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What are your thoughts?
August 01 2007
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RHP User
18 years ago
No Gypsy your not abnormal but quit the opposite, we have met some ppl on this site and we have become good friends, but we do have things in commen so deep down we think most ppl are here for friendshipe as well wether it be friends with benifats or not. cheers xx
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RHP User
18 years ago
what makes one better than the other , same old same old
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RHP User
18 years ago
Just my thoughts. It is called uncut for a reason. If I wanted to get to know someone and be good friends with them i have plenty of those in my day to day life. Not to say that I wouldn't want that here, but the reason I'm on this section first and firmost is that it is uncut and im hoping to meet people that just want to meet the uncut version of me. Being a sexual object is something that some people want to be.Basicaly this website is one of the only forums to express ur basic sexual needs and desires in a somewhat safe and respectful enviroment. Personally in my life i've come out of a yr relationship and im scared off of getting emotionaly close to someone again. So in a nutshell im just here to have meaningless sex (if it was meaning full id have to care about them on a personal level). if i was going to hide behind the computer to jerk off there are plenty of other website that cater and get u there a bit quicker :) . I am here to meet people socially who have similar interests. but that isnt cars boats wine or camping there are websites for those as well. And theres no such thing as a normal person. If someone said i was normal i'd prob be offended. its our differences that define our individuality. and thats my rant for now. wasn't an attk plz don't c it as such.
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RHP User
18 years ago
All i can say is that these freinds of yours, that have the time to chat endlessly online with no real other intention, must have a lot of time to spend ;). Don't get me wrong, i love intelligent conversation, though its a little hard to find lol. I am interested in casual fun and don't feel ashamed to be seeking sexy fun in a sex site, as long as i do it openly and honestly. It seems to me that where this all breaks down is not what we're all looking for, but being honest about it ;). This is not some personal dig at you, simply that your post has raised a similar question within me but from the opposite point of view. I love an intelligent conversation though i haven't the time to sit about these chat rooms trying to find one, hence my preference for the forums. I make no secret that i don't come here for the conversation, i come here because i am looking for casual sex. If i wanted, or had the time for intelligent conversation that doesn't lead to anything more physically satisfying i would be in many thousands of other sites. I would never "farm" your msn and then change, you would find i would simply not be interested in chatting, you are not looking for the same thing i am ;). I can only speak for myself but feel pretty safe in assuming there are other guys who think the same way i do lol.
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RHP User
18 years ago
You are completely normal!!!! And you are not alone. I know there will be those who will read the post and give us a hard time about this being a "sex" site...but as I've said in numerous posts before: Why does casual sex have to be about just meeting physical needs? Many of the people on here for a variety of reasons, don't want a long term relatiionship right now, but that certainly shouldn't preclude the possibility of making a human connection alongside the sex. I enjoy a one off quickie on the odd occasion too, but my preference is always to meet someone on a different level first. I can only speak for myself, but If I just view the other as nothing more than a sex machine or allow myself to be treated like one then I believe both parties have lost a little of their humanity and dignity. Eventually that has to eat away at your soul...I know it does mine. I have been lucky enough to have had some amazing encounters with people who I may not have seen a second time for a varitey of reasons....but somehow in the hours of conversation, touching and laughter we have managed to warm each other's hearts a little as well as satisfy each other's bodies. To walk away from an intimate encounter with more than just a great orgasm is a real plus for me...and I hope I provide the same for my partner. Our lives are so fast paced now and often lacking in opportunities for human contact...so I say bring it on....be it a sex site or a prayer group....wherever the opportunity arises!
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RHP User
18 years ago
I was very interested in your point of view stretch, and can see where you are coming from completely. I had escaped a violent/abusive relationship so am nowhere ready to commit myself to another 'steady relationship' but due to being practacly locked up for 3 long years I had lost the friends I had so therefore am in need to meet and hopefully strike a friendship up and reduce my isolation I have. I think it is easier for men to have assorted affairs as what it is for women, due to the stigma that is situated along with it. Although the times are starting to change tremendously which has been long awaited for, but being my age and my upbringing is hard to drop the 'what will people say if they found out' thoughts vs 'stuff what people think' thoughts......Is hard for me to fully let go and meet a total stranger and have sexual encounters with them and then never see them again, I am shy about my body at the best of times let along with total strangers. When it comes right down to it we all have our individual needs and reasons to be here on RHP, some are lonely and need affection, some need inhibited sex with others, or just to chat to a variety of people. What ever our reasons are we all have one and have all ended up here together, cyber orgy...lol.... Thank you stretch for sharing your view point, I wish you all the best, take care. xx Gypsy xx
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RHP User
18 years ago
Thanks stubs xxx I know I have my quirks but am averagely normal, lol ...... everybody has a different view on what is normal, it depends on their upbringing, way of thinking, social groups, desires, personalities etc etc etc....Take care xx Gypsy xx
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RHP User
18 years ago
It seems some of the guys are not getting my point, I know this is a sex site anyone that can read knows that. It's not what I was getting at. woody I have met many of the people I chat to and have had sexual encounters with some of them too, we don't just chat on the computer we meet up and chat over coffee. have sex and do things together. I have friends I chat to but haven't had the chance to meet cause we are both busy or live in different towns/cities. Being single, is good to have someone that has similar interests with you and can go do things together on a basic level. Plus I like sex and need the sexual release/affection as everyone else does, but I also need the mind stimulated as well rather than just my body. One night stands are good on occasions, but I don't get turned on by the 'wam bam thank you mam' experience. Thanks possum and woody for sharing your thoughts. xx Gypsy xx
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RHP User
18 years ago
Hey Gypsy, I definitely want to meet people and make friends and share conversations about a range of topics. I want to exercise my mind and my body and I want every part of me to be enriched by the experiences that come from being on RHP. I enjoy knowing I can have what I want, a casual sexual encounter, a deeper connection, no connection. I think that this is one site where you can have all that you want. I don't know that you can define normality however I don't think what you are seeking is too far outside the realms of possibility. I joined the uncut site because it provides an avenue to acknowledge the sexual part of one's being. By the way, I like your new photos Gypsy. Cheers Wildnature
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RHP User
18 years ago
even tho this is a sex site --- yer did i here you guys coughing well besides sitting here by myself on this cold nite. if i was able to meet a lady from here im sure that id really like to be able to relate to this person in such a way that. i could talk to them openly about anything that comes up. dont get me wrong im all for have'n sex----- but then you dont have sex with someone you dont like. even if one was to go to the knocker shop youd pick the one that you like so if it was to be some one from here id like to think that there would be someone that i can chat to over a coffee or a few cold ones and conect on a more intelectual level. does that make me a sap! i dont know -- but if it does so be it. id like to know the person im slepping with regaqrds mal
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RHP User
18 years ago
I tried going to the meets. What i found was a lot of women or wives playing and teasing with a "you guys go sit in the corner" type attitude. What am i, a doormat? lol. I admit i reacted badly but this was far from the first time i've come accross that attitude. It seems one of the popular girls on the site blacklisted me and i've never been welcome amongst the "popular" crowd since. My nick has been mud from so many people who have never met me. From what i've seen i haven't lost out much. I've met some wonderful people through this site, though mostly indirectly, the site leading to contact with other forums, though on the odd occasion directly with couples and on the very rare occasion females. From what i've seen though the popular crowd seem to be just that, popular. I can imagine from anothers but i only know things from my point of view and from that viewpoint i find it a little hard to understand why many of the popular crowd are in here. I would have thought with all the options the site has provided them they would have found what they were looking for or just become plain bored with it by now lol. The real irony is that almost all the popular crowd, seemingly the ones the first to complain that "it is all too much" are the guests, while most of the ones i've actually met and come to like are willing to pay for the privilage of being here and having these opportunities, and don't mind at all giving the site something in return ;). I'm not welcome in your coffee chats because i don't say the things you want to hear online. I'm as real on this site as i am in real life. I've no doubt that has cost me some fun times but if deception is the price i pay to meet the popular people i'll pass ;).
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RHP User
18 years ago
I know what you mean Gypsy... I have had guys send me a long indepth message about what they want (aka.. what they think I want to hear) and it sounds all good (guess im a big sucker hahaha) then I add them to my msn and the FIRST thing they say is "so you got any sexy pics" or "so when you wanna hook up"... Most of them dont realise that for me.. the way to my "bits" is through my brain.. Imagination and intellect are sexy... I dont hide behind a screen and have endless convos with having no intention of meeting guys or girls... but I also have a partner and a fulltime job and other interests so for me its a time thing... but certainly asking me to show them sexy pics in the first conversation doesnt make me want to put them on the "meet soon" list... I spent 2 1/2 years having meaningless sex after I threw my lying cheating domineering ex husband out.... I didnt want the emotional attachment behind it and was scared of getting hurt.... Id meet guys and not even WANTED their name and just done the deed... but in all honesty Im over all that.. Even before I met sidelz I knew i wanted more than that... I know heaps of people who just want the "meetnfuck" and I dont judge them for that... its what they WANT... I guess now that I have a partner it takes even MORE of a connection with me to meet let alone play... Apologies if I strayed a little from your original post Gypsy... :-)
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RHP User
18 years ago
...is a nice guy. We have crossed paths several times (at gang bangs) and he is very respectful, has many toys (I hope that's ok Woody) and just wants everyone to have a good time. He speaks what he feels to be the truth; the truth that is the proverbial "elephant in the room" that nobody else dares mention. If you don't like this post Woody, I'll ask for it to be removed. ;)
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RHP User
18 years ago
I have had a membership thank you very much, but being a single mum I was unable to afford to renew my membership at this stage. You assume you know everything about everyone and make unfair judgments on others that you don't even know or have had anything to do with, people are guest members cause they have their reasons.....either to see how the site is and go from there, money situations, or what ever other reasons......and anyway what the hell does it have to do with you or is any of your business, or anyone else's except for the individuals themselves. You seem like a very unhappy and miserable individual, and you come across that you are not happy until you have upset someone/everyone......Why are you like this? What has happened to you to make you so bitter? Why does everybody have to pay for your pain and suffering that had nothing to do with it? In this post I wasn't having a go at anyone was just asking a genuine question, and what people had thought about my questions......Am I not that right to, or is only you allowed to post things and have your say? ....... come on I'm sure your better than that!?
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RHP User
18 years ago
I didn't bother to read the actual original post. um let's see. Firstly I think most of us probably tend to generalise/catastrophise. We like to think that if we feel a certain way, then "most" people must feel the same or we catastrophise when we feel despondant and start to believe that nobody feels the way we do. Essentially I don't think it matters. Feel free to do what you want and seek what you want SexyGypsy. Do I jerk off in front of the computer? Well I used to but not when I'm doing anything to do with RHP; it's not explicit enough. With regards to chatting and "friends" and chatting and the like, I think we could use gender generalisations while acknowledging individual exceptions and say that it appears that women might prefer chatting and networking and the like to feel satisfied; whereas men might prefer to get to meeting as soon as possible. (Inlcuding myself to a point. I have had much frustrated experience of being teased or led down the garden path or whatever the case may be, for months. Or, I'm willing to admit, maybe there was just something about me that was not essentially unappealing to them. God knows why! :P ). Disclaimer: I apologise in advance for anyone who might resent being boxed by my generalisations. I have my limits and am MOSTLY, NOT looking for "just-friends." I have enough friends and have enough on my plate as it is; (the amount of time I have been on here lately might not correspond with that though). I have time here for people who are respectful to each other and for women who I find stimulating. I do find myself having the odd convo with a woman I have no physical desire for (and men for that matter) but yes I lean towards women that I am turned on by. As some women do not want to be a mans' sexual object (totally justified), I do not wish to be a womans' fantasy-only or mental-stimulation-only or fill-in-time-until-something-better-comes-along-only. I have toyed with the idea of going to a "meet' if the circumstances are exceptional but generally, making friends of like mind from RHP is not really on the cards. Sorry, but unless anyone can tell me that they are genuinely concerned about climate change and Industrial Relations and the faux terrorism bullshit and would like to do something about it in their lives and are voting accordingly and aren't afraid of discussing it with their friends, then I'm unlikely to feel as close as I do with my closest existing friends. That's what I classify as "of like mind". I wasn't otherwise going to lay it on the line like that but I felt strongly to expose that aspect of myself at this point. SexyGypsy, you might actually be one of the people that I would make an effort to meet some day. Anyway, sorry for the empassioned rant there. I just can't help myself when someone asks for the truth.
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RHP User
18 years ago
when i'm sober...lol.
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RHP User
18 years ago
Thanks mammalian, is very interesting that a majority of women are seeking a friendship/sexual partner and a majority of men are seeking more the sexual encounter than the friendship. I don't mind nor am I offended that people have a different needs or points of view to me, am interested to know what people are thinking etc etc. But for me I much rather be having sex than talk about it really. But I do like to get to know about who I am going to be vulnerable with. I like to know if I could possibly be stepping into a dangerous situation or if it would be a safe environment for me, hence the need to create a friendship over a period of time. I don't expect to know every single thing about a person, but enough to cover my main concerns/issues. But guys don't have that problem, as I don't think there would be many women who would be a dangerous threat to men. But some people have assumed I am seeking friendships from just guys, which isn't the case would like some female friendships as well.....I have made some female friends from here and they have become good friends. Is good to know what you want, and is good for others to know what to expect from you, then there can be no misunderstandings......everyone knows where they stand and whether they should proceed or not, as I stated before we all have our individual needs, thoughts and views. Was interesting to hear what your thoughts and view points were mammalian, thank you for sharing with us. Hope all goes well for you... xx Gypsy xx
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RHP User
18 years ago
I apologize to you woody for taking your last comments personally, I shouldn't have and I realize if thats what you think of others then thats your free right too. You remind me of my youngest child, he always likes to press peoples buttons, he also likes to challenge peoples patience and understandings..... which doesn't make you a bad or unfair person you help us look at the conflicts that surround and is within us everyday, whether we agree or not; is still your thoughts and understandings of others and should be respected like everyone else's. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and views with us all, and even though you had/have faced scrutiny over expressing yourself you still stood strong to what you believe in and I salute you for that; well done. All the best and hope you find what your looking for in life. xx Gypsy xx
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RHP User
18 years ago
At no point did i refer to you personally. I've simply been making statements based on my personal experience, just as you were. My main reason for posting was to point out just how different the experiences can be from a different perspective. Sorry if i've upset you, that was not my intention. Now i'm outa this thread before it becomes some kind of warzone.
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RHP User
18 years ago
Yay! I thought it might be a case of safety for (some?) women. I have many many theories and might divulge them once too often but that one I did not want to touch, for fear of stepping onto sensitive ground. I'm very glad for that knowledge. You know the smallest piece of info that my female friends started sharing with me that took our friendships to a much more intimate and loving level was telling me when they were having their period. I think being a little more transparent with each other will help us all relate better. (Though I realise that many men just would rather not know. :) I had a thought today...I remembered the fact that, contrary to most people it seems, I find I like to see if people are capable of depth before I find myself relaxing with them. I think also, where it comes to these sites specifially, I probably prefer to know that there is a chance of ... before bothering to think about friendships. (Though I do try coz it just aint gonna happen if I'm stubborn about it is it? ;)
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RHP User
18 years ago
We are different but we both respect that, no problem :).
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RHP User
18 years ago
Am I intelligent? :P
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RHP User
18 years ago
I think your an interesting and intelligent person sparty xxxx....... What was your reason for the question hun???......or were you taking the piss?? lmao xx Gypsy xx
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RHP User
18 years ago
but just checking anyways :P pmsl
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RHP User
18 years ago
friendship?? i thought it was down and dirty hard core SEX !! damn, dont tell me i've been doing it wrong all this time :P
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RHP User
18 years ago
sparty - intelligent?? i thought u were a twat ???!!!
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RHP User
18 years ago
well ive read the lot and i must be invisible or just but ugly danm it. i see everyone else has had a response and not me mmmmm ponders the thought lol. narh im just taking the piss im not that shallow that id realy think that ( sob sob ) lol i now it a worry but id like to get to know whom im about to have a relationship with no matter the extent of that relationship may it be a shag fest or something more regular or the full on relationship,, yer yer i know sad fuker arnt i i think if it was just a shag and walk away then the brothel would be the best spot to do this as we all know you end up paying for it in the long run one way or another. hey gyspy id like to come have a chat with you luvy regards mal
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RHP User
18 years ago
thank you for correcting the error of my ways :P I am not intelligent.. i am a TWAT!! :P and damn proud to be one :P
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RHP User
18 years ago
oh sparts - but we love ya none the less Gyps thats one of the things doing my head in about here - cos at times yeah i in the mood to play then other times I a person that just needs conversation - not to be treated like meat - and would appreciate to treated as such. But when you tried to explain that to ppl I got alot of agro back - you try to be honest, and lets face it everyone has shitty days, and to get a mouthful back from dat is very disheartening. Guys just take on board, yes we open minded women, but we still people - and like all of us we have shit days, we have stress going down, we come here to escape not get more. I am now with the best man in the world - from this site I may add - because he listened didnt ask to see my tits or when we were going to fuck etc......... respect is a small thing to ask - but a HUGE thing to receive
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RHP User
18 years ago
Willow, you hit the nail on the head......Thats exactly it, couldn't have describe it better. Thank you! xxxxx xx Gypsy xx
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RHP User
18 years ago
... My such a lovely tree you are :P PMSL!
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RHP User
18 years ago
Gypsy To be honest I was on here to meet ladies and see want happens. Since I have been chatting in the WA chatroom, I have struck up conversations with many different and varied people including yourself Gypsy. I have met a number of people socially and think that I will form some long standing friendships. I am a very shy person by nature and joining RHP has helped me to come out of my shell. I like to chat about all sorts and sometimes serious topics and sometimes frivolous topics just depends on my mood and the mood of the people in the room. Gypsy please send me your email address, I would love to have an intelligent conversation one on one with you on msn. I dont want to @#$% you.
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