First timer w/ previous lifestyler

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  FeistyFatty

  7 years ago

  Sorry to point out the obvious here but this is a conversation you should already have had with your partner. His advice, support and nurturing as the "previous lifestyler" will be all you should need to find a level of comfort and then set your boundaries accordingly. Good luck x - Posted from rhpmobile

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  FeistyFatty

  7 years ago

  To mention. We're all fairly daunted and nervous the first time you welcome others into a sexual encounter, that's half the thrill I think. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  for your reply, We have, and that's why I'm still 100% down, even if I do act awkward as fuck. He knows this might happen, and supports me with whatever decisions I make. We'll laugh it off after the fact. I am just interested in other people's interactions, similar situations, other stories, opinions, such as yours 😘 He and I are obviously different stages which is amazing because he is very insightful. However that also means I'm still new and processing those slight jealousy feelings, working out my boundaries Etc. We always talk about it and it's completely fine, it's just very one sided by me 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  For everyone to have insecurity in the lead up to a first encounter. Think of it as a bonus that your partner has the experience to guide you through it and have your back all the way. It's about having fun so have a couple of drinks before hand. My first time was with a first time partner. We both had a few drinks and will always remember it. Good luck

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  ReyandJean

  7 years ago

  It's always nerve-wracking to contemplate the risk you are taking with your relationship and your self esteem. If you've had "the conversation" then there's not much more you can do on the theory side. On the reality side, you have control, so you can choose to make it fun or stop if it's not, so don't stress. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  of encouragement are much appreciated guys. Ohhh I'll definitely be drinking hahaha. I wouldn't think many would go the first encounter sober.

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  Tall74nHard9

  7 years ago

  only young still. Even he with his previous "experience" will still be finding his way around, regardless of what he says or thinks - you won't be alone in that regard. As long as you both have each maothers back and have discussed as much as posible all the pro's and con's, and are still happy to move forward, you can only try. You will always 'live and learn' as you go along - so mentally ake note of what happens and see how it can be bettered for you (both) for any future possible encounters.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  you have some great advice right there. He definitely has had a fair share of experience ahead of me, 5 yrs in total. However its good to hear that he may still be finding his ground especially now with a new partner too. First meet up is in 2 weeks

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  countrytouch82

  7 years ago

  Don't know about the drinking. Pretty much all of the private events I've been to everyone has been more or less sober. But that's probably because we are uninhibited enough already! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  EarthQueen

  7 years ago

  Even though your nervous it’s important in this situation to be in control of what you want. You don’t want any part of this to be a take one for the team type scenario so to speak, because your resistance is lower from drinking . Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  As someone who’s only just beginning to think about such adventures I find this post to be really helpful. It’s something that I want to explore with my partner who’s been very open and honest about his desires, but I’m afraid of all the self doubt & awkwardness & the risk that it’ll ruin things between us. So it’s helpful to read about other people’s thoughts and experiences. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thanks I won't drink to much, I've already been told "it's not happening whether you want to or not if you're drunk" hahaha. And likewise, I posted because I love reading actual feelings of situations, the outconez, and how they were dealt with. Yes how good it was is important to me too. But I'm learning these mental strains and how to cope with them. So I finds these sorts of posts calming. If your new like me I recommend "getting into the swing of things" podcast, nothing like my situation however really good insight to the community itself. ☺️☺️☺️ talks about the shit and the good and I find myself having a giggle or two through them too. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DonnaBrett

  7 years ago

  Funny enough the so called experienced half of a couple isn't always the most secure. Many years ago we met a couple where he had swung before with his first wife...so was all experienced and such. He had a new girl who was a total newbie. We met, hit it off so we all come back to our place. We start playing, his new girl is getting right into the zone and having a ball...then all of a sudden he says "This is too much" and literally ran out of our bedroom. We're saying "What the?" She seemed quite oblivious at first. We sat upstairs in our room twiddling thumbs while they had a big pow wow downstairs. Needless to say it all went south and they left. Have never seen them anywhere in the years since?

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