Screening

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I'm a fan of the pre-emptive block. If there is someone who has anythin in their profile that indicates to me that we wouldn't be any type of match (obvious bigotry, homophobia, intolerance, "no fat chix") I will block them just so I don't have to look at their profile again. Also, passive aggressive profiles area massive turn-off.That's about it really. I don't get enough communication for there to be a real need for any screening before email exchange.Of course, then once chatting, if the question "what are you wearing?" pops up in first 5 minutes, that's a cull right there. Same with "Do you have any pictures that show a bit more?". Yes, this is an adult site, which should be the give away that yes, I like to fuck. It doesn't mean I want to fuck you though, so if you can't make some basic chit-chat for a few minutes then you're not the fuck buddy I'm looking for, please move along.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  There's loads of things that can be off-putting but assuming none of those are in the profile or first couple of messages then throw in a comment that seems a little blunt or harsh and see if the guy realises you're only joking. Test of intellect and humor.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  i've had a screening device installed on my front door... like at the airportsit picks up the following......1) attitude2) emotional baggage3) dishonesty4) weirdness5) personalityi wish......i'm old school, chat.. curious.. meet.. like.. 'lets hang out' , dislike.. 'seeya later' the woman to man ratio works in the guys favour this time... women are beautiful, men are bastardsnot a lot of screening involved really...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Six steps to find a lover 1.the profile....if there is something that is different,grabs my attention. 2.the messages....is there some sense of humour,charm,intelligence? 3.the phone call....I get a sense of who the person is,the voice,the words,the conversation. 4.the meeting....the chemistry,the interest. 5.the audition 6.the relationship....f.w.b

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  My Screening begins in My Seeking Criteria in My Profile... If however someone can'rr read or think they're the exception I do read and reply with ..Thanks for your Interest but you're not what I'm seeking Good Luck! with your search ..If they're grosse I say Thanks but no Thanks Bye then block if necessary .. If Guys seem to meet My Criteria I chat or MSG several times then MSN/Yahoo to suss them out ....Those who want a Fuck Buddy! have no patience for correspondence.... they want instant gratification ....so they go very quickly .. What remains are Guys I've a strong connection with be it as Friends or Lovers.. Plus the fact I Connect with their Innerselves the 1st time they Contact me I sense their Personality and real reasons for Contacting me ..It's a fail safe method works for me and all concerned Enjoy Cheers Lu :)

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'Mrs_PeachyPear' I set my profile so that people can't see I've looked at them. All towards avoiding attention.Block button not used that often. At risk of being preemptively blocked, or just bollocked, I clicked on you because I liked reading your posts and I wanted to know more... so your cunning plan to avoid attention may have a slight flaw.Also, it would be a nice fillip for my ego if you could click on me and let me know. Just a flirt would be sufficient :_)

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Coodie - simple, direct and clever approach. I like your comments at the end - indeed it seems to me on RHP that there are a lot of men whom are their own worst enemies in Land RHP and that certainly works in the favour of others.Bathshedba - a clever and important test indeed. Intellect and humour are 2 very important criteria, I think, no matter what one's definition of them is.Polar_Grrr - I totally get the pre-emptive block. If you know, then you know and its best to remove the noise lol. Although I have no need for the block at all - maybe due to the similar lack of comms.Hesione - sounds like a good process. :)MRsPP - Comprehensive. I too tend to leave my profile viewing setting left to hidden - more to avoid unnecessary noise than anything else; especially given the differences in interpretation so often expressed by people in the forums. I dip out of this setting when I want the other person to know I have viewed them.Lu - I like the combination of screening and then sifting - Let the chaff fall by the wayside.Like the name MAdame_dragonfly too, btw. To my mind Andy, there is attention and then there's attention. Sometimes screening is used to avoid the unwanted / annoy ing attention which comes from, what i would call the "numbers games guys" - those who seem to apply the "leaflet drop approach " to contacting and send flirts and messages into every mailbox. This is opposed to the attention which one may seek and welcome from forum or chat activity - makes sense to me.Thanks for all the responses - their differences are quite interesting to me.For me, I'm not by nature much of a screener. In my assessment model I tend to look at the entire picture - I'll look at a pic if there is one first and then read at least the beginning of the profile. If i like it - i can't help but read to the end, which is the normal case for me.If I'm interested by this combination in any way, I find I will then go back to the top of the profile and double check: location, seeks and other such criteria. If it is in line with me i will then read the other bio info in the profile tabs.When something resonates or sparks, only then I will then send a flirt (still in the RHP Guesthouse at the moment, so thats the only option - think a membership is coming soon though, so that will please the RHP Coffers lol ). I'm more likely to visibly view the profile and sometimes will add to hot list - more to keep track of forum posts from writers i like, than anything else, but also to let the other person know. I'm not a big fan of the flirt options available - they may be fine as an ice breaker for members to then get to messaging contact but it seems they get way overused in leaflet drops - lol.I know that i have taken my own thread a little off topic, but hey...its just a different angle on the same subject.cheers

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ummmm nope i dont really have any screening...ill chat with anyone but just because i like to chat doesnt mean il meet and fuck your brains out so i guess i do have some sort of screening cause i dont meet everyone i chat too lol but dont ask me what it is cause it all depends on the mood im in at the time   Hugs

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  The Block button is immediately clicked when:   - When their email and profile is filled with 'u' and 'no' (meant to be know) and 'your' (supposed to be you're). I despise un-necessary abbreviations when it's emails/profile writing. You're not writing a bloody text message, make the effort! (Pedantic, I know) - The profiles where it's obviously cut and pasted from the recommended phrases (ie 'People say we're attractive but you need to judge for yourself'), or are too unoriginal (ie 'just here for fun'). - Any indication of baggage (ie no time wastes, no head cases); - All I can see in their photos (public and PG) are body parts (while I do appreciate the human body, it kind of all looks the same after a while); - When I'm asked for access to my private gallery in the first email; - When I get given a phone number in the first email; - When I get invited to their house/a one-way ticket to fly to their state in the first email; - When I get invited to a 'purely professional' erotic photo shoot (pretty original, I must admit).

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