F65
Not complaining just making an observation
November 10 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
many times over in here now........It seems that for some guys, all the trill is in the chase and conquest....Sad, really, but it seems that when they achieved their objective, all interests is moved somewhere else.Don't quite understand it myself, How can a chase and conquest give you a bigger trill than a good connection and regular or occasional play......For me the trill is in the play, the exploring, the discovering, the connection, the stimulation of mind and body....But each to their own I guess.......Good luck next time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's the thrill of the chase. Their whole game plan is to catch, fuck then release. Unfortunately a lot of these guys don't spend as much time or care in the sack so it can be disappointing. Not sure if women are the same?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wouldnt we all ???????? (ladies, that is) No your not expecting too much ...........................hang on.....yeah, you are....Sorry Hey Im in the same boat............................and its even worse over here in WA , where the FIFO (locally knowns as Fly in - Fly Out Fucks) mindset totally dominates all and sundry - and trust me these guys are all cashed up lads wanting a week of NSA and that is it !!! a week at home and a few nites around at your place is commitment for them !! And for quite a few ladies, well this lifestyle/situation suits them and Im not knocking these ladies in the least..more power to them I say.....but it is what it is Is this behavior that you state gender specific ? No - it can work in reverse, however ( not male bashing here) from my own experience, many guys are addicted to the simple thrill of the chase (have been since the dawn of time) and the whole messaging, texting of this day and age is a cheap, convenient, portable way of "wooing a woman" whilst meanwhile his paying his electricity bill and playing "Words with Friends" on his Iphone no 19 Men have and always will love to do the whole chasing thing - and its easier now with a few hot and heavy juicy promises made via sms..of what his tongue is gonna do to you and for you, the best you will ever have etc etc ... ...gets the ladies all excited and.. bang their legs are open, willing and wanting and expectations lowered...(for a while at least) No longer does he have to buy you a couple of drinks down the pub and ask you about how your day at work was, are you still studying your graphic design course at Tafe ?, did you see that episode of "The Big Bang Theory" the other nite on TV and you have a good laugh about it - inane chat ....its now, in and out and shake it all about !!! I love men I adore men...Im not having a shot at them.......but sadly the majority of guys operate this way and guess what ? , we dont make it any harder for them either...we are our own worse enemy.......................and as to why we "cave" in at the drop of the hat, at their sexy smsing ...... well each lady has their own reason for doing so............and if know anything for certain...its this..that if a guy really wants you and wants to be with you, he will move heaven and earth to do But perhaps it comes down to a simple philisopy ...be very clear on what YOU want If your going to do the horizontal hoochie..be very clear rite from the word go...that more than likely a hoookup will be a one niter (get your head and heart around that concept first ) and if in the next day or two (we all have our own time line) you dont hear from him in any shape or form ( cause apparently his fingers are now broken from all the said texting he did with you) .........................its just so plain and simple.............. He was in you (jiggling it back and forwards) but the reality is that he just wasnt into you !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
but different, some females do play out a similar scenario except neither you nor them get laid !It's all go go go until put up time and then we are left starring into a vacuum, at least you got laid.It's the thrill of being chased.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have the same problem. My profile is quite specific about wanting something ongoing and I always discuss this with the guy, however, it seems there is always an element of the thrill of the chase. I find it very hard to find ongoing friends with benefits. For me I need that ongoing connection with someone.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Its because these men and have cast a wide net. I have done it myself. I am not proud of it but when you are a single male and circulating this happens and men follow the path that they fancy the most. Unfortunately this happens. Dont feel bad about it. Women can be exactly the same and that also has happened to me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think we should not expect anything. Can it be we women are the same? U meet someone with great expectation and then even he is so nice and all it just not right. So what do u do? I mean every attempt to say No is the wrong answer really. U will be the bad one. Yes you talk, chat for weeks and you think yaaa this one fits nicely and then it isnt. So what to do. I think we all pretend then it was OK. I was with someone two weeks ago and he made me feel so much it was so hard to let this one go. I think when I could have I would have locked him in and throw the key away. I couldnt stop kissing or touching him. I most likely scared him shitless. So, I havnt heard from him....only when I say hi. So I stopped after two days to say hi. How else can he say NOO. Then another one, I am saying no to. Its just what it is. We cant predict attraction or none attraction. I find it difficult to say no thank u not for me I dont want a second time, should one ask me. So see it is sometimes better we dont contact the person again. I know its chickening out, I know call me chicken I take it. But its just it. And dont forget please on what site we are. Cheers Litonya
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RHP User
13 years ago
we just have to live in the moment expect nothing more...x R
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RHP User
13 years ago
The chase, the conquest and then the fulfilment of the investment I've put into things. But there is one thing that I do truly enjoy, and that is a continuing experience. The more times you play in my mind, the more comfortable I become, the more adventurous I become, and the sex just gets better as well. I would love to meet someone on a regular basis or at least a continuing basis. Friendship with all the benefits are just awesome.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Both men and women enjoy the thrill of the chase, it's only human nature. Sex sites like this and others throw that all out of proportion based on sheer numbers alone empowering the women to perhaps seem like they don't enjoy it every bit as much as men do. It happens all the time on the other side of the screens just as frequently too. Why in the world would a woman rock up to the grocery store after putting on make-up, tight gym shorts and a scanty little top then spend way too much time in shopping in the frozen foods section of the store on a hot day? Sure, they can wear whatever they like but damn if it doesn't seem to me that they aren't hoping to be noticed. Same thing happens when you're out for a night on the town and wake up the next morning with someone you met the night before. The thrill of the chase and the hunter becomes the hunted, it just works that way. Disappointment or attitude only happens when expectations aren't met so talk about them first or put them clearly down in your profile first. The other thing that is so totally human is waiting for approval to confirm that the sex was 'that great' and you enjoyed being with each other. That can be an awkward moment of truth for both and there is no rule that says it's the man that has to make the first call after both of you have enjoyed the thrill of the chase and the rapture of the capture. Give it a try, things are not always as they seem. Both men and women should be able to talk freely then content in the outcome either way.
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Smilingwithfun
13 years ago
Perhaps given the responses from the men to this post that my suggestion is that women only date men who post. We seem to care,share,think & best of all, communicate. Just a thought
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RHP User
13 years ago
An FWB is different to a fuck buddy as the emphasis in the relationship is on the friendship not the fucking. There has to be more to it than availability. Jennylee has a few fuck buddies, ie persons available for nsa sex but, as yet, no-one that she (or preferably we) can hang out with, socialise with and occasionaly satiate her/their/our lusts with. Our only FWB has been a lovely woman who we spent a great deal of time with but only occasionally played with. She would do anything for us and we would do anything for her. We still feel the same. It's only the physical side of the relationship that ended when she found a new man who isn't a player. We go out with them both socialy and enjoy their company. We would love to find something like this again but it is rare. The fuck buddy is an easier find but not as satisfying. Quite a few people prefer to keep their sex life and personal life seperate and are uncomfortable with the FWB relationship. These people prefer the casual hook ups. Different strokes...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm not saying this to sound good to any women, I'm say this his because its the (my) truth.I HATE the chase. I love the time after the first month or so.I have, again oddly, fear of success. I can handle rejection easier than acceptance. But I do know I have this, and I get over it. I actually want a ongoing relationship, but with an open minded, sexually imaginative woman. My last relationship was very loving but sexless and so I have a fair amount of catching up to do!
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RHP User
13 years ago
2nd and third time is best, then sometimes its time to move on
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RHP User
13 years ago
mayb, just mayb he didnt think the sex was as great as u did???? and thats why he hasnt been in touch....i have been on the other end i didnt wantto see them again as i thought the sex was average where as he thought it was great...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' Perhaps given the responses from the men to this post that my suggestion is that women only date men who post. We seem to care,share,think & best of all, communicate. Just a thought No way mate, I'm just here for the forums !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'slinkey' 2nd and third time is best, then sometimes its time to move on Nailed it girl !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ok yes I am a guy and the thrill of the chase can be fun at times, but for me it does wear off after a while and I just accept that there is no genuine interest from the other party. But I do enjoy the feeling of anticipation of what will come from meeting a person. As for catching the prize so to speak and then not wanting to go back for more and just leaving it there. Well unless I didn't enjoy it , I certainly would be asking for more (more please) Sadly I have come across quite a few ladies on this site that do just the same as the males mentioned here. Mmmmm maybe I should have been a female lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
i wish i could find a regular fuck buddy... :(
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'It's the thrill of the chase. Their whole game plan is to catch, fuck then release. Unfortunately a lot of these guys don't spend as much time or care in the sack so it can be disappointing. Not sure if women are the same? I am the female version, and I disapoint myself all the darn time if only I did not cum so fast, I try to hold back but I am puffed from the chase so have to get it over and done with before my heart gives out. Yes I catch and release, but some just keep swimming back to the lil boat with the man in it those are the little fishes that get better and better every time I catch em
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi to everyoneThese people are just players with no real interest other than themselves and there own gratifiction and maybe even a bit of attitude i can nail any chick i want.Regular ongoing sex partner is very hard to find especially if you are already in a relationship i ammarried but unlike most my wife knows i am here she is my security when i go to meet people. Me being on here saved my marriage but i have noticed a lot of woman looking for a regular partner rule themselves out by only wanting unattached people which would suggest to me they are looking to form some sort of relationship or more i could be wrong and probably amCheers Steve
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