Meeting single ladies.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  ok i know id never be in this situation but il give my oipinon anyway i agree with sweetie i think the single needs to see both but spend time getting to know the girl abit before the bloke but the bloke needs to be there to me there wouldnt be any use getting to know the woman away from the man and then thinking "yep il play with her she is great" for then to meet the bloke later and think "ewwww hell noooo"....to me thats a waste of my time and yours but then im a get in there, do my thing and get out girl i definately like a girl to talk...about anything...i think id be iffy if she didnt, id probably think she wasnt interested but thats only because most women can chat the balls off a bull but if its not her thing it not her thing you cant force someone to talk have fun and stay safe roxxy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If Sal is sitting back and is more quiet on first meeting it could be coming across as disinterest. It may be construed that she is only doing this to keep the male part of the couple happy. That would be my first impression anyway. As for what happened...you said it yourself...there was no sexual chemistry.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Fiona Bee, I am aware that I may come across like this and often it is not the case. Andy also always feels the need to fill in any silent moments with talk and therefore can end up dominating a conversation and saying too much (giving away far more secrets than I would) lol. I tend to agree with Sweetiepie and think that maybe that opportunity for the girls to bond is a great idea as the best experiences we have had have been when this happened, but thought it would be good to get the opinion of the single fems out there. One woman chatting online with us last night told us that meeting a couple for the first time often feels like an interview and can be quite intimidating. What you suggest about Andy being around is probably a good idea too because we have come across women who think he is only interested in the sex and does not want to make any effort if he is not around, and that is just not the case. xx Salina

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi Salina & Andy, Meeting a couple as a single lady can be very intimidating. At least when you meet one on one you feel that you are both playing on a level playing field, meaning you are both nervous, etc. But when it is just me and a couple I feel a little on the back foot because you obviously are more comfortable because you are together. . Sorry I am crap at trying to explain this so early on a Sunday morning, but yes meeting one on one the first time with one of you would be easier. Up to the single lady which one she would like to meet first. Then a couple meeting afterwards if all goes well. . xx Meeka

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I like to meet both of them together socially first...I like to see how they interact as a couple...their mannerisms..if one finishes the others sentences...amount of physical contact between them...basically because I have had some bad experiences with couples where one or the other is just doing it to keep the other happy and in some of these situations they are doing it to 'save' the marriage...when I play with couples I like to know that I am playing with a couple who are secure within themselves and that my inclusion is not going to cause dramas... . I understand that people can be shy, nervous..hence why i like to watch the physical reactions of both involved at the one time, that says more to me about the couple than words being said . Also by meeting both I am only wasting some of each others time if there is no physical attraction for me for one or the other member of the couple...I wont play with a couple just to get into his or hers pants...we all need to be comfortable and its obvious if one of the three is only there for one of the others and not both . make sense? . Kisses Focus

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Maybe you are a little different but you are spot on. You have the wisdom of Solomon

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have been in both situations. Sometimes the man has been the talker and the sometimes the woman. Generally I prefer talkative, intellectual men. I need that part for the sparks to fly. I don't mind if the woman is quiet. I'm generally not looking for another female friend, just someone whose husband I can play with. It does feel a little awkward hanging around with the female after I've enjoyed her hubby but that's just a mind over matter thing. Generally I find the men I play with I"m quite different to their partners and I understand that's part of the attraction for them. We are all looking for something to fulfill some sort of fantasy. Perhaps it's because I generally don't play with the woman that I don't consider how much she talks to be important. I do find her attractiveness to be important and also her body language. I like a friendly smile, good breasts and a nice body. I don't mind women playing with me, I'm just not that into playing with them. As long as they give me "permission" to play with hubby then that's all I need. Cheers, Miss Saturn

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I'm not sure if this helps but generally I have to feel like i can get along with the woman and the man is less important - not in the sense of the actual sex but when it comes to feeling out the situation beforehand. If i'm trying to talk to the woman and it seems like she just isn't interested i'd probably back out too. I get really intimidated by women because i can't really pick up on subtext so unless she seems like she would be able to get along with me i'm not going to be into it. That being said, i will usually direct questions to the quieter partner regardless of whether it's the man or the woman when we're all speaking together and try to keep them included/involved in the conversation. I would prefer to meet them both together rather than separately to see how they interact with each other but once i've talked to them both for a little bit it's ideal if he will go and get a drink or whatever so i can have a minute or two to talk to the girl on her own and if necessary i will ask her if there's anything she wants to know or say while he's not there.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have been doing all the searching for a single lady to join us tomorrow night... the problem is we are very inexperienced and we have decided we don't want to go through the rest of our lives wondering what it would be like to have a threesome. We are an unusual couple.... we are not married to each other he is married to someone else and I am single but we have had an affair going on through 2 marriages(each) and transcending about 20 years....We had a break for 8 years while I was married to my late husband. He found me by calling my first husband and getting my phone number....I think that is soooo funny. That was over a year ago now and we have been seeing each other on a fairly regular basis ever since... we love each others company and the sex is fabulous...but as I said we don't want to die wondering... so what is the best approach.... We are not possessive, pushy or scary...we are perfectly normal, fun loving deviates LOL, All these girls who want couples ...where are they... we are meeting on the Sunshine Coast however David lives on the Gold Coast and we can meet there in a hotel. This is my first post...but I have been enjoying reading the forums for the first time today.... Rosita

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  please tell me......this is my first post. what do you do to meet single ladies? We are a an unusual couple. David is married to someone else and lives on the Gold Coast. I am single and live on the Sunshine coast. We have been in an affair for 20 years... we had a break when I was married to my late husband. Together we are sexually adventurous and when we are together it is electric. We talk every day and often have phone sex because it is the only thing we can do at the time. We don't want to die not knowing what it would be like to have a threesome. The idea is exciting and sounds like fun!!! but because we cannot get out together often we have to rely on RHP but plenty of ladies say they want to play with couples but I have approached so many and have had knock backs galore.... maybe I should get David to do the approaching.... do ladies like to get messages from other ladies about this or not? We are not an unattractive couple we are both intelligent and have high profile jobs and we can send access to a private gallery... just cannot display our faces for the general public for obvious reasons. HELP ME PLEASE!!! Rosita

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Meeka100' Hi Salina & Andy, Meeting a couple as a single lady can be very intimidating. At least when you meet one on one you feel that you are both playing on a level playing field, meaning you are both nervous, etc. But when it is just me and a couple I feel a little on the back foot because you obviously are more comfortable because you are together. . Sorry I am crap at trying to explain this so early on a Sunday morning, but yes meeting one on one the first time with one of you would be easier. Up to the single lady which one she would like to meet first. Then a couple meeting afterwards if all goes well. . xx MeekaI second that...

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  i should've just said 'ditto' to focus, lol.

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  luvsilver

  15 years ago

  Mr Luvsilver here, i think both from the couple should be present but i take the same view as Andy in that the male from the couple probably should take a bit of a back seat and let the girls talk. SAYING THAT, there is a good chance (in my case anyway) that when Mrs Luvsilver is feeling relaxed with someone i would probably struggle to get much of a word in anyway between two woman that share similar trains of thought!! I can see the position it puts the single lady in being outnumbered so to speak, so probably a meeting over coffee or the like where it is just to feel each other out (as opposed to up)-lol would be best suited for all concerned.

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