Integrity

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Integrity and honesty i think are some of the most important things in a relationship of any kind. I try to be honest in all aspects of my life unless sworn to keep a secret, and i do it as best i can but admittedly some habits built over my life and my introversion, means sometimes i am not so honest because i am scared. i try work on this not only because honesty is important to me but its more healthy for me as a person. I myself find it hard to have the "meaningless" physical romp because i just find it difficult to give my body away to someone without it meaning anything. There are enough lies in this world without us adding to them. G_Ana

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Good on you girl_anachronism. I like the way you think. I like the way you check yourself and aren't afraid to stare your "shadow" in the face. As for the "meaningless" sex. I know where you're coming from and there are many occassions where it just isn't right for either person. But there are times, and I haven't figured out what the circumstances are yet, where it is ok and fun for both people and there is no ignoring of the conscience. It's like some unspoken agreement that neither person are in it for anything other than what is happening. I know it's vague. There still may be respect (certainly I would not do it if there was not). But integrity is still intact, for me that's the important thing. I think this means each knows what the other wants and does not lie just to get their "end in" (or what ever the female equivalent is). Ok that's enough ranting from me. I want to hear from some other crew.

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I concur wholeheartedly with what you have said. There is nothing else so important to me as honesty. I have always tried to be brutally honest with everyone I've met online. I think you have to be. Otherwise, when you meet in real life, one of you is going to be disappointed and you will go away feeling cheated. Of course, it's just not our RHP lives where we need to show these old fashioned ideals. Everyday life should consist of honesty, integrity, morals and principals. But these days, people seem to get away with anything, no one is held accountable anymore. I guess I am trusting enough to believe what people tell me is the truth, but have found out that my child-like faith in others is perhaps not a good thing. Many times I've learned later that it was a means to an end. Which then amuses me. A person will only be fooled so many times, and then they stop believing. So when a genuine soul comes along, they wear the burden of someone else's dishonesty. A lesson for you guys who lie?? Maybe women wouldn't be so hard to get, if the wanker patrol hadn't gotten there first and spoilt things for everyone else. Gees, I'm not sure I'm making sense, I hope you get the drift of what I'm trying to say. I'm not as articulate in the mornings... the brain hasn't kicked in yet!! Best Wishes Viking.

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Viking I think you and I are on the same page on many issues but I have to point out that women do lie too. ;)

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I like your concept mammalian, but everyone lies to some point. Either to spare a loved ones feelings, to get out of a sticky situation, etc, and being bluntly honest can be just as hurtful and still do as much damage as lying. Where does lying end and honesty begin, and also peoples perception maybe different to an other's perception; also people have a bad habit to presume they know what's happening when they clearly don't. I have lost faith in the human race many years ago; which is funny cause I work in community services area atm, I can't help myself am a humanitarian in every way....by name, by nature, and by birth.....as much as I have come to dislike the human race I am still compelled to help them. *to wish to be anything other than a mere human....*

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  In answer to your questions...I don't know. :/

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Hi Mammal and others,

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I want to walk through the world with integrity . . . I want to be honest at all times . . . . I want to never compromise my values . . . . .and because I am a reflective person, I keep checking out where I am at. I accept that I am not 100% successful in being honest and I do, at times, compromise my values. Living with integrity can create inner conflict and there are times when I question which is most important in a particular situation . . .diplomacy or honesty? I think it can take a while to know whether someone is a person with integrity. Words don't tell you much about integrity, actions define it. Those are my thoughts folks. Cheers Wild Nature

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I suspect the difference between the lie to protect someones feelings and the lie to gain advantage for one's self is rarely as grey as its often made out to be ;)

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