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Elephant Man? Not Very Bright? Or Simply Misunderstood?

June 26 2015

OK. I've been on RHP for a fair while now. At least a year. And in that time I haven't managed to achieve much more than a hand full of relatively brief message exchanges, a couple of 'encounters', & a truckload of 'Thanks, but no thanks.' &/or no replies. I've tried several different introductions, added new pictures during this period, & attempted to actively engage with other 'Members', always conscious of their criteria etc. But still no success. So, here's my question..... Is there something that I'm missing? Am I breaking some rules that I'm not aware of? Am I so amazingly different that my people aee scared to give me a second look? Or is it simply the case that I just don't have a hope? Any constructive comments &/or advice would be appreciated. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

I cried when elephant man died , And wait umm damn here i go again. Bahahaha Try harder. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Competing with a gazillion other men here..people will either find your looks and what you say in your profile attractive,or not..there is a lot of advice here for men and ow to build a profile..Meander put up a post quite recently that you might find useful...The Ten Commandments of Writing a Profile I think it is called...RHP also offers advice....perhaps your pics could use a revamp..the ones of you in formal attire are not great..put yourself to your best advantage..be your own best critic,would you want to meet you ? XxFreya

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RHP User

11 years ago

If it's any consolation, sadly,...until I posted some more revealing pics, I had less-than-handful of contacts/communications ! The significance & paradox of that , did not escape me. We are such visual creatures overall. :) Wishing you well. KK 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

The wonders of the universe... Like why some people still don't get a reply after responding to flirts. Maybe it's possible on here to get "friend-zoned" if you come across a genuine, nice reasonable guy, but haven't been able to spark that "sexual" interest. I don't really have any advice for you, as I don't spend much time viewing men's profiles, and if I did, I wouldn't really know how women view them from their point of view. Good luck with your endeavours. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Let me underline That there are some paranoid and critically focussed members mature and lived a life ups and downs and often unpleasant environment has scarred for life !! And therefore possibly view you as the following !!! You been workin the burbs for months in the city the surroundings you answer to nobody . If i must i will adjust. I seem like a great guy like a beer , always wave a hello to the elderly!! And love a great joke . As long as its not on me you dont want to see my evil streak . My friends tell me what i want to hear i have convinced them all entirely. I like dark corners so to not be seen sit quiet and watch .dont push me if i dislike your opinion keep it to yourself i dont want to hurt you . Kind of a eye for an eye kinda guy, currently just collecting targets and throw in the odd one , and dont be scared the rules are rules you will be set free so run for the hills and i shall follow. You will meet my friends dont make them click My mates hang around to the very end😏 right ?! So you made it to the very end Drop and give me twenty. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

The writing is on the Wall..It's a Woman's World on here that constantly revolves .. from the comfort of their homesdial a Domino's pizza with whatever topping you may wantwould a 20 yr age gap satisfy the hunger tonight - not a problem home delivery is on it's way- hmm... any constructive advise?..(chili con carne without chili- is just a plate full of mince)

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RHP User

11 years ago

How long have you been on RHP? If you are a dude - you can't expect RHP to get you laid every week. Takes time. Concentrate on make a fwb or two. Something ongoing. That's my 2cts.

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RHP User

11 years ago

..... ' built it.... and they will cum ' ...... rapport and credibility. Freya law states .... 'there are a gazillion of us to each one of them' .... they can have Jules's .. . mince any time they like (all the time/ continuously) ..... so are you bringing the chilli for con carne to the table ? ..... and tantra says ....... 'men connect at the genitals ... then the heart ..... women connect at the heart .. and then to your Visa card'

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RHP User

11 years ago

You mention in your profile "I'm pretty easy going, just want to meet people & expand my circle of friends, if something clicks & it goes further then great, but if not then there's no problem in having a few extra mates to hang out with, right?" If you are finding it hard to meet people one on one, try going to some of the events posted in the Events section. I have met some really fantastic people through some of these outings. There's a PerthSocialites profile set up by lovely RHP ladies. These events are socially based and I have found attending has broaden my friend network. Good luck

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RHP User

11 years ago

going out to one or two of the social functions like the Meet and Greets? Yes its RHP is a woman's world, and yes, you are competing with a gazillion other guys, but standing out isn't always about your profile....it's actually being present!!! We don't play with single M's...BUT....I remember most of the guys I have met at social functions and IF I do decide to go down that path then one of them would be my partner of choice. Why?? Because they have gone from being a profile to a person. Hope that helps a little. Shaz

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RHP User

11 years ago

What is Guildford like? Lots of people? Close to Perth? Soon as I saw Guildford I thought Bikie, because that is where the Bikies live in Sydney. Then I saw your pictures and I thought, yes. You could be a bikie. Are you a bikie?

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RHP User

11 years ago

Try and try again. Give it time. Be you and take note of any feedback given. Perhaps try for friendship and see what happens. Most importantly though remember its not a direct reflection of you. RHP can be a fickle and harsh place at times x - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Hey Meeka 100, Thanks for the reply. It's taken me until now to figure out how to reply with more than a few words. An embarassing story in itself.😶 No, I'm not a Bikie. I do ride a motorcycle, but I'm more a Lover than a Fighter. Used to sport tge whole clean shaven, military short back & sides style, but that was more for convenience & conformity than because I liked it. So now that I don't have to conform I'm trying other stuff out. Guildford is a beautiful outer suburb of Perth. As one of the early settlements of the Swan Valley Colony, it has heaps of history & an abundance of very old buildings etc. And being situated at the intersection of the Helena & Swan Rivers, it's one of the few naturally green, leafy c areas of Perth. Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot happening in terms of opportunities to meet new people, but it's not far from the City, etc., so I tend to gravitate to the more lively areas when I have time. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Just wan to say thanks to everyone who's responded to my post. All suggestions etc. are appreciated. Some are relatively easy to work on, & others less so, while a vouple might take me some time to understand, but I'll get there.☺ - Posted from rhpmobile

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AnnieWhichway

11 years ago

As the others have said I agree.Think of it like this.In the outside world, you have even odds. Equal amount of men and women.In here 8.5 men to 1 woman so I read "somewhere"By selecting to try and meet women who may be up for casual sex or kinks etc,you have taken the reduced odds. It's a gamble.And as in the outside world, some men have the gift of the gabb and the balls of Julius Caeser and will play above their weight. They get the girls and more than their fair share.So you are taking on the odds.You may not get a collect. But keep going to the best of your abilities. Take on what the others above have said.Dont bet your house on it though. Hope you have some luck though OP.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Visual Assumption; We’re all visual creatures thus visual attraction is key; so you can’t walk down the street and think the girl or guy walking towards you has a great personality, is a good person etc. To make light of this,, guys and girls have a look at a Youtube clip named ; Girls are assholes, in bars.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I've just had a look at ur profile and I'm gonna have to agree with Meeka. Yes unfortunately you do look like a bikie and with all the stuff that has happened regarding the bikies in the last few years has put fear into our communities. Also, bikies have a bad rep with drugs and firearms, one look at you and people go "oh shit, he looks like a bikie...we don't want to mess with him" For me...it's the hair. I'm sorry but I just can't do guys with long hair. But u can't just go and change ur appearance just because someone else likes a certain type or style of guy... confidence is sexy and sometimes it's difficult to show how charming u can be whilst behind a screen. Get out there and go meet "actual people"

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