Its Not Rejection, Its Misalignment

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  PandaAndBri

  -3 hours ago

  Great question! Our first couple of interactions on the Pie certainly showed us this. I especially need to message and chat for a while before I get a feel for a person/couple. This does not always work for others. One couple we chatted to were quite pushy for a quick meet so that taught us what we didn’t like and what didn’t align for us. They also then blocked us after we asked to slow it down. Also taught us to trust our gut. Bri

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  Nightglider

  -4 hours ago

  Sounds like a familiar theme that I’ve written about on here or commented on several times. Unfortunately when people take things personally, it’s often due to ego, or requirement for self validation of sorts. Many forget to pause, step back and remind themselves that it’s 100% about “mutual” alignment. Pure and simple really, nothing personal, just something doesn’t align. I feel that the people that would benefit from a post like this generally don’t read forums. They’re less reflective and more reactive IMO. I’m not going into more detail here, as feel many who have read my forum posts and responses to others posts will already have a good idea of where I stand on alignment.

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  Voluptas

  -4 hours ago

  Love this post - thought provoking.. The biggest misalignment for me comes from being a single woman in this lifestyle. I step into connections with openness, desire, and a willingness to explore, but too often I end up feeling like an 'accessory' to someone else’s fantasy. There are moments where the dynamic leaves me feeling more like a service than a person, like my presence is there to heighten their experience while mine is treated as secondary. What pulls me out of the moment isn’t the intimacy itself, but what happens after. The warmth, the attention, the connection often vanish unless someone wants another encounter. It leaves me craving something deeper a sense of being valued, desired, and remembered beyond the moment. I’m realising that this misalignment might come down to how I communicate what I need: connection, care, and a spark that lasts longer than a single night. I’m learning to honour that, and to seek out people who want the same kind of energy.

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