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How to write a good RHP Profile - For MEN
January 01 2009
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hi B_Swan, Thank You for the well thought out suggestions on how to improve one's profile. I for one appreciate the positive effort you have made and hope that you have a great 2009. Toyota
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sidelz
17 years ago
I don't believe that there is a huge issue with my own personal profile.... I think I got away with that one quite well. What I am about & what I am looking for may not be everyones cup of tea, however, I do understand that everyone is different and respect that. I see a lot of the male profiles through responses to our couples profile & my partners individual profile & think to myself.... "well, at least I don't come accross desperate or pushy & hopefully I don't come accross as boring". Some that I have seen are so tactless & completely lack intelligence, imagination & in some cases.... even respect for the opposite sex. I'm with you on this one swan. sidelz (Yes I am a male too!!)
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RHP User
17 years ago
I agree with the template profile...why bother paying a membership if your not going to put some effort into ya profile, specially when most of them are point and click answers. This also goes for the tag line..
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RHP User
17 years ago
I've been working on the things I have written in my profile and just don't seem to be able to get it right. I've done a long description, I've done a short description. I've said exactly what I want and then I've been a bit more general. I'm thinking it's the lack of the body pic and private gallery. I've been meaning to do that for a while... we'll see how it goes! :) Thanks for the tips.
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RHP User
17 years ago
well said swan.......applaudes loudly!! lava
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RHP User
17 years ago
Points noted swan Think you need to write version 2 of Men from Mars Women from Venus
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hi swan, ive read ur post and i think its really good, would you mind taking as look at my profile?? Just wanna know what your opinion is. Btw, not sure why i can see W.A posts in the Vic forum but meh lol.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Nice to hear what seems to be an honest opinion from a woman's point of view. I had no sisters, joined the navy and then worked the mines. Been in industry ever since until just recently. A womans point of view is not something that comes naturally to me as a consequence of women being purely social and never having been a part of my developing or working life. I appreciated you stating what goes through your mind while searching profiles so straight forward and honestly :). I know my profile is far from perfect lol, but i'm not in some numbers game, though i am a player and not a stayer, and it suits my purpose for the moment. I may be changing it soon though and will certainly be rereading this post before i do ;)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Some very practical and helpful ideas that I think apply equally to female profiles. Just one question: What have you done with the real Swanny???
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RHP User
17 years ago
Thanks for the constructive criticism B-swan it is helpful. However I have thought long about my profile & have tried to be honest & interesting without being boring. I have pics, & I have sent at least 24 messages with no replies. Maybe you could tell me where I am going wrong??!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
white lava - over emphasis on the no strings fun. you repeat it over and over and over again. also try including the last suggestion on the i like part too... hungrygentleman - "I’m so bored... Im willing to meet pretty much anybody" - could you be any more desperate?
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RHP User
17 years ago
Thanks B-Swan, for another $2.95 how do you like the new profile?
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RHP User
17 years ago
white_lava - that looks heaps better!!! was a real delight to read. hope it works for you!
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well I believe I tick all those points above and it hasn't been any good for me. Let me know what is wrong with mine. White Lava - only 24 with no responses...that's nothing. You can expect around a 1 in 20 response rate and even then it is probably a 'No thanks' from someone curteous enough to reply. Worse is when they write 'You don't match what I'm looking for' even when you match everything they ask for on their profile. Give you an idea, I've sent over 130 messages and am yet to meet anyone. I've had 13 replies but the last few have been as follows 1. Sorry you don't match what I'm looking for. 2.Hmm well thanks but Im not really looking for anything 3.Sorry you don't match what I'm looking for. 4.Try another site. This site is a dead loss for single guys (from a couple) 5. Conversation with a woman over a few messages who eventually said they weren't interested in meeting anyone off the site, just flirting.
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RHP User
17 years ago
you'd laugh at me if i posted a pic of me doing something i like.. LRE (doing something he likes)
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RHP User
17 years ago
I never mailed/msg'ed/flirt anyone.. an d yet i met alot of pple. let just say i got a high success rate. :)
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playfulminx
17 years ago
White lava - I didn't read your old profile but your current one looks great. If I was seeking guys above my preferred age bracket, I'd certainly respond to you :) I agree with b_swan that a good face pic is appealing. I'd at least like to see a face shot of a guy even if the eyes are blanked out. At least some idea of if I would be attracted to the guy. Lovenlust - I think your profile is too verbose and stand-offish. Maybe you don't exude any warmth in your messages either? As for people saying you are not what they are seeking in spite of being a match, women have just a few more criteria other than what we can actually list on an rhp profile. For example, in my case, men who address me as babe in their opening message are not my type, even if everything else checks in. I just can't list that on my profile :P Good luck everyone :)
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RHP User
17 years ago
lovenlust72 - Your first sentance starts off great. Genuine and gives us a bit of insight into who you are. Then it becomes a bit cold and clinical. You've fucked enough women who have told you your great so now you believe you are? Well why would we want to be another notch on the bed post to simply tell you that your great? Are you insecure about your performance in the bedroom? Is that why you've really written that sentance? You fall under the guilty category of suspected baggage which is perhaps why women are shying away from you. Perhaps change your approach but portray the same message. You greatly appreciate women and take pride in the fact that they enjoy their sexual experiences with you and that your looking to find a lovely sexy woman to experience that lust with from RHP. It's all about the wording you chose and the tone. Remeber your selling yourself as a product. Make us want to buy it!
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RHP User
17 years ago
I always thought mens profile's was just another thing for women to complain about hahaha. B_Swan for you to actually sit down and put fingers to keys and address this situation it must be a serious issue. It's not rocket science and i can't believe guys can't get this right....considering after all it is about them! Maybe they can get their mums to put something together for them haha. I've taken a moment to review my own profile and in fact have actually left it as is....it says something about me....people can gudge for themselves. Happy days DJ
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RHP User
17 years ago
Okay I think I have the photos (sorry no attractive face shots) bit. Although they probably aren't the best. My description might be a bit boring and maybe there is a suggestion of baggage. I don't think there is anything template-ish on it. Anything the ladies can suggest that I need to cull, add, book a photo session? Cheers
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RHP User
17 years ago
Fantastic post Ms Swanny. You should make a vocation out of this... Maybe the rhp people can direct new members to your profile assistance service (fee for service) instead of that template profile .... Love your work, bebe.
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RHP User
17 years ago
ha ha thx if i ever want to give up my vocation in IT I think I will move into life coaching, it's just so much fun!
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RHP User
17 years ago
well said swan and I think it can be related to womens profiles also. I change mine from time to time and have recently "upgraded" my handle, but it is hard to know exactly what to say without going from the sublime to the rediculous. I also think that some people dont realise just how important it is as a first contact. I too get sick of the "ask me" thing, sorry cant be bothered asking. I used to but then no reply so whats the point. Interesting thread. PH
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RHP User
17 years ago
B-Swan, thanks for your advice. The line you metioned does make it sound a bit wrong. Was just a truthful statement but may sound like nothes on the belt as you say when fact is that is far from the truth for what it intended. I've taken it out now. PlayfulMinx - not sure how it is stand offish? Can you elaborate on that one. Spartinis - Must be something about WA cause your profile aint anything special. By having that people could message you certainly would've helped to. I'm adding a couple of pics and mixing them up a bit. Changed very little wording but it is a bit different. So tell me is it better or still need work? 3:26am now will need to wait till unblocked, not sure when that will be.
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RHP User
17 years ago
you love swan's work... i love that pink bum shot.. LRE (with the groucho mask and cigar)
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RHP User
17 years ago
I know.. I know! The pink sports panties and the lacey bra... woooohoo ~ careful that's no cigar, Groucho! Anyway.. the whole package is very satisfying, by the sounds and the looks. You've got it all going for you over there in the West, man. Gaz (swanfancertified)
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RHP User
17 years ago
thread B_Swan...enjoying every moment! :-*
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RHP User
17 years ago
Thanks for the advice swan... I do change my profile from time to time to keep it relevent and I've put in that I'm not gay nor bi but guys still check it out so go figure... but I think the main reason I don't get looked at is because I'm over 50 lol (with the exception of the occational bloke)
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RHP User
17 years ago
I've been in here a while now and will vouch we all in the same boat. Is no biggy that girls don't look our profiles. They got thier hands full just keeping up with flirts. As for the guys that check us out take it as a compliment, often as not its likely cause somebody said something nice about us and they looking to see "whats this guy got?" lol
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RHP User
17 years ago
keep up the good work :) I think if RHP were clever they would offer you a job as the official RHP love guru.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Profiles are all well and good but a few off you have stated about sending emails and not getting many responses.. But question is how many of the emails you send women are templates you keep and send to all women you send them to?? I don't answer templates that are sent..I find them bored ..Imagination is the key Oh and omfg The RHP heading I'M HORNY AND IN NEED OFF ATTENTION NOW And i am a sexual ANIMAL Needs to be deleted who thinks up this stuff? TITxx imagination humour honesty is the key
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RHP User
17 years ago
I wasn't even going to get in to why emails go unresponded to. That was never the original intent of my thread. However I will say that 9 times out of 10 a poor profile is a factor in not bothering to reply to an email. However I'll save that topic for another thread another time.
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RHP User
17 years ago
awww...your a sweety for being helpful in such an informative and diplomatic way. Can't be arsed changing mine but this would have helped when I first put my profile together. It would be an idea maybe to copy and paste this and send it to RHP as an email. They might be able to include it in the 'help' section. kudos xx
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RHP User
17 years ago
You know I really do think that the profile is the single most important thing to having success on this site. The second mots important thing is the first contact email. Most of the contact I get is started by other people. I generally do not send flirts and I NEVER use a generic message when contacting people. You just have to stop and think a little for both of these. Mike
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hi i am very new to this site, and i am tossing up if i should get a membership. I have been reading a few posts and they seem to say blokes get nothing. I am not a bad looking bloke, i exercise once evr day and not that confident in putting my face up on my normal gallery but i have no probs sending them to a member if thye ask. So "a" i want to be able to view r rated photos ( how do i do this) and "b" should i just get a month membership and see how it goes and or "c" should i put a head shot up to get more hits as i have nothing (well very few) after 2 days! cheers
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RHP User
17 years ago
RHP does read the forums i assure you, both to censor it and in looking for ideas for articles etc.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Ta for the info m8:) I guess thats why this site kicks ass.
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RHP User
17 years ago
glad everyone is enjoying the post for a change... and smooth669 sorry but we cant tell you what you can do, your rhp experience is going to have to be one of your own making im afraid... but good luck on the journey =)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Great topic makes a nice refreshing change to the repeated topics which get posted lately... You bring spark to the hot topics hahahaha TIT xx
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RHP User
17 years ago
I never send generic messages. I specifically address the person's profile (and at my age you definitely read profiles). I do not send many messages, but I would say I get a 1 in 20 response rate, which is about what younger more desirable single males seem to be claiming here. I'm not complaining. We're not here to win everybody's hearts. All you need for all this effort to be worthwhile is to connect with just one worthwhile person.... and there are some very nice women on RHP. I'm going to make a radical suggestion (just for laughs?). Men have it easier on this site than woman. Yeah? OK, I had a reply from one woman recently along the lines of "thanks for your message but I'm so totally swamped by messages right now I can't talk". She sounded like she was in total overload. Now, a lot of women get a lot of messages especially if they are new and/or stay online for a long time. However, a lot of these messages will be from guys who just message everyone REGARDLESS of the women's profile (the shotgun approach). This creates the problem of over choice, like going to the Supermarket and seeing 100 packets of laundry detergent. So how does a woman choose who to follow up? How does a woman know she isn't going to short-list out her ideal match in the process (the old dilemma - how do we know a cancer cure isn't being bulldozed into oblivion in the Amazon right now?). I should imagine there are also some women who feel uncomfortable about not responding but also feel uncomfortable giving a negative reply. I know I would in their place. OK men get "no" replies and the occasional friendly message but overall I think it's true to say that MEN WITH GOOD PROFILES tend to get flirts/messages and replies only from women who have read their profile carefully and who are actually interested in them - that is, women use our profiles to do their own short-listing, or to self-select themselves out. So, it means a lot more when a woman messages a man rather than vice versa. Just a thought! PS I put men with good profiles in upper case above so I could claim I haven't strayed off topic.
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RHP User
17 years ago
B_ Swan you have every bloke asking so i am as well ,, can you tell me what is wrong with my profil, i have been on site a number of times, member, quest, and also paying for the replys but still seem to be left in the dark, use to go into the chat rooms but found that to be a waste of time. any in put is good news
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RHP User
17 years ago
lotus_seeker thanks for your sound bite however I can't help but think it was totally off the topic of how to initially write a great profile aimed at the male audience. think maybe it belongs in it's own thread? common curtesy says maybe yes or is it time this thread died and took a turn downward turn to winging bout the way females dont respond to males enough? was kinda hoping this would be the one thread on the forums that didnt take that turn.... oh well, wishful hopeful delusional thinking on my part I suppose.... :*(
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RHP User
17 years ago
Lotus_Seeker, sorry mate I think you are deluded in your thoughts that it is harder for the women because they have to choose from heaps of messages compared to a guy having to choose from next to nothing. If the woman goes out with one and it isnt to their liking, fine, move on to the next one. What's so hard about that, in the meantime they may make more friends and have some fun. That is in comparison to the guys who do what...constantly trying to find someone new in the hope that they might actually reply, changing the profile around in the hope it might generate more interest than before. No contest. The profile seems to be almost not needed here. The women look at the picture look at the age, look at the location and only then if it is what they want they might look at the profile. So after you manage the first three hurdles then the profile matters. Still unless the profile sucks the decision has already been mostly made. Funny thing is the answer on how a guy can get more success with his profile is probably not to be single. Why, well as a couple there is more chance of a response. Bit of a catch twenty Two really. Unfortunately it doesn't matter how good you really are or how good your profile is, it comes down you fitting what someone else wants.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Apologies, but I thought I said I wasn't complaining? Anyway, I guess I'm talking about the importance of a good profile rather than how to write one, so point taken. I return your thread to you in peace.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hey Great post swan! Though i dont know how to improve my profile when i want to play again ill deffinatly be looking here. Also any suggestions from ppl would be great :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
hi and good morning. new to the scene can i get some tips please?regards
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RHP User
9 years ago
Type "profile" into the forum search.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Think alot of men will appreciate you trying to help them. Unfortunately not all men are in tune with what there putting out on there profile or how they are precevied. Am positive your tips should help Op 😎 Certainly don't disagree with helpful advice in improving yourself and profile, as long the individual is honest with there own words and photo's then can't see a issue. 😊 Constructive advice is always welcome and happy for any feedback myself. Would be Intrested in knowing how much is to long or to short in a males profile. And i know that will vary for all women. That Q is for the Op. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Grrr Sorry for typos. 😔 - Posted from rhpmobile
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