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How Often Do You Swing? How Much Is Too Much?
August 29 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is Mrs SalAndy asking. :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
We think that there is no norm, there is no right or wrong.And there is not TOO often if you are happy with it. We have been leading this lifestyle for a few years and sometimes we are into it (over our ears) and other times are not at all interested. Most important is to listen to each other, when those down times occur and put up with them. When you are both into it, then its perfectly ok to meet up with a select few that you know. You don't have to go from one couple to another... We think you get the drift.. No hard and fast rules as long as you keep it real together. MR and MRS Sexperiences
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RHP User
16 years ago
We have the same thoughts and experiences. Sometimes we are all about it, yet other weeks we are so caught up in "normal" life that it doesnt seem important. When we have free time we will organise meets and go along to any parties, yet at the same time we may just want to be together and just have us time. I think its very much a couple by couple - day by day thing :)
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DonnaBrett
16 years ago
We try to play at least once every weekend, either by meeting new people or with regular playmates..of course fun times are not guaranteed every weekend..but we live in hope LOL. There's really no hard & fast rule as to what is too much. We have been in this scene 10 years and have never tired of it...life's for living we say! Reading your profile SalAndy we see you are just looking for women...that will obviously decrease your chances somewhat. It seems most couples start off looking for single girls, but eventually move to couples/ groups etc because there's more chance of fun times happening. Also we would suggest you try a variety of clubs/parties etc. so as to meet a greater mix of people. But again the amount of single women looking for couples are not that high so your success rate will be limited..but good luck!
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RHP User
16 years ago
What is normal for anything in life. If you want to swing, then swing and if you dont want to then dont.Easy.X
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RHP User
16 years ago
I play when I'm not committed to doing other stuff. Not surprisingly, that means playing around is quite a frequent occurrence. It's easier for bisex guys to fool around... Let me illustrate the point by example... If you attend a gay bathhouse on a Friday night for example you could have some form of sexual contact with more than 10 partners if you were that way "inclined". Go to a nudist beach on Saturday morning then hit up a gay beat.... and then Aarows on Saturday night... sleep in on Sunday... sunday afternoon at a gay bath-house again.. at home in time to watch Disneyland... With that simple sex pattern any slutty bisexual guy could have sexual contact of some form with around 35-40 partners over the course of a weekend... If you do that every weekend... that's roughly 900 partners a year..... not including any weekday arrangements you might make. Of course I do not play that often.... but just saying that it is quite possible. Personally, I think 900 partners a year is too much but Ive had weekends where I couldn't tell you the numbers. The risks of an STD increase with the number of lovers you come into contact with and that's why 900 partners per year is too much, in my opinion. Warm hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey, interesting you say we are only looking for women? We are actually looking for couples and women. We realise woman are difficult to find and have had a few experiences with women and so far have only found one that we really enjoyed and may play with again. We go to CI and we are here, more time is spent searching than playing and I find the searching a bit tedious and loose interest quite quickly, though with experience you do get better at picking out the people to play with. Personaly I love playing but when I find it a bit too much a back off and just do not log onto RHP, msn etc. Andy does more than I do but generally you can send out plenty of flirts/messages and still only get 1 or 2 responses. Before Andy and I got together I had a few experiences, couples, girls but they always just happened, none of this constant searching and I found that spontaniety far more exciting...but it all takes on a whole new dimension when we have to consider the wants, likes and dislikes of each other...still waitng for my MMF :( xSal Ps...I am not anti RHP, Not anti play, actually far wilder than my pics, profile or any of this lets on :P But On my terms, annoys Andy immensley, but shocks the hell out of others and that is how I like to get my kicks ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just viewed our profile. It does just say women...Blah...all fixed now :) Thanks for pointing that out or else i would not have realised!! xSal
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RHP User
16 years ago
we swing maybe every 2 months or so. kids, limited sitting options and other committments prevents us from swinging more often. But that suits us just fine for the moment, although sometimes I do wish we were able to get out and about a little more often. Like others have commented, we can go hell for leather some weeks doing the whole messaging/flirting then meeting thing, and then completely dry other weeks....it really does just ebb and flow. Have fun! Mrs MC
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RHP User
16 years ago
To answer the question how much is too much - I have to agree with those that commented it is up to personal choice. Only the person/couple can determine that. For us personally we to spend far more time on RHP than actually playing and that is not due to choice. The planets don't often align with other couples unfortunately which makes for quiet times. Kids and life in general are restrictions on time so although there are a few couples we are keen to meet/play with we haven't been able to yet. Kilee
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fuckmonkeys
16 years ago
We love it. Probably too much. Because if we have any social occasions to go to with "normal" friends, we either wish it would turn into an orgy or wish we were somewhere else with likeminded people. Does this mean we are growing out of our old friends? Not sure. Don't want to lose them because they're like comfy old shoes. Keep wondering if we'll eventually lose interest in this lifestyle and go back to being normal....but I doubt it... It's just way too addictive!! Sal x
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RHP User
16 years ago
LOLZ.... How's about when you are with your "normal" friends and you say something you wouldn't "normally" say... lolz. Oops. It's sometimes hard to keep your shoes on the right rack eh. Gootsta laugh on daze like that! Hugs Gazza
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fuckmonkeys
16 years ago
It's so difficult, we've given up pretending these days. They can accept us for what we are and get up to or not. Ball's in their court! Monkeys xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
We would like to try and have some fun every couple of weekends.. But it actually turns about to be about once,,, maybe twice a year,,, :-( Used to happen more frequently when we werent looking for it,, go figure :-/
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RHP User
16 years ago
We try to have a balance between swinger weekends and non-swinger weekend. I sometimes (mrs Sexycountrycpl) play during the week and then ever few weeks we have a "wife swap" with another couple. Sometimes the looking takes so long though and then you meet the chemistry is just not there, or you send out loads of messages and never hear back from anyone (why can't people just be polite and reply but that is for another forum). But AS far as being on RHP I use it like my "normal" friends use facebook or other forums which I don't bother to use really.
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