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What's with No Shows?
February 09 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Probably fakes or just scared to meet and so hoped to possibly get a few nakey pics or dirty messages out of someone before they were found to be frauds.
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RHP User
13 years ago
to many fakes on here iam over it
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never had a no show...I often wonder why it happens to some and not to others? I think you can only get the answer from the people that stood you up! By the sounds of it...they got a better offer, maybe with someone with no strings? xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
We'll show up, so if you're ever in Brizzy, look us up..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Got to love "internet" dating !!! Ive never had a no show....although Ive had cancellations...and yes Ive had what I assume is death by text....you know endless texting and then NOTHING One has to presume they have died of a result of their incessant texting.....or their wife got hold of the phone..........or perhaps they really have broken all 8 fingers, two thumbs and both wrists !!! - who knows !!! (why am I so cynical ?/) ....however if he really wanted to text you though he use his feet !!! - Men have been known to sore thru muscle, sinew and bone with rusty pen knives to rescue themselves...but Im digressing Two things............they are fakes.....whose kick is you for a couple of hours, days, weeks etc.....or they are partnered...its that simple.. As DG said all you can do is up up your filtering system, expect nothing..................and laugh a lot........ good luck :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Once I drove for an hour for a casual coffee and hi.....Well she new I was driving and how far I was.....after waiting for half hour on destination she message me saying that the weather was not great, so she wouldn't come....I was very un-impresed and said so......The funny thing is that she blocked me !!!!But that single situation has being the only one so far....So overall not to bad !!
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RHP User
13 years ago
The guy seemed keen we agreed to meet up on a particular night you know the rest time place etc. Im still waiting, I sent him a text and asked what happened no reply. So another flake and as the saying goes NEXT please.
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RHP User
13 years ago
They are either playing games or are attached. Either way it's probably a very good thing they didn't show up.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
that some people do show, scope you out first and decide yay or nay and if it's nay just piss off and leave you there.Gutless.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sucks that you got a no-show, probably too chicken to actually go through with it. Some people like the idea but are too scared to actually turn that idea into reality. It's pretty rude that they didn't contact you before you were wasting your time drinking coffee alone.In terms of the pic-swappers, there's a reason we have a PG and don't give pictures out over skype/phone because we want to meet genuine people in person, not have our pics used for wanking material. They are probably the fake profiles, men masquerading as couples or similar.
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, it happens to both sexes, and is very rude and frustrating.I hope alll here would at least try and be polite if the need arose :)GB
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RHP User
13 years ago
In my expeience, these guys organise multiple women to meet them and the first one that shows up, wins.I assume they have been stood up multiple times and don't want to face that again, so they organise several women to meet them at the day day/time/place and whoever shows up first claims their prize.I've only been stood up once, waiting in the lobby of the Crown Towers hotel for 45mins. No call, text..nothing. My calls and texts were ignored. And the thing that made it worse was that he wasn't even attractive!!! It was a big slap across the face for me, I'd never heard of women being stood up on this site before. I'd also say for some guys this website is just an outlet, mainly for attached or married men. They like the thrill of being able to chat and be naughty with other women but they can't go through with meeting. They like leading women on, knowing they CAN get them. They may have good intentions of meeting them, but 'morals' seem to kick in at the last minute.
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totallygenuine
13 years ago
Hey Jade, What is it with some ppl out there? Hearing all these no show stories from couples and singles over the years gets me wondering why???? Fortunate enough for me all my meets have come through but at the same time most my meets are with verified or profiles that have been validated. I honestly think that's probably your safest bet. Maybe RHP should look at verifying every new profile member from here on. It's cool I've definitely got you booked in for our next meet can't wait. TG
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StookyAndChooky
13 years ago
We always show up had heaps of experiences on here with people bailing out on 11th hour with bad excuses or no shows at all it's a shock to us when people actually show up believe us some people just here boost there own ego rather than meet up for real in person or they get a better offer etc - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
ive only had couple no shows..but had a lot of chatting txing and some times even chats on phone then theyve vanished..get use to it
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RHP User
13 years ago
I also have asked myself: Why do some women say that get stood up, all the time while it never happens to others? When I hear women complain about another person not turning up, I want to say: What do all the flakes/fakes/etc have in common? You. If you find being stood up is a regular occurreence, I think there is a serious flaw in your screening process. I've never been stood up on any internet date. Not because I'm so awesome, but because I'm pretty good at screening reading between the lines. Any sign of unreliability in emails, texts or phone calls (a must), and it won't go any further. So by the time it comes to the actual date, I know my date will turn up. And if not, I will not wait for more than 15 minutes if I have not received a message letting me know they're running late. My time is precious to me, and I won't let someone waste it. You really teach people how to treat you!
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RHP User
13 years ago
That is all.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
That is all.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
We arn't rude or inconsiderate just on here for a good time. And we would show up. We had that happen to us too for a meet, and no call so we went and had a good night with each other. If its ment to happen it will, if not move on and don't let it deter you from partaaing. B-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
What I don't get is why anyone would not show up to meet you. I'd fly up from Canberra to meet you :) No shows are just super rude, immature and cowards - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
A guy told me this once.... He arranges to meet a date at a coffee shop and watches from outside the shop.. He scopes out the woman and if she is not what she looks like in her pics then he walks away... He does this because he us sick and tired if women not being honest on their profiles etc etc.. EXAMPLE: The pics they have on their profiles were when they looked slim...then when meet they've suddenly gained extra padding and not look like their pics on profile.. OP I am not saying you've done this...just trying to get you to understand..this behaviour of "no show" happens to the best of us... Keep you chin up. Superfox - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fuck me how do I start, I break them into 2,,, 1) The total dumb narrow minded, retards who don't give a flying fuck about peoples feeling and things they have to put on hold to waste there time for them not to show up. 2) Then there's the all talk and bull shit walks, OOOOHHHHH I can fuck for hours, it's takes me for ever to blow, I will go down on you for hours and promise that you have never had it done as good as I can do it, and the number one winner of all time, I ALWAYS PLEASURE HER BEFORE I WANT ANYTHING IN RETURN. Fuck me pull your heads out of your arses. One of our meets after weeks of talking web cam chats and sexual acts, he shows up sits on our computer for hours. My wife gets bored shitless, takes her clothes off starts playing with her toys. He looks up from our computer then gets up walks past my wife playing with her toys and says..... I HAVE TO GO NOW, after talking himself up about how much he loved sex. There is an old saying,, THINK BEFORE YOU ACT. A lot of people should try it sometimes.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fuck me how do I start, I break them into 2,,, 1) The total dumb narrow minded, retards who don't give a flying fuck about peoples feeling and things they have to put on hold to waste there time for them not to show up. 2) Then there's the all talk and bull shit walks, OOOOHHHHH I can fuck for hours, it's takes me for ever to blow, I will go down on you for hours and promise that you have never had it done as good as I can do it, and the number one winner of all time, I ALWAYS PLEASURE HER BEFORE I WANT ANYTHING IN RETURN. Fuck me pull your heads out of your arses. One of our meets after weeks of talking web cam chats and sexual acts, he shows up sits on our computer for hours. My wife gets bored shitless, takes her clothes off starts playing with her toys. He looks up from our computer then gets up walks past my wife playing with her toys and says..... I HAVE TO GO NOW, after talking himself up about how much he loved sex. There is an old saying,, THINK BEFORE YOU ACT. A lot of people should try it sometimes.
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RHP User
13 years ago
For people that don't believe in putting pressure on others for sex....actions tell a different scenario....so I ask, why do you all instantly think that a meet has to end in sex??? I'm quite happy to just sit, drink coffee and exchange in some good conversation....fun like playing pool is an option too....AND I don't need to be physically attracted to them...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cnsfelswat' One of our meets after weeks of talking web cam chats and sexual acts, he shows up sits on our computer for hours. My wife gets bored shitless, takes her clothes off starts playing with her toys. He looks up from our computer then gets up walks past my wife playing with her toys and says..... I HAVE TO GO NOW, after talking himself up about how much he loved sex. There is an old saying,, THINK BEFORE YOU ACT. A lot of people should try it sometimes. Whaaaat!!! You had a meet that sat at your computer!?!?!?!??!? People are strange..............
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RHP User
13 years ago
talk to me, and i tell them if you dont show up, or have some lame excuse and you dont warn me in advance. thats your one and only chance. then I go do stuff like paint, and if they dont show up I dont give a shit as I am busy anyway I dont get dressed up for men, unless they are a regular lover I do not drive to meet a guy, with a few exceptions like if they are from over east and staying in a nice hotel then I meet them in the lobby first. I am busy, so far not been let down except when I first started her but you soon learn how to sort them out. No long messages, no death by phone text, if you want to see my naked , you cant unless you have actually undressed me yourself in person. I am not here for someones wank text fetish
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ghostbusters'For people that don't believe in putting pressure on others for sex....actions tell a different scenario....so I ask, why do you all instantly think that a meet has to end in sex??? I'm quite happy to just sit, drink coffee and exchange in some good conversation....fun like playing pool is an option too....AND I don't need to be physically attracted to them... no sex then I am not going to meet you...bugga that!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would say the amount of people that say they will meet and don't is way higher than the ones that do.... I recently had 3 that contacted me ( not me contact them) , keen to meet, all is fine until about 3hrs before, and then, "what are you up to tomorrow, " or "oh so you are coming?" can we do it another time........This happens frequently , and the annoying thing is especially when they make the contact they push for the plans and then flake out when it comes to the crunch....Dont let it get you down, instead get them to call you instead of message you on the way to the meeting spot. If they arent keen on doing that or do not answer, don't wastes your time.One strategy I used is, I had a girl wanted me to drive to hers to meet, however she said she can be a bit shallow upon meeting and won't stick around, so I said, "well I am not like that, so if you want to meet, you will have to come with me, seeing as that way you can leave if you want, and I wouldnt have traveled 83kms for 10 seconds of your time"....she ended up driving down,, and now contacts me to go there, but consistently pulls out a the last minute.I hope you find some better meets ;-)
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Hanna_ybbn
13 years ago
Ms Dev and Mischevious - I need not add to perfection....That is all Hanna xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'SuperFox' A guy told me this once.... He arranges to meet a date at a coffee shop and watches from outside the shop.. He scopes out the woman and if she is not what she looks like in her pics then he walks away... He does this because he us sick and tired if women not being honest on their profiles etc etc.. EXAMPLE: The pics they have on their profiles were when they looked slim...then when meet they've suddenly gained extra padding and not look like their pics on profile.. That tells me.... the guy is UTTERLY CRAP at screening people.... and arranges to meet people he hasnt properly verified.To me.... doing what he does, would be wasting my valuable time.There is NOTHING wrong with asking for more photos (and not in the usual dumbarse expecting to see genital PXTs either kind of way)Live and learn.DG The point I was putting across is...people sometimes are not exactly what they say on their profiles and therefore one example I put was just one reason for no show.I feel for "some men" on this site as they are the ones who put themselves out there and get disappointed. There are more women to men on this site.If a man is chatting to a woman, exchange messages, chat on phone and do all the right things and the woman has mislead him by her pics..of course after a while his self-confidence in meeting women will drop.Do you blame this man for being weary and doing what he does??. NOI think if I were a man and this continues I think I would do exactly the same thing.It's called broken trust.The example I mentioned was just "ONE" example of why a man does not show..As Ms_Devious mentioned When I hear women complain about another person not turning up, I want to say: What do all the flakes/fakes/etc have in common? You. Yes people do have flaws in screening process" and not everyone will do what you wrote.I am sorry not everyone is perfect. Not everyone will follow good screening process practices.Having a no show - happens to the best of us..even those who have common sense.I believe no show is very rude and disrespectful.Why do people do it???? it's because they can.SuperFox
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '50zcool'that some people do show, scope you out first and decide yay or nay and if it's nay just piss off and leave you there. Gutless. I was thinking/wondering that, too! And also whether some of them are really nervous and can do online but when it comes to the crunch in person, just can't do it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' talk to me, and i tell them if you dont show up, or have some lame excuse and you dont warn me in advance. thats your one and only chance. then I go do stuff like paint, and if they dont show up I dont give a shit as I am busy anyway I dont get dressed up for men, unless they are a regular lover I do not drive to meet a guy, with a few exceptions like if they are from over east and staying in a nice hotel then I meet them in the lobby first. I am busy, so far not been let down except when I first started her but you soon learn how to sort them out. No long messages, no death by phone text, if you want to see my naked , you cant unless you have actually undressed me yourself in person. I am not here for someones wank text fetishLove it all Tuscan, well said. I especially love the highlighted bit :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Any sign of unreliability in emails, texts or phone calls (a must), and it won't go any further. You really teach people how to treat you! So true MsD. Unreliable is the word I've been looking for but I just couldn't quite bring it to mind. I have an exceptional radar for wankers, players and generally unreliable people. I think sometimes people forget that it can take a bit of effort to screen others, that you have to put a few little tests out there and see what they do. And it's important to trust your instincts always.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'SuperFox'Do you blame this man for being weary and doing what he does??. NOI think if I were a man and this continues I think I would do exactly the same thing.It's called broken trust. I dont blame anyone.... but he IS responsible for his continued pattern of poor results.There is a saying that if you do what you've always done, you get what you've always got.And Einstein said (paraphrasing) that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.Now... he can change his methods.... and his results will change too. And that principle is no different in its application to the guys who complain in these forums about women not replying to their messages ..........when their profile is all cock photos and comments about how much stamina they have, and how they'll lick a woman into the afterlife and how she wont regret it....blah blah blah.... like 95% of guys in here seem compelled to do.I just grow tired of those who whinge, but arent prepared to evaluate themselves and see if perhaps the issue.... is... themself.DGMy point is still missed. :(Please message me privately if you wish to discuss further.SuperFox
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think its best to deal with verified profiles. It doesn't guarantee anything but i believe it eliminates fakes. Phone calls and video chats are also a good way of screening people. I just don't understand why someone invests so much time in creating a profile,chatting with potential meets,phone calls etc and just decide on the last minute they are not going to do it or worse still knowing that they are not going meet anyway.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Hun :) I'm very sorry that you're so frustrated with the People you've Contacted and have disappointed you and your expectations.. I'm not sure what you're doing to attract so many fakes, but the Majority of People on here are very Nice Genuine Individuals.. Are you taking the time to get to know them before wanting to have sex? or are you venting too much about past Failures and turn People off!! Whatever the reason GoodLuck! in your search try another approach Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Jade 36 Thanks for the Topic sorry this is happening to you :) Unfortunately odds are you may get some one who's no Intention of Meeting in Person for their own reasons .. Some are they just like to collect naughty Pics share theirs. talk dirty so on .. Or have 2nd thoughts when it comes to meeting They're not who they say in their Profile and following MSGs.So many reasons. However I tend to chat with a Guy for awhile taking them through different stages . 1st exchanging a couple of site MSGs 2 MSN Skype chat if required just texting if Ok skip 2 go to 3.. 3 Video chat or phone that way we eyeball eachother and know for sure if we really want to follow up with meeting . A 5min phone call can tell you so much about a Person where lots of MSGs can't .. If all goes well we make a tentative date .I make sure they Contact me before that designated time.. Usually by the day before ,although things do come up .So definitely by that morning if urgent....If they don't No Date If they're inconsiderate in this way, then as Lovers they're not giving either ,or too Immature it's all about them .Either way not what I seek. I also don't exchange Pics or Cybersex, Erotic MSGs /E-mails I prefer the personal touch I tend to attract genuinenice sexy guys Guys, because the others who are just after a quick fix can't be bothered in going through those 3 stages and when they don't get instant gratification with Pics etc they're not Interested anymore works for me:) .Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maturity is sometimes a thing to consider. Some people are here for the numbers, the thrill of the pull and just not genuine. Which really sucks, considering that there are really genuine, intelligent and willing people out there. Try not to dwell on the ungenuine ones too much. It will do your head in. Instead spend your time and energy on the ones that are genuine. They are out there. I can vouch for that ;) (One of them added a message here.) Dont be disheartened.
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RHP User
13 years ago
im with you jade its not hard to send a text sayin that you have got busy i organized to meet a girl 500 km away she said she wanted to meet that night so i jumped in my ute and headed up to find out rang her 200 km out atill wanted to meet but when i got there i text her and she said she was on her way i waited 4 hours till 10 pm and then she text me and said she couldnt meet it just put a sower tast in my mouth after making all the effort for a no show
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RHP User
13 years ago
Once was enough for me to self evaluate and re-evaluate my screening process which is pretty similar to MS Devious's
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RHP User
13 years ago
If a member asks you what you're going to wear on the day, its usually because they intend on doing a driveby of the premises where you're meeting to scope you out. Its human nature to be both inquisitive and cautious. I've done it myself but if people arent what they appear to be, whos fault is it really?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I wonder if I were to have posted this thread if I would have gotten what a whinging self absorbed so and so I was from the regular forum cellar dwellers....I think so... hmmm
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RHP User
13 years ago
Id say a mixture of both the fakes and the rude and inconsiderateMost fall into the rude and inconsiderate category though.Common courtesy is sadly slowly becoming a thing of the past. I stay true to myself and others .. and expect the same from others. As long as you do this then even the worst of experiences will be worth it when you meet the genuine people
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RHP User
13 years ago
We talk to alot of people on here and would love to meet all of them but just find it hard to arrange a very busy schedule. But in saying that I would never make a date and not show!! Sometimes it just takes awhile to get a date sorted - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
...insanity.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I 100% agree wth you...this is how I do it. Video chat is even more reliable.Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Sorry folks...... .... I really don't understand people who complain about someone failing to front up to a meeting.... when you havent even qualified that theyre genuine in the first place?!!!!Is it that big a deal to confirm that they're not fake BEFORE deciding to meet?!Are you really that over eager to meet someone you haven't qualified as genuine that you'll shake up your life schedule to make room for someone you don't even know is authentic?!How are some of you you even contemplating meeting someone you havent even spoken with on the phone...... to see if you even have any kind of verbal rapport with firs?!!!!Come onnnnnnnnnnnnnThe process in here should be like this....1. view their profile.... but consider they may not be 100%2. message them.... see if their reply is interesting enough to warrant further dialogue3. if written dialogue is interesting, obtain phone number.... and chat in 'real time' to FURTHER determine IF theyre interesting enough to meet.4. IF theyre worthy of meeting because the conversation flows well (and not just because their pics make you horny!) suggest a meet.5. an hour BEFORE the scheduled meet.... CONFIRM that they'll front up.... and that if theres one thing thats a real deal breaker for you its no-shows...... so if theyre going to not front up, now is the time to tell you.Any other method is putting the cart before the horse, because of your hormones.DG
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De0cypher
13 years ago
I have to be grateful that I haven't actually been stood up on a meet but ... people have disappeared online after several msgs back and forth and after exchange of galleries. Now, I have assumed that after looking at my pics, they have lost interest and therefore disappear - which is fine, I understand that I'm not for everyone - but, I do wish they would provide feedback on what the hell happened! My biggest peeve though was one particular incident on RHP - I said no thanks and then continued to be chased, repeatedly, only to give in to a meet and greet - started to get interested and very aroused by the texts and fantasies we were exchanging over an entire week - only to be cancelled on the day of the meet and then complete silence. There is actually a verification on this particular profile stating what a gentleman this person was... imagine my astonishment!
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midnightspecial
13 years ago
Never had a no show - neither have we never shown. So get in touch with us!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
In todays society it is very easy to be what you want to be behind a computer screen, talk up your looks, physique, penis size, breast size, deep throat ability blah, blah, but unfortunately the art of social interaction and face to face communication got lost somewhere, and yes, many women are also in this category, when it comes time to finally arrage to meet , they go all shy and suddenly "busy", my guess is that they aren't getting the attention they want at home, so this is a bit of a thrill, make sthey feel good about themselves, desirable, attractive and confident, and boosts their ego, which is fine if you state that on your profile. Actions speak louder than words.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe next time, you'll take a book, and if he doesn't show, you'll have something to read. Hopefully your DH/HM ratio will remain very low. Ricky :-) ps, DH - dickhead HM - hot meet :-P
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playfulminx
13 years ago
I don't think it could have been put any better! You should focus on people who have validations or are verified. There are many people who will talk the talk but of those, that's all there is. If all else fails, always line up another person or person to meet in case of a no-show. I simply don't have enough time these days for it to be wasted. If someone doesn't turn up, I turn to Plan B :D
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RHP User
13 years ago
You mention that you have someone else lined up in case of a no show .... Um ... *scratching head* ... So what happens to this plan b when plan a shows up?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Please explain?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Jade36.................i have had the same thing so many times that it does tend to put you off meets, sadly most of these people are everything you mentioned. But hang in there.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cnsfelswat' One of our meets after weeks of talking web cam chats and sexual acts, he shows up sits on our computer for hours. My wife gets bored shitless, takes her clothes off starts playing with her toys. You actually allowed him to do that? Personally I would have kicked him out after five minutes. You teach people how to treat you, and in my humble opinion it appears you taught this guy to take advantage of you. Surely you deserve better?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Madam D/F, it's only one no show, but a few fake people. Yep do chat a while before anything, and I actually don't make the meet about sex, don't need to. I don't get caught up in the negative, I was really just wanting to know if others had the same experience- apparently they do. Lol! Good ideas on here. I should say I have met some really great people here too. I was just curious.thanks for your post.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have never met anyone off the Internet. I was (until reading this thread ) green enough to think they would do the same as me and actually turn up. I feel for you. It is not your fault and not what this site is about .
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have always been on time, however I can't say the same for some others. The strange thing is, it has been the bi men that dont show. They are more interested in swapping pics and constant email. I can understand people enjoying themselves in front of their pc, but believe me, they would enjoy life a lot more if they met with some matches. you can reach me on diggitau yahoo cm aust. You will work it out.
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blueballs212
13 years ago
...to which I would add...always arrange a meet which is on the way to something else...then it's just a pleasant cup of coffee and on your way if and when the inevitable happens...(if you get lucky then it's nice problem to deal with!)
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RHP User
13 years ago
way too many fake women in Perth !!! :((( been stood up 3 times promised the world and never deliver ...im a good looking guy handsome and very sexual they like seeing my pics but thats it....where are all the single genuine honest girls in perth ??? those off us single genuine guys in Perth are waiting to hear from you :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I have had a few of these and as recent as last week as well. Except this time a little different. We met for a coffee on the Monday and we got along well and found each appealing as goodbye was shared with a great kiss. We were to meet on Saturday for a date. A few text received during the week and Saturday no text, no call and no response to my text asking what time we were to meet. His profile says genuine people only as does mine.Not sure what happens exactly here, whether its male or female there are just people whom think its acceptable to not used there good graces to at least be honest and say, hey my plans have changed, no longer interested but thanks anyway. So as a last note if you can make a date please be fair and be honest and let the other person know that your not meeting with them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
New to this only had 1 or 2 conversations dont understand the no show or simply stop chating if you find in the end no interest simply say so honesty is better and if your on here hiding it from your partner you wont have a partner for much longer anyway so be who you are and be honest maybe lm just simple!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
talking to allot off guys on here where all under the impression the majority off supposed "single woman" in perth arent i really think there frustrated at home alone because there husbands and boyfriends are working away FIFO mining , so all there interested in texting emails dirty chat ......:((( no genuine honest people out there anymore...but to the small percentage off single genuine women in perth hats off too you all :) adrian xo
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I first got onto sites like this the idea was very exciting - meeting people for no strings sex, what could be better? And the flirting is really exciting, and the exchanging photos is hot, but when somebody makes a real offer to meet, suddenly you can feel very different about it. A fantasy has now become a reality, and you start thinking about potential consequences.What if this isn't a girl? What if she is a girl but she's hiding something? What if she doesn't look how she seems to look? And you get nervous, and worry that you won't be able to perform...So yes, when I first got onto sites like this I did flake once or twice. And the worst part was I did the rude thing of not giving a warning. I did exactly what you said in the first post - I replied *after* the event saying I got caught up, busy, something happened, etc. As if anyone would believe you could be so busy to not have 2 seconds to text earlier on. So to answer your question, it's really about whether the person can match up fantasy with reality. With some experience at meeting people you have a better idea of what to do or expect. I think a lot of people just get off on the fantasy part and have no actual inclination to carry it out.
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RHP User
13 years ago
After driving for two hours for organised lunch… I ended up eating by my handsome self… was a bit rude but lucky I like long drives… and food was delicious…
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorta shocked to hear this happened, I mean, personally I've never had this problem, or ever backed out of anything either.Call me old fashioned but I believe that the only way my word carries any weight is by living up to it.Also, Miss D - correct on the 'teach people how to treat you'.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We haven't had a no show, had a lot of people say they would love to meet and play then you never hear from them again.We are get sick of these types of people and to think there are to many fakes on the site for us.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I have never not shown up for a meet, but in a couple of occasions (not talking about RHP) I wished I had off - blind dates thru friends, fake profiles etc I ALWAYS meet n greet on a "NO EXPECTATION" stance It gives BOTH parties an out I realise my time and others is a precious commodity, but if you organise to meet please just do that If when you meet and things aren't as described or planned or as they seemed you always have the "^^" no expectations card I am not shy about saying thanks but no thanks (which I have used), but I ALWAYS meet and take it from there To me, if you are going to lie or be dishonest about your age, weight, status etc why would you bother meeting as you know as soon as you meet the other person is straight away going to realise your not the 40yo brunette who likes playing sport, has her teeth etc when in fact she turns out to be 52, largely obese and has no teeth !! Or am I missing the point ? So all I have to say, you if organise a meet, do just that, meet. If it's not for you say so, we are ALL adults and should be able to respect someone's choice Btw Jade, I have been fortunate enough to have had the pleasure of seeing your profile pics / PGs and I couldn't think of any reason why I want to meet you, the other person was obviously insecure about themselves - it is NOT a reflection on you or your profile ps if your ever on the GC then you have to let me know, likewise if I am in Darwin ;-) XxX
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hmm we need to have a date then stood up to comment :( but bet not the best feeling from Havin time waisted - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I was single I gave up on these sites cause of no shows , I remember traveling from campbelltown to the city to find that the person who agreed to meet decided to no show and turn off there phone . Then hours later made up some lame excuse trying to fool me for 2nd time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I havent had it happen thankfully, nor would I ever do it. At the end of the day, no matter how you put it-its just plain RUDE! In this day and age with infinite possibilities for communication there is absolutely NO excuse, other than an unfortunate accident.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Absolutely paramount.....unless you can do this effectively you will ALWAYS have issues.....here's a tip.....DON'T SEXT....you're essentially removing any motivation for them to WANT to meet. It also builds expectation in the minds of the receiver. Despite what it is that you TELL them, YOUR ACTIONS are telling them different.....and for those who need me to get the crayons out, picture this.....you answer a question with the word "yes" but you're shaking your head....does that suggest yes or no???
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RHP User
13 years ago
People get stood up because they have attracted it to themselves. It is the unconscious behaviours you use in the emailing process, within this medium of online dating, that energetically determines if you 'hit the bullseye' or, as in this case, 'get stood up!'A lack of success here can always be traced back to a point in that emailing, text or phone contact, 'pre' the point of 'first actual meet'!There are a few main points to remember here,(I like to call them Kylie's rules as I have helped other people get back on track who were having the same problem.)If it is your intention to have real, passionate and totally hot meets then:DO NOT give too much away before you have been able to actually meet in person. (Some women are classic at this, but then again, there are some men who do it as well.) Leaking all your sexual energy all over a computer screen, is not going to give you any joy if your aim is to have a real live, in the flesh, super hot and sexy experience! Unloading everything you've got in, tell all, two page emails, erotic pictorials (that are a mile long), sex texts and phone conversations where you give over your life story, is in my opinion, the main reason for 'no shows' and is the totally wrong way to go about it! And don't let others do it to you either? It only implies that you are 'doormat' material and that they can wipe their feet on you any old time.Let's face it, who wants to suffocate someone with their own neediness? I am not saying that everyone is needy. But anyone who is adept at communicating online can smell the desperation in that kind of behaviour. So remember giving too much away girls and guys just makes the other want to chew their own arm off and run (and you haven't even met up yet?)You are probably thinking "How can people be so mean?" or "people must be shallow and evil as fuck!" but that has nothing to do with it. This is a humanistic and primal thing we are talking about. It is energetic and in all of our DNA!Why would someone want to meet you if they have already had you? Or blown their load so to speak?What did they put in? Or why would they bother to get off their arse? When you're doing all the work? Dumby!There is 'always' a 'mutual' hook and reel in phase from the initial contact online to the first meet.In the hooking and reel in phase your job is to read between the lines and make sure you are tuned in enough to know when your fish is off the hook and gone. (Which works both ways.) The ideal being that both of you are hooked by the other which builds like a dance, a contraction and expansion until you are both on the same boat and the same page ie; the first meet! Some of us are naturals and find this part easy, others among us, it's just not so easy. We have to practice, practice, practice to hone that radar of ours.If you are seeing a pattern of being stood-up and dicked-around, cancelled on etc, then you need toback-up a bit and have a look at what 'you' are doing! (Not have a look at and resurrect your old tapes, in your head, about why people are so fucked.... yadda, yadda, yadda!) Doing that will not lead you out of your dilemma and will only make the problem perpetuate itself. Okay?You get stood up when you fail to recognise that somewhere in the process (and it is a 'process') that your one big fish got free and swam away! Your primary concern is to recognise when the exact moment is that this occurs and let them go! (even if they take your tackle and running gear with them?) Let them go!Your real work is to go back to the drawing board. Regroup yourself. Tweak a few things. Bait up and off you go again!Yes it does feel like a 'blood sport' sometimes but if you are someone who respects your own time and energy, knows who you are and what you want, is clear in your communications and does things the right way, and follows the steps in the communication process, then you will instinctively know the types that are not going to follow through and prevent this kind of thing wasting your valuable time.Keep certain things back about yourself, leave some of who you 'could' be up to their imagination and you are exponentially more likely to meet face to face with your person of interest with no hiccups. It is only then that the fantasy becomes a reality and they have the wonderful opportunity to witness and feel the super hot, sexy and confident woman/man that you are!dbs
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RHP User
13 years ago
We my partner and i decided not to pursue contact with a couple simply because we felt they got really pushy during the email getting to know you stage.Can't speak for no shows, but i suspect that they get cold feet.CheersA
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm new to the scene, however if I said I was going to show up I would! All I want is a time and place and I would be there with bells on.
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