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Going bareback..
November 21 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Love ya guts but I gotta be blunt. When you start a new relationship, you run off to the doctors and do your testing, if they get offended by your request, then it should be NEXT!! Then again too, if they're a respectable type, for example an experienced swinger, chances are they get tested all the time :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Testing straight away if that's the desire.Of course, also recognising that some STIs can take months to present testable symptoms, so it's probably safest to wait a few months or so and test again.The last relationship I was in, though we were exclusive and she was on the pill we only went skin on skin on some occasions - recognising the fallibility of condoms and not particularly wanting any pregnancies, we viewed it as a special treat, rather than the norm.I suppose it helps that I'm younger and educated, so I've been raised in an environment where condom sex IS the norm (or at least should be.) I imagine it would be frustrating if you were used to free love in the swinging seventies and eighties - it could feel like quite the drag (though some condoms are self-lubricating! ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' n_d...... education or not .....it STILL amazes me just how readily so many women are to get caught up in the moment with their arousal/desire/passion/lust and want to slide down onto me without a condom.Understandable at that time, but still.... potentially reckless. It makes me think - if you're willing to offer that to me, without knowing my background, or really much about me and my level of risk, who/how many other guys do you make that same offer to? I mean, I know if/when I have anything I'd feel incredibly guilty if I didn't disclose it, but it's taking an awful lot on trust - I know I can trust me, and hopefully her, but I know nothing about the other guys she's been with.Assume the worst, minimise the risk. It's not perfect, but it's common sense I would hope, particularly with this lifestyle.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Once upon a time I met a girl from here, and when things were getting heated up she put her hand down south and just said "ah - condom." I wasn't planning on going there just yet (still had lots of other things to do first), but the fact that she was so on top of it (figuratively) it was actually really hot - it relaxed me further and removed a faint anxiety I didn't even know was there, enabling me to enjoy it even more.I realise this is getting away from the original topic and venturing into too much disclosure territory, so let me reiterate:I'm a virgin, but if/when I have sex in a relationship I wouldn't just go bareback straight away, nor would I feel intimidated or offended about having 'the talk' - I'd actually be encouraged by it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mischeviouslad I'd be astounded as well, that people in general lack the self control in order to assert a level of safety.
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RHP User
13 years ago
All people need to protect their health, I do not have a problem with letting guys know, they will have to get a health check before I would even contemplate not using a condom. I've never had a negative reaction or a refusal to my request.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Beesknees9' All people need to protect their health, I do not have a problem with letting guys know, they will have to get a health check before I would even contemplate not using a condom. I've never had a negative reaction or a refusal to my request. At 81 Ms Beesknees I'm glad to hear it. Those soldiers brought back all sorts of nasties from the War, so it sure paid to use protection (even if back then it was a washed out and re-useable pig's intestine.)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know Neptune - I've seen a thing or two in my time... Pig skins included ;).
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are still a virgin? I thought that wasn't the case anymore for some reason... Certainly you wouldn't pick that up from your profile. What are you waiting? Love? Or marriage? Just unusual that's all.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We've all got to die of something, ...and according to my doctor, I've only got another... ummm, what time is it now???
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RHP User
13 years ago
shel and i dated for a while before discussing this, we agreed, about 3 months in, that it looked very much like we were embarking on a long term adventure, so we went together and had some tests done. Even tho we both knew what the results would be, we did it for peace of mind, and out of respect. it was just another milestone we shared, the next was my vasectomy, something i did without hesitation, as it sealed our future together just that little bit more (this was prior to our marriage, only 3 years ago).....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You are still a virgin? I thought that wasn't the case anymore for some reason... Certainly you wouldn't pick that up from your profile. What are you waiting? Love? Or marriage? Just unusual that's all. If anyone asks I am.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Riiight and why would you say that? Does that line work for you then? Well I guess it pays to be good with your hands..... or fists. M
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'n_d...... education or not .....it STILL amazes me just how readily so many women are to get caught up in the moment with their arousal/desire/passion/lust and want to slide down onto me without a condom. Understandable at that time, but still.... potentially reckless. DG That's a big call DG :) Sample size? Or did you extrapolate based on percentages?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Riiight and why would you say that? Does that line work for you then? M I mean, the whole 'virgin' schtick worked so well for both the Madonnas.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I feel like I fell through the looking glass!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM'I feel like I fell through the looking glass! It's much more fun on this side, don't you think?
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