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Multiple fwb's
February 11 2018
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
I'm upfront with my fwbs. They know I'm not exclusive but beyond that l feel there isn't any reason to go into details such as who, when and how. Unless they ask.But l don't employ the same rights for FBs. Different relationship dynamics. FB doesn't have the word Friend in it.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
I find it too hard to have more than 1 FWB. I’m a terrible juggler and drop the balls. I did do it in the past but I find it emotionally taxing. I’ve told them I’m not exclusive and they are free to be the same. But I don’t provide details and I don’t want to hear theirs. I know it comes from a place of honesty to be open but sometimes I’d rather not know. The more I like them the less I want to hear. I think most men I’ve been ongoing with are the same. They do say they are fine with it ,but usually they aren’t keen to know more. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
If I meet a woman on this site or similar I would assume I am not the only one unless told otherwise. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
EarthQueen...more than one can be exhausting. When I have had one, I barely have time for meeting them, let alone multiples!And I too don't want or need to know details.
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Seachange73
8 years ago
I hold a similar view as Annie. I have three regular fwbs. One long term and the other two recent-ish. It works well. I'm friends with them. They know I'm not exclusive from the very start but we don't reveal details of the others. It would be disrespectful of the others' privacy. I also don't want to know about their fwbs. But I know my long term fwb is seeing me only despite the fact I encourage him to see others. He says I'm enough as he is so strapped for time to search for anyone else. With my fwbs, they each offer different things and are quite unique smart individuals so I experience different things. We love to chat about things, movies, life etc. We can go on lunch, drinks, dinner dates or check out Melbourne laneways haunts, do activities like a coastal break and hike or skiing trips. One is an young electrician so he comes around and fixes my lighting sometimes when he comes to dinner. No, not a euphemism for something. 😜 Multiple fwbs are the way to go for me as that ensures I do not get emotionally too involved with one. Been there before ans that ended up in one party getting more serious than the other.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...you have discussed the "FWB" status and agreed that you are both happy to be exclusive. Bonus if you do have that deeper sort of mental, emotional and physical connection. I've lots of friends in all walks of life and it's not a prerequisite to have all three. That said, most folks here aren't flying the flag supporting monogamy or raising money for the International Virgin Society. 🙃😉⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As you say depends on the situation. I would prefer to have just the one as I am deep down a romantic and this does seem to affect this. Not looking for the full time relationship as I am a bloody handful with my massive energy levels, especially when very happy and content. Just someone I connect with would be nice. I believe in complete honesty the old slap me with the truth but please don't kick the shit out of me with a lie. So I am happy for them to tell me there are others and would prefer they do so but no details please. And like country I am completely aware it is possible on here. Though I would have to broach the subject carefully or wait for them to ask myself as I see it as the gentlemanly way to be besides, I don't meet too many as open and honest about everything as I am. In one of my passed incarnations here I was told by a lass that she had a few FWB's as she needed this to separate and deal with the deep feelings that may come. And wasn't wanting commitment Interesting topic OP and no doubt one that will have many a differing opinion and experiences.
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sweetgem
8 years ago
One FWB at a time for me. I love having some free time to myself to do other things too on my days off work. Like any types of relationship, honesty and rules must be discussed and agreed with prior to entering the FWB relationship, in order to build and gain trust for each other. I am not naive to think that a man I meet on RHP would be exclusive to me, even if he tells me so. It is the man’s choice to choose and I will respect his choice, as long as he doesn’t do the double standards of expecting me to be exclusive to him while he’s seeing other women at the same time! And no, I do not want to know any details about who else he’s chatting to and/or seeing, that is his business and privacy. Recently, I started seeing the benefits of having a non-committed companionship, aka FWB, as it will make certain things easier for me such as, travelling. I can just book a flight and hop on the plane and go, instead of checking to see if he would want to come along and if he does, need to work around his schedules as well as mine. Too much headache in my opinion 😄 perhaps this is the “side effect” of being single for too long 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
One at a time kind of girl. LC.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
If they're friends with benefits that's where it stays ? They don't need to know anymore than they already do . After all , it's not as if you're a item when your only there to scratch each other's itch ? I wouldn't back away if asked , just don't think it's nessasary ... Jay
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RHP User
8 years ago
That way I know not to bother with them - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I once had about 5 regular fb's who looked after me very well. They were all not only aware I was very active, they were turned on by it and much of our conversation was about sex/sexual experiences, ina generic way of course, never any identities revealed, I was turned on hearing about their encounters as much as they were mine. But I never revealed how many or when etc. When I was engaging with them, whether in person or on the phone, I was theirs, never thinking about anyone else. That's the key thing. I've been with guys texting their next fuck and that is an instant turnoff. I once had one of those guys contact me to meet one day. I was honest and told him I'd just been with another guy, he didn't care, was turned on by sloppy seconds lol knew though that I came out of an encounter even hornier, wanting more. So we met and had an amazing encounter with him, all good. That was a great day. Cheshire cat that day 😁
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RHP User
8 years ago
im the past tense because I'm not doing hookups or fb stuff atm fun times though, will resume hopefully if my future number 1 is up for bringing in extras
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RHP User
8 years ago
5 going at once.......you are Wonder Woman. LC. 😉
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bonefide
8 years ago
If they're friends with benefits that's where it stays Having many friends on same wave length is fantastic, but only need one, to develop your naked cardio together. Fun in the sun, and satisfaction in the shade. When, were, who, and how u do it, is your buisness. Being upfront with your fwb, is as Annie mentioned, very important. EarthQueen comment most are happy with it. Touch your endeavour's are of the highest standards. LOL open honest communication isn't new or rocket science, or is it😨
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RHP User
8 years ago
...one man (FWB) woman. 😊 I have self- imposed and self-regulated codes to live by. ☺ I choose to exercise mindfulness in my relationships with others too and I don't want to muck around with the wrong vibes.
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RHP User
8 years ago
BEst to be honest and tell people that you are seeing other people. That way there is no confusion over exclusivity. In the past I have introduced the FWB’s (who admittedly were very casual relationships) to each other. We would go to swingers clubs together and they would stay at my place. Sometimes we would make a weekend of it. That is men and other girls that were into the scene.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’m a bit of sharer when it comes to casual relationships. Group flirting and play. What fun. But I am happy to just go with my one BF... group fun is great but I don’t need it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My hormones went stupid, fully aroused all day and night, impossible to explain what it was like but I needed daily attention lol 😁
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RHP User
8 years ago
Most of mine weren't single, I didn't care. They were all different, I never compared one to the other. I consider myself very lucky to have ever met them. That little exclusive group continued for up to 2 years. 2 are still on my radar and the offer is there but this far along, I've chosen to keep the memories and move forward
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like to know if I’m going to be part of some kind of bacterial infested Harem or not... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Out of respect I tell them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Agreed, if more than one, they all might just get along well together ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
When one is single, I believe its healthy to put ones self out there. The more people one goes out with/dates (what ever) , the more they get to hone in one those relationship skills and what they exactly want. The more diverse the people are, the more likely one gets to know exactly what type of personality etc suits them the best. There's many types of relationships, the trick is choosing the right one. It's best to be open and honest with yourself first before onyone else. Sometimes, the revolving door, needs a good clean up. 😊 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just did some reading up on why some erect penis get so red. I expected to read about blood circulation and all that. Alongside articles about that were articles on male yeast infections. 😦 Yipers... The images are haunting. And of course it leads to worse and worse images on STDs. 😨😖 I recall making a comment about multiple sex partners and human Petri dishes germinating all manner of STD cocktails before and I quickly became much hated for it. 🤣😛 But it's pretty true in reality. The condom may protect against STDs, but it doesn't protect against contagious dermatological diseases. Anyway, we sleep in the bed we make. If we take the risks, we'd better be prepared to bear the consequences. 😛 OK...back to your harem! 😁😁😁 You were surrounded by many doting females during the M&G. 😁
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RHP User
8 years ago
Boys do get insecure sometimes. 😲😁 Plus... Ive had up to 7. I must admit I was root rat and I was really just masking other issues going on in my life. Yeah yeah my RHP mates use to think I was hopeless too. 😂😂 Come to think of it many of us had the the same FWB's too. We just cared and shared. 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
... except identifying details of the other people, but usually people don't ask and honestly if they wanted to know too many details I'd find it a bit strange. For instance if they wanted to know who I preferred I'd see that as an indication of insecurity maybe unless they prefaced the question properly with an explanation as to why they wanted to know... Not sure what that explanation might be though... - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
8 years ago
Yep exzachary LOL A fine accurate statement young Foxy
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bonefide
8 years ago
Ive had up to 7. So your saying, your cardio work out system was top quality, and your felt alive and invigorated. sounds fine too me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I did take breaks 😜 in between drinks. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That’s a bit exaggerated....I think it was 2 to be honest.... And they were hardly doting lol they, like I was, were merely enjoying the conversation, nothing more than that.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
...that the "most" true FWB relationships I've been in have very happily been exclusive. Some about that body, mind and soul connection that I like better'n chocolate. That's....a lot!!! 🌩⚡️😃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
With both of my lady friends we had the discussion at the outset and the subject has never arisen again.
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bonefide
8 years ago
Glad to see u are on top of it and recovery breaks, along with hydration, which is important. Well done young lady.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I see a few only because I don’t wanna get attached if i only see one. It will just be me obsessing about him which i don’t like doing even if i try not to. Haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Some can handle it. I feel if there is going to be a continuing friendship then honesty is always the best policy. Unless of course you are being dishonest for a reason and playing on the side. Secrets only get you into trouble.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have multiple lovers, friends with benefits at different stages of development Some I’ve seen for years regularly, others I see maybe once every few months, some are new and we are in the getting to know each other stage. I’m openly non-monogamous, go to parties and play with others. I found the community and lifestyle open and respectful plus wonderfully hedonistic. I’m not one for fuck buddies or hook ups. All the men (for the moment) I’m with I consider people I like and respect. We don’t share intimate details with each other, however some of them know one another from the scene and that is completely open and accepted. If there’s issues we talk it out.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have multiple...... my sex drive is high. One guy will never be enough. Even if I ever commit to one, it will be an open relationship always. Sometimes it’s hard to keep up. But none of my guys seem to have that problem 😉 and I do love the different dynamics of each FWB. He isn’t in to that kink? Fine, He is, that’s what I feel like tonight.... everyone of them is different and appeals to me on a different level. But yes, a FWB is exactly that. A friend. No commitment. No promises. No expectations. Of course there are other guys.... unless you put a ring on it, and even then there isn’t any guarantee with some people lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
Atm I'm a 1 at a time FWB but I do find that I'm getting too emotionally invested because i've only got 1. I have seriously considered adding another 1 or 2 but its hard when you don't have a great deal of time. I just get annoyed when he says I'm the only one but I know he is seeing others, I don't want to know the ins and out or even how many, but I wish that he would just be open about it. As I've told him i'm ok with it.
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Mctag9
7 years ago
They all know each other and sometimes we all play together and they have other partners, we only play safe and get turned on hearing about each others adventures.... :) We are always looking for more to join us especially ladies but the hardest is getting sane, reliable and discreet guys....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'The_Antichrist' I like to know if I’m going to be part of some kind of bacterial infested Harem or not... But seriously, if I'm going to have unprotected oral sex, I'd like to be able to make an informed decision.Also, being upfront about having different partners deals with any expectations of monogamy or exclusivity. I would never share details of my trysts with my lovers though, as I'd respect their privacy (and egos *cough*).
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