Feeling like a Materialistic item.

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  Sescalinata

  3 days ago

  There are some men who are looking for more than a root and boot. But not as many as there were before the whole C-vid debaucle. I've found that going to meet and greet events is a good way of meeting more genuine guys. I have had a couple of really good fwbs in the past. Still looking for that same calibre of man.

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  Flirtydancer

  2 days ago

  I also struggle with this as you can see in my bio I'm not just looking for sex but someone to enjoy our time together when both free. I have kids and been married so not after a serious king term relationship but always get told that's what I want and shouldn't be here 🙄 What's so wrong with just finding someone reliable to get to know and also have lots of fun in and out of the bedroom for a genuine ongoing connection and not just having meaningless sex?

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  Nightglider

  2 days ago

  What you’re feeling is really valid. RHP is a unique place and flying solo, unless you’ve got existing connections in the lifestyle can feel more transactional and empty. I’d suggest adding to your profile, say that you’re looking for an ongoing FWB, and list your intentions. Granted many don’t read profiles and reach out mostly based on pictures, but it will assist filter the ones more likely to fit what you’re after. Give it time, don’t loose complete hope, great connections can be found with genuine people. It doesn’t happen overnight, and can take time working out the landscape of RHP. I’ve made some genuine friendships and connections here. For me, the best thing I did was meeting couples and other single women in the lifestyle. Some I’ve connected with through forums, others in chat room (felt clicky at first but give it time), or via parties and events. Not all of them have been intimate in nature, but it’s given me greater perspective and helped me understand myself in this space too. Many are open to friendship, not everyone is after something physical with every connection. Genuinely hoping all works out for you and you find what you’re looking for.

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  RopesandIced

  2 days ago

  I think it's important to curate your feed. For eg. when I look at your profile there's nothing that says you want something more or something meaningful. I think it would be fair to everyone if you mentioned that and then rejected them.

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  seekandplay

  2 days ago

  It certainly can feel like that everywhere as a Single F. That we are just used for when it suits people and our emotions aren’t considered as much as they should be. Flip us off when it gets too hard or the novelty has worn off. That just because we are single, we are somewhat desperate for a man and for sex and so we’ll just take what we can and put up with what we are dealt. Just tidy up your wording in your bio and be clear with what you’re looking for.

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  BarberBoss1981

  2 days ago

  When i joined this site as a single I found it was the opposite...I tended to look for more one time meet ups and it was the men who were looking for something more ongoing and connection....as someone else said, maybe put more information into your bio and explain what you are looking for.

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  HappyDays26

  2 days ago

  Yeah, I don't bother messaging anymore. As a male, we are generally typecast as all being the same and it really can be a little disheartening. After all, I think friendship and connection are the most important things. I think that we like to find similarities in others that we can connect to, and that is the hardest thing to find in a superficial world obsessed with image, beauty and judgement. Different drivers as a male but same coldness.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  2 days ago

  Being a single woman with no other commitments, you are actually in the best position to be here because it's all about you and what you want. I started off attending meet and greets and met people from there. My advice is "Think like a man, act like a woman." For me, that means understanding how others approach the lifestyle while staying true to my own values. Yes, there are some men who expect all the benefits without putting in any effort. Those are often the ones who become rude or abusive when they're told "no," and they usually reveal themselves in their very first message. Don't waste your energy on them. Hit "Not Interested" or block them and move on. Most importantly, don't take rejection personally. People generally aren't rejecting you, they're simply pursuing what they're looking for, just as you are. Keep your standards as the people looking for genuine connection will eventually find you. As others have stated, reword and play around with your profile, so it attracts those with similar outlooks as you. All the best Ms Foxy

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  Notice_Me

  2 days ago

  Being your age, single, and child-free is practically a superpower ... I love you - call me :)

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  exploringfun

  2 days ago

  Would like to know you and possibly chat in the near future

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  Zpaset

  yesterday

  Especially true if you're the third playing with a couple. I don't know what it's like for a unicorn but as a male it's usually no after care or pillow talk. They usually want to talk for a bit to check you out before heading somewhere to play. After the fun they usually head off and your left feeling a little discarded. Your more of a toy they bring into their sex life to spice things up. I've yet to find a couple who wanted a relationship outside of the one time.

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  naughtyvsnice28

  5 hours ago

  I hear you!! Yes we are all on this site for fun but a lot of guys on here forget there’s the human element behind the fun and connection both in and out of the bedroom are so important. Unfortunately, the majority of guys on here do objectify women on here. There are genuine guys on here once you weed through the non-genuine ones.

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