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The Science of Romance

February 07 2008

I found an interesting article in a magazine yesterday, and though id share some excerpts from it with you. " The last time you had sex, there was arguably not a thought in your head. O.K, if it was very familiar sex with a very familiar partner, the kind that- truth be told- you probably have most of the time, your mind may have wandered off to such a decidedly non erotic matters as balancing your checkbook or planning your week. If it was the kind of sex you shouldn't have been having in the first place- the kind you were regretting even as it was taking place- you might have been already flashing ahead to the likely consequences. But if it was that kind of sex thats the whole reason you took up sex in the first place- the out-of-breath, out-of-body, can-you-beleive-this-is-actually-happening-sex- your rational side had proabably taken a powder. Losing our faculties over a matter like sex ought not to make much sense for a species like ours that relies on its wits. A savanna full of predators after all, is not a place to get distracted. But the lure of losing our faculties is one of the things that makes sex thrilling- and one of the very things that keeps the species going. As far as your genes are concerned, your principal job while youre alive is too conceive offspring, bring them to adulthood and then obligingly die so you dont consume resources better spent on the young. Anything that encourages you to breed now and breed plenty gets the job done. " "Human Reproductive behaviour is designed to serve to clashing purposes. On the one hand, we're driven to mate alot. On the other, we want to mate well so that our offspring survive. If your a female, you only get a few rolls of the reproductive dice in a lifetime. If youre male, your freedom to conceive islimited only by the availability of willing partners, but te demands of providing for too big a brood are a powerful incentive to limit your pairings to the females who will give you just a few strong young. For that reason no sooner do we reach sexual maturity than we learn to look for signals of good genes and reproductive fitness in potential partners, and importantly display them ourselves." "...is the way a partner looks and sounds. Humans are suckers for an attractive face and a sexy shape. Men see ample breasts and broad hips as indicators of a woman's ability to bear and nurse children- though most don't think about such matter so lucidly. Women see a broad chest and shoulders as a sign of someone who can clobber a steady supply meat and keep lions away from the cave. And while a hairy chest and a full beard has fallen out of favour in the waxed and buffed 21st century, they are historically if unconsciously seen as signs as healthy testorone flow that gives rise to both fertility and strength. A deep voice, also testosterone driven, can have similarly seductive power." There is more knowledge to be found in it, but i think i bored you enough. (Have i just made sex unsexy :P) WHat do you tihnk? Everyone's two cents welcome...i might even get rich that way :) G_Ana

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18 years ago

I have 2 and another 2 that aren't mine..(it's been six months, you'd think their parents might come and pick them up sometime soon??...lol). Give me a deep voice, a deep voice and deep voice........oh god, I'm off to listen to the radio....lol..

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18 years ago

a deep voice is attractive- i do enough giggling for both in a partnership lol. Give me a spanish or french accent yum!!!! G_Ana

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18 years ago

Giggle all the time.... xx GA

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18 years ago

Oui? le Poo? Vious le shitte? (hows mah french btw? :P )

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18 years ago

C'mon a deep voice is rythmic man.....lol..think Chris Rea But any attempt to speak another language should be applauded Sparty..xx

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18 years ago

.... but what I've always found silly about these theories is that they completely fail to account for attraction that doesn't fit this mould. Sure, it might offer a valid reasoning for when I'm attracted to the masculine type, but it does nothing to explain my desire for feminine men, with fine features and theoretically lower testosterone. Or to explain men who are attracted to thin, athletic women with small hips and breasts? And if thats not enough, what about attraction to the same sex??? Obviously that can't be explained in terms of reproductive biology. I think its far more relevant to acknowledge that humans are complex social creatures with a massive, constantly changing range of influences on our sexual feelings and behaviour that mixes with instinct in ways that can't be predicted by any theory. So ideas like this one might be momentarily of interest, but have virtually no resemblence to reality. Theres my two cents :) nadi xx

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18 years ago

im totally turned on by women who speak a language other than english. Apart from how sexy it sounds, there is the added bonus of there being a very valid reason for not understanding them rather than the usual female complexity!!! raveshe

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18 years ago

yes, this is a theory based and studying the basic primal instincts that still exist today on our brains and psychology, but over the years what of the social influence. For example the need by some women to be thin, and looking at modern day media such as magazines this is apparently the current "wanted body image" - or at least the one society would want us to accept in order to control us and limit the individual. This is what we're told, but in truth most women arent this, and some people don't want this. I know my self, for pure physical attraction to a woman i would prefer some curves, "size zero" and stick figures do not appeal to me. But think back to figures like Marilyn Monroe- she certainly wouldnt have fit this stereotype. In her time however, her body shape was the one that was wanted. SHort, fat, tall , skinny, this inflluence changes over time due to countless influences. Its this influence- the impulses and ideas given by the majority, or superficial society that sometimes clashes with our more primal instincts. Perhaps these two differing ideas mingle in our own minds and based on our morals, previous ideas bred into us by our parents, upbringing create the individual, the personality, the person we are. More importantly the person we are and our ideas are constantly changing with the constant flow of ideas from outer sources. G_Ana

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