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How long is too long?
May 12 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Why would it be the guy contacting and the girl waiting to hear from him? Xx Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree. Why shouldn't the girl contact the guy? Sexual equality and all that stuff.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm a little old school with my manners and will always send a polite text saying "thanks for the lovely lunch" etc. The message will hopefully convey my desire for further contact. For instance, I may end with, "I look forward to chatting soon". . After that I usually wait for the guy to contact. . Occasionally I'll send a follow up a week later BUT I believe if the guy is REALLY into me he wouldn't wait that long. So if no contact after 3 days, I assume he's not into me and stop waiting for his call ! . Hugs Saturn
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Hanna_ybbn
15 years ago
I have to agree wholeheartedly with Miss_Saturn with only 1 exception really; I now no longer txt to say thanks if I am not keen to hear from them again. Other than that, you are spot on in my opinion and from the female perspective!CheersHan
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'I LOVE older guys and rarely date anyone under 35. I've never had an older guy not text me either on the way home, at the end of the evening or the next day. Chilli xx And when you find a guy who says thank you in his own unique way, hold on tight...And what makes it extra special is how hard it is for the older gents to use new technological gadgets like mobile phones, with those finicky small buttons that are hard to see... I reckon even the ones that wait until the next day probably started it straight after your date but couldn't find the right menu and then started swearing at the predictive text and only managed to get it away until the next morning...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Isn't the standard three days, but personally I have never been great with rules and next morning for sure if i wasn't lucky enough to still be there to deliver it in person. Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Jg.....you talkin about me again.....lol Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
While I have the confidence to go up to a guy that I like and want sex with when out and about...I still think that if you hook up with a guy and he wants to see you again or really enjoyed it that he should text/call me! < I had a guy contact me this week after we had a bit of a play about a month ago...he has been online since alot and has looked at my profile as well...I just told him that too much time has lapsed and that I have moved on! < I hooked up with another guy earlier this week and got a text from him the next morning saying how much he loved it! He ended up texting me all day...and has texted me every day since! To me that is enthusiasm and yes I can't wait to meet up with him again! There are no games from him...we both know it is just sex...but I love the fact that he keeps in contact! < I don't agree with the 3 day rule thing and agree with Nev...if you want to see her again...then do it as soon as you want to! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Weeeellll... as a noob here, I may not know what I'm talking about, but after an 'normal' date with someone I think a text or other contact on the way home or the next day just to acknowledge that you appreciate that they took the time and energy to see you is just polite... not a gender thing, just good form i think. But as for all the strategising about when and what to say etc, here's my cunning approach:When: well, I base this on when I feel like letting the other person know: if it's 5 minutes after I walk out the door, I wait till about 5 minutes after I walk out the door. If it's the next day, then the next day works on that well on that front.What: If I had a great time I would subtly suggest that fact by saying something like "I had great time"... if I hoped they did too, I might sneakily add "I hope you did too" as a way of getting that message across. And if I hoped to see that person again, i would subliminally inject that thought into their sub-conscious with a phrase along the lines of "It'd be great to see you again". If I wasn't sure that they reciprocated my enthusiasm, but I was hopeful that they did, but if they didn't I respected that too, and no hard feelings, adding "hope you feel the same but if not, nice meeting you, good luck and all the best" is crafty tactic I often use.I guess i don't see much point in second guessing the whole what-will-they-think thing too much. Everyone is going to have different reactions that I can't necessarily predict, and even if I could, what's the point? I feel how I feel, why be ashamed of that? Easier just to be me, and for other people can react in whatever way they like...The question is now: should I should post these thoughts... I mean, I've only just joined RHP, I don't want to sound like some pontificating right-on know-it-all... but I do want to join in the conversation... but I've written way too much, and it could sound kind of sarcastic... the last thing I need is that xfunlovingx chick getting offended, I mean, she seems nice and has great boobs... god, they probably don't care what I think anyway, and they'll be rolling their eyes saying "shut-up already"... just have to make sure I don't click that big green button before I've had a chance to think this thr
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Hanna_ybbn
15 years ago
Sorry, I meant xFunlovingxI'd just replied to another topic and had directed it at MS.Sorry for the confusion.I AGREE with you xFunlovingx lolHan!
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RHP User
15 years ago
If the old school ways are still in play, then why can't I get a second date after sending out the carrier pigeons with my next date invite?? In seriousness though, who cares for rules? Personally, if I like the girl, I'll msg them when I get home afterwards...or even 5 mins after. Just something short and sweet. And if the girl is really interested in return (and maybe a little wit), she won't analyze how long after the date the guy calls, and just go with it. Sometimes, we humans spend far too much time debating the little shit instead of just going for what we want...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I usually get a message within the half hour of them leaving me. These people are my friends. I dont do randoms so we have a connection. My friends will not hurt me by ignoring me anyway. I have no hesitation in texting them to say thanks or set up another meeting. As I have to travel, or they do, the next meeting will usually be discussed on line the next day or two.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'I LOVE older guys and rarely date anyone under 35. I've never had an older guy not text me either on the way home, at the end of the evening or the next day. My only take is that they are decent, respectful gentlemen who appreciated my company and had a good time. I never initiate the second contact. Call me old fashioned but I like the guy to set the pace and if he doesn't, it wasn't going to happen anyway. The time between the thank-you text/email/call and the guy setting up a second "sitting" would usually be anywhere between the prompt thank-you-and-more-please text and a week. After 7 days it really is a case of out sight out of mind. Chilli xx And when you find a guy who says thank you in his own unique way, hold on tight... Yep after thinking about it...you are right! The main ones to keep in contact are the ones that are in their mid 30's! The guy from Monday night is in his mid 30's....Huh, you have made me rethink about guys under 30 now! However Mr Cop (24 year old) over in Queensland still messages me at least once a week or we speak on the phone...it is so cute as we haven't seen each other since early January and will most probably never see each other again..but it does still feel good that he does keep in contact! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' While I have the confidence to go up to a guy that I like and want sex with when out and about...I still think that if you hook up with a guy and he wants to see you again or really enjoyed it that he should text/call me! < I had a guy contact me this week after we had a bit of a play about a month ago...he has been online since alot and has looked at my profile as well...I just told him that too much time has lapsed and that I have moved on! < I hooked up with another guy earlier this week and got a text from him the next morning saying how much he loved it! He ended up texting me all day...and has texted me every day since! To me that is enthusiasm and yes I can't wait to meet up with him again! There are no games from him...we both know it is just sex...but I love the fact that he keeps in contact! < I don't agree with the 3 day rule thing and agree with Nev...if you want to see her again...then do it as soon as you want to! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I find if I have had a good connection with the Lady I have gone out with, I like to let them Know I have enjoyed the time I have spent with them fairly quickly and let them know I look forward to getting together with them again. I am also keen to organise another date, as to let them know i'm interested in getting together with then again, after that it's then up to the lady to keep the contact going by responding to the offer. I tend to not want to pester the lady so if I do not hear back from them I take it as they are on longer interested and not keen to continue further or to get together again and leave it at that. Cheers Grant Life is to short to stress about the little set backs that we all get thru out our time here, enjoy the time you spent with someone and the memories you gain amd move on to the next adventure
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'I LOVE older guys and rarely date anyone under 35. I've never had an older guy not text me either on the way home, at the end of the evening or the next day. And when you find a guy who says thank you in his own unique way, hold on tight... Huh, you have made me rethink about guys under 30 now! I mean older than me... I do prefer men in their 40s but haven't been with a 50 something that I know about...They have their shit together, rarely play games, know how to handle a feisty alpha female without getting threatened, they're confident, competent and generally relaxed, no longer having to prove any thing. And top it off with Old School manners and respect. Deep down, even though I don't act like a prima dona, I LOVE being treated like a princess...Chilli xxOh and JG, PMSL sooooo true You are so very right Chilli! We are much much better than those young whipper snappers. Smart, successful, experienced, witty, stable..... the list goes on. Would give anything for you to live on the East Coast.DT xox
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RHP User
15 years ago
Weeeellll... as a noob here, and I may not know what I'm talking about, but after an 'normal' date with someone I think a text on the way home or the next day just to acknowledge that you appreciate that they took the time and energy to see you is just polite... not a gender thing, just good form i think. But as for all the strategising about when and what to say etc, here's my cunning approach:When: well, I base this on when I feel like letting the other person know how I'm feeling: if it's 5 minutes after I walk out the door, I wait till about 5 minutes after I walk out the door. If it's the next day, then the next day works on that well on that front.What: If I had a great time I would subtly suggest that fact by saying something like "I had great time"... if I hoped they did too, I might sneakily add "I hope you did too" as a way of getting that message across. And if I hoped to see that person again, i would subliminally inject that thought into their sub-conscious with a phrase along the lines of "It'd be great to see you again". If I wasn't sure that they reciprocated my enthusiasm, but I was hopeful that they did, but if they didn't I respected that too (and no hard feelings) adding "hope you feel the same but if not, nice meeting you, good luck and all the best" is crafty tactic I often use.So I guess i don't see much point in second guessing the whole what-will-they-think thing too much. Everyone is going to have different reactions that I can't necessarily predict, and even if I could, what's the point? I feel how I feel, why be ashamed of that? Easier just to be me, and for other people can react in whatever way they like...The question is now: should I should post these thoughts... I mean, I've only just joined RHP, I don't want to sound like some pontificating right-on know-it-all right off the bat... but I do want to join in the conversation... and I've written way too much... does it sound kind of sarcastic?... the last thing I need is that xfunlovingx getting offended, I mean, she seems nice and has great boobs... god, probably no one cares what I think anyway, and they'll be rolling their eyes saying "shut-up already"... just have to make sure I don't click that big green button before I've had a chance to think this thr
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Schroedinger' Weeeellll... as a noob here, and I may not know what I'm talking about, but after an 'normal' date with someone I think a text on the way home or the next day just to acknowledge that you appreciate that they took the time and energy to see you is just polite... not a gender thing, just good form i think. But as for all the strategising about when and what to say etc, here's my cunning approach: When: well, I base this on when I feel like letting the other person know how I'm feeling: if it's 5 minutes after I walk out the door, I wait till about 5 minutes after I walk out the door. If it's the next day, then the next day works on that well on that front. What: If I had a great time I would subtly suggest that fact by saying something like "I had great time"... if I hoped they did too, I might sneakily add "I hope you did too" as a way of getting that message across. And if I hoped to see that person again, i would subliminally inject that thought into their sub-conscious with a phrase along the lines of "It'd be great to see you again". If I wasn't sure that they reciprocated my enthusiasm, but I was hopeful that they did, but if they didn't I respected that too (and no hard feelings) adding "hope you feel the same but if not, nice meeting you, good luck and all the best" is crafty tactic I often use. So I guess i don't see much point in second guessing the whole what-will-they-think thing too much. Everyone is going to have different reactions that I can't necessarily predict, and even if I could, what's the point? I feel how I feel, why be ashamed of that? Easier just to be me, and for other people can react in whatever way they like... The question is now: should I should post these thoughts... I mean, I've only just joined RHP, I don't want to sound like some pontificating right-on know-it-all right off the bat... but I do want to join in the conversation... and I've written way too much... does it sound kind of sarcastic?... the last thing I need is that xfunlovingx getting offended, I mean, she seems nice and has great boobs... god, probably no one cares what I think anyway, and they'll be rolling their eyes saying "shut-up already"... just have to make sure I don't click that big green button before I've had a chance to think this thr I loved what you had to say in this post and it is great to see a guy that doesn't play games at all...you go with how you feel instead of waiting the "expected" time! I like my men like that...straight up and to tell it how it is! < And the last part of your post absolutely had me in fits of laughter...you are one funny man...I like it!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' I loved what you had to say in this post and it is great to see a guy that doesn't play games at all...you go with how you feel instead of waiting the "expected" time! I like my men like that...straight up and to tell it how it is! < And the last part of your post absolutely had me in fits of laughter...you are one funny man...I like it!! xFunlovingxGlad you and your amazing boobs weren't offended! Double posted it, I'm having a hard time getting around the lengthy forum pause here...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'Looks like we have another one...Quoting 'KD7884'who cares for rules? ... just go with it. Sometimes, we humans spend far too much time debating the little shit instead of just going for what we want... And occasionally we find an "older guy" still in his 20s....Imagine what a score KD will be in a couple of decades???You mean I have to wait another 20 years or so to become a catch?? Awwww heck! Maybe I can find myself a fake ID that says I'm mid 40's instead of 20's. Just for you Chilli, I would atleast try.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Hellooooooo??? Any ladies actually reading this???Quoting 'Schroedinger'i don't see much point in second guessing... I feel how I feel, why be ashamed of that? Easier just to be me...Chilli, you are rapidly becoming my RHP guardian angel... or PR angel anyway... will there be the Chilli bump in my popularity?... I can easily be found towards the bottom of page 162 of your search results, just below the fat, hairy guy called wantofucknow8.Thanks again, gorgeous
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RHP User
15 years ago
Everyone is worried about playing games and who should text first etc....Fuck it!! If you like the other person and want to see them again then text them for fucks sake!! Girl or guy!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' You cheeky shit! Me? I'm just the new guyAnd anyway, you're welcome.... now if only I was in Earlwood.... Yeah, pity about that whole continent in the way... but hey, your a celeb... go on tour!Oh damn, did it again, had to have another perve on your profile pix I shall, of course, return the favour
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RHP User
15 years ago
Here's one ........ . Do what feels good , as long as it doesnt hurt you or others around you. . ahhhhhh now that feels better doesnt it ! . Rules 2 - If rule one feels good - repeat! . Fun loving , I still cant resist looking. Nom Nom Nom Nom ......My mind races. . Brae....................
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Nope, you sound like you're already a catch, and probably a decent guy who doesn't play games... And amongst Gen Ys that's rare!!!Actually, you couldn't be more wrong. I actually LOVE playing games. And it's definitely been said more than once that I'm a "player". I just really enjoy it. The mental stimulation. The excitement. The challenge. The satisfaction in knowing you can really fuck with someone elses head, and make them think about things they really never thought they would. And the ability to just plow through different "subjects"...one after another...Yeah... I really love that...But, who DOESN'T love a good game of Trivial Pursuit?...right? Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'But when time adds to your value... OMG I'll only be 56 LOL , that could work... And I bet you won't look a day over 35...so maybe!
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