Trouble making stalkers...

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  playfulminx

  16 years ago

  These creatures get stronger the more attention you feed them. Starve them and they will go away. Sadly they will seek out new hosts and start their parasitic ways all over again.Seriously though, unless this person is fully ingrained in your network of friends or RHP friends, just block them. Be busy or out of town. Whatever it takes for her to get the message that she won't get a rise out of harassing you, BUT without her getting nasty.If all else fails, try and find a seriously dorky male friend and try and set him up with her at every given opportunity. Don't take no for an answer. Tell her you're convinced that he's the one for her. Hopefully she'll stay away on her own volition :D

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  When this sort of stuff happens in real time it starts getting scary. As to what you can do about it...not a whole lot i think, its that whole bunny boiler thing.We had a similar experience with a local woman whom we rejected a couple of years ago and it made life kinda difficult for a while, but we decided we wouldn't allow ourselves to be intimidated and cut off from going out and having a good time.We had to put up with a lot of sniggering and whispers for a while, but eventually it died down, and i guess the next scandal came along.But your situation sounds far worse!Not much help i know, but realistically there isn't a lot you can do.Hang in there guysCheers Nev

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  Innercircle

  16 years ago

  Blocking wont stop this one... she's been known to follow couples all the way from Perth to Kalgoorlie to cause trouble. No one we know actually likes her, nor does anyone claim to be her friend, but that doesnt stop her causing trouble, or spreading info around.We came into a bit on the weekend while we were at a nice isolated retreat down south... one of the three other couples with us (non swinger types) got a message telling them all about how we'd started going to swingers clubs, where, when, who we met, and links to not only our profile here, but to threads we've posted in!!We like to CHOOSE who to share this lifestyle with, not have it spread as common gossip.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hi Rockercouple,   Sorry to hear about your situation. Relationships are challenging enough without added pressures that you have little control over !   I agree about blocking and ignoring. In addition I would also advise them that their behaviour is illegal and if they continue you will speak to the police snd consider an Intervention Order.  Stalking DEFINITELY warrants an I.O, regardless of whether the stalking is purely online, in person or a combination.    I would write a factual message outlining that their behaviour is unacceptable and you wish them to stop. Advise them that you now have formal written notice that you have actively tried to stop them and legal action will be your next action. If you send it via rhp you will have evidence if they have read it (print out the message that says that read it as it serves as legal evidence). If you notify them via email then set an auto-reply on the message. Again keep evidence.   Good luck.  Ms Saturn

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  This woman is not just hurt or burnt...she quite possibly has a mental problem...I'm thinking along the lines of borderline personality disorder (not a diagnosis by any means).  They are very manipulating people and are only out for themselves.  If they don't get what they want, they will make up any amount of BS to try and get it.    It is difficult to talk rationally with these people...so I really wouldn't bother because she will only turn your words against you.  I remember talking to one of my patients, a teenager  who was pregnant, to look after herself because she needed to look after her baby.  Next thing I know, I have a complaint against me...apparently, I accused her of not being fit to be a mum!!!!  But you see, no one else heard what I actually said to her...she just didn't like me, so did her best to get rid of me.  Nooo great loss I have to say :)   I'm with Nev...rise above it, ignore it and ride it out. You're lucky that you are able to work as a team :) The less attention she gets from all concerned, the more likely she will find someone else to manipulate (unfortunately)   Good luck guys...so sorry to hear about this

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  yep, we know what you're going through.been there,experienced that....ya gunna get it with this life style.it's a jelousy thing. sorry to say it but only one answer for psycho's like that.....put the fear of god into 'em. when talking fails not much else ya can do. best of luck guys.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  It's a sad thing to see people acting like this however if ever there is proof that your a strong couple Rockercouple here it is. Many weak men would have loved the attention and as a result it would cause the friction in a couple that this girl is looking for. You both held strong, nice one.   As far as spreading info on your RSVP lifestyle, most people that find out will just be jealousy that they cannot explore their expanded sexual side in an open forum or they will be asking you how they sign up!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I would have to agree with everything Saturn has said...Get everything in writing....and I would even go as far as to call up your local police station and let them know what's been going on...without filing a formal complaint...and asking them what your legal options are.Fuck this bitch and bitches like her.They have no morals or boundaries...and the only way to deal with them is to play hardball.I would also start being more liberal with telling folks about your lifestyle.Take her ammunition away.You can give peeps the gist without going into detail.Oh...and I would also be telling everyone you know...and everyone that she may come in contact with...EXACTLY what she is about....just make sure you only say things you can prove...or that are your personal experience...so that she has no legal avenues to attack you.Just my opinion...BJxxx

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  Innercircle

  16 years ago

  Ok, updates:She boards a plane this morning to asia for three months. We'll be sending her a nice email for when she arrives to put a damper on her trip.We've told a bunch of our friends about RHP and our choice of lifestyle, to "soften any blows", and we've been pleasantly surprised with the reactions.The few friends she's managed to tell so far, have all told her to fxxx off.We dont like to gossip, so it would be out of character for us to run around town bitching and complaining about her. Mr is in a job which seems to attract a lot of fascination and gossip about what he does, so we dont want to add to that if possible.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  my simple advice , would be that you and your friends all change their phone numbers , get all your mates and do a commando raid on some poor phone shop , then find your closest boozer and celebrate.........good riddance to bad rubbish.....................that s my attempt to try and turn a frown upsidedown and as many people have said      ignore her...  hope things work out

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