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Is it cheating
November 10 2008
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RHP User
17 years ago
I can't believe this is asked. Everyone has their own definition of cheating but to me personally this is way into the red on the cheating scale. My personal definitions of cheating include any form of sexual contact, whether that be a passionate kiss to full penetration and then there is the emotional form of cheating (well cheating in my book), the one where there may not be any physical act but you wish with all your heart there was and you have a very deep emotional connection with the person in question, the kind of connection one is suppossed to have with their other half. Does this make sense??? Anywho, this is my personal interpretation of cheating, everyone is different to some degree.
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RHP User
17 years ago
NOOooooooo (sarcasm). Just like it wouldn't be cheating if your girlfriend performed oral on another guy. But hey, if he was smaller than you and thus, wasn't big enough to touch the sides of her tonsils, oh, and she didn't swallow, then, no, it isn't cheating! LOL Fair go. Really, as aliownsyou stated, I CAN NOT believe this question was asked if it was asked in the right connotation that I am interpreting it? Sheeeeesh!
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RHP User
17 years ago
....then yer head isnt screwed on right
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RHP User
17 years ago
if yous are swingers then there is no such thing as cheating right ! the agreement to swing is set & there is NO turning back on this type of agreement. if yous are not then hell yeah its cheating. btw i agree with the emo cheating as well its just as bad if not worse.
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RHP User
17 years ago
"Sorry darling, I just had to go and bury my head between another girl's legs seeing as you won't let me do it to you". Yep, cheating. Soubiii
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RHP User
17 years ago
The way I see it is if my partner performed oral on another male it would be cheating as she wont perform on me Where as She don't like and wont let me perform oral on her so???? Its a bit like some would say masturbation is cheating on your partner??
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RHP User
17 years ago
How is that like masturbation again? ?? Damn, did I just cheat the other day in the shower? Actually no, I'm single but still... I don't follow your reasoning here at all. Put me down as another vote for cheating...sorry cumwithmeok (classy name) By the way, why does she not like oral?? Is there any girl that doesnt like oral?? Maybe thats another forum topic...
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RHP User
17 years ago
Please god tell me your kidding with that last post? Let me get this straight....correct me if I'm wrong. You like getting oral but if your girl did it to some other guy she'd be cheating. (so far I agree)..but then you say if you were to go down on another girl it wouldn't be because your girl doesn't like you to do it to her??? Wow, now I've heard everything. It would seem like your going to justify cheating in this form no matter how many people say that yes, it is definetely cheating. As for the masterbation comment, I'm speachless.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hey mate, I like your logic. It's not cheating because she's just not into it. That's fair enough I say. I wouldnt want to have to explain that to your partner though. It's not your fault you fell in love with a woman who won't let you munch on her velvet curtains. We all have these thirsts that must be quenched.. and this is a swingers site... funny how people jump up and down trying to impose their own insignificant moral values on others and then go and get a golden shower form some stranger in a night club... like wtf.... live and let live people... this dude just wants to eat a little bit of pussy so he can remember what they taste like. Imagine living the whole of your married life (Like your 50th Anniversary) and never knowing the glorious feeling that comes from having a slippery chin! I say go for it... I wanna hear munching sounds from you cumwithmeok!
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RHP User
17 years ago
u answered ur own question .. so why ask?? u already believe what u want to hear.. did u just want confirmation?? and for the record.. yes its cheating and not anything like masterbating.
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RHP User
17 years ago
You crack me up bloke! I like your reply. Cumwithmeok - my question is "can you live with yourself after performing oral on a woman other than your partner?" Guilt is a pretty heavy burden. Only you can decide whether your behaviour is OK. Cheers WildT
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RHP User
17 years ago
Gaz.. he asked the question 'is this cheating' all we have done is answered him.. its just unfortunate that we didnt all say what he wanted to here, I think u are a little mixed up.. U have given ur opinion also, so just cos u support him the rest of us should not bother answering his question? hmmm maybe u should both go to a bar somewhere and discuss this matter privately u will both be happy with the outcome im sure lol. Then cumwithmeok can go on his merry way doing what he wants to do and feel justified seeing as he as ur blessing.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Course its cheating...grr Im just wondering why your partner doesnt like you giving oral. Maybe your no good at it. If you put more effort into your oral skills on pleasuring her maybe she might enjoy it. Maybe she has never experienced it before. Have you ever asked her?...communication !!!! Send your partner our way....and you can wait outside. Gravnleelee xxx
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RHP User
17 years ago
Oh I'm not saying it's not cheating.. I'm just saying I admire his logic for justifying it. People all over have different opinions about what is and isn't cheating.. because they impose their own values it. I reckon moral values around here are on the ice .... so even if his logic is thin... it still holds up.. that's all I'm saying. Also, I've seen many a prudish bitch get upset because she discovers that her boyfriend watches porn AND masturbates! Oh MY God!@ How wrong is that! Divorce that fucker!. .. lol to the fucking lmfao.. lol. So go for it mate. Nah... its not cheating if you dont get caught. That's all I'm saying.
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RHP User
17 years ago
cheat·ed, cheat·ing, cheats v. tr. To deceive by trickery; swindle: cheated customers by overcharging them for purchases. To deprive by trickery; defraud: cheated them of their land. To mislead; fool: illusions that cheat the eye. To elude; escape: cheat death. v. intr. To act dishonestly; practice fraud. To violate rules deliberately, as in a game: was accused of cheating at cards. Informal To be sexually unfaithful: cheat on a spouse. Baseball To position oneself closer to a certain area than is normal or expected: The shortstop cheated toward second base. n. An act of cheating; a fraud or swindle. One who cheats; a swindler. A computer application, password, or disallowed technique used to advance to a higher skill level in a computer video game. Law Fraudulent acquisition of another's property. Botany An annual European species of brome grass (Bromus secalinus) widely naturalized in temperate regions.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Wow what a question! its a bit like asking: So my wife doesnt ever want or like me to wear a condom ever, so if the male in the relationship likes to wear a condom and he has sex with another female and wears a condom, would he be cheating on his partner? and the answer: Hell yes!!! or you could take the thought pattern that suits some attached people on here and that is "Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change" anyway, really enjoy reading all the posts in this topic, and the golden rule I like is if it doesnt hurt anyone and its between consenting adults its fine by me.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Your partner had an headache that night? OR... A particularly heavy period (with associated pains)? OR... A little accident involving a semi trailer carrying starched collars and wimples for the Clergy? Who knows, but either way, she wasn't prob' up for it - VERY bad form in my book... SO, of COURSE it isn't cheating. You're having an altruistic moment, thinking of her, and just keeping everything functioning A-ok, tip-top, fine-n-dandy form, aren't you??? Don't YOU go a-gettin' a little UN-available tho...the system works both ways, yno. Surely its not cheating if she takes it up the arse, doesnt swallow, or makes herself cum and doesn't her 'stand-in' dalliance do the honours. ~~Dr. Ruth meets Judge Judy~~ **empathy surely escapes some people**
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RHP User
17 years ago
LEELEE ... btw, somewhere on this site there is a GREAT thread re giving fantastic oral to a woman. If only I could find it again ffs lol. Maybe search through the forums for it, print it out and show her. If it doesn't get her attention she's really not into it ... trust me :P If it does, then maybe you're just not doing it the way she likes it, and maybe she doesn't know how to, or doesn't want to tell you why. As for cheating, if it's something that would threaten your relationship if she found out, then it's probably cheating in the context of your relationship. In this world of grown up, intelligent relating (*cough*), surely there are many ways to get what you want sexually before you have to resort to cheating, whatever your definition of that might be ... eg, good old honest and open communication, acknowledging the problem and agreeing on the plan to solve it, so that at least it's a mutual decision?? Each to their own though ... tis no business of mine what you do ;)
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RHP User
17 years ago
If either partner is unaware of what's going on, it's cheating... As everyone else has already stated...Doesn't matter if you're pumping the next door neighbour's cat or blowing their dog, if your partner doesn't know, it's cheating....
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RHP User
17 years ago
the female partner did not know AND consent, then of course it's cheating. It's an answer obvious to most.
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RHP User
17 years ago
hey cumwithmeok would you like a job in my law firm, I think you'd make an excellent lawyer lol
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RHP User
17 years ago
Regardless of whether it's linked to cheating or not - absolutely, intentionally deceiving your partner is shit. When I found out my partner was off having sex with another dude it upset me a lot. But what upset me most was that we always agreed to tell each other if anything like that seemed on the horizon. The deception and dishonesty and lack of trust and communication has had a massive impact on my life now. Think about how you'd feel if she did it to you first.
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RHP User
17 years ago
oh yeah its cheating. May I suggest the "guy" brushes up on his technique. I cant see any girl not loving oral if its done half right ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
It's not cheating. I mean to say, it's just brushing up on your technique. Put it down to training. It's not as if she is missing out on it if she just isnt into it. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
its cheating........and its been done to death...this one died 4 years ago....
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RHP User
14 years ago
I just had to see who bumped this.....STALKY !!!!! wt heck man?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ask your partner if she thinks so. What I say is fairly incidental. And incidentally, what your describing is sexual relations with another and a lot of people would say that it's cheating.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It would depend on the stage of the relationship, if it is an exclusive relationship, even if it hasn't been verbalised then it's definitly cheating. Deception is the beggining of the end in that situation. If there is no trust then what is left? Have you tried asking why she doesn't like it? There may be an underlying reason why she doesn't like it, an ex partner of mine had been through a not so nice situation as a kid which led to her despising the act, understanding the reasons will either lead to acceptance and continuation of the relationship or if it's that big a deal for you, discussing other mutual arrangements or moving on. Either way exclusive is exclusive,
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RHP User
14 years ago
Up to you what you define as "cheating". I had an "affair" with a married guy for 4 years...and all he did was give me oral and vice versa! In those four years we had sex once...things you do when you are drunk! Unfortunately he moved to America with his job....sigh....I miss his tongue and fingers! I need a new playmate....applications will be open until midnight 30 February 2058! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'The_Seeker'....then yer head isnt screwed on right Fucken oath lol....
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