you recieve a tirade in return so sometimes its easier not to reply at all!

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Quoting 'Louis83' I just think to myself “I wonder how many ladies make the first message “ Very very few. Far to risky, omg the ignobility of rejection. Banish that thought.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  A profile with no pics has no attraction at all for most people. Even a body pic is better than nothing. You say we all want "magic mikes", ( which is not true anyway) but we do like to see who is messaging us, not just some fuzzy wuzzy shadowy shape in a frame.

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