M49
Guests and no shows
July 30 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
We can. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Aren't real until you meet them.... Don't sweat the small stuff like this....it'll only make you say something you'll regret later. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nailed it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
For a period of time. And in that time I may have still received a few messages...but my flirts increased 10 fold. All saying the EXACT same thing: "You're exactly what I'm looking for. Please message me I'm keen". Yeah, nah. If you can't make an effort, why should I?! And sometimes 1 message is all it takes to (A)realise someone is looking for the complete opposite to what you are. And (B) they are a completely rude & disrespectful a-hole. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Men will pay and pay and pay. No matter how harshly they are treated they line up for more. And women know this. As long as men behave like this, they will be treated like this. Simple.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't have the money to be a paid member. There are different levels of poverty lol I'm at the bottom of the food chain 😀 so even $5 would be going towards a utility bill, one that's long overdue already. I'm clawing my way out of debt but it will be a long struggle. Your op I just find full of judgement and offensive. As far as people not replying, no means no, at ANY stage of sex or communication/contact leading up to it. You'd do well to remember that. No-one owes you anything
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rupamohan
8 years ago
Either you are not aware of the meaning market forces and choices. Or you think these only apply to shopping. You need to do some learning mate. Good Luck.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Each to their own, some choose to pay membership, some don't. You can choose to contact someone, or not... No one owes you a response, and unless they have sent you a flirt asking you to message them, I would suggest that most people aren't expecting you to message them? As far as knowing, or not knowing after one message - yep, a majority of the time I can tell if someone is right for me, and vice versa, from a first message. Possibly something you may not be aware of is the high volume of messages most women receive (I am generalising, of course). That not only means we can be selective, and stick to what we are ideally seeking, but need to be, from a logistics/time stand point. I do find it's a lil rich when a member sends me a flirt asking me to message them I am very happy to message a guest, if I am interested in them, but other members who have used all of their daily messages already, or can't be bothered putting in the time/effort to compose a message - nope!
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RHP User
8 years ago
for me, and I imagine a lot of women, there aren't many that appeal beyond those first messages. Small things can put me off if to me, they are a sign of us not being compatible. It might be because a pg has been opened with more pictures that don't appeal, or trying to rush me off the site by throwing their phone number and kik at me, or sexual stuff that isn't to my taste, I mean wildly outside my taste, for example wanting a Dom, I'm a sub, but can be turned off by certain pet names, the list goes on. We're not obligated to reply and you should never send a message if you're expecting or feel entitled to an answer
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Not all, or even most , people on here are guests, nor do most have no intention to respond (to your unsolicited messages) , nor do most assume they are extra special. Clearly dear OP, you have got your nose out of joint by the lack of response you have no doubt been receiving, after messaging people whose selection criteria you perhaps don't suit? It's best not to expect anything, nor make demands nor have a sense of entitlement on here . No one owes you anything - both guests and paid up members. If anyone is judgemental & self centred, it's you, in our opinion . Purely going by what you have written in here. But we could be wrong. Yes there are lots of no shows and yes, people sometInes vanish after the first message. Others even block you when you decline to open your nude private galleries, despite clear wording, within ones profile, that you only open upon certain conditions. It is the way it is , and no amount of moaning will change the status quo. We were paid up "platinum" members for a few years, but let our membership lapse several months ago. We simply can't be bothered. We are inundated with messages from pushy, entitled and often disrespectful people, demanding x,y & z, not to mention the time wasters & fakes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You say "BecauseMen will pay and pay and pay. No matter how harshly they are treated they line up for more. And women know this. As long as men behave like this, they will be treated like this. Simple." And yet here you are....
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Sending us repeated flirts won't score you brownie points mate!! Kindly read our profile wording from start to finish. Now your topic makes sense. You have obviously been pestering others now too - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yep, here I am. Been a member, shown respect, received respect. Been there done that. Reaped what I sowed. Have fun.
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RHP User
8 years ago
OP, don't waste your time trying to control people. If you want to change the responses you're getting (or not getting, as the case may be), start with the things you can control i.e. your profile and the messages you send, including to whom, how often and the content thereof. I've had a look at your profile, and a couple of things jumped out. Firstly, masseurs/people offering massages on this site are a dime a dozen, mate. And if that was what I was after, I'd go for one of those men before the guy who 'may' bring his table over 'if I ask nicely'. Secondly, you have a couple of very specific role plays detailed in your profile. No problem with that... it's your profile, your experience and your membership, but they're niche fantasies, and may limit the number of people who would be interested in meeting you. If they're 'must haves' as part or your RHP experience, don't change a thing, but understand you may have to be patient. If they're not 'must haves', consider saving them for when you've met and clicked with someone, and the conversation heads in that direction. Finally, I can't comment on the content of your messages... but I can tell you that a single message is more than enough for me to decide if I want to pursue a contact or not, even if (especially if) that message consists of just one word. Just my 2 cents, and I wish you all the best 🙂
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RHP User
8 years ago
This - "I'd go for one of those men before the guy who 'may' bring his table over 'if I ask nicely'. That also didn't do it for me op. If you are a giver of pleasure, this doesn't highlight that, not for me anyway. Sounds like you'll do it under sufferance, if she asks nicely. Are you going to ask nicely for a blow job lol and fully understand you may or may not get it?
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RHP User
8 years ago
😇
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RHP User
8 years ago
That elicits the same responses, including from me. When I first dived back in to the online dating scene psot-marriage, I thought it was going to be a cornucopia of choice. I got into online dating when it was in its fledgling stage and it was remarkably easier, the market far less crowded so it was quite the shock to not have very much luck at all when I rejoined a couple of years ago. Yep, I went through the phases of disappointment, a touch of resentment/wounded pride, got a bit pouty, but then I realized that nobody actually owes me anything whatsoever. Keep your expectations low (non-existent is even better) mate, disappointment then ceases to be an issue. I would love more than I get, but the plus side of that is that I really enjoy and appreciate what I do get when I get it. Which, incidentally, over the past year has not been from this site at all but out in the Actual Real World. Thus, I went from being a paid member to guest. I come here mostly for the forum entertainment. And man, is it entertaining.
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RHP User
8 years ago
After divorce I nearly went bankrupt, lost all my credit cards, and can't pay to be a member... Being a guest immediately puts a guy at the bottom of the list even against far less attractive men, simply because we have no means to communicate. I'm not desperate, if I'm interested, I send a flirt, if I don't get a reply, that's fine. There's obviously a reason. - Posted from rhpmobile
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