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Sex Buddy vs Dating Site?
December 29 2014
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Unless your into something really kinky, your just heading to one end of the 'normal' interest in sex distribution curve. If you were passionate about food you wouldn't go out with a guy who only eats meat and potatoes, once you've been on a date or two with a guy from a vanilla site you should be able to tell if his interest in sex is a broad as yours or if he is interested in expanding his sexual diet.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I ventured to the Vanilla side several months ago. What an experiment that was. I scared the bejesus out of a few fellas and I wasn't even trying. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've never experienced a 3some before....I don't think it makes much difference if the chemistry is there... The thing is with this place; it's about promoting openness, communication, etc... Some people on vanilla sites and here, aren't always as open as you are....butbwhen you find someone that is,...that's gotta be a good thing right?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with you samjaye, being able to openly and honestly discuss sex related issues has become a major factor in my determining potential friends, lovers and partners.Put plainly, the more comfortable I am talking with you, the more time I'm going to want to spend with you. Obviously there is the time and place consideration and I'm not going to just offer my views, experiences and sexually loaded puns to complete strangers without discussion of other topics first.Then again, what the heck am I doing right now? I can be friends with people without talking about sex.I can even have sex with someone without having in-depth discussions of a sexual nature.However, I cannot have a relationship with a person whom I don't trust, or feel comfortable enough with, to be openly and honestly myself. Being myself means being able to discuss and have a laugh about anything without fear of negative judgement. Unfortunately I've heard the view expressed by guys on RHP of not having a serious relationship with a woman who was or had been on a 'sex based' site such as RHP. I'd laugh if it wasn't so grossly hypocritical and such a disparaging viewpoint. It seems the world still hasn't gotten over itself and that male chauvinistic, pseudo religious ideals are still prevalent in mainstream society.I find a confident and sexually liberated woman much more attractive than someone who can't/won't express their desires or talk about their experiences. If I was looking for a relationship I'd start right here on RHP. In answer to your question though, I'm more of the be honest and open type, if they perceive it as sluttish and have a problem with it, so be it... it's their problem, not yours.If they are like me and enjoy talking about sex and hearing your experiences, then WOOHOO!!! I hope you find a way that works for you. CheersRusty
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sam.... interesting question.... but you already know the answer..... because you're living it. You're in RHP.... as well as a mainstream dating site.......... you are not the only one. People are people wherever they are. This site does not hold a mandate on sexual openness or deviant attitudes.And RHP certainly doesn't hold a mandate on people seeking to manipulate their way into your pants just to get a load away. If you project your thoughts, desires and attitudes openly in here, or out in thew wide world beyond here.... you will meet and attract the same kind of person because they are comfortable with that. OR..... because they think you're an easy shag. As always..... you decide who you allow into your world and for what reason. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'PaintMeHappy' I ventured to the Vanilla side several months ago. What an experiment that was. I scared the bejesus out of a few fellas and I wasn't even trying. ;-) I learned that some things are better left unsaid on a first date. Sam, it's why I ended going from one vanilla site to another for a while, but just could not get comfortable. So now I'm just here. Much easier.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I thought this WAS a vanilla site... you mean to tell me there's more vanilla sites? Pass thanks! Hehe. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was only getting hit for sex on dating sites anyway which is why I got on here, I figured I would just skip the bullshit, now it is just different bullshit, lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is shocked.then he ain't the BF for you.Just be yourself..xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I thought RHP was the vanilla site. Guess it's what you are used to. The sites that cater to the bi and gay communities make RHP look very plain.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You' ll be just fine.. Be yourself , be sexy , chase your dreams but whatever you do stay focused and DONT get yourself involved with the anti man brigade.. . I've seen too many good women lose sight of what bought them here in the begining.. Seems like you know what your about but 'which is nice.. Cant advise you on how to tell a protential partner, but I'd make a point of letting him know pretty early in your relationship so theres no surprises further down the track..
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RHP User
11 years ago
When she asked "Did you bring protection?""Sure did, I like to plan ahead." I reach into the bag and pull out jumbo sized box of rubber gloves, two litter bottle of lube, two dozen condoms, plus spares, disinfectant for sounding rods, and dildo collection, smelling salts. Douching kit and one for her, extra power boards with surge protection, spare fully charges water poof phone in case of emergency, tooth brush, oxygen bottle, padded cuffs and rope, and two tarps with velcro corners so we don't trip..Proud of my self I look up... The look on her face, oh dear."This is awkward. You did say you were into kinky stuff. Did I forget something?" samjayeThere is no point in pursuing a relationship, even if its very casual if there is a sexual chasm a mile wide between you and the other person. You will only end up frustrated. But then some people are not as plain as the seem and just require a little push in the right direction.. Then try and stop them. A friend of mine, who would not blink at the above list was recently talking to a guy that she was considering. She needed to find where he was at. She moved the subject to kink. He replied "I like being kinky, occasionally I will flirt with a girl, by guessing what colour underwear they have on." The moment he said that she knew that they were totally incomparable. She just saw the chasm open up between her and him and knew it could never be bridged. PS the above list is entirely accurate, I have never had an oxygen bottle. Though would have been handy at times.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you everyone for your views, very helpful!! Ta again ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
You brought your toothbrush? Little presumptuous, don't you think?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm probably only upper middle vanilla, but yes, it does change the way I write profiles on normal dating sites. I don't want to turn away someone who might be interested in me for something more serious/long term, yet I still don't want someone who isn't very open minded when it comes to sex. I guess the conundrum would be whether you'd be happier with someone with the (possible) opportunity for sex every night, or having the hot group fantasy hardcore sex every couple of weeks or so... Personally I've been using the phrase "very open minded" a bit, but as it appears, even that can be greatly underestimated as to what it actually means. Funnily enough, I've still not had a threesome, only moresomes or twosomes :) Maybe because women who want several guys have a tendency to be a little less picky
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep I know, I should have brought my own toothpaste as well, so much to learn.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
It's you!!! Helloooo so good to see you!!!! ❤️ xx
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Ok I know I could google it BUT want you to tell me just in case it is what I've seen. Can I also add a tens machine should be a staple in your toolkit dearest xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sounding rods.. They got their name in a time before x-rays. To find out if someone had stones in the bladder they would insert a steal rod up the urethra. If you had stones it would make a distinctive clinking sound. Hence the name sounding rods. Tens machine, yes, must put that on next years X-mas list, or maybe i can make one out of bits and bobs. mmm?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Ok I know I could google it BUT want you to tell me just in case it is what I've seen. Can I also add a tens machine should be a staple in your toolkit dearest xx a vibrator for fucking a man's urethra (down the eye of his dick)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Strange how I knew that too :) Actually mentioned on a SBS doco recently... SBS, good for everything :)
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