Friendship or sex??

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Hi Ferret Good to see u up and about hun - Yes i fully understand and agree with what u say. Me and Roy have made some wonderful friends off this site, and havent had sex with any of them lol. Funnily enough those we have been with sexually - we havent really formed the same friendships with. Cheers Tina

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Hi ferret, I am experiencing technical difficulties today so my posts keep sending before I finish writing. When I first joined RHP it was because I was going through a time when I wanted to explore aspects of my sexuality before it got too late. Since then I have appreciated making contact that has very little to do with sex and is more about finding like minded people to share conversation with. I find the WA forum in particular has great discussions and many of the people who participate are people who, if I lived in WA, I would like to meet and possibly develop a friendship with. I find some people do assume that you are there for sex only and even more annoying, will have sex with anyone. I have found men as well as women who are seeking a deeper connection. I am a little over the stereotype of men as the sexual predator. Its definitely something either gender is capable of. I think too many people buy into the stereotypes and that could be why they act shocked that you are seeking friendship. Some people seem to think because its a swingers site that sex should be all you are there for. I can't really guess other people's reasons for being shocked but its great that you are clear about what you are seeking. Cheers Wildnature

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  We also agree, we have made some really great friendships from RHP and we value the friendship side of things far more. We take the stance that we are here to make friendships with like minded people, chat and have fun. If sexual fun comes from those friendships then that's great, but it's not really our primary aim. Where else are you going to find people you can talk to openly and freely the way you can with people here?

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Have to agree friendships are very important to us, and we have met and still meet up with a fantastic bunch of people off here, who are very easy to chat toand we all have a good laugh. We have remained friends with a few couples who we hve been with but also a few who dont want any more contact, which is fine but hard to fatham as having done a very intimate thing with them, but thats their choice. We always up for meeting more people whether single or in a relationship and love the social side, not everything has to evolve around sex, but must admit do love the flirting side as well *grins*. shy xx

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Good for you Wildnature and thank you very much for your balanced, non-gender biased views. I appreciate your perspective.

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I came for the sex and stayed for the friends. Its a hard balancing act but friends with benefits rocks! Unfortunately for most people thats just too hard, so its either pick the friendship or pick the casual sex. Its always a sad moment for me when I get to the point that we start to like each other enough to think, damn, I don't want to risk the friendship, so I don't think we can go there now. So try to get the sex in early on, before its too late!

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Aye! Friendship last longer than mutual meetings.. naturally. I signed up for this very reason alone.. to meet friends. for who knows? i might meet their firneds, and their friends.. and finnaly meet the right miss (or ms .. ) for me. RHP isnt just about "boy meet girl.. boy fucks girl.. boy gives pressie to girl.. boy moves on.. (or vice versa for girls) it also about meeting everyone and form friendship. I enjoy the company of friends. Spartanis

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I to came for the sex and stayed for the friends... When I first signed up... wow... May 2005!!!...I thought I just wanted sex as in the physical.. I had just got rid of a lying cheating bastard and didnt want the hassle of a "relationship" but many moons later it dawned on me what I really wanted was the company of people who werent scared by sex or sex talk like most of my establish friends or 'long termers' (as I call them) are... I met my partner on RHP so will always think of the site as more than a "sex site" because I found a guy who knows what I neeeed (and dont need) in a 'relationship'.... He is my best friend, my lover.. but not my owner.. This is where I think most serious relationships go wrong... but thats a whooooole different thread lol So it can be friendship AND sex ferret... you dont have to CHOOSE between the two :-D xxx bundy

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  Ferret i are similar and like idea of friendship and sex. and i think is more important that u get along as friendss than have sex. Course if u have sex with ur friend is gr8 as well. but things do not always allow that to happen as if u saty friewnds but do not have sex the friendship seems to last. to many times after there has been sex btween u the friendship unfortunately ends and u drift apart.

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I joined here as I was lonely and wanted to broaden my horizons, I haven't had much luck so far with friends or any other. I wanted to find people that I could do things with that isn't much fun by yourself, like catch up for a chat over drinks, or go to the pub, or go fishing with, or go camping with, or even help keep the solitude of loneliness away.

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  RHP User

  18 years ago

  I joined here as I was lonely and wanted to broaden my horizons, I haven't had much luck so far with friends or any other. I wanted to find people that I could do things with that isn't much fun by yourself, like catch up for a chat over drinks, or go to the pub, or go fishing with, or go camping with, or even help keep the solitude of loneliness away. I hate the way they have changed this, you can't lay out what you type, like how you want to now....I think I had sent of half of what I wanted to type, GRRRRRR! Anyway back to what I was originally writing about...........I was hoping to meet people that I have something in common with, people that would help restore my faith in Human kind.....and I must say I hope I have made some new friends, I think I have; well fingers are crossed anyway. Take care all and hope all goes well in what you are searching for. xx Gypsy xx

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