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Where's the Enthusiasm ?
May 12 2011
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Hanna_ybbn
15 years ago
Make yourself a good cup of coffee, have 15mins to yourself & take a deep breath ... & if that doesn't work I have a shovel & a great spot to bury the body...ps....Never ever make someone a priority if they only ever make you an option CheersHan
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RHP User
15 years ago
...Although it has been a cold, cold week in Melb...hmmmmm......nah..cant use that as an excuse! He was either loosing interest, or took you for granted, or had a boring personality( only you can answer that, as you reflect)... From previous topics, if i remember correctly, 'personality' was the peoples choice... Enthusiasm is what drives us through life to succeed and improve ourselves ,and our loved ones. Its what puts us on top of the mountain, or tumbles us to the bottom. He may have it M_S, but not to your level. No need to feel down about it...some people have heaps , some don't ! Dont give up the chase...maybe slow down and rejuvenate...but dont stop...Dont loose YOUR enthusiasm M_S !! keep smiling
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks Hanna... cool quote ! . Here's another clue: . A guy that buys ONE ticket for the Essendon Vs Collingwood match and tells me I can watch it on TV... is NOT A GOOD CATCH !! (he supports Bombers, I support Magpies) . xx Sat
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RHP User
15 years ago
Miss Saturn , I'll kick the footy with you, and hell no to watching the game at home!! Don't worry though we'll kick the Bombers butts anyway you would have had to pass him tissues all night hehe . But he kind of sounds like a let life happen around him type of person no real gusto for anything, including sex, his loss. xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
You said he had no enthusiasm ...not that he's a dickhead too !! ...go watch it on TV...grrrr theses guys giving the good one's a bad name....not good !!! ..although he's with the right team...lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
What I'd like to know, is how he can spend 1 minute with you, & not be thinking about 'nooky'! ... he has to be 'gay'! lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sometimes the routines we get into mean we take each other for granted. He needs to be grateful for what he has (You!) because it sounds like you are ready to call next!! and if you do I hope you find Mr Enthusiasm.All girls need a Mr Enthusiasm.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Now then Saturn He kisses you on the cheek, he kisses you on the forehead, pretty sure they are all signs of affection, could this mean he see's you as more than a casual screw?So he sends you short texts, maybe he is like me and Isn't much into, or very good at texting, hey at least youknow he is actually thinking of you.So he doen't want to go to the park and chase a footy around, I am assuming he is a grown man, not a kid.Though I can't compehend why he wouldn't take you to the footy.Hey nobody is perfect but I think you seem to have this vision of some mythical man that doesn't exist whoyou measure all mere mortal men against, and wonder why you come up empty time after time.So maybe this fella isn't for you....will the next or the the one after that?Happy hunting!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
wish there was a "like" button to that miss saturn! lol and if he doesnt make the effort then he;s just not woth it... plenty more fish in the sea and all that jazz : D
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks for your comments. . I'm not depressed or down about Mr No Enthusiasm.... just disappointed that I can't seem to find the right guy ! . And yes I have stopped looking for the time being... I've lost my ENTHUSIASM for dating ! . Hugs, Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
If my younger brother wasn't happily married...I swear it would have been him texting you! < Here is me calling him: Ring Ring Brother: Yo Me: Hi, How are you? Brother: Yeah not bad Me: What you up to? Brother: Nuttin' SILENCE MORE SILENCE EVEN MORE SILENCE Me: Ok then talk later Brother: Cya < He is not only like this with me...he is like this with everyone! Bosses included lol. < Maybe Mr Not-So-Enthusiastic just has a problem with words! They also say that a kiss on the forehead from a guy means that he likes your brains (Dr Allan Pease)...Just ask him if he is into you...At least you will know! And the footy ticket? I wouldn't worry about it...maybe he is one of those feral supporters and he doesn't want you to see that side of him lol. If you meet someone you like...don't change yourself! As the saying goes...sometimes you have to kiss alot of frogs before meeting the Toad of your life! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I completely understand your post Miss Saturn. Enthusiasm is very lacking in most of the male species these days. I can sympathise with your frustration. If only these men realised this!!!! Seriously guys, it's not that difficult!!!!! I have learnt a new motto since joining here.......'do not chase, simply replace'. Sounds ideal to me!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Libido Deviance case study #37: One friend of mine (a hot and raunchy blonde) was going out with another friend of mine (a rather cerebral programmer) and by the end of the first week he had already declined what would have been I'm sure A-grade pulse pounding sex (she's rather accomplished in this regard... so I'm told...) in favor of a Star Trek episode on cable.Just mention it, coz he had the same texting style...
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RHP User
15 years ago
....I nearly spat out my drink reading that..lol..OH DEAR my lovely Miss!!!Have no idea what to say..( and you know me..Ive ALWAYS got something to say to you..)that just made for a funny yet sad read at the same time. Hmmmmm and you know Im a bit of a lush..Id be happy watching you do all that combat/bowling/footy (yawwnnns) stuff too..but if you crack open a bottle of wine, Id glady help stave off the loneliness.Maybe he's just a lazy sack like me!!xxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Now, maybe if he had said.....I'll watch you kick the footy, then I will tackle you! . I think would show a little enthusiasm.... especially if was muddy and he then had to throw you over his shoulder, take you to the shower room...... . .....but I digress. Yes, I do agree Miss_Saturn....there is definately a lack of enthusiasm out there.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks so much!! Great quote.XXQuoting 'Hanna_ybbn' Make yourself a good cup of coffee, have 15mins to yourself & take a deep breath ... & if that doesn't work I have a shovel & a great spot to bury the body...ps....Never ever make someone a priority if they only ever make you an option CheersHan
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RHP User
15 years ago
You just need to find someone with the same zest for life you do. I read your profile, and you sound like an active, passion for life kinda gal. You also sound like someone who likes to use their brain and english skills. If he's not up to both tasks by making atleast a little effort in communicating in an adult manner, and doesn't have the same energy for the simple yet fun things to do, then why worry about him? There are plenty of us guys around that do... Oh, and btw, it's not just some GUYS that are lacking in enthusiasm...or english skills for that matter... (Not directed at you Miss_Saturn...your english skills are perfect!)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Obviously he thinks of you and with affection. If he kisses you on the cheek and forehead. If he sends you meaningless little texts during the day he is thinking of you. Now, he may have enjoyed watching you kick a football around. I mean that has to be a sight that most red blooded men would enjoy seeing surely. As for the ticket and you watching it on TV. He is a tightwad...clearly. Too tired to go bowling? He may have been or he may have just wanted to cuddle on the couch with you and not share you at all. Not everyone is energetic and out there. Some like to take it easy on a friday night, especially if the week has been stressful. Have you had sex with this man at all? Maybe he is taking it slow and wants to respect you. Some men are just like that. He may want you to think that you mean more to him that just a fuck and was actually showing a little respect as your daughter was in the next room. Talk to him. Ask him where he actually sees this heading. You never know.
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RHP User
15 years ago
it's because you are a bloody Magpie supporter
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RHP User
15 years ago
I see a relationship as a 2 way street.Both parties have to want to make an effort.Sometimes as others have mentioned things can be taken for granted and to me this seems to be the case.He obviously has some feelings for you or he wouldnt be texted you and its not as if he is using you for sex.Maybe he just needs a wake up call to make him realise what he could loose. Good luck
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RHP User
15 years ago
Saturn Saturn SaturnFrom what I've read in this forum, I'd say he's hedging his bets with you...uncertain whether to proceed (or maybe how), or uncertain about what he actually wants. I am assuming that you're a single gal, and perhaps he has a "safety" buffer in that he knows where you are most of the time, and probably feels he doesn't need to work at "getting" you. His error, I think.However, as I see it, you have some tremendous assets here.....no pun intended....you know what you want, and you know what you don't want....and you barrack for Collingwood! I for one would love to have a kick of the footy with you, and I agree with most of the sentiments that, if he's not picking up on the little things you say or do, then he's probably just not that into you (I don't know whether that phrase is copyrighted..). Good God, there's some fabulous advice in this thread!!!And from the looks of your profile, if he persists with he errant ways, then I say more fool him!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Miss-matched libido case study#37: one friend of mine (a hot, raunchy blonde) started seeing another friend of mine (a rather cerebral, nerdy guy)... in the first week of their liaison, she told me than when she suggested they partake of some A-grade, pulse-pounding sex (and knowing her, it was no idle boast), when he was over at her place, he passed it up in favor of an episode of Star Trek on cable.Just mention it, coz he had the same texting style...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Schroedinger' Miss-matched libido case study#37: one friend of mine (a hot, raunchy blonde) started seeing another friend of mine (a rather cerebral, nerdy guy)... in the first week of their liaison, she told me than when she suggested they partake of some A-grade, pulse-pounding sex (and knowing her, it was no idle boast), when he was over at her place, he passed it up in favor of an episode of Star Trek on cable.Just mention it, coz he had the same texting style... Maybe your friend just needs to wear the spock ears and lycra suit and try it on for a root again.HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Sensual36' Enthusiasm is very lacking in most of the male species these days. I dont know where you girls are digging these guys up from because my male friends do not lack in any enthusiasm what so ever. Maybe you girls are hanging back and expecting the guy to make all the moves. I dont know. Stop being so backwards at coming forwards and plant one on em. Many men do not understand subtle like "why dont we snuggle up all warm together in bed?" Hit them over the head with it. Use words like... "Well I suppose a fuck is out of the question then?" Might elicit a different response. lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Double posted! Damn, took so long for the first one to appear thought I must have screwed up... LOL slowest forum ever!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Fionabee.... I am happy to be forward about lots of things and if I was extremely horny then I'm confident of making the right moves to get the guy to bed... I find a nice BJ in front of the TV is a good place to start. But... this is not an RHP guy, I am not seeing him JUST for sex and this post wasn't actually about sex. It was about enthusiasm for relationships whether sexual or otherwise. . Nev... what a downer . Am I destined to be alone forever ? I hope not. Being on here has helped me work out a lot about what I want in a relationship. And believe me there's a lot I have to offer a man rather than my body and sex skills ! (I can cook and do the dishes too !!) Sooo... I believe I should be looking for a man who matches my needs in different areas. Passion for life is one of these as well as passion for sex. I do not simply want a guy who fucks well but wants to spend all the time at home. I don't see what's wrong with that. . Schroedinger... it actually sounds like you were talking about ME ! But you arse doesn't look familiar so I'm guessing not! . x Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sooo maybe he did get my hint ? . This morning I get a text saying: "Are you free tomorrow night? Got a scoopon for a restaurant need to use soon." . Scoopon is a discount coupon ! LOL . He really lacks eloquence in his language. . Unsure if he wants to actually take me out for dinner or simply use the coupon he has ! . Either way... I say YES. I appreciate effort even if it involves "scoopons". . xxx Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
I thought I knew what I was looking for when I first started in here...but that really has changed. I really don't want to be anyone's buddy, friends are great but I want the options of a deeper kind of friendship and as far as benefits...that all sounded just a bit too contractual. | I finally realized I didn't even have a game plan...so then what? I guess I would trade out benefits for priveleges any old day...the kind that are given as a gift and not an expectation, and then maybe just stumble over everything I wasn't expecting in exactly the place I knew I wouldn't find it. How good is that...about like a kid lost in a candy store. | Oh well, life can be a bit confusing at times... | ...but that's what makes it all magic. | | Made you look, huh?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Miss_Saturn' . Schroedinger... it actually sounds like you were talking about ME ! But you arse doesn't look familiar so I'm guessing not! . x SaturnIn what regards? The A-grade pulse pounding sex, or the thrown over for Star Trek? If the former feel free to get familiar with my arse any time ...... but on topic, some folks is just hornier more of the time than others, perhaps the case here? Sucks though, feeling that way: I go through my stretches of "what is it with chicks, they all just blah blah blah..." just gotta try and be philosophical and get passed it, I guess... free advice from old Mr No-Help.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' I thought I knew what I was looking for when I first started in here...but that really has changed. I really don't want to be anyone's buddy, friends are great but I want the options of a deeper kind of friendship and as far as benefits...that all sounded just a bit too contractual. | I finally realized I didn't even have a game plan...so then what? I guess I would trade out benefits for priveleges any old day...the kind that are given as a gift and not an expectation, and then maybe just stumble over everything I wasn't expecting in exactly the place I knew I wouldn't find it. How good is that...about like a kid lost in a candy store. | Oh well, life can be a bit confusing at times... | ...but that's what makes it all magic. | | Made you look, huh? But maybe not everyone is content to stumble... I mean, what happens if you don't have your wits about you and accidently stumble upon the wrong end of a lollypop??? :-O
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Hanna_ybbn' ps....Never ever make someone a priority if they only ever make you an option Cheers Han That is perfect - I'm gonna write that one down...
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RHP User
15 years ago
It feels great to be chased and if you took me out for my birthday and offered me a warm bed then I'd be all over you!!!I've actually experienced the exact same from a womand and just didn't get it....Piss him off and find someone else. If he was into you the nothing would stop him bending you over and fucking you till next Tuesday... I sure would
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RHP User
15 years ago
But I admit I have acted like that with a woman , maybe 2 or 3 before , now I'm not saying that he's like me , but when I was acting like a lame-arse like that it was simply coz I was in nowhere land about where it was going and how I felt. And ok there might have been another muchacha or another I was remembering too. If I were you , and I'm NOT saying you should do this , but if I were you I would turn up the heat , frankly I would fuck him completely stupid , yep like a maniac , if you like it like that sometimes ;) and if he doesn't react I would say bye bye baby , very nicely. There ya go , that's my litmus test. If he doesn't become mega enthusiastic then forget it. Don't settle for number two , number one IS out there , maybe it's him and he just needs a good wake up slap!!!! But don't settle for anyone unless they light up your day like Chilli said , and unless they light you up , set you ON FIRE. You say you need enthusiasm , he's not enthusiastic = you're not compatible , simple. But give him one last shot?? He's gotta learn : you snooze you lose!!!! That's my two cents , have a great one , Loz
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had another long think about your post! And it suddenly dawned on me...what if he IS into you? What if he has been jaded by women so much in the past that he is too scared to show you how much he does like you? Women can get away with treating ALL men badly cause they went out with an arsehole or two...Why can't men feel the same way too? < I think that you are a very strong woman but unfortunately not when it comes to relationships! Speak up! If you are really into him...speak to him, let him know how you feel! Find out more about his past relationships and maybe you can both heal each other from past pains! You never know Saturn...unless you communicate! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
i had to check your profile to make sure what state you were in lol...i don`t have any kind of insight or constructive comments, other than for gods sakes don`t start cleaning his house for him...I think maybe there`s people who are generally excited and interested in `doing stuff` and try to `do stuff` and then other people who will sometimes watch/participate if stuff happens, but otherwise are quite content to sit around and watch tv all weekend *shrug
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