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Sex with Randoms
February 22 2014
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Whilst the idea of being seduced by and then meeting a random stranger with no idea of his name just that looks-wise I'm attracted to him and he has definately (through communication) stroked and aroused my intellect then yes. Being asked to meet somewhere private, blindfolded or not, in the dark or not; and being tantalised and stroked and other sensuosly erotic things would be ideal. Giving and receiving!!! If it was under any other scenario HELL NO WAY!!! (Sigh) have had a few experiences in recent months...some totally mindblowing and others that just de-sensitise and re-affirmed for me that being in a room full of people doing emotionless, disconnected, senseless fucking just sucks. Actually that's a little unfair, because most swingers have met and played with members of their groups regularly so there exists a "bond" so please don't shoot me as I have acknowledged that scenario. If I could handpick an orgy room there's a random moshpit I'd love!!!! 😍. The real thing standing against random sex would, for me be the trust factor. You don't know this person. He may be lovely but he may not. He may be gentle, but he may not. You may enjoy the moment immensely but you may walk away having been abused, beaten, violated or raped. Ot's unfair to generalise but I still think safety is paramount. I spoke with a man from another site for nearly 8mths before we met. I stupidly threw all my rules about public meetings out the window, though my gut was uneasy; I arrogantly thought it was all good and I was in control. I invited him to where I was staying for a morning coffee and to finally say hello face to face. In his words "You can either enjoy it....or not.....it's up to you." He was 7ft tall and definately outweighed me. I haven't seen not thankfully heard from him since. I don't consider myself a foolish/unintelligent woman but doing a random one on one is definately OUT for me. If a friend wants to share an experience with me, that's another story...... ~ Indy On Safari
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I think it'd just become more boring, mundane, unfilfilling fucking with strangers and I'd probably end up seeking more regular playmates or something akin to a relationship. (Shrugs)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Whilst on holiday I met a fellow South African. He was on his own and all of his friends were couples. We started chatting at the pool one day, went out drinking later and ended up have hot, drunken, random sex. Was it fulfilling? HELL YES!!! Is this what I usually look for? NO. But it was great while I was on holiday.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality' Whilst on holiday I met a fellow South African. He was on his own and all of his friends were couples. We started chatting at the pool one day, went out drinking later and ended up have hot, drunken, random sex. Was it fulfilling? HELL YES!!! Is this what I usually look for? NO. But it was great while I was on holiday. There is something about South African accents that annoys the beJesus out of me. It's sounds so deliciously arrogant, I just want to slap their face then fuck them senseless. You know?
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Random or not I still have to be attracted to the person. I prefer to be both mentally and physically attracted to someone. But if it's a random, you really only have the physical appearance to go by.... What it means to me? Well it's just that, random, a one off, in the moment kind of thing, probably never see them again.... How do I find it? Meaningless, unconnected... Was it satisfying? Yes sexual it's satisfying, mentally, no unsatisfying..... What do I like or dislike about it? I don't like or dislike anything about it, it's just sex.... Can I do it? Yes I can... Do I do it regularly? No I don't.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well to me randoms are people that you meet with the main purpose of having sex without seeing them again. Sometimes you ask their name and sometimes not. I don't go looking for randoms because I find it boring. But if I met someone who was gorgeous, and who was good at the seduction game. Why not!! NEVER SAY NO TO GOOD SEX!! I do randoms at swingers clubs and parties, if I have my lover there I absolutely love it. I need some people I know and have a connection with to enjoy the experience otherwise I get bored of that as well in a swingers club. Although if there was some bi boy action that would get me going. Couples and single girls are not my thing really. I don't go out enough to the right places anymore because I rarely meet a man that I feel can seduce me off my feet for a hot night of passion. Or maybe I should just reallly take up drinking.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think for some people it's almost a fetish. Meeting strangers, fucking strangers, potential putting themselves in dangerous situations. Meeting new people every other day. Maybe it is an addiction to the chase?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Had my time with randoms as as we all know............they get boring.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To me..... the term "random" is not one I like. I feel it is a throwaway and disrespectful term towards someone who has chosen to share themselves with you, even if for only one moment in time. People like what they like..... but my preference is for MORE opportunity to explore through growing comfort.... and one-off, nameless, identity voided encounters dont hold interest to me. If you enjoyed it... you'd want to repeat it, right?! So perhaps, deep inside... some people who enjoy one-off hook ups are not really enjoying it, or offering enjoyment to others.... but are chasing the chase.?! DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
But nothing compares with that connection that often just isn't found with randoms.Discovering each others bodies, learning where and how to touch each other, building trust and exploring new boundaries together.Nothing gives me more pleasure than giving pleasure to my lover, doing things to them that I KNOW they enjoy.....things that cant be discovered in one steamy 2 hour session!! So yes its fun and it relieves the tension at times but for me its very different...not as rewarding or fulfilling as being with someone you know on a deeper level
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madotara69
12 years ago
We get toey, sometimes a man needs another man to do things men can do to please the lady, Tara, so we randomly invite someone we think has the right spirits to get along with us for a random sense of sexual adventure, from there we randomly would like to make that random event re-randomable, because we can not possibly cover all the random objectives in any single random moment. But, no that person is not a random, he is a Tara's hot sex me guy Mado Tara xx
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Sex with randoms means random hook ups with different men every time I go to a hotel room! Which has been the case since my former FB and I quit the game, because I haven't been able to find a new friend since, who I can connect with mentally and physically. And because all the men I met, after my former FB, were all pretenders whom pretended that they were interested to be my friend for ongoing companionship, but after one passionate night, they just disappeared without a trace! Do you find this satisfying? Rewarding? boring? Sex with randoms is definitely NOT satisfying and/or rewarding MENTALLY, but yes for physical if I meet a genuinely nice gentleman who would care to make it a loving and passionate night together. Now, what I mean by loving and passionate night is when the man would care to arrange everything before I arrive at the hotel, then takes me out to a nice dinner, we come back to the room to have a glass of wine, he starts stroking my hair as we talk, gently cuddles me, kisses me, caresses me, etc. instead of just jumping right into having foreplay, intercourse and then tells me business is done! I can never find sex with randoms be satisfying or rewarding, even if I meet a good gentleman who would treat me like how I have described above. Why? Because it's a one-off hookup and they would vanish in the air the next day like they have never existed. So I cannot go back to see them again to return a treat, even though they have left me a lifetime beautiful memory to keep! :-( However, I wouldn't say random sex is boring. I would rather say it's tiring and a little stressful, because I do not know if it's a one-off again or not at the time. What is it you like/dislike about it? Like: The different sexual experiences gained from bonking various men lol like trying new styles, or seeing different sizes Dislike: The risk of running into a psycho lol like the old Hollywood movie called American Psycho lol Is it something you do regularly? not do at all? It's something I do occasionally when I get the strong urge and can't kill it with masturbation. Yep, I am a person that must have a real cock slides inside me to settle my hormone/urge lol
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gazpacho
12 years ago
A random one on one is what I suppose some of you are thinking and from my perspective, I agree that it is often rewardless. One random after another so that all the ransoms blur into one big fuckfest, however, now that's a different scanario. Staggering home with that, "I'm so feeling fucked" feeling is a whole other ball game. Hoot! To that. Add a public venue and the risk of being seen, caught, or arrested and whoa, the dopamine goes through the roof. You know you're alive. Hugs Gazpacho
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
is a distasteful word to use to me, because it's devaluing that other person. not acknowledging them as a human being first. I believe my body is my temple and if I share it with someone, it is because I value them as a person, not just their penis. On the odd occasion I've just wanted the penis. Every time I hear the word "random", I think of myself walking down the street, pointing at someone and saying "yep, you'll do, come with me, lets have a fuck!" LOL Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's just a word to describe a situation. I don't think it devalues a person. Putting too much thought into it all Foxxy I reckon. Don't make judgements on people because of a word or because of things they are into. I consider people that pick up in clubs, pubs every other weekend are having random encounters too.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' It's just a word to describe a situation. I don't think it devalues a person. Putting too much thought into it all Foxxy I reckon. Don't make judgements on people because of a word or because of things they are into. I consider people that pick up in clubs, pubs every other weekend are having random encounters too. I'm not putting too much thought into it... That's how I see it. I'm not making judgement. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
to me a random is just any person you hook up with little information going in and no intention of seeing again afterward. people you meet at parties may or may not fall into this category, but it feels more like the kind of thing that happens at bars. The fun is the thrill of the chase, going out and pulling a 'random' can be exciting.The downside is that you don't know them! some see that as an opportunity to more vocal because your inhibitions are lowered, but it often turns into a strange session of non-verbally attempting to push someone in the right direction, rarely to the desired outcome. done it. will prob do it again. ideal? no.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Randoms = anonymous sex Nothing wrong with that, it is almost like a fetish like any other. Randoms, one night stands, pick ups, going to the pub to pick up, etc, etc are all the same thing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I very much enjoy random sex, but it helps to have at least enough conversation to know who you will get along with and who you won't. I find a mixture of random meets and those you have regular.meets with works best for me. Sometimes it's just too hard to say no...! X - Posted from rhpmobile
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Plain280
12 years ago
Actually I found this whole term demeaning and degrading, to either sex, hmm this is the danger when you indulge in some thing that is pleasurable, to such a point that dissatisfaction to a point of calling people ransoms. Get real there are people that might read this, that have had a dalliance with the person that bought attention to this. Some not all might feel a bit peeved?
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Plain280
12 years ago
Then reality hit Meekas strap on, then I thought which accent Jo burg, up country, Western Cape or my Durban accent that has had 40 odd years of Australian influence!? Interesting.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' is a distasteful word to use to me, because it's devaluing that other person. not acknowledging them as a human being first. I believe my body is my temple and if I share it with someone, it is because I value them as a person, not just their penis. On the odd occasion I've just wanted the penis. Every time I hear the word "random", I think of myself walking down the street, pointing at someone and saying "yep, you'll do, come with me, lets have a fuck!" LOL Foxy Yes Yep.... that is how it goes usually.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' Actually that's a little unfair, because most swingers have met and played with members of their groups regularly so there exists a "bond" so please don't shoot me as I have acknowledged that scenario. IWhere do you get that from? Maybe it is like that in Brisbane but I doubt you can say that would be true for most swingers. Sometimes yes, but often they would be playing with new people I would imagine. That is the purpose for a lot couples that want to swing I would say.
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gazpacho
12 years ago
The term randoms is not a derogatory term for a person, per say .. It is merely a shortened way of saying "random encounter with a person". I fucking hate political correctness tonight so beware! Hugs Gazpacho :)
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On_Safari
12 years ago
And ONLY those you trust. I have had similar commrnts from others. Yes new "friends" are nice and are brought in to the experience gradually as well. You have often said you don't do rabsome, ONS or strangers and only attend the clubs/parties with people you know and have played with before. Have I taken you out of context? Sorry 'bout that if I have :) given that you are also a very astute educator on these forums.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' The term randoms is not a derogatory term for a person, per say .. It is merely a shortened way of saying "random encounter with a person". I fucking hate political correctness tonight so beware! Hugs Gazpacho :) Daddy I have been on the war path all night.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' And ONLY those you trust. I have had similar commrnts from others. Yes new "friends" are nice and are brought in to the experience gradually as well. You have often said you don't do rabsome, ONS or strangers and only attend the clubs/parties with people you know and have played with before. Have I taken you out of context? Sorry 'bout that if I have :) given that you are also a very astute educator on these forums. I am not "all swingers" am I? In fact I don't even classify myself as a swinger at all. And from my observations that is not true for most swingers or people in a swingers or sex club.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Other than my atrocious spelling. Meeks unless there are new bi-boys to use Strappy on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would say I am the not the norm at these clubs at all!!!!
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On_Safari
12 years ago
What I've been learning.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
That's what makes you so special.
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RHP User
12 years ago
LOL. You can stop that now! Just call me a biatch and me done with it. I am having a Calabrese moment..... just need to get a horse head to put in DG's bed tonight and I think I will be done for the night.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
😎 A pigs head? 🐷
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RHP User
12 years ago
What exactly does it mean to you? Anonymous sex with different people. Agreeing that you are using each other for the pure physical bliss. Nothing more. I didn't see it as "devaluing" the other person as suggested above - there was an implicit understanding that it was for satisfying the physical urges and nothing else. I certainly didn't see myself (still don't) as being "devalued" for indulging in it. Do you find this satisfying? Rewarding? boring? I went through a stage that this was what I was after. No names, no details. It was satisfying at the time as it was what I wanted. Rewarding? Mhhh... I did cum, so that would have been one of its rewards. But it did eventually get boring. What is it you like/dislike about it? The thrill of being with a different person all the time. The chase and hunt for the next "random" was addictive. Also, being a random and not knowing anything (and not wanting to know) it tend to happen outdoors, so you have the added thrill of being caught in a car, in the bush, in the public toilet, etc. The thing that I didn't like about it was the emptiness after the deed was done. Is it something you do regularly? not do at all? I did it for about a year and met different people ALL the time. Now, I don't do it much. I tend to now screen people who I can meet with on a regular basis.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I find sex more satisfying, physically and mentally with someone I'm familiar and comfortable with but when in between FWB as I am now, sometimes masturbation just isn't enough so I'll find random hook ups to satisfy the urges but I need to be attracted to them... Definitely not as satisfying as sex with someone I have a connection with... I do have stranger fantasies and part of me sometimes hopes one random encounter will see it become a reality but so far it's still a fantasy 😊
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RHP User
12 years ago
Random : chosen or happening without any particular method , pattern or purpose . I've had many random encounters on nights out , with people I would not normally choose to be with . Thanks Alcohol ! GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nothing wrong with Random hook ups! But for me, It is better if you know the person and get along with them (Friends with benefits)- You don't need to love the person but just be friends- Makes the whole situation so much better and enjoyable I think!
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madotara69
12 years ago
So far was Coops interpretation or practical summary, not direct quote, along the lines with , organising a meeting place turn up who ever is there waiting is already into things you join in have a root for all it is to be, get up and on your merry way, nothing to strings and some physical relief with someone who seems to have shared at least the general interests for what has to be had. Don't even need to know a name, bit of an honesty box sort of thing but, sure that could suit many people who may have commitment over their head. As he said can't get much more random than that. Random is the idea, who ever is involved agrees to it. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's mostly how I define random sex. Often unsatisfying, occasionally mind blowing. Mostly always leaves me feeling lonelier. Scratches an itch is all. Regular sex with same person, even if not always the greatest is far more palatable to me in the long run.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jayden1987' Nothing wrong with Random hook ups! But for me, It is better if you know the person and get along with them (Friends with benefits)- You don't need to love the person but just be friends- Makes the whole situation so much better and enjoyable I think! That's right Jayden! By the way, I know someone who would love to sit on that thumb by the way.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would love to have random sex. I still haven't met with anyone to let me. Can anyone help - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I have had randoms. For me, it is more a physical thing. While it feels good on that physical level, I find it lacks the emotional and mental connection, usually. I generally leaves me unsatisfied at the end because those aspects are often not met. If it has been a truly random one off, there is sometimes not the opportunity to be able to go back and explore things further a second time or more. Usually leaves me wanting more.
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abcplus1
12 years ago
We prefer a connection, some meaning. Besides, the chances of a us as a couple hooking up with a random, single, available female in the right age range, in the same locality, is a bit like picking up next week's lotto numbers. We have never had a partner that didn't involve weeks or months of lead up............
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have met a few randoms online and we each understand it's a physical thing, attraction is a must of course I do prefer a chat before hand so I can establish that the person isn't a nutcase or desperate. So far I've been lucky, though I don't just have sex with them, I have some lunch or dinner and flirt first. I do need to be able to talk to them though, I can't handle airheads. I do find it satisfying especially if they love foreplay
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RHP User
12 years ago
We did do this with a couple - once. It was awful. We'll never do it again. After that experience we have only ever met people over a drink or meal first and then played (if there was the right chemistry) later. Sometimes immediately after, sometimes weeks or months later. In all of those scenarios it has been both rewarding and satisfying. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Haha, I would love to hear from this said person Meeka :)-I also have another 9 more fingers they can play with too! Haha
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RHP User
12 years ago
randoms can be fun especially when overseas. the one random I picked up in vegas ended up being several encounters over the 3 days I was there for. best random ever
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am guilty of randoms, but to me it is all based on chemistry, it is there or it isn't. That doesn't mean the first time has to be a mind blowing experience (although occasionally it is) You generally know if the sex was good or decent and you just "fit" well together that the sex will be better as you get to know each other's bodies and what works well and what switches the other on. I have had randoms and one offs, usually a stray at the club that I hit it off with, generally the girls I have met up with on RHP have been ongoing "relationships" and this is my preference.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There is something exciting and naughty about a random,not knowing what to expect,the chasing,teasing,anticipation ans sense of satisfaction...What's life without adventure?
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RHP User
12 years ago
So I have had a number of encounters that fit under the term random. However I need to talk to at least get to know whether there is an attraction - and flirt which helps build the anticipation. Also I feel it is important to make sure said person doesn't seem to me to be a bunny boiler and vice versa. The excitement of the possibility of a sexual encounter is a powerful aphrodisiac. When there is chemistry and understood by both that the encounter is purely for mutual enjoyment, it can be satisfying on a physical level. But as others have said before when there is more of a connection for longer term fwb, then it can be emotionally satisfying too . Caring about each other's ultimate satisfaction is a bigger buzz. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is when inclination meets opportunity xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi I have in the past and its been a great to relieve some of the stress in life if you havnt had sex in a while some times its just what ive needed a bit of NSA fun with out all the meaning and emotional baggage behind it. Then theres other times when I have been in a relationship theres nothing better than having that emotional connection and really making love so all in all I think (right now) its probably what I need .
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RHP User
12 years ago
It all comes down to holding onto a bit of respect in yourself which will carry through to the person you're fucking. If like I found out an ex of mine was doing and literally trying to fuck every guy she met, family friends, workmates, allowing filthy ass drunks to just take her over to the toilets and do what they liked with her from hard rough demeaning play and she found herself jut a hole for anyone to fill. None of the play was protected and just in the short time we were together I found out there was over 270 guys that fucked her, slapped choked and blew over her most of them filming it all...majority of it happening next to her daughters bedroom....with potential pedo strangers invited In and snuck past daughters door to the hours of alappjng and screaming 3m from her poor 15yo daughter...its wrong There's respectful, kinky play but then theres pieces of gutterrat like the ex that had just turned them selves into out of control drunken drug addicts that will never respect themselves thus the trend will follow with everyone she opens her legs for and she'll end up an even more diseased, untrusted, unkept, drunk speedhead toilet bowl its sad - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
im with meeka on 2 points, the first that the south african accent sounds arrogant but not in the english kind of gentleman way but in the woot segregation way and that simply calling people randoms does not diminish them or indeed you for enjoying them. i have no problem with a lady calling me a random and using me for sex, i am doing the same thing with her. you can have hot, insane, kinky, naughty, quite frankly fucking in a corner of a park and still maintain your self respect and have the other maintain theirs. so long as you both are having fun random away haha
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been hanging out with a beautiful RHP lady, whose Afrikaans accent sounds nowhere near arrogant. Just saying. ;-)
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