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Sick if hearing this........?
September 19 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sometimes you want to reply properly and then become distracted by life. It gets busy and you start dropping some of those balls that you're juggling. Sometimes people use social media to distract themselves from all of their responsibilities. Like an ostrich burying its head in the sand. It's good to let people know that you're hurt when they don't reply. Now I'm going to skip off and reply to all of those messages I've been meaning to get back to...
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RHP User
11 years ago
No one is THAT busy. It just depends where you are on their priority list.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
To me and how I see it; what they are saying is "I have made a choice/decision NOT to make time for you". If they don't reply it means; The dog ate the phone...there's no way anyone should be sitting around to waiting for it to shit. If someone is "too busy", it's not a friendship or relationship I want. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, I agree that some people use Ive been busy as an excuse........... However, remember it can sometimes be true what MissBlissBomb has said.......... I know for myself, when I get overwhelmed I just can't converse or text with people directly, I'm to emotionally exhausted........... As was also pointed out, RHP is one of my escapes.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Sometimes working, juggling a family, making time for ourselves we do get lost and it does become overwhelming - not all the time - just sometimes. It's bloody hard work sometimes just to keep up with everything and I need to breathe. I don't know about others, but I have to prioritize everything and daily. So when it comes to meeting people or contacting those who I care, about it just means I have not forgotten about them it just means I am thinking about them and when I do make time for them they have my full attention...if I jumped to every man and their dog (and phone) I would loose myself. I'm not prepared to do that. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's a way to keep you on the back burner.... In other words ,not a high priority but somewhere on the list of second or third berries xxQ
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
I have mixed views on this subject. MissBB has summed it up fairly well and that is what happens with me. I do get busy and I do get exhausted and chatting to people can be the last thing I feel like doing. This week is a classic example of that and I too will be hurrying away to reply to some messages that have been lingering in my inbox for awhile. What I also don't understand is when I send a message along the lines of, 'life is nuts ATM but wanted to say hi and I'll be in touch when it settles a bit.' The reply is chatty and wanting to engage in a conversation? Hello? Did you not read my original message? I haven't time at the moment, just wanted to let you know I haven't disappeared and I'm thinking of you! Is it all about the expectations brought about by all the whizz bang things we can communicate with? We expect and perhaps demand, that people must be in touch all the time? Why do they have to be? Why does a 10 word text message imply we important to them? I'd much prefer a 10 minute phone call, when we both had the time.
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
insert the word 'are' in the last sentence. Add a manicure to my increasing 'must do' list.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
of my mantra here since day one. I can sympathize with some of the ladies who may receive literally hundreds of contacts a day, but if you can find the time to socialize on Fb, Twitter or any of the other time wasters, you can find time to eek out a few replies at a time on here too. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
No communication, is communication. Its just that we chose to ignore that particular message.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are important to someone... they MAKE time. If you are just an option, you aren't front-of-mind, and not at the top of the list. DG
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MissBishere
11 years ago
With kissk and MissBB. Social Media is an escape for me. I rarely have an hour I can spend on the phone during the week with kids and work commitments. Then on my time without kids I don't want to spend an hour on the phone, that just exhausts me, I have nothing to talk about for that long. I can text you all day back and forth but really hate phone calls. I would rather do it face to face over coffee and cake. And yeah sometimes it just means he or she isn't interested in you and I've been on the receiving end of that to. You can't control what other people do you either accept them as they are and how they treat you or you choose not to and move on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me, I am quite busy and I often think when I am busy that I need to contact someone but get sidetracked, then the next time I am thinking about them I kick myself because it is 1am and it is not an appropriate time to call or text.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And let's remember that RHP saying you're logged in 24/7 means nothing, especially if you are using the app that just doesn't log you out.
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NawtyNNice777
11 years ago
I too have mixed views about this. I often log in early in the morning, and then get carried away in the day's demands. So it appears as if I'm online but RHP is the furthest thing from my mind. Also, I like to write a proper response and I can't do that in 30 seconds. So I choose not to reply until I can do it properly. I do see though how some can use it as an excuse. I guess it's easier than admitting that you've neglected the other person and risk hurting their feelings. Each to their own. Read between the lines and use your own judgment to decide what the other is telling you. NN xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Depends. For casual friends it doesn't bother me if they reply back a few days later. Because I don't care enough I suppose. For special friends..... I also understand daily pressures but I wouldn't be impressed if they always took days to reply. That would annoy me. Don't you love the iphones these days so you can see when they have read your message! LOL. I think men are different too. Sometimes I send a message and I don't get a reply and I realise it's because from a man's point of view they didn't see it as a question..... I like to send lovers lots of dirty messages or just general messages saying "thinking of you, you dirty old spunk"
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have had this conversation a few times with different women, about how lots of men don't seem to find it necessary to keep in touch much. Sure they may think about you every day but they don't actually reach out and let you know. Sometimes women feel like if they didn't contact their lover for a week or so the guy would probably totally forget they exist! Sometimes I feel that if us women didn't make the effort the whole human race would die out. Again, it is probably the whole men are from mars and women from venus or what ever that saying is. So women see regular contact or replying to messages straight away as being thoughtful and keen whereas guys are probably feel like women are being clingy. Fuck me how did we ever get to such a large world population when there is so much misunderstanding between the sexes. Thank God for alcohol eh?
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I have had this conversation a few times with different women, about how lots of men don't seem to find it necessary to keep in touch much. Sure they may think about you every day but they don't actually reach out and let you know. When I was first going out with my to-be wife, when we first started our relationship, I was on the phone to her from work every single day, without fail. I was the one who initiated 99.9% of the contact between us. This was in addition to seeing her as often as possible (we both lived at opposite sides of Sydney), and spending pretty much the entire weekend with her as well. This continued into our married life, just to say 'hi' to one another and a show of affection. This even went to the extent that when the kids were old enough to get home from school by themselves (when we were both still working), that I would call them up also at home just to make sure all was well. I think that should speak reasonably well about my own interpretation of love. And that was not an isolated instance - I had always kept in touch with all my previous girlfriends in the same sort of manner.Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
99% of the time it is the guys getting the no answer is an answer from women so I am sure there are guys who will see the irony of it being turned around on genders. Not saying it's right but just saying. Plenty of previous threads and the advice is it's just the dynamics of RHP that no answer is an answer. Putting yourself out there for any sort of relationship requires the potential to be hurt or be rejected. If you can't handle potential rejection then don't put yourself out there. Cheers, W. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a busy person myself I know I don't intentionally ignore anybody ? If someone thinks they are not a priority to me because I did'nt get a chance to reply ' they are wrong. ? I don't put people in any particular pecking order , and I eventually get back to everybody.. For instance' my work takes me places with no outside contact for a good few hours throughout the 24 hour day and night. I know there are ppl out there who are just slack, I think they are mainly good ppl but just lazy.. I wouldn't go belting myself up over this type of person... a total waste of emotional energy.. They just dont see the same importance as you...
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RHP User
11 years ago
We all get busy,I find rhp a great distraction from life's stress Love speaking to some lovely ladies always get back to ones that mean something to me! Have found you can interact be a shoulder ,to people you have never met,some genuine back and forth! Don't feel it's clingy,courtesy really,perhaps says more about me!have always still got along with exes too! Always feel you should give good energy ,karma is a bitch ,lol xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Next !
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do not care. I often leave my phone upstairs. Or at home. I never contact a guy, if he wants to keep in touch he will. I might say thanks, that was lovely. Then leave it. I am lucky in that guys will stay in touch , come and go and are mostly curious about the sex I am getting. I keep in touch with friends and family. My girlfriends know my phone is beeping but I ignore it while with company. Especially while out with people. No return text, just like foxy said, they are not interested. So go pick another one out if the herd.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OR they might think you are too full on and need some space. Post your Comment
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RHP User
11 years ago
Personally, if I don't get back to people it can be a number of things. 1. I'm feeling overwhelmed and am avoiding. -life in general, the person or group of people, just one form of communication (eg: if I've got a backlog of Text messages to get to) 2. We've got into deep conversations and need time to think and process before responding. 3. I'm just not that into them. ******* Being on social media or RHP is a fun frivolous distraction. "Sorry, I've been so busy." Is an excuse I personally reserve for those times when I don't even have time for social media. Which is rare, but it happens. If the shoe's on the other foot I can usually work out which one it is for the other person but if I'm unsure I'll ask. I'd always rather know if there's a lack of interest - if I'm suspicious of it I like to give the person an "out". One sided relationships don't work for anyone involved.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What I like best about this question is that is stays gender neutral in its observation! I would think all guys and girls both from time to time have sat in both sides of the fence here. I have often wondered about long (and in some cases indefinite) periods of silence from those you message, but I know life is busy, priorities change, desires move on, and in some cases, you just don't know what to say, because your still mulling it over in your mind. I would never intentionally snob someone to upset them....but on the flip side, I don't like the idea that someone is that needy either.. If someone doesn't get back to me...I refuse to read anything into it...other than things just didn't line up at the time. How many times has any relationship, whether a 40 year marriage, or a 2 day shag fest with a random, ended with neither of the parties feeling in some way aggrieved? I also believe that to recharge oneself, sometimes it's nice to just be a spectator, and not a participant...I also find just sitting on line without communicating with anyone can be quite relaxing
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6exxy
11 years ago
That is a very general pre text. As Araps said it is usually the guys that get this. Is this a relationship or someone you want to contact you? Work, life and other things do take place. If it's a relationship then fair call. If it's a friend, then you are placing them in a box to respond as you want them to. Some people don't like being placed in boxes as if to be owned. I think there is a lot more here than the simple "sick of hearing this...........?" Saying that positive thoughts, choices and communication are healthier alternatives with patience being a virtue that not all possess.
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RHP User
11 years ago
MissBlissBomb and I are on the same page. I like to put thought into messages I send. I also like to give people undivided attention when I'm face to face with them. So if I'm spending a whole day with a guy, everyone else has to wait until I'm home to get a response to their message unless it's something urgent. I'm not one of those people who go out with their friends and stay glued to my phone all the time. I send all my messages while on the train or in bed. I'm currently in bed now, responding to this forum post and I've responded to a bunch of messages in my inbox...But if this was yesterday or Friday, I didn't even login... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If someone is into you , you'll know it 😌 Those who wish to be and deserve to be in your life just will be ... They'll MAKE TIME ..and they'll never be too " busy" on a regular basis ... Easy...
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Just noted your posting here - so how are you getting along on site now ? Made any nice connections as yet ? Hope you are having a great journey. Tall
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6exxy
11 years ago
Yes it is simple, but not the full story either.
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