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"Friends with Benefits"
June 03 2008
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RHP User
18 years ago
Yes Bumbles, to me the phrase "friends with benefits" means what you have said. So not off the mark as far as I am concerned. Maybe the boys should be asking for "Benefits, friendship optional". Cheers Verts
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RHP User
18 years ago
Buzzz Your definition is the same as mine. Sadly, such a thing doesn't exist here. Kiss
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RHP User
18 years ago
ah k kool thanks verts :)
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RHP User
18 years ago
yep sweetie... i agree with Vertigo... they should not call it " Friends with benifts" just " wanna fuck ? " lolol xxxxxxxxx
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Mr_Invisible
18 years ago
Aww... but I'm friendly Just alittle perverted
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RHP User
18 years ago
awsome thanks kiss
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RHP User
18 years ago
I think you're quite on the mark with people using the phrase "friends with benefits" as a euphamism for "one night stand" or "booty call". At least the other term "no strings attached" is a bit more accurate. As a RHP member who is looking for a FWB there are times I wonder if I'm seen as one of these guys. Its like the online equivalent of being refused when asking to buy a girl a drink at a club because she believes you to be the latest in a long line of guys that night who were only interested in getting in her pants. Unfortunately there is little you can do about it. For me, a FWB is someone you do things with you would do with any of your friends, with the option of having sex thrown in as well. The reason I want a FWB is because I work away for weeks at a time. An FWB offers someone to hang out with and be intimate with, without the large issue of being away coming between us. The best way I think I can convey that is in my profile and in my replies and messsages. I'm honest about my working circumstances and what I want from that person. I'm sure there are many guys like me who feel this way about FWBs. I guess the best signs of what someones intentions are will be in their profile and messages, but just like meeting people offline, you wont know for sure until they show their true colours. The trick is to move on and not let it get to you once you've realised they aren't what you want. The good ones are out there too, they just need finding. blackeyed
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RHP User
18 years ago
i think thats the difference between 'friends with benefits' and 'fuck buddies'
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RHP User
18 years ago
well said blackeyed!!
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RHP User
18 years ago
Yep - I think girth is on the money shot there... FwB means able to handle a conversation and a few laughs in and out of the bedroom. FBs means wham! bam! pass-the-kleenex... Just be str8 about what you want and don't take any guff! There sure are a lot of time wasters and BS atrtists on RHP though. Good luck B23 : )
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RHP User
18 years ago
right on the mark blackeyed...... you have so eloquently described what i am after and having so much trouble finding..... well done.... lava xxx
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RHP User
18 years ago
bumble your right and blackeyed, very well said yes it is hard to convey exactly what you want in a profile and there will be the rejected and rejections. there is something very special about being an individual as we all are. PD
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Frankiesgame
18 years ago
I find it hard to have the benefits without getting to know the person well, maybe i'm just a woos!! but since i have been looking online i have made heaps of friends and yes, some of them have no benefits!! but that is cool!!!! up front and honest! the way to go!
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RHP User
18 years ago
I agree when i was setting up my addy i wanted "friends with benefits" but alas they did not allow. It correctly described what I was seeking.
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RHP User
18 years ago
it is a shame when people can't grasp this concept Bumble. it ruins it for the guys out there like me and others that have posted that actually would like to go out for a meal, a movie, a picnic, to the beach, for coffee, a weekend away. the benefits should be excluded UNTIL such time a friendship exists. the reason i won't go to a hooker. i can't have a sexual relationship with someone i have no feelings for. i suspect the reason i have "missed out" as often as i have is because i won't just bang a random. i need to care. damn.. i think i just got a little serious! what the hell is happening to me?!?!?!?
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RHP User
18 years ago
Anyone actually found a FWB yet? Someone give me hope, please...lol
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RHP User
18 years ago
il put my hand up for this Bumble_b23 & kiss...... i have shes someone ive known now for a few months. and is on my friends list as she is a friend too. so yes there out there ladies and guys and yes im one of them guys too.. as the ppl i seek and what ppl find in me. ongoing things become so much more pleasurable as u get to know someone and myself then a one night stand ... not to put down a one nighter that can be quite erotic nuthin like sex with a perfect stranger but rarely do u meet a "perfect" stranger... but im sure u all have some other words for them ppl....
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RHP User
18 years ago
But the frequency of getting together is less than I would really like. We have mutual friends, we hang out, we don't always think of just sex, we like each other, we talk about all kinds of things and we excite each other. But gloriously, there is no "relationship". And it is not a monogamous arrangement. I feel jealous sometimes but I don't see that as an indication that the arrangement doesn't work; I see it as a flaw on my part - an opportunity to grow.
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RHP User
18 years ago
Ive had a friend with benefits, lasted a year or so then he moved to another state, and we had a friendship with the odd hanky panky now and then, was good fun while it lasted. nibbles
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RHP User
18 years ago
Good to hear a few of you have found FWB - I am actually rather jealous BUT I shall keep looking. Joanna
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RHP User
18 years ago
Well the word friends comes first, so if you are lucky enough to get the benefits at some stage then that is a benefit. It is the awkwardness that comes with the after sex. Speaking for myself, i do like to stay friends. But what happens if the sex is not as you expect as some people that are friends don't let go of themselves and fully enjoy the experience. Then it is awkward and being a male not yet in touch with my metro side, i probably would find it hard to converse with the friend after this. So should you have the benefit first and then become friends, maybe this would work better. If the friend part doesn't happen then you know it was a fun time and move on. If the friendship starts and the benefits keep happening then you are set. So to sum it up i am looking for "BENEFITS WITH A FRIEND" Dirty
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RHP User
18 years ago
This whole thread raises a related question though - is a friend with benefits only a possibility where there exist or remains the possibiity for other "friend with benefits". Once there is an appearence of someone who is 'more than a friend', do other FWB have to, by definition, fall by the wayside? Surely it all depends on the people involved, and I stand by this, but to date my experience and feedback from others would suggest otherwise. I would like to think where trust and friendship was true, FWB can coexist with "more than a friend" so long as there is no awkward dissent by any party, but perhaps trying to redefine kiss' quest, this has been my stumbling block. I had what I thought was a FWB, but my FWB bailed out when she met someone who was more than a friend. I was comfortable, we were friends but even that dissappeared as "more than a friend" appeared. Perhaps a real FWB benefits is someone that will remain, or who someone can trust on to remain a friend even when the benefits is not appropriate?
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boof63
18 years ago
bumble to me there are 2 types fuck buddies just call up do the deed then leave then there are friends with benefits which means movie ,dinner,drinks company and the occasional sex if the mood warrants it but the main word is friend
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RHP User
17 years ago
I've only ever had a 'friend with benefits' as you defined it. A really good friend whom I got on well with and had 'benefits' arise from it from time to time.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well as a married woman I suppose I'm not able to comment now, but I do have a couple of other married friends who I have benefits with... but then we are all friends together.. I wonder if this is only the case when you are single?? When I was single I did have some friends with benefites and that was awesome. We got drunk, hung out, went partying etc. and then occassionally went home for a great time!! Yes they do exist but I think you perhaps need to be different to what your ideal partner is because otherwise feelings seem to get in the way.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hey, x Ruby x Over here Hey Ruby, I will be your friend honey x. You are a kind considerate woman, so i will stand up and be your friend. R
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RHP User
17 years ago
I think there probably are more guys out there who only want fuck buddies than those who could handle a FWB situation but because of the other lot consideration is rarely given to the genuine people... anyway thats my bit said ib
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hey 'Friend', we gave your 'genuine' self the benefit of 'consideration' quite a few months ago...how ya been? :-Peachy
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RHP User
17 years ago
Joanna (hello there ltns!) They do exists. But i never actualy found along tewrm one, only a few short term ones.. (2 - 4 months) mainly because a) she found a decent man to settle with and b) well.. lets just say, I dont see the long term connection with I still have hopes with FWB.. Had a couple of FB. But they dont feel the same as FWB.. or with those you are in love with. The connection MUST be there.. or there is no point.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Your definition matches what I am looking for, I am travelling next year, so i dont want the full commitment thing. In a perfect (mans) world, we could just cum and go as we please, but I do like to do 'other' activities with girls. someone close by, who, aside from some stunning nights, is happy to go to the movies, or out to lunch every now and then. I would rather a friend for the next few months than just random sex with people u dont see again... Is that asking too much from others?
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RHP User
16 years ago
FWB is a friend first and sex secondly. So when someone says NSA, is it sex only and no friend? Or is a bit like the 9 inch saga when it should read 9cm? In my experiences I look for NSA and end up with FWB.
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RHP User
16 years ago
more than happy to be a friend we just havent met yet
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RHP User
16 years ago
The sugar daddy in it's many forms can be considered a friend with benefits. There's the sleazy sugar daddy and the subtle sugar daddy. Both being a convenience, but one more a case of exploitation rather than friendship... though sometimes it's hard to tell exactly who is exploiting who.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ok here it is I am a single guy, who has enjoy the company of women. I date go out even wine and dine. it is not all about the sex. However it has conme to my attention that women are becoming harder to satisfy. be here be there, Look women have to understand that as men on this site we do enjoy your company and yes men are hardwire for sex. its in us, we cannot help it. I often wonder if as women you actually understand us, Don't get me wrong. I understand you have needs. would you rather the guy you where with lie to you or tell you the truth. Make a stand be human understand what it is to be in this age. Ok so I ruffled a few feathers, but I am honest, I do look for the freind ship and I do like to spoil a woman as it should be. how ever it is freinds with benifits, be good to each other and maybe it will be more. Understand us men are physical creatures we cannot help it.
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RHP User
16 years ago
My husband and i r looking for exact same thing..its hard as instead of meeting someone and clicking its four people that have to click and most of the time someone in the group doesnt ..guess we just hav to stick with it..saying that ...we hav actually met a couple of couples that we are hoping to foster a good friendship with.It a struggle to make friends at any point let alone wen u throw sex into the mix...thats why im such a loner i suppose..
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've been thinking 'friend with benefit' means the girl may ask the guy to buy her 'stuffs' in addition to sex. So the benefit is the sex only?
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RHP User
16 years ago
I must be one of the lucky ones then!!! I have a great FWB Actually, he is one of my best friends :) We hang out, go shopping/dinner/movies/visit other friends, but once we are back home then its game on. None of our other friends know exactly what we get up to, but the sex is awesome! We are both not keen for a relationship and dont think that the other could give us 100% of what we are each looking for. That and neither of us want to be exclusive!
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RHP User
16 years ago
sexiness is enough to make you want to have sex with someone but its not enough to sustain a friendship. for that you need to have some sort of similarity of philosophy and outlook, which is rarer. thats why you won't want to stay friends with everyone you fuck.
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RHP User
16 years ago
it appears to me by reading this forum that this means different thing to different people.so i thought i would make thoughts clear on this topic.Fuck Buddies :- when 2 people meet just for sexual gratification. (this aslo means they are mostly friends as well but most meeting's end up with sex when they meet)Friends with Benefits :- is where 2 people become friends, chat meet for a drink from time to time plus enjoy each other company and occational will have a sexual encounter together with no strings i guess their will be ppl that agree with my thoughts on this and others that do not. but on thing we all know is that in the end if anyone of the 2 wish to stop at anytime they can ( but preferable not during :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Friends with benifits........its says it all. Cant have the benifits without being friends
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ok here it is Yes I am a single guy, who has enjoy the company of women. I date go out even wine and dine.I also be there if she needed me for sew, or without the sex. I don't mind going out to movies/shopping etc. But I may try a little every time as that is me. but if it happens it does if not, then not However some women are harder to satisfy then others. I do enjoy your company and yes is hardwire for sex. its in us, we cannot help it.I would like FWB myself. I don't try and lie as I feel it is better to show you feelings.
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RHP User
16 years ago
sorry but the funniest forum i read in this part was "benefits friends optional" very funny very quirky lol. my view on this is as it reads yes im looking for a friend,benefits dosent actully have to be sex,it could be taking someone out and making sure they have a good time,sure this is a sex site and hopefully we get some in the end but in my translation benefit does not mean i am going to get some,that what fuck buddies mean lol... i consider myself to be fairly well travelled and have known a huge amount of ppl in my short lifetime and what i see as a important part of life is you can never have enough friends and sometimes they come from the strangest places or situations . im always looking for a new friend and more than happy to reply to messages of peeps looking for fwb
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would rather be friends first so I can really get to know who I'm going to be with as I like to laugh when I'm playing say certain things and these are the things one finds out when the friendship part is in the relationship. I used to have a FWB with a lady and we would go to the movies every Tuesday and have coffee afterwards just to catch up on our lives. I do miss that part and the sex was better in my opinion because we wanted to please and pleasure each other to the max.
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RHP User
15 years ago
To say that FWB does not exist on RHP is dead wrong. I have an FWB on the site an it is entirely possible to do, and do well. Conversation and companionship as well as intimacy and satisfying sex = FWB.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i've had this work very well because it is a mates who fuck situation. it can be a great thing, chill out and have some fun but also give a crap what happens to each other without becoming too attached. so much more satistfying because they know the buttons to push and i dont feel the need to bail before the comdom is off. fuck buddies can work well too, good for bootycalls but not really to hang out with. i dont bother hooking up unless i think its going to be more than a once off
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RHP User
15 years ago
hey id rather have a fwb that a fb, would make the experience more fullfilling, someone that in your discreet moments you could ask independant advice and have a totally different conversation base with, but it is something im sure most of us would enjoy and make better long term sense
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RHP User
15 years ago
the first lady i meet through rhp, what a wonderful person, nowdays we share a glass of wine a joke,days out with each others friends, nights in with each others friends,and we don't have 2 live in each others pocket!!! preety cool!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
yes fwb s on here do exsist ,,,,,,,i have one ,,,,,,,,we go out n do things together ,,,,,,,,,dont allways have sex ,,,,and watch each others backs ,,,,,,,,,we both bi ,,so can play as a couple or do the single thing ,,,no strings ,,as she knows ,,it could all end tommorow if either of us find the right person ,,,,,,,,,then it will be ,i wish you the best of luck ,,and we will always be best of friends ,,,,,,and never kiss and tell ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,they out there ,,,,,,,you gotta make your intensions known straight away ,,,,,,,,,,and not be the jealouse type ,,,,,,,,,,,best of luck in your search ,,,,,,,,,les ,,,,,
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RHP User
15 years ago
They do exist and for the past 5 months or so I have had the most awesome fwb. He was generous to a fault and always looked after the friend side of things as well as the benefits. However, as some times happens one feels they are taken for granted and feel they do not receive equal benefit which is not always sex. Unfortunately this has happened to us. The best advice is accept it gracefully,maybe tearfully but remember you were and always will be friends first. Leave the blame game in the toilet and if you're lucky like me you'll always have the most awesome friend in the world. Hillz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sadly some friends with benefits eventually end if one party takes the other for granted. Unfortunately I have parted company with my awesome friend with benefit for that reason. He was more than generous and I seemed to be receiving most of the benefits which isn't always sex. My advice is leave the blame game in the bin and hope they you can stay good friends. Remember should you be lucky enough to have another friend with benefit not to take them for granted. Hillz
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RHP User
15 years ago
I can totally understand both sides of the story here. When people first meet on here I can't imagine they are building a friendship first and then only once they are friends does the sex start. So whilst most people might be genuine about the friends bit at first, after some sex they may find that they just don't connect that well with the other person. Having sex with someone doesn't take more than two bodies, but friendships take much more than that to develop, people have to actually like each other ! Just for the record, I can have sex with someone who isn't my friend (though I need to be attracted to them at some level) but I can't be friends with someone I don't like - I can't fake it ! Cheers,
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billecart
15 years ago
fwb fb all i can say life is not without turmoil
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RHP User
15 years ago
HI Bumble_B23:I don't know about other men, but from my experiences women can't handle "friends with benefits" as well because after a while most develop some sort of emotional attachment. Then *I* become the "bad guy" because even though we supposedly just hang out on occasion, go to the movies, meet up for dinner, or whatever else (and mix in sex), it seems to convey the message after the first fortnight that we're a "couple" and should be more committed.Here's a perfect example of what happens to men:http://blogs.news.com.au/bossy/index.php/news/comments/she_says_i_did_ther_wrong_thing_by_using_a_dating_site_while_i_was_dating_h/So I suspect that's why guys just do it for the sex and leave. If we do anything more, women start to see it emotionally as "a relationship".
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RogueGeek
15 years ago
When some people think "friend with benefits" is an exclusive relationship (ie they are the only one getting the benefits) and when they find out otherwise chuck a huge space attack. Sorry. Sore point at the moment. Cheers, MS (the female half)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I mean lets be honest.. hang on.. I think that's where it all goes wrong. inevitably its the communication breakdown. Whilst all intentions are in the right place miss communication, body language, presumptions etc all seem to end up in a twisted mess which no-one can untangle when it all goes pear shaped.I do honestly think that there is good reason for fwb but from my limited experience they go one of two ways. Perhaps it could be a maturity thing but its not to say I wouldn't go there again. I would just approach it differently from previous lessons learnt.my 2c
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RHP User
14 years ago
Id be keen to a have a fwb or a fb, i reckon it would be cool to be able to say to a fem hey you want to catch up for a cuppa, or you want me to check the oil in your car once in a while, have a chat with someone very different and not rely on having sex. and if you both feel the need to have passionate sex hey that is where the bonus is
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RHP User
14 years ago
girls are fun because when you are a friend she refuses to sleep because of the friendship, how many times I have heard no "we'll ruin our friendship if we do that" and these girls will put that same kind of therm on dating siteswe should first down and decide after the fact If you are a good shot I keep you, as a lover for sex but just shut up and do your work If the bed is not that we can speak, it is interesting if you become friends, and make mistakes sometimes when we are drunkthat is the friendship with benefit
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RHP User
14 years ago
Rexit.... I'm jealous. How is it that men can land this sweet deal.... yet when a woman send a male friend a message suggesting a 'catch up with benefits', they are deemed a slut, clingy or told that the male is 'not after a relationship'. Men.... women have carnal instincts too... I'd kill for a male mate to hang out with, wathcing a movie or at the pub, mates all round but no weirdness if we groped one another or dragged one another into an alley for a quicky.... but with the benefits of having your bed to yourself at the same time!
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RHP User
14 years ago
unfortunely it means let wam bam i see you some other time mam, i d like to get to know the person a bit first cause they may look hot but personalty wise the could be an ass and i m not giving my ass to a person who carnt hold a conversation lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Very Interesting on people's perception. friends with benifits i think is a basis on knowing each other first. A FBuddy i believe is just a phone call away shag thing. So what is a casaul NSA?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Friendship is not just about having sex ... It is about caring, loving, sharing and even sacrifying sometime.
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RHP User
14 years ago
yes i would love to have a fwb..someone to be with,have fun with but no hang ups..but still a true friend
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RHP User
14 years ago
I look for the brain first. Anything after that is bonus. One thing is for certain though, if you make a friendship you usually catch up again and that could be considered a benefit.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am truly spoilt!! I have made the most wicked friends off this site!! The trick I believe, and this goes for seeking any kind of relationship, is actually just the opposite! Don't go seeking it! The previous poster, Mr Longman is a true friend with benefits!!! I hope he doesn't elaborate as to how we met.., suffice to say it was on a slutty afternoon and I was celebrating my first ex wedding anniversary (the first time the date came around while under my new status of "separated") and I was revelling in my new found freedom... I Certainly wasn't seeking Fwbs over coffee that day!! However we clicked, have had some very raunchy encounters, but when I needed help in my real life last year, Longman was there, with with a helping hand and some Very beneficial advice! Thank you dear friend xxx I also have a handful of guys that I see on a regular basis.. All more than fuck buddies, but nearly all found on a late night, supposed one-off hook up! I count all of these guys as true and trusted friends. Xxx Anna xxX PS Longman, naww, am I included in the brainy set? I don't think that's what u saw first Hun;p hehehe
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am at the other end of the spectrum, keep accumulating "just good friends"But no benefits ! BOO HOO !
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RHP User
14 years ago
There is also a flip side to this... the man you meet say's he wants 'FWB' but seems to want to do more and more and spend more and more time with you...He wants what I would call almost a relationship but he still says it only FWB. Confusing.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thats all im lookin for
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RHP User
13 years ago
Bumble_B23. I think you have hit the nail on the head. Surely....and in my opinion...... the sex is better with someone you know on a more personal level. Its just a little hard for some to keep it the FWB way though.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Surely some early communication as to what you're both looking for will clear up any ambiguity or diversity in the use of the term?
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RHP User
13 years ago
well if you are genuine friends that see each other and are having regular sex, then thats a relationship. boyfriend and girlfriend. Friends with benefits are two people that have the understanding they are able to have l sex with each other without any expectation of quality time in each others company. Its casual call up sex that both are happy to comply with, simple as that. DONT EXPECT ANYTHING OR MAKE DEMANDS FROM A MAN YOU ARE HAVING SEX WITH as this is certain to ruin the fwb situation. It makes you sound like you are getting feelings toward him and and he will hate it and run or pretend to like you that way and use you for your sex until your demands are too much and end it. Its just human nature to respond that way so don't blame the man unless you make it clear in the beginning what you are looking for and he agrees. if you deviate from the rules then expect it to break down.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi xx_Ruby_xx,Yes I've found a FWB, granted the benefits came quite soon, but we are friends and we do things other than.... funny we found we have so many things in common, almost scary...as our paths has crossed many times.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fuck Buddies...FWB?...I'd Rather "FWB"...because as well as Sex I actually like to have Friends to go out with 'Socialise' etc...:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with "50zcool"...I've YET to see the "Benefit" Side of this "FWB"...lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do agree friends with benefits should mean enjoying a good time with someone sex or sex. Sex is the bonus and so many peeps make it hard for us when we are genuinely looking for real FWB's. I can't see why if you are only after a shag you don't say so on your profile honesty would go a long way and make it easier for others. Steve
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I can confirm that I have found a guy who wants to fuck regulary and will also go out and have a few drinks and have some fun before we head home for the sex. After the awesome sex there is spooning and talk before he goes home. I think some men think some women cant handle a FWB arrangment. I'm here to say that I have experienced men that cant grasp this concept. For me I dont want many one night stands and happy with just a couple of regualr FWB whom can enjoy each others company as well. After all we grown ups and can say what we want and what we dont want "cant we".
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RHP User
13 years ago
friends with benefits never work ....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'blackeyed' I think you're quite on the mark with people using the phrase "friends with benefits" as a euphamism for "one night stand" or "booty call". At least the other term "no strings attached" is a bit more accurate. As a RHP member who is looking for a FWB there are times I wonder if I'm seen as one of these guys. Its like the online equivalent of being refused when asking to buy a girl a drink at a club because she believes you to be the latest in a long line of guys that night who were only interested in getting in her pants. Unfortunately there is little you can do about it. For me, a FWB is someone you do things with you would do with any of your friends, with the option of having sex thrown in as well. The reason I want a FWB is because I work away for weeks at a time. An FWB offers someone to hang out with and be intimate with, without the large issue of being away coming between us. The best way I think I can convey that is in my profile and in my replies and messsages. I'm honest about my working circumstances and what I want from that person. I'm sure there are many guys like me who feel this way about FWBs. I guess the best signs of what someones intentions are will be in their profile and messages, but just like meeting people offline, you wont know for sure until they show their true colours. The trick is to move on and not let it get to you once you've realised they aren't what you want. The good ones are out there too, they just need finding. blackeyed
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RHP User
13 years ago
Miss, Sadekacy... I wish I was a member, for I would message you... sigh.... looks like alot of fun damit!! haha..
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RHP User
13 years ago
No I think you hit it right dead centre. I have been looking for someone interested in developing a friendship with the understanding that if all goes well we might hit the sack together. No promises no strings. If you are interested in meeting message me back.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Whilst most people seem to be assuming FWB as a thinly disguised booty call I have heard numerous accounts of the FWB scenario being used as a cover for those who really want a relationship.The key is to be clear about what you want and not try and manipulate it into something it isn't.There is nothing wrong with the terminology only it's application.As I've said elsewhere I reckon finding a fwb that works for both is just as hard as finding a long term partner.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would love to have a friend, yes, I said friend, with benefits. I am not seeking anything permanent, yet, but if something more permanent comes along with my friend, and the benefits, so be it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes FWB is exactly what I'm looking for, as horny as I am if it was "just sex" I was looking for then I'd be going to the working girls. I want someone who I can talk too...and that does include pillow talk. I'm a newbie here as the thread title says I'm married and looking for someone who is also married and looking.I have my wife's consent to have a lover, she doesn't want to now about it so discretion is still a must. I'm busy so I really don't know how to make it happen, but first I need to find someone who wants to make it happen with me. It's a truism that where there's a will there's a way. I wonder what my chances are, I'm not a bad bloke and I'll be a considerate lover for any lady who likes the look of me.It seems that there are a truckload of men for every woman so I won't be holding my breath and waiting all I can do is keep looking. Is 4-5 ours in a hotel/motel too much to ask for?At the time of posting I'm not yet a financial member but I will be after I load up the prepaid
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' I am at the other end of the spectrum, keep accumulating "just good friends"But no benefits ! BOO HOO ! I know exactly what you mean there bloke...well I have made one out there...she's made heaps and that's just the way it is...all those horny men, and all those women who are losing their libido.At least Mrs Palmer is a good sport
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RHP User
12 years ago
Friends with benefits Nah Fuck Buddies...
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RHP User
11 years ago
i personally think what you're thinking is right, friend with benefit are different than sex friend or nsa, (not that i have any friends :/ ). anyways what i think it mean is being friends, hang out and relax just like your normal friend, telling story, while discussing about sex freely and help each other in time of horny, how to enjoy sex, etc. Not i need to fk you, im satisfy, im going, bye bye. ya just haven't meet the right guy, thats all, don't give up on believing, lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am after the same thing FWB.. not just someone's fuck buddy.. I would love to be able to go out with them to do things besides the benefits which is the added bonus..
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RHP User
11 years ago
FWB is friends with benefits. N.S.A is no strings attached. FWB doesn't mean 1 night stands/booty call. N.S.A is more for 1 night stands/booty calls. At least that's my view on it. xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
A WOMAN BROUGHT YOU INTO THIS WORLD. SO YOU DON'T HAVE THE RIGHT TO DISRESPECT 1!!! XXX ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well I would love to find a friend and benefits but but only if its write for both parties just going out for a drink or coffee and catching up sounds great to me I don't have much luck on these sites as I never know what to write in my profile so if I only made a friend its a bonus
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RHP User
8 years ago
My FWB is the best thing that has come out of RHP. We started in the scene wanting couples only and this guy popped up out of nowhere. We said thanks but no thanks but kept in contact. He and I talked for about 4/5 months before the husband and I decided we were ready to try flying solo and it has been amazing. In those months we built up a strong friendship as well as extreme sexual tension. I consider him one of my best friends. We mostly talk about non sexual related topics, we meet for coffee, go out for dinner, hang out in general and then we have the HOTTEST sex ever.
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RHP User
one month ago
Any mature curvy women in here who wants so black cork
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Icebandit
2 days ago
I'm looking for a friend with benefits as well. If something more developed though I wouldn't mind. But for me it means friends first and foremost, benefits second. In other words, being a good friend is essential before any benefit like sex is on the table. Going out occasionally, meeting up for a coffee, a picnic somewhere nice. A bushwalk perhaps? Whatever. But being a friend who can be a considerate lover surely that's obvious?
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