Poly Amorous

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Leesa brian and the new one seem to be all comfortable with it.. (sorry for not remembering his name!) and did you name yourself after the devine chockies????

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Oh come on guys i thought you loved me.We could get a pre-nuptual agreement.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  hey lady godiva, well, i'm all for poly relationships! in fact, until recently i was part of one that for all intents and purposes looked like it would work, until the boy had an attack of jealousy. i'm very bi, and love the idea of falling for both genders and everything that such a relatonship has to offer. for some reason, i was born wthout the jealousy gene and can think of nothing more wonderful ;). i work in mental health care, and i firmly believe that these kinds of poly relationships are the way of the future. we all know that life expectancies are increasing and so are divorce rates at approximately the same pace. i for one am there with bells on ;) xx

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  The idea of getting very close to a third (or fourth) person sounds all nice and warm and fuzzy. The poly websites out there all make it sound great and I am sure that for some people it is. I admire Leesa, Bryan and John. They have a great set up and I think they really have it together. We are not totally opposed to entering into a similar arrangement with the right person (or people) but they would have to be VERY special people. When we meet people here we are not looking for that kind of relationship. But our main rule is 'Never say Never'. One of the joys of playing is being able to have great sex and no baggage. Once there is a relationship then that becomes harder to achieve. We really like the idea of meeting some nice people having a couple of drinks, a chat, maybe even some dinner then fucking each other's brains out without worrying about who didn't feed the cat last night and who did their share of the housework last week. At the end of the night we all say "That was great, thanks very much" and then off we go until next time. Simple, relaxing, easy. No need to do a whole lot of relationship maintenance like buying flowers and remembering their Grandmother's birthday.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  that would be Leesa, Brain and John, newby...lol but yeah they seem to make it happen and all be happy with it but personally its not something id go looking for...too many people, too much hassle i like life easy...but then i guess those doing it probably think its easy...i dont know good luck though if thats what you want roxxy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Yes it can work,but its always harder for number one,ie the female that was your first partner.We have all been together for two years and still have ups and downs ,same as any other couple.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It sounds like a wonderful idea. I think jealousy could become the biggest issue. There is absolutely no reason why a person canot love one, two, three or more people at the same time and in the same way. Love has never been as exclusive thing. I see it as all encompassing. There is always room in the heart to love one more person and the amount of love you give to one person never detracts from the amount of love you have for another. There is nothing to stop people from going polyamorous except themselves otherwise all the cultures out there that have more than one wife would not exist. I dont think I would be able to have that kind of relationship.....to fond of having my own kitchen.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  i'm a great fan of the POSSIBILITY of polyamory - like most kinds of "advanced" relationship (outside the norm), it's not for everyone, and takes extra commitment, communication and honesty to make it work. i've seen some work enormously well, and some fail - just like any other kind of relationship. the greatest difference that i see between a polyamorous relationship and an open marriage, is that the latter recognises the "primary" relationship first and foremost - other stuff is just sex and friendship. a polyamorous situation has more than one loving bond which should be treated as equally important/valid and which, although the metaphor is a little socially inappropriate, is thus very much open to the same kinds of things that come up with having more than one child/sibling. there is the same potential for "playing favourites" real or imagined, and, in any group situation, you'll have alphas and followers, etc. sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. the wonderful advantage that we have over cultures that have multiple wife scenarios, is the different power structures available for us to choose from - especially in kinky poly situations where there is a Dom/sub component. or an equal three- or foursome. or an open multi-couple arrangement. the variations are endless. but the cons are really well outlined by Lord and Lady above. poly versus open relationships LOOK the same from the outside, but really are massively different. as different as being a single person with a friend with benefits, versus being in a fullblown relationship together. very, very different in terms of emotional cost, maintenance and, also, the very considerable question of how to fit it into 'real life'. family christmas. children. financial arrangements. living arrangements. etc. for me personally? i wouldn't rule it out. i'm certainly a big fan of open relationships, and being able to lose that massive "make sure you keep it physical only" elephant in the corner that looms over all your dalliances outside the primary relationship (no offence intended, i'm sure i could have described it better but you know what i mean!) to allow love or friendship or whatever to happen naturally with whomever else enters your lives... well, it could be an absolute pleasure for all concerned. IF everyone's on the same page.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It's dead set easy to fall in love. Before you know it.. you're hooked. Really, the only apprehensive part is taking the enormous step of making the recognition. Well, for some people at least, I guess are more amorous than others. I should say that it's not your fault if the love of your life does not share, or recognise, the same capability in themselves. Isnt life mysterious!HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Loving two people is something that can happen very easily, it is the happily every after that is difficult . It can be very difficult to let one go. LC

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We have been talking it over and we seem to have come to a conclusion that the general problem is the way we are programmed to see the world when we are kids.a relationship is somethign 2 people have. Sex outside the relationship is 'OK' as this is basically an 'Affair' there is no relating to the other person so it does not matter.we are still at a loss to see why people who use sites like this one generally still have the old fashioned relationship viewpoint.Oh Well. Thanks guys for the discussion.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  YAY i think i would buy this product and indorse it as i have had one before and recomend it.WARNING experianced riders only,this machine is for closed circut racing.But its a lot of fun,wait,you can fuck up real easy.Slow down to speed up, cause now you have to pay attention to both and its a balancing act of emotions.Heartbreak oh fuck thats a part of life, embrace it, and live well its the best revenge. Detonator

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