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Tied up & Blindfolded
March 10 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maybe there has been too many scenes in movies and tv shows where someone gets tied up and left lying there naked. Will it happen to them? Trust. There needs to be trust. I love being tied up and at the hands of a sexy partner. You can tie me up and blindfold me any day meeks. What about you? Would you be tied up by a partner or group? xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am not religious as I just dont do blind faith. I would never trust another person to that degree.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi. We have a number of couples who we play with...whenever there are more than 4 of us it usuall end up with someone being tied up and blind folded...Its very exciting not knowing who's cock you are sucking ..or who's mouth is sucking your pussy...of course it all depends on trust...but if you have that in your friends it can lead to some great fun.. J & P
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's a fantasy trip.... The real element of trust required is that... you know.... someone would please untie me when you're done! :p ... I mean, fun's fun..... but share a little mutual respect ... at least in regard to the boundaries of playtime v's real time.... and don't leave people humiliated and tied to a park bench, naked, waiting for the sun to come up and the park ranger to wipe a cum drizzled chin and undo all the knots. :pOf course, TRUST is everything to do with it... e.g. you are in effect relinquishing all your powers of freedom and self determination and delegating the authority to someone else... or heaven help you... a group? How can you relinquish control to a group! You're really outside the box there I think, unless there is one person among them that you truly trust.HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Park bench Stalky? Sounds like you are talking from experience! When I say group I mean small group not a cast of thousands. But if you trust someone in the group why wouldn't you? xxMeeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok - obviously it is a trust issue. But trust in who? I am curious for those people who wouldn't even let someone they know well tie them up or blindfold them. I mean if you know them well, you trust them right? Well you would trust them enough not to physically harm you or humiliate you, as Stalky suggests. I think it is more that they don't trust themselves. Or are they scared to really let go?? xxMeeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
1hungary1 - yes I have had a lover tie me up and blindfold me. I have asked someone to tie me up and blindfold me on the second meeting. Am I bad? Promise I have only done that once. I have had a woman and man tie me up. But no more than that......... yet. xxMeeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Of course, TRUST is everything to do with it... e.g. you are in effect relinquishing all your powers of freedom and self determination and delegating the authority to someone else.. Yes - but is that not a liberating feeling? It is for me. Sometimes I can be shy as you know so being blindfolded means that I can totally let go and just feel. xxMeeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Interesting topic, Meeka...something that I do enjoy as one of the more intimatimate shared experiences with a lover. Somewhat different, in that I would never go there in or with a group of any kind...there are just too many variables and while I can be sure of myself and certainly that of the my partner, the behaviour of others is out of our own control and this is far too intimate to share in a group in my own journey. | First, I would rarely find myself in the same room with anyone shedding the clothing for a night of fun unless I already liked that person...that is, we share some sort of a bond of friendship and trust. That's just me...and we all enjoy the different flavours of our own self exploration along the way. | For me, this really is not an exercise in any sort of pain (I don't go there) nor simply a matter of using ropes to hold someone helpless. Personally my preference is for very fine silk ropes, soft against the skin...and with knots that only constrain tightly when resistance is applied and relax when you do. I have a set of hand woven Cornithian leather ropes...but those I am saving for someone very special and ultimately, unique. | I wonder then if we are dancing toward the edge of a "boundary" or perhaps more closely to the edge of an intimacy that is much more intense...as you said, completely letting go? That could be the cause of the temerity of some...to be completely exposed to themselves and another? The control I would suggest, is something of a gift...both given and received by each. You will know it in the look in each others eyes. | A silk blindfold...again simply bringing a focus to the other senses, perhaps listening to the sounds around you or breathing in the scent of an aromatic candle burning in the room. | This is something that I have indeed shared...and with only a few as it is not something I need or seek out, but rather find in another. It is more a tie that binds two with less constraints...fusing the minds of both together more completely. That is perhaps the connection...it would be different for each of us. | I will leave it there and be interested in what others have to say...and as for any danger, that is ever present if you do not know who you are with and what they are really feeling. You in particular...whilst you stand out in my book, would always be vulnerable in any situation albeit I have a feeling you could be quite a handful if you decided you had just had enough of anything. | How about that...not a single one liner in there, there must be something to this.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i think the fear of being helpless, with ur genitals exposed no less, would be like being on a rollercoaster, although the surety of ones safety would be even more in doubt, making for an extremely intense experience. for those who reject the idea out of hand, it may be worth reconsidering. u only live once, why not feel truely alive for at least a moment of that time?? i think fear of castration is inherent in all males. if ur not afraid of that on some level, then u must already be a eunuch. i would be afraid to do it, but i would do it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Absolutely yes, I confess to enjoying this type of play! However only by one person, never by a group. Yes, it is a matter of trust. I think that much is obvious and understandable. However, I don't necessarily associate being tied up and blindfolded as a "total loss of control". Rather, I think it leads to a distinct heightening of all of the other senses besides sight. These senses very much come to the fore during this kind of play and it can be very intense and very pleasurable. .. I find it interesting that some people find it to be instinctively associated with forceful sex of the ugly variety. I read recently about a fairly basic survey of 1000 women, where they were asked to name their favourite fantasy. The highest result was "Forceful Sex." Not violent sex, more a feeling of being so desired, that "he must take me". Those naming this fantasy suggested actions like "arms pinned above the head" and "aggressive kissing". .. Being tied up can be very sensual and also very control-oriented. I suppose I consider it to be a very basic, 'soft' version of the whole submission/domination dynamic.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Park bench Stalky? Sounds like you are talking from experience! xxMeeksAre you suggesting Stalky once worked as a park ranger / tissue boy?
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RHP User
15 years ago
It is a matter of control and not fear of losing control. I am not afraid to let go and it is easy to know someone and not trust them at all but I will never give someone else that much power over me. I will never relinquish total responsibility. Not in this life time and being afraid has nothing to do with it at all. I will always need to be able to walk away as and when I want and not at the whims of another. I am nobodies plaything. Happy to tie someone else up though...........
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RHP User
15 years ago
i'm not having a go at u here, u've simply piqued my curiosity. why is it important to u that u never cede power to another person?
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RHP User
15 years ago
M Trust is important, but I like to see the face of the person I am with... To enjoy the pleasure, and to watch their face as they express the ecstasy also... It is a point in time that can be marked and remembered... ;) I wish I was able to see it on your face... J
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RHP User
15 years ago
M Trust is important, but I like to see the face of the person I am with... To enjoy the pleasure, and to watch their face as they express the ecstasy also... It is a point in time that can be marked and remembered... ;) I wish I was able to see the pleasure on your face... J
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't just use ropes to restrain my clients. There are leather cuffs, duct tape, chains, cling wrap, bondage tape, bandages and cable ties. No matter what method I use it still means that someone has placed their trust in me and usually they are total strangers. Sounds weird I know but that is their fantasy and I help fulfill it. Some people are happy to have control taken from them.Tied down, unable to escape, unable to see, pleasurable sensations, then someone taking you to the edge of orgasm and then pulling back, doing it over and over until you are unable to hold it in any longer.........
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wow MT, if you had sent that resume' to Condolezza Rice a few years ago, you would have been in charge at Guantanamo Bay... | Quoting 'MistressT' Tied down, unable to escape, unable to see, pleasurable sensations, then someone taking you to the edge of orgasm and then pulling back, doing it over and over until you are unable to hold it in any longer......... I think that would have gone a lot further toward stopping terrorism than all that waterboarding. Talk about a great way to get the truth to come flying out of their...hold on. You don't seriously... | ...duct tape that shut, do you? | | Is waterboarding anything like skateboarding?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Nah - I thought he was a ball boy? Oh wait wasn't he a basketball referree or something? Bigger balls & lots of hairy armpits, yeah that was it. KissesMeeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not only are there very few people I would trust enough, but I dont submit. Its one of the basic principles I live by.
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RHP User
15 years ago
What are the chances, the person you let tie you up turns out to be a serial killer? Almost negligable I imagine? You trust someone till you have reason not to, yes? Sensory deprivation is a great passtime for people involved with each other erotically. Makes the remaining senses heightened. Surprise and the unknown about to happen.... And therein lies the fear....the 'Unknown'... Maybe get a police clearance first and meet their parents as well, that way you can be sure. Or can you???
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT' I don't just use ropes to restrain my clients. There are leather cuffs, duct tape, chains, cling wrap, bondage tape, bandages and cable ties. No matter what method I use it still means that someone has placed their trust in me and usually they are total strangers. Sounds weird I know but that is their fantasy and I help fulfill it. Some people are happy to have control taken from them.Tied down, unable to escape, unable to see, pleasurable sensations, then someone taking you to the edge of orgasm and then pulling back, doing it over and over until you are unable to hold it in any longer......... Sigh....sounds hot!I have had one guy that I would allow to dominate me...and that was simply because he was respecful in doing it.Now though...ive now met another that i would allow to...for the same reasons.I would probably let him to do whatever he wanted...provided the mood was right.JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
It feels good to let go sometimes doesn't it BJ.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT' It feels good to let go sometimes doesn't it BJ. oh yeah...sure does!I am in control of every aspect of mine and my childs life.Alone...its just me.Also...having OCD...I find it difficult to relinquish control...but when i find one that makes me feel safe...I'll jump out...both feet first...knowing he will catch me(or at least break my fall..lol!)JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
When you are restrained and blindfolded not only does it take away your control but also your responsibility. There is nothing to think about except the next sensation. What happens after that is out of your hands.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'theone1983'i'm not having a go at u here, u've simply piqued my curiosity. why is it important to u that u never cede power to another person? I just know that there is no way I would ever give another person that power. No way would I ever trust another enough to concede to this request. To be tied up and blindfolded takes away all basic choice in life. You can no longer have the say of what happens to you at all. You may tie me up OR you may blindfold me but never both. I need to walk away when I want and not at the whims of another. Yes there may be a word or phrase used that signals the end of play but that again is a trust issue and is just not happening. You can spend 50 years with another person, they may still do something totally out of character.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i dont mean to be argumentitive, but, by citing the fact that even a familiar person may do something out of character, i cant help but interpret that answer as an admission that concern (fear of) over the possible consequences of surrendering control to another person is the reason for your aversion to this idea/practice. now this is not an analysis of you personally, for of course i dont know you at all, and am therefore not qualified to make any sort of an assessment of your character or motivations, but, some people refuse to admit to fearing anything, as if by maintaining this mindset, they make themselves stronger and less vulnerable, (a trick of the ego, or sense of self), or to put it another way, only by amitting to the capacity to feel fear, does their vulnerability become a reality. from this point, one loses the feeling that they have control over their safety/destiny, and this is intollerable to some people. without this illusion they would have to completely re-evaluate their view of the world, thus changing their sense of self from a powerful and potent entity, to a vulnerable one, a transition in thinking which many minds shy away from as a point of pride, and as a form of denial. the capacity to feel fear is nothing to be ashamed of. it has kept humans alive since they first evolved.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'theone1983' i dont mean to be argumentitive, but, by citing the fact that even a familiar person may do something out of character, i cant help but interpret that answer as an admission that concern (fear of) over the possible consequences of surrendering control to another person is the reason for your aversion to this idea/practice. now this is not an analysis of you personally, for of course i dont know you at all, and am therefore not qualified to make any sort of an assessment of your character or motivations, but, some people refuse to admit to fearing anything, as if by maintaining this mindset, they make themselves stronger and less vulnerable, (a trick of the ego, or sense of self), or to put it another way, only by amitting to the capacity to feel fear, does their vulnerability become a reality. from this point, one loses the feeling that they have control over their safety/destiny, and this is intollerable to some people. without this illusion they would have to completely re-evaluate their view of the world, thus changing their sense of self from a powerful and potent entity, to a vulnerable one, a transition in thinking which many minds shy away from as a point of pride, and as a form of denial. the capacity to feel fear is nothing to be ashamed of. it has kept humans alive since they first evolved. Possibly more a mind set and past conditioning. I was afraid of heights...until I made myself get over it but I will not jump out of a perfectly good plane to prove the point. I am a very strong personality. I do not have a submissive bone in my body and yes, it is my past that has shaped this. If this is a fear then it is so far seated into my unconscious state that it is not recognised as such. I am not afraid of losing control, I am not afraid of being vulnerable as I have been and done both in the past. Like I said before...it is a trust issue. I would be perfectly happy to tie someone else up and blindfold them. But you see...I know what I am capable of. I can trust myself to do what is right. No one else can be trusted and this is not a fear...it is conditioning!
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RHP User
15 years ago
We love to be tied up, blindfolded, stroked, teased, licked, kissed, sucked, fucked...etc To be out of control, dominated, at anothers mercy, deprivation of one sense to heighten others. Conjures delightful images, aaaah...we do digress a little. BUT...has anyone read 'Gerald's Game' by Stephen King Cheers A & A
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RHP User
15 years ago
If you come to this passtime of roleplay from the angle of control, you may be overplaying the humility aspect of bdsm. Sure someone can be 'In Charge' and humiliation can be entertained but how about surprise, unexpectedness, imaginative dialogue, denial and permission, breathplay, sensory adaptation......? . If uncomfortable issues revolve around control and manipulation, trust and liberation, then go find something else thats comfortable to play at. The sponsoring thought of playing these adult games is to have a wicked arousing experience is it not? (insert Whip-Lash sound effect here)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' I've recently heard it argued that it is in fact the sub who has the control of the situation! I'd appreciate any comments as I think it is a valid concept to consider. I have heard this as well and have considered this at length and have come to the conclusion that it is wrong. If I tie someone up, blindfold them, how can they possibly be the one in control? Not a chance. By relinquishing thier control and power to me...it does not automatically put them in the greater positon of power by doing so. That is just psycobabble thought up by a control freak to get his/her own way.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We both love it when tied up and are unashamedly card carrying members of the 'blindfolded tied up and teased' club.For us, the sheer mystery and anticipation that builds up when tied and blindfolded heightens the eroticism of the play and has led to hours of enjoyment at a time as we simply get lost in the pleasure of it all.Yes there is definite trust involved in knowing that the person will not take undue advantage even when you desperately want that person to take the undue advantage, much of the fun is not knowing when it will happen. The sheer pleasure of the unknown and being helpless has such an effect on us that safe to say it literally blows the mind and has at times gotten us into the 'headspace' such that we (the receiver) has become a blubbering mess of uncontrolled urges. Simply put, when all is done well then the results are explosive.We are also lucky in that the majority of people we play with enjoy the lighter sides of tie up fun and this has led to some fantastic sexual times across the years where all have trusted the other players. There have been times when we have had girls tied up when the results have been obvious to see as puddles appear where none existed, and for guys, well sheba has had a few that have 'blown' before their time was upAh Meeka, let us thank you as this is a gerat topic to open up and see this bright Sunday morning ..................... now, off to the play pen we goShell and Gaz
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RHP User
15 years ago
No matter who I play with and how gagged they are I never play without a safeword or safe gesture. The submissive can bring the whole thing to a halt by simply saying their safeword or using a gesture or action that means stop everything. Once that happens I stop the session and release the submissive as fast as I possibly can. Afterwards there is always a debrief to find out why the submissive stopped the session and to work out any problems. It is how things should be done for safe, sane, consensual and responsible play.I hate to disagree with you Fiona but when I play the submissive does ultimately have the control to stop.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Interestingly, I have found that when this is shared with someone...it is both something received and something given. You do not always give up control but perhaps simply surrender your ability to participate as actively as you would normally...thus your participation then focuses more deeply in your mind. If I am not mistaken...everything sexual begins or ends in the mind, it is the ultimate sensory perceptor and ultimately what triggers our response. | In return...you have the control over your partner knowing that they too are now focusing more intently and perhaps deeply on pleasing you. That is of course my experience...a gift given and one given in return. That focus, the intensity of seeking to please...becomes the reality of the experience and once achieved then brings the release of my own pleasure. | Captor or captive...equally bound in a very erotic sense of the mind.
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RHP User
15 years ago
The act of surrendering can be a gift in itself.
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