Prude or Open Minded???

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Sex was never talked about in my house growing up... so I was/am kind of prudish. I'm very open minded, sexually... but have difficulty talking about sex, and about what I want. That's changing as I get older, but it's a very slow process.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I consider myself to be very open minded - can and will talk about anything. I grew up in a very close open family. I too was given 'the talk' at a very early age and still do dicuss these topics with many members of my family - not just immediate but extended. My family, friends and work colleagues all know that if they dont want to knnow the answer dont ask the question. On the flip side they also know if the want to know something and dont feel comfortable asking anyone else I am always there willing to talk about things with them. Whereas I have a friend who you would consider to be very prudish. She was exposed to my family quite a lot yet the environment in which she grew up was very closed about sex and anything related to it - so closed in fact that if she wanted to know anything she would ask my mum. My mum was the one who gave her 'the talk'. I believe that it really does depend on the environmment you grow up in which helps shape your thoughts and beliefs. Kisses Focus

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  My mother's idea of sex education was to tell my sister and I at ages 11 and 9 "when you get your period, don't mess around with boys" meanwhile WTF was a period? At 9 I sure didn't know. Around 17 I told her I'd lost my virginity and she told me not to be ridiculous (obvioulsy she was hanging tight to the dream of pure catholic girls). I am pretty broad minded now and I think its because I escaped the narrow confines of the place I grew up in and started wandering. Living in NZ was great because I found Kiwis far more open minded about a whole lot of things, including sex. I think environment we grew up in has a huge impact on how we think and behave as does our own curiosity. We can remain narrow minded and limit ourselves, or we can be curious and expand our experience and thinking. Cheers WTG

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  My family was prudish (amazing considering mum was pregnant at 17 and had to get married), and I grew up thinking sex was only something to be done within marriage. Heck the popular boy sat behind myself and a friend in school and chanted that we were the not the kind of girls you fooled around with, we were the kind you married. At our 25th school reunion last November I happily told him how wrong he was about me - I have never been married, and I fool around...well, I won't say how often! Losing my virginity was a bad experience for me, it was not something I chose and I had wanted to keep it for someone special. It was a few years after that when I realised how much fun sex was meant to be, and it has been ever since. The open-mindedness I now approach sex with will be shared by my daughter, as I have started to talk to her about how much fun it can be. I have also warned her to wait until she is ready, never be pushed into it, and to share her first time with someone special. I only hope the openness I have fostered remains with her for her life, and that she feels comfortable bringing her problems to a mother who will always be there for her. xxILTS

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  This feels like the classic Nurture Vs Nature contemplation. How much of our sexuality is deduced from the way we were brought up, the places we lived, the people we know and who we are genetically?

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