M52 F49

Once bitten, twice shy.

July 19 2010

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.Good words to remember. Unfortunately, we had to re-learn them the hard way.Over the past couple of weeks, Mrs. S. and I were chatting to an individual over email and sms and we thought that we had made a connection for some fun and frivolity. This person seemed the genuine article so we shared photos and even had some very dirty MSN chats. All light hearted and fun, nothing too serious because this person also lived in another state.We didn't see this as a problem. I travel regularly for work all around Aust and OS and Mrs S is known to meet me on the weekends as she only works during the week and has a weakness for shopping (as do most women ) so meeting up was not a problem.Events transpired and this individual told us that they would be coming to our neck of the woods for a couple of weeks and we should meet up over the weekend for some NSA fun and debauchery. This opportunity excited us to no end and so we planned a fantastic little W/E together. I said Mrs. S works during the week so her weekends are pretty much free but I'm in the middle of some pretty big projects and so I had to re-shuffle a lot to free up time and kick some friends out of our holiday house so we could have some fun.The date that she would arrive came and we started to get very excited. I had given her my mobile number to call when she got to Sydney so we could plan where and when we would meet but no call, nothing. I send her an email. Nothing. She's online on MSN so I send a chat request. She goes offline. WTF!?! The whole week, not a peep and she's supposed to be here for another week.The funny thing is, I can even now, see her online here on the site. I know that she's read our emails because if you look at your Sent Items, it says if someone reads it or not. Her profile pic on MSN keeps changing so I know she's chatting with someone(s). So, she's here in Sydney, supposedly. Not answering our emails, not answering our MSN, not even calling us. Nothing. Not even an explanation or an excuse why she's all of a sudden stopped talking.I smell a rat.I've got a pretty thick skin and an "Oh well" attitude. I tend to forgive but I never forget. Mrs S, on the other hand, wears her heart on her sleeve and has taken the rejection badly. She's been moping around the house the whole weekend.When she gets hurt I get angry.I'm not the sort to go for retribution in a big way. I'm not going to publicly out this person here. I'm not that ignorant to think I would be able to do that and not have the Op's breathing down my neck. Hell, even POSTING this is getting a little close to the line.What I am going to do is report this person and warn anyone who is already on their friend list.With hindsight being 20/20, we should have seen the warning signs. No profile pic, giving some lame excuse why they can't cam, a lot of the pics having no face, not wanting to talk on the phone, etc, etc, etc.Obvious NOW but not then. Live and learn, I suppose and, because of this, I am now going to add a couple of rules to our emails and our profile all because of this one person. We will now no longer share ANY of our pics without talking on the phone, camming on MSN/RHP or meeting up first. No way, no how.We're not that desperate for a girl to have fun with as we have a VERY satisfying sex life so if you don't like it, we don't care.We are NOT going to be fooled again.One VERY angry Mr S.

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2more4fun

15 years ago

Sorry to hear you got the run around but I'm pretty sure every couple (and single) has had one of those experiences early on in the piece. Don't stay too angry. That's just going to stop you from moving on to meet the genuine people out there in the world. I'm sure you now know what to look out for next time.We have some basic rules these days:If someone contacts us, we ask them to photo verify themselves on RHP or provide us with a mobile phone number which I (the F) can call to talk to the other F. We don't even bother with MSN or cams anymore. I get that MSN is a useful means of getting to know people who may live far apart but I wouldn't waste time on it unless you have fully ascertained that everything is kosher.We appreciate that people travel but we also have a rule to only engage in concrete conversation with interstate people if they have a travel profile up or they can provide actual dates that they are visiting and roughly where they are staying. We get the occasional interstate people messaging and saying "We're looking at visiting Perth some time this year so maybe we can chat and swap pics until then?" NO!! We're very polite mind you and happily exchange quick hellos to people who care to write to us but that's about it.All the best for your next fun adventure!

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RHP User

15 years ago

i think weve all had our share of fakes and pic collectors on here, it sux but its the sad truth

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RHP User

15 years ago

My wife and I were on here as a couple for a few years... had exactly the same problem with fakes. Even though you learn to spot them you still can get caught out from time to time because you can be naturally trusting (and hopeful lol). Don't let one bad experience it ruin it for you, I can understand your current anger but it'll pass and if you make it too restrictive on your profile for people to contact you then you might miss out on what could be a great time! Chalk this one up to experience and be a little more cautious. Hope your next planned meet works out better :)

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Bubbaj

15 years ago

i think also the other side....meeting ppl who are completely the opposite to u and scare u....hence the no meets mayb? once bitten twice shy in another sense :)

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'Bubbaj' i think also the other side....meeting ppl who are completely the opposite to u and scare u....hence the no meets mayb? once bitten twice shy in another sense :) We would understand that if we actually had met, Buddaj but the fact of the matter is that she was the one that insisted we meet. Every time we spoke to her, she always mentioned how much she was looking forward to seeing us ( and VERY explicitly). That's what has us the both of us confused, Mrs S. sad and me upset. Mr S. xxx

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