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Taby Needs Help!

August 29 2010

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I need some advice from my fellow RHP friends. I have just started chatting with a new guy 2 days ago & I was quite surprised to find that we have an instant connection. I have never clicked with someone the way I clicked with this man. We have gotten along so well we have already made plans to meet in 2 weeks time & we already talk regularly on web cam & the phone after only 2 days of chatting online. This guy is generally interested in getting to know about me as he asks many questions and has quite a sense of humour. However I am a bit confused as he has not once made any move to talk about anything sexual & we did meet on a sex site. He has not once complimented me on my looks or that he even finds me sexually attractive. But he does say he is very much attracted to my personality and sense of humour. He is a bit older than the age of guys I usually go for being 36 & I am wondering if this might have something to do with him being a gentleman and not wanting to talk about sex? He has also mentioned he is a bit wary of the fact there is such an age gap between us but insists he has never connected with someone instantly before & so he will overlook my age. I am very confused about this, and was wondering if someone could give in an insight into what it means! Taby xx P.S - I am sorry if no paragraphs show up, I did put them in but my laptop & web connection has been playing up of late.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I was always impressed with your attitude, Normally 21 year olds usually don't impress me much, but you always struck me as being different....in a good way....lol, to your peers. Don't over analyse it, forget the age thing and enjoy the difference with a more mature man. hmmm not that all mature aged men are actually mature if you know what i mean.Not all guys are overly obsessed about talking about sex, some guys are actually interested in the person as a whole.Hope it is a really positive experience for you both.Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I think we're from a generation, where our values are a little different and yes there is the "old fashion" gentleman quality. That's not to say we don't think about it, maybe he is just a little shy, and doesn't wat to say something that will spoil what he has with you. Go with Girltuesdays' thoughts... take the lead and lead the conversation in the direction you want it. I think you'll soon see him come out that shy guarded shell, and open up to you. Even though you consider this a sex site... there are many different reasons why people are on here. So don't be too concerned how the conversations you have with him goes... Just go with the flow and enjoy the ride. Good luck with it CG xx

  • srogers

    srogers

    15 years ago

    Hi Taby, Just had a read of your situation and I am in the opposite situation to you. I am a 36yo guy and I in the early stages of a relationship with a 23yo. I have to admit that the age gap was a concern for me as I guess we each have different experiences in life. Our chats do not revolve around talking about sex. They are more around finding out more about each other and I am glad that I have. My situation is a bit unique as she lives interstate as well, so we don't have the opportunity to catch up on a regular basis but what has occured is that by getting to know more about one another I have been able to overcome some of my initial concerns. I have learnt that she is just a wonderful person who always seems to be happy and whenever we are together she just constantly smiles and therefore in turn makes me smile. Her outlook on life is refreshing. All I can say is just go with the flow and don't over analyse the situation. As mentioned by GirlTuesday once you have a meeting of minds the fireworks start to fly. Hope this helps you out a bit.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'NevandKj' I was always impressed with your attitude, Normally 21 year olds usually don't impress me much, but you always struck me as being different....in a good way....lol, to your peers. Don't over analyse it, forget the age thing and enjoy the difference with a more mature man. hmmm not that all mature aged men are actually mature if you know what i mean. Not all guys are overly obsessed about talking about sex, some guys are actually interested in the person as a whole. Hope it is a really positive experience for you both. Cheers Nev I agree completely with Nev. Just have fun hun...xo xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Who read this and thought yep, this dude knows all the right things to say to wangle his way in? Ahhh, I think I'm a bit too cynical.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Fingers crossed for u kid!! Go out.. have a good time .. and play it cool and see where things go!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' Who read this and thought yep, this dude knows all the right things to say to wangle his way in? Ahhh, I think I'm a bit too cynical. i agree with you polar bear...Tabby please be careful, like the saying goes...if he is too good to be true, he usally is so please remember your safety and all that entails...meet somewhere open and very public good luck hun roxxy...very cynical, but with good reason

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Cynicism is a terrible look, and it stands out like dogs ball in person, i know it well, i struggle to contain mine at times. It was my initial thought to, but then i thought well why not, i could see certain parallels with how i would behave.I always try to approach life with a positive outlook.I reckon Taby is a capable young woman who has her head screwed on and can look after herself.Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Hey man just from a guys view I wud b a tiny cautious as u did meet him on a sex site right and he has not said anything about sex???? I'm def def not saying he a bad egg so please don't think I am but being a little cautious is sometimes a good thing then again u never never kno if u never never go

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Just take the man as you find him and if he gives you any reason to worry then feel him out ,,,,,,,, have you mentioned sex or anything sexy to him as yet ???? he may realy be interested in you in a good way and not a sleezy pervert like ...........omg what am i saying here just go with your gut feeling girl and keep friends close as not all older guys are bad people Andy XXXX

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    The other way around too, I did some stocktaking for a local company and was teamed up with a younger lady then myself, after the 1st hour we where getting along so well, and by smoko time we had each others phone numbers and where out for a movie and dinner that night, and 3 weeks later we are enjoying each others company

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Sad when our ladies have never met a man who isn't desperate for sex.Best RegardsMr. SR.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    ...enjoy enjoy enjoy...Strangely enough some guys want to get to know a girls personality as they find that to be a much bigger turn on than just the body ESPECIALLY if they are viewing this as more than just a bit of fun on the side...he is older than you?? so what! You are avery articulate woman and have a lot to offer.. get to know the man...enjoy having found a gentleman and let the rest of us be extremly jealous of your luck... Kisses Focus

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Loving the new pic, so much better than a set of legs. Well done Chicky Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    im guessing he is not talking about sex because he is a 36 man and doesnt want to scare you off!! he has always wanted to meet for sex from the first minute and he is now trying to use the connection to pretend that its the only reason he wants to meet! just becareful.its only sex but

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'TassieRose' Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' Who read this and thought yep, this dude knows all the right things to say to wangle his way in? Ahhh, I think I'm a bit too cynical. i agree with you polar bear...Tabby please be careful, like the saying goes...if he is too good to be true, he usally is so please remember your safety and all that entails...meet somewhere open and very public good luck hun roxxy...very cynical, but with good reason take each day as it comes, keep a level head, and until otherwise shown.... enjoy the time with a nice guy. As we are few and far between A lot of people have given you some good advice... take it on board and have fun CG xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Thank you all my RHP friends for your advice so far. I do have exsperience meeting men from rhp and other sites as I have been doing this for 2 years now and mainly with older guys between 28-33 so I'm not a stranger to older men. The main reason I was wanting some help is because usually all guys wana do is talk about sex or if i find a rare one who might ask a few questions then will aventually swing the convo towards sex. I just find it weird that this guy has not and that he has not said he find me attractive... I mean isnt that what your ment to do? lol I know he is who he says he is as I have seen him face to face on web cam and done a video call at the same time so I could hear his voice too and chat that way. Im just mainly confused that he hasnt said he finds me sexually attractive and that he wants to know all about me, because most guys I chat to dont want to. They only want to talk about sex. Taby xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Hello Taby, I personally have enjoyed the company of a younger woman with age differences quite similar to the one you describe and as you have said...the connection was amazing and the age difference a mute point. We did very playfully tease a bit about the sensual side as we got to know each other, however part of that magical "connection" was confidence in knowing that the rest would come very naturally and I can assure you, it did. I delighted in her youth and view of the world...and she delighted in my less hormonal approach to our time together as well as my life experiences. If you are connecting with this very fortunate "older man"...simply take a look in the mirror and imagine the possibilities without overstating the obvious benefits of nature and experience.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Thats kind of a given Taby if he didn't find you attractive he wouldn't be chasing you. Actually i think you would be hard pressed to find anyone who didn't find you attractive!Now i know age is a relative thing, and to you, guys 28 to 33 seem like they are older men who should have their shit together, from where i sit they are still pups, and i think guys who need to talk it up (sex) are displaying a certain level of inexperience or desperation.In my experience if you have that connection everything will flow on from that in a natural way, without to much prodding and steering.So stop worrying and see where the journey takes you.Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'NevandKj' Loving the new pic, so much better than a set of legs. Well done Chicky Cheers Nev Thanks babe, deciding to be game and actually show myself off... Kisses Focus

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    you seem very gullable.its a 36 man. if he talks about sex he thinks he will scare the little girl away.its pretty obvious. im sure he was the first to make contact as well lol. just coz he blows wind up your ass doesnt mean there is a connection lol.its a bit obvious he is trying to get in your pants geez wake up lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    lol spot on polar bear girl lol. even the way taby is asking is a bit strange lol its like she knows but she is a bit gullable lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    i like to live in hope that there are some genuine people out there. Though i have found when it comes to the internet, some are just better at bullshit than others, give them long enough & they show thier true colours. That being said, maybe you have found a rare one... either way, goodluck!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    WHYNOT28 Your just pissed off with me because after talking to you once on msn I said I wasnt interested, and then you go sending me an abusive message calling me all kinds of names and lables. Its men like you that give single guys a bad name and it has brought out your true personality. At least with the man mentioned in my above post actually wants to ask questions about me not just rush straight into sex talk. And I do not like being called QUOTE "your a sucker,fuckn mole" or talked to like this QUOTE "your soo gutless.your all talk.and your gullable.just coz i was honest and didnt blow wind up your ass like a dirty 36 man you have a sook.your all talk sweetie. and you will root anyone who is a fake pffft ". Taby

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Whynot28 your just being nasty because after talking to you once on msn I said I wasnt interested. Your true colours are showing through now. The fact that you also sent me 2 messages calling me names and implying im dumb amoung other things isnt nie. Nor is being called words that usually apply to prostitutes. Its men like you that make single guys look bad. Why can men take rejection without having be be pigs about it??? Oh by the way I have reported you to rhp admin for sending me abusive messages

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Ignore the tool tabby.. hes just jealous that he didn't get you!! its to be excepted. Look at his profile .. exhibit A. pic . clearly shows weights yet I see no six pack or muscle definition to suggest the male actually works out.Exhibit B. Pic. Bedroom is clearly a mess implying said male lives an unhealthy life style and possible has crabs (for more information refer to post by Stalk http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Crabs-p-29662)exhibit C. Profile. Is clearly self obsessed as he may have spent some time on the "about Me" part but a mere second on the "i am looking for" part.Conclusion said me usually live alone because no one can stand to be around them. have nice cars because they are trying to impress but neglect that fact that it is personality and not possession that matter. Also.. from his lack of validation i would conclude that he has a dwarf man-hood and although he may be getting laid the poor female partner usually leave disgusted and un satisfied! THE END(wondering where the center text feature is -_-

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I thought Whynots posts sounded a bit like sour grapes! Now we know!  and unfortunately i was right.Whynot gets the big   award of the week!On behalf of all the reasonable minded blokes my apologies Taby, you or any other woman shouldn't have to put up with shit like that!Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Taby, he might be a wonderful guy, or just not that interested in rushing things towards the bedroom.... But I have to say when I read your first post I thought the same as polar bear girl, and that whynot28 guy. IMO he is differentiating himself by deliberately avoiding the topic, rather than being like most other contacts you'd get from here - that doesn't change the end goal though. Maybe I'm wrong, that is just my first thought when I read your post. (and you know I don't have any axe to grind with you hun) Either way, just have fun with it and see how things go :) hope they go well for you

  • MegaSin

    MegaSin

    15 years ago

    So glad you reported him Taby. Too many of guys like that give us all bad names. Why can't men respect a womans wishes and move on? Just cause it's a sex site doesn't mean that people should be disrespectful. Not everyone on here is after Sex. Some for friends or a connection. Your new friend seems like he must really like you and not for any of us to judge his behaviour because of the fact that he was on RHP. Wishing you well out there Taby xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'taby001' WHYNOT28 Your just pissed off with me because after talking to you once on msn I said I wasnt interested, and then you go sending me an abusive message calling me all kinds of names and lables. Its men like you that give single guys a bad name and it has brought out your true personality. At least with the man mentioned in my above post actually wants to ask questions about me not just rush straight into sex talk. And I do not like being called QUOTE "your a sucker,fuckn mole" or talked to like this QUOTE "your soo gutless.your all talk.and your gullable.just coz i was honest and didnt blow wind up your ass like a dirty 36 man you have a sook.your all talk sweetie. and you will root anyone who is a fake pffft ". Taby well said hun...good for you for standing up to him, we have your back my dear back on topic....i have had guys that want to just get to know me and ask all the right questions and are sweet and kind to me, then spend the night have sex and vanish...so yes there are gentlemen out there but sometimes they are still after the same thing, just going a different way about it so my first post still stands...have your eyes open and make sure your safe, be prepared for the worst and hope for the best good luck sweetie xx roxxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'taby001' Nor is being called words that usually apply to prostitutes. I take great offence to that ... no name calling should apply to anyone at all!!! xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Rather large shovel perhaps ?? Whats happening here ? Whats going on ? My Dear "boy" Whynot .... and yes I do mean that in the condescending way it was put ! You silly little tiger, here I was thinking all this stuff about nasty messages from guys was all a bit of over exagerated nonesense and up you pop ! Well done to you little chappy your over developed abs and you will have no end of fun in your bedroom alone until mum calls you for din dins ........... "come on whynot .....hurry up luv I have cooked little boy sausages your favourite" then you can pop back in your room and spend endless hours of fun by yourself ! Oh gals ....I admit I was wrong ....... Brae Oh Taby I agree with Sydboy and Polar grrrrrrl ......hell I almost always agree with polar .....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'braedom' Rather large shovel perhaps ?? Whats happening here ? Whats going on ? My Dear "boy" Whynot .... and yes I do mean that in the condescending way it was put ! You silly little tiger, here I was thinking all this stuff about nasty messages from guys was all a bit of over exagerated nonesense and up you pop ! Well done to you little chappy your over developed abs and you will have no end of fun in your bedroom alone until mum calls you for din dins ........... "come on whynot .....hurry up luv I have cooked little boy sausages your favourite" then you can pop back in your room and spend endless hours of fun by yourself ! Oh gals ....I admit I was wrong ....... Brae Oh Taby I agree with Sydboy and Polar grrrrrrl ......hell I almost always agree with polar ..... HA HA brae.. you picked up on that too!! LOL! classic. I said that about him on my "thesis" just under tabby's post! :D :D great minds man.. great minds..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Maybe just go with flow??? In all Honesty I think its a good thing......Clearly this gent has most probably been there & done that...and finds no need to talk about all things sexual.....more power to him......me I'm an curious soul & just cant help it.As for the attraction thing.....clearly he is....as was said a few post earlier you'd be hard pressed to find a man or woman that doesn't think your attractive....the fact that he talks to you more then shows he has an interest!but really why be confused....??? each and all of us are different & do like to talk about different things...as much as we all actually do do different things.....(now i'm confused) ..........just take as it comes......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' Who read this and thought yep, this dude knows all the right things to say to wangle his way in? Ahhh, I think I'm a bit too cynical. I'm with you. Just be cautious.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' Who read this and thought yep, this dude knows all the right things to say to wangle his way in? Ahhh, I think I'm a bit too cynical.Exactly what I thought.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I'm with Polar Bear on this. Felt the same way, just be careful I guess.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Randoml... If I'm reading this correctly, I think you agree with PBG lol :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    My posts didnt show up, so I tried it a few times. Was due to registration approval or whatever.But yea I stand by my posts.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I agree too, be cautious!!! As alot of guys can reel you in with the sweet side before meeting and even after meeting for a lil bit... He may have had some bad experiences and is why he is being considerate and not all about the sex... Never know - But enjoy have fun, if you feel a connection then it has to be a positive.... Good Luck and be careful hun xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    hey Tabby when is your meet set for??? just we know to panic or not if you dont get on haha just joking sorry just have fun and be careful and have fun...oh did i say have fun ;-) roxxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Hey Tassie Rose The meet is for this weekend :) Tomorrow (Friday) through to Sunday. Very excited! Hes flying up to visit me from Brissy so Ill be meeting him at the airport. I dont forsee any problems and since posting this forum the chats are starting to get a little naughty so that puts my mind at ease lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Well definitely a big WhyNot for some! Taby, you are a sexy girl and it seems you may also have a few other attributes to add. Sure an older guy is going to think you're hot stuff, sure some may try and act all suave to get into your pants, then there's some that actually may be suave - let's hope you're fella is of that kind. Me thinks you're level headed enough to sift the good from the shit. Oh poor Whynot, at 28 let's just hope he's going through a troubled transition and will one day blossom into a nice gentleman!

  • srogers

    srogers

    15 years ago

    Taby you seem to have handled the situation very well and I hope you have a great weekend with the new man. Enjoy the experience.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    There seem to be quite a few ladies on here who are jaded or cynical. I'm dismayed, because I am sure you have all had experiences that have lead to that outlook. As a 35 year old man, I have probably had less partners than most 18 year olds here. That doesn't mean I'm not a sexual person, I love sex, but I find that I am far more sexually attracted to people I can have a conversation with before and after sex, about things other than sex. I have no problem with people who meet, hook up and shag each others brains out, then go their seperate ways, as long as everyone involved knew that was what was going to happen. There have been times where I'd have quite happily done that, and would still, but it would have to be all above board. As it happens I have only had a one night stand once. I am almost ashamed, in an odd way, to admit that I am so inexperienced. I still have desires and fantasies that involve random meets, multiple partners, kinky games etc. I'd love to live them out, but any scenario that involves me being deceptive is an instant turn off. I'd much rather never do any of the things I'd like to try and know that I haven't taken advantage of anyone in the process. The fact that I now know that if I am getting to know someone, and enjoying the process for what it is, that I am going to be suspected of being a devious, manipulative and self centred prick, for NOT trying to get my hand straight into a ladies pants makes me feel like I should just give the whole thing away. To the blokes that have made so many people see men through those eyes, a pox upon your house, and may your dick shrivel up due to the most painful STD imaginable.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    TabyIm glad all seems to be going well and you may have found one that is different to someGo with your gut feeling and enjoy each others companydo only what your comfortable with No always means No.....WE are all waiting here for how it turns outFINGERS CROSSED and be safe

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Just to let everyone know the weekend was a success. The guy mentioned in the above post was everything I thought he would be if not more and as an added bonus the sex was great YAY! We spent heaps of time in the spa just talking and I showed him the sites of Hervey Bay (im very good tour guide) went out to dinner, relaxed by the pool, went to the beach, watched some movies, had lots of sex, and was lots of talking and conversation.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Great news! Hoping it might be the start of something special for you both.Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    :) great to hear it turned out well for you Taby :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Nev... Haha yeah somehow I dont think that will happen. 99.9% of the guys I catch up with only want sex. If mention anything else and they run for the hills! Iv been single 2 years and in that time out of all the guys iv met from online not one has wanted a relationship or more than a fuck. Sure they have been nice guys but I know to keep all emotional feelings out of it, only causes trouble. Being in Hervey Bay and being no decent guys here I think im doomed to be single forever. Taby.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    One of these guys wil realise what a special young lady they have become entangled with. I reckon always best to keep an open mind, love often comes along when least expected, yeah of course its wise to keep your heart locked away to some extent for self preservation, but i reckon you know that already.Best of luck to you Tabs!Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Well c'mon then Taby - how did the date go?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    excellent news Tabyjust take it one day at a time and enjoy the ridedoes he have a brother lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    good for you hun, sounds like you had a great time so will you be seeing him again??? and like ms curious said...does he have a brother, father, uncle or cousin??? lol im very happy for you Tabby roxxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Yes he said he might be comming up again in a few months. Thats the only downside to living in hervey bay in the 2 years Iv been on rhp I have not had even 1 regular lover because of the fact of the distance. It sucks! Im lucky to get sex once a month if that! As far as I know he does have a younger brother but hes married with 3 kids lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Maybe the fact he is older means he is a bit deeper than just a quickie. Maybe he sees something in you that he would like to know more about. Not all older men are dirty old men. As for the other bunghole that has abused you, block him and forget him. He is trouble with a capital T. I have been hesitant to talk to ladies who are considerably younger than myself but have very recently starting communicating with a lady that has me excited. 16 years age difference but I thought why not have a go. Whats the worst that can happen, she says no thanks and I end up with a friend rather than a partner. This site is about making new connections outside your normal circle. Who knows true love may be around the corner for you or you just might enjoy a couple of months of each others company. It's all called experience. GOOD LUCK with it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Ok for everyone hinting it that the guy mention in the above post may be looking for more than sex its not going to happen. Hes already said its sex only! Actually iv given up on any guy wanting more than sex on rhp.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl'Who read this and thought yep, this dude knows all the right things to say to wangle his way in? Ahhh, I think I'm a bit too cynical. my thoughts exactly! again, please be very careful, i hope us cynical old buggers are proven wrong

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    To give up on finding something of a little substance at your tender age. So where are the guys on Rhp (in Taby's age range) that would  love to just hold her hand, spend the night just talking about everything and nothing, having a few laughs, being there for her when she's hurting, give her a big hug and a soft kiss on the forehead, going out and having a few laughs. All because you enjoy the person that she is, and value every moment you get to share with her, not for what you can get out of her!So c'mon fellas ......or are you all wolves in sheeps clothing!Cheers Nev

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    cheer up taby i cant believe guys are not knocking down your door for the chance to try and make an honest woman out of you.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Sweet, she isn't dating, just doing sex. Cheers Nev.....but what would i know.....just a bloke!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' Quoting 'NevandKj' Sweet, she isn't dating, just doing sex. Cheers Nev.....but what would i know.....just a bloke! Yeah , you're right Nev, she wants to be at least dating not just a QF. Sorry, seemed like i missed the point but i do understand. The right one will find his way to you Tabs, RHP or not. YOu don't actually have to do anything, he'll just show up when the time is right xxxx or I wont and I'll be the one who gets to be chased

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'NevandKj' not for what you can get out of her!huh? I thought it was what they could put int.... oh... no I see what you were saying now.(can you tell I'm having a bored at home night?)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'NevandKj' To give up on finding something of a little substance at your tender age. So where are the guys on Rhp (in Taby's age range) that would love to just hold her hand, spend the night just talking about everything and nothing, having a few laughs, being there for her when she's hurting, give her a big hug and a soft kiss on the forehead, going out and having a few laughs. All because you enjoy the person that she is, and value every moment you get to share with her, not for what you can get out of her! So c'mon fellas ......or are you all wolves in sheeps clothing! Cheers Nev*raises hand* I would like to believe I'm a decent guy, raised well by my mother to believe in treating a woman with respect and honour. Too bad there are so many guys out there my age that dont do the same. Like I say "Chivalry isnt dead, its just really hard to find"

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Maybe try sites like Oasis babe

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Not every guy on here wants to come across as a sex fiend....especially if he has found a girl he's really attracted to.If you were a guy lucky enough to find a real connection, the last hing you would want to do is blow it all by telling them what you would like to do to them behind closed doors.....even if you can't get the thought out of your head ;)Much better to actually show them in person :)

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    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Hey I'm an older guy & no it's not just all about sex ! I don't just talk about sex at the start, I like to be a gentleman ! And although I had a few relationships, I love to wine & dine & enjoy my partners in & out of the bedroom ! That makes life fun, esp getting to know someone , so hang in there! Some of us guys are decent & trustworthy !

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    RHP User

    14 years ago

    He is being a gentleman, and cautious, we have all heard the stories from women, who tell us about guys who are too forward, assume that the women they talk to are on the same page, and the resulting discust they feel towards the guy. He does not want this, so for a while he will be testing the waters, you may want to lead for a while.