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Rules and Regulations
October 12 2014
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
We tend follow up online contacts with an offer to meet at a swingers club or party. Why, well you never feel under pressure to play at an organised venue, where as at a private meeting you can. Discretion, no one cares about your conversations at an organised venue, unlike coffee shops etc, and swingers do have interesting conversations. Even if that meeting doesn't work out you haven't wasted the opportunity for a night out. Most of all, fakes don't want to meet at organised venues.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Having more than one face pic is a definite requirement' Some men look like different people in their pics and I'll find myself attracted to one pic, but not the others. I'd rather find out before meeting! I have several face pics in my PG myself. (ps cropped off women are a no-no for me.) Other requirements before meeting: Several messages back and forth over a few days. It helps me get a feel for them and find out if I find them interesting and respectful, if we have enough in common, if their stories match up, etc. I think I'm a pretty good screener. I'm not bothered about talking on the phone, but do need a phone number or KIK username. If a man won't give that he's unlikely to meet. It's easy to stand someone up if they have no way of reaching you beside here. Just off the top of me head, I'm sure I have more.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Picture definitely has to have no sunnies or hats, he has to be unattached and doesn't smoke........ I prefer to message a bit first, I like a guy who can hold a decent conversation on the page (when he has all the time to look up words) and be able to show a little of himself in his writings........
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always had held pics back from my profile as I didn't want this website to infringe on my profession, but came to the conclusion quite quickly that I needed to atleast be able to show off a cheeky smile to garner the attention of some ladies that probably have substance about them :) Which I should of realised from day dot because I would have expected the same when looking at a girls profile ..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Or concealed pics generally means they have something to hide IMO. I have plenty of face pics in my pg that I share with people I feel comfortable with. Oh and OP - don't fall for the 'my job is high profile and super important so I can't send a pic' line either, it's all bullshit unless you're a serving SASR member. If someone wants to find you on the Net they can and will. Corporations when they recruit people have social media experts who troll through the lot - not just Facebook. And anyway, sites like this have nowhere near the stigma they had ten years ago. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow, definitely more than one photo! If I guy got sassy about providing recent face pics, than; computer says No. And obvioulsy, I'd have to like what I see. Their profile and way of speaking is a big thing for me. I'd not take things further if I didn't like they way they expressed themselves in written form. I'd have to have to have a phone number and have had at least one phone conversation; since I'm easily turned off by someones voice. If a guy doesn't like to give out his number, even though he is keen to arrange a meet, then I'd pass. I prefer men who can host at his place, even if we never get to there. Both these two factors together I have found a great way to weed out men listed as 'single;' who are actually far from it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No thanks, rough guidelines preferred.Be flexible, painting yourself into a corner with too many rules guarantees you will miss out on some fun and interesting people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I won't even consider meeting up with a man who has an incomplete profile. For those that do, I like to see a photo and exchange a few messages to get a feel for them. I can tell a lot by not only what he says but also what he doesn't say and have found this screening method to be effective for me so far.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' No thanks, rough guidelines preferred.Be flexible, painting yourself into a corner with too many rules guarantees you will miss out on some fun and interesting people. she is a smart good looking young woman that knows what she wants. Either men will be exactly what she asks for and she will get that, after all there are ten trillion men . No woman on this site ever has to miss out. As long as you have a pulse, and even thats debatable you will get the attention of a man. Its a numbers game that simple. to the op, have your guide lines and stick to them. NO face no meeting, every woman puts herself at risk here by meeting guys. You need to have a picture of the person,and make sure if your about to meet them that they send one to your phone, and NOT the same one as on the net. Talk to them on the phone, and No just a text and never send a picture
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RHP User
11 years ago
I meant try not to send a picture unless you have met that person. Just in case its someone underage and that can happen. Time wasters, well your bound to find a few but most guys on here are pretty good, so long as you are clear, and you seem that way. Just block the others And only give a person one chance , after that he is off your list.
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RHP User
11 years ago
need to be convinced that they will be worth meeting.. I haven't met anyone since 14 the of November 1963 :-) xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't always see a pic before meeting. Had spectacular success in doing so. My rule is that you have to be able to have a written conversation with me. Have to be able to engage me on that level. I'm happy to meet someone with an attractive personality and then see if they're attractive physically. I don't have the second without the first. Other absolute rule is no married guys.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No pics usually means they have single on their status but are married or attached. Not always, I might add. At least they own up when I ask. As Tobez says, adding a face pic, with a cheeky smile like his, will gain lots more interest, its nice to see who you are exchanging messages with.
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Sassynwild1
11 years ago
I always wonder what they have to hide if they don't have a photo up. I think most people on this site have a mutual respect about being discreet!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tobez' I always had held pics back from my profile as I didn't want this website to infringe on my profession, but came to the conclusion quite quickly that I needed to atleast be able to show off a cheeky smile to garner the attention of some ladies that probably have substance about them :) Which I should of realised from day dot because I would have expected the same when looking at a girls profile .. it is such a sexy cheeky smile too
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Sassynwild1
11 years ago
Hahaha I think theres a few Tobez fans on here!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
And don't intend to be known publicly in any typical way, and I have a very small friend & family group, which is why I don't mind putting up full public pics. However, I do wonder sometimes if it can have the opposite effect regarding getting contact. I note that profiles with full, high defintion face and body pictures of women, have tended to be scammers, as the pictures aren't genuine anyway (perhaps stolen from model sites), so they have no need to hide. Not so much here, but certainly on other sites.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not everyone on this site is who they say they are, from jealous lovers to plain and simple (minded) bigots. I have something to hide. My Identity. If I was straight, I would have no problem with the face pic on the public page. If others did not lie about their status, I would not have to worry about reprisal. 99% of people are decent, its the 1% nut cases that I wish to avoid. If that means I miss out, then that is the price I regretfully must pay. At least my profile does not lie, but I am not putting anything on it that will allow someone to track me down.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I prefer guidelines that are somewhat flexible rather than rules and regulations as I generally don't like to follow other peoples rules. face pics of course and yes more than one and no sunnies or hats. Hopefully they are recent and by recent I mean within a few months. I do not consider recent to be within the last 5 years. and to those that say "I haven't changed in years" yes you have! a phone number - this actually is a deal breaker for me. If I don't get your number you get nothing from me. text messages at different times of the day and night. If someone consistently only communicates during work hours then its a no from me. I'm generally happy to move to kik pretty quickly to exchange messages there and pics or whatever but it may be a few days before I agree to meet.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We need to see recent full body and face pics before meeting....so far no resistance as we also provide same.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Got to agree with blindman , live in a small minded country town where a lot of people know me , I am a private person and will keep it that way .I have no problem sending a face pic via text to an interested person but will not put it on here . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't mind at all that some people have no pics on their profiles.Photos can be exchanged by other methods later on once communication begins. Not that I'm meeting anyone new at the moment but when I do choose to search for someone to meet, I look at age, location and relationship status first.If that seems to match what I want I then read the profile and tend to look at photos last. That said, I, like may others, am sick and tired of the constant sunglasses and caps photos.No guys, it doesn't make us think you look cool.It simply makes us think "what are they hiding?" People who refuse to send more than one clear facial photo or who will not send photos of themselves without any caps, hats, helmets or sunnies obstructing their face will not get a 2nd chance. All the pics I send to people are clear facial photos that have been taken recently and/or at least within the last 2 years and in all of them I am not wearing sunnies, caps, helmets or hats.
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rupamohan
11 years ago
Rules and regulations generally fail in one or more of these categories. I will give you picture swapping example to show subtle difference in categories. Logical rule - Generally a rule is strictly logical if it can't fit in other categories. These rules are based on diverse logical needs of individuals. E.g - We don't show pictures to unverified member unless girls have talked over phone. Note this rule is not tied to pic policy of opponent. What it means if you are verified we may pass our pictures but leave your pictures to your choice. ------------------------------------ Most other rules will fall in one or more of these categories. Trading rule - E,g- If you show yours I will show mine. Forced trading rule - E,g member will put their pic in public gallery and force you to trade... Generally to sound sweet..members will add " It is only fair if I have shown mine..". Well it is NOT fair because you are not giving the right to choose what other member is willing to trade. No one asked you to put pic in public gallery it is your choice and let others make their choice. That is called fair. Market rule - E,g -If you don't show me your picture you are out. Market rule works based on market forces. A young sexy girl can demand picture even if she is not willing to show her. Generally the excuse is I get many messages and I have to be choosy to save time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have never once asked for an image from any person on RHP. I base my decision on meeting someone entirely on conversation and prefer to not taint the personality with looks. Those that insist on seeing my images before even beginning to converse have blown their chances with me at least. If they can not connect with the mind then they are not going be good in the bed, let alone develop any level of friendship. Which is the minimum I require to even consider doing the horizontal tango. I have forgotten how bad most people are in bed, and being good or not so good looking does not seem to make any difference, for me that is.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Life experience defines and refines one's rules constantly. 1. At least 1 photo with face and build required and not negotiable. I'm not that shallow (maybe a bit) that I have changed my mind about meeting after seeing their photo but it's more a question of trust and respect. If they can't trust me in sending their photo, why should I trust them with my time and also my safety. 2. Phone number both for last minute changes and once again trust. I rarely phone but usually text to finalise details etc. And that gives them no excuse not to update me if running late or god forbid, cancel........ 3. Prior to the above, some decent messaging dialogue to weed out the duds. Despite my profile outline I still get one liner "Wanna fuck" messages. I refer them to my profile and ask them to convince me to move them to the front of the queue. Surprise, never hear back. They'd be the blow and go type. And they would say to themselves "a fucking princess". As a Wtf sidenote. Several guys have been reluctant to supply photos for whatever reason. I get that and respect their reasons. But when they realise they are not getting into my panties without one they finally email one. And lo and behold, their email has their full name and sometimes business details. Talk about being discrete. What's wrong in having it in their private album and unlocking for me. Men. And they call some woman dizzy. Lol. Glad to be female even if only in mind. Annie ( insert yellow face with sunny's on) xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
No pic = no chat. I will never converse with someone who has not supplied a photo... preferably more than the one, as a single photo is generally the hallmark of a non-genuine profile. And I will always ask for additional photos...... if Im not convinced... after conversing with someone.For the same reason, I am prepared to supply more to the 'she' were she to ask. But don't ask me for dick photos.... as refusal often disappoints, as the saying goes.You can find out about that where and when its important. My rules.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
The hard way. Every time I start thinking my preferences (note not rules and regs) are truly unrealistic (so I've been told) I lower the standard to give some poor person a chance to actually meet someone and prove my stance wrong. So far it has only reinforced why I shouldn't lower my preferences and definitely NOT my standards. Here's a revelation for you all, I don't get much action; (that's action not attentionI get plenty of that) but when I stick to my guns and my desires for what I seek and finally meet someone who ticks my boxes. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS well worth the drought in between. Is it wrong to want quality, intelligence, humour and intrinsic beauty in sexual partner(s)?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I won't talk to grey ghosts. I don't care too much about body type as long as the guys are tall, but I need to at least see someone's eyes. They tell me a lot. Blindman, yours are devious! ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Devious..mm Not sure if that is a good thing or not. Always helps to have someone you know well on the other side of the lens. Well I have been busy uploading so have a whole set of eyes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are all over the net for the taking, yes it's nice to see a photo but no big deal if the rest of the profile is enticing/interesting. If you are really suspicious ask for a Skype. The fakes and frauds just evaporate. I've met some great people with no photo, helped by lesser competition perhaps ?
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