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Does past really matter?
April 16 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
as far as im concerned...you are who you are now.... i didnt know them back then and im not bothered by it now its the here and now that matters to me if they loved you at all... they would love you for the person you are NOT the person you were roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
It may matter to the person they way act now as to what happened in their past...! But does their past alter the way I feel about them or cast any judgment I may have on them NO I don’t think it would for me personally. If I like someone I like them I always give them a fair go and go from there.
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RHP User
16 years ago
The past is exactly was it says it is-THE PAST. In the past I was toddler who liked playing will dolls. I don't do that now. It doesn't matter where you've been or what you've done in the past. In Buddhism, the best moment of your life is right now, and others should go with you on that and in their own lives. xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
No, it shouldn't matter bebe. Once you're over 25 (whatever age you pick) I'd expect you've lived a bit and of course, come with a life full of experiences good and bad, that made you the person you are. Obviously knowing more about you, I'd be intrigued by our different experiences and those things we have in common. Lots of hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Personally' I think if you have a past that is potentially a mine feild to avoid . You just have to be totally up front or its gunna come back and bite you on the arse at some time. Better to come from the person themself than from some other lowlife trying to gain browny points. To me' if you have a good heart and you know yourself' thats the thing that will win out in the end.
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multifun
16 years ago
we all have a past and theres absolutely nothing we can do about it . all we can do is live for today and hope we get a tomorrow or two.take us for who we are, not what we were. T&L xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
that's my motto and I'm sticking to it.
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jafuncpl1903
16 years ago
it dont matter what they did in the past unless the past some back and bite you in the ass
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RHP User
16 years ago
I tend to appraise people on how i find them. But then i would date ( if i was single) a prostitute who was still working, Its who you are as a person, not what you do to make a living.The only time i draw a line in the sand is Illegal drugs. Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
your past only matters to the extent that you let it affect you in the present, and likewise for your partner. we all have baggage but are we all willing to work it out for ourselves and with the other??
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sexslaves
16 years ago
I have dated working and ex working girls and what matters is whats on the inside we have all done things other people like or dislike and as for prostitutes there are more on here then you think eg looking for friends with benifits (looking to get things for going out or sex with you). The one thing you got to look at is she was honest with you and putting it out in the open and that i praise her for as some people act different to that. She is being honest to you so you should be honest to her and tell her your feelings on what you yhink about it I would do the same is i was a female as a womens pussy is a great money maker and being a WL is a legal caree just some look shamfull of that caree chose but is it any different to being a lawyer lol and as i found in the pass most are highly intelgent and very nolagable as they learn so much from there customers I hope you are able to get over her past caree choices and see her for the person she is all the best and follow your heart
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Loveknot
16 years ago
The question is does it matter to you? Have you come to terms with it all? Do you see it for what it is?( A part of you but not all of you?) Noone can judge you harder than yourself, whats the verdict? You are the Judge Jury and Executioner, What’s it going to be? Guilty or Not Guilty your honour? xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Im of the Mind.......thatYou are Who You Are....as you are a Sum of All Things Past....Be It.... The Good....The Bad Or The Ugly......All of these things have brought you to Where.... and Who .......You are Now...Past Should only ever be an issue if its not Past..... and it is Affecting Present
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RHP User
16 years ago
The past is only relevent in the future if it is going to affect the relationship your in now. What you have done in the past, is going to impact or affect now! If yes, then tell, if not, don't tell, unless you want or need to share.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'justjuice' Personally' I think if you have a past that is potentially a mine feild to avoid . You just have to be totally up front or its gunna come back and bite you on the arse at some time. Better to come from the person themself than from some other lowlife trying to gain browny points. To me' if you have a good heart and you know yourself' thats the thing that will win out in the end. very good point...well said roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Who you are in the present cannot be removed from your past experiences, if someone likes you for who you are today then they should accept that all your past has led you to where you now stand. It's a narrow minded person who would like who you are but not be able to get over your past.just my 2c
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have to say alot of what you all say is so true...and that is how I feel. I have never judged anyone on their past nor on the present way that they choose to live life. After all it is their life and really none of my business. I am always stuck when I am asked the question..."How many sexual partners have you had in your life". As I am a totally honest person I don't like to mislead nor lie. I am not embarrassed by my past actions at all...it is a part of me and has helped to mould me into the person I am now...but shit people are so judgemental. Not all hookers are drug taking, disease filled sluts!! It would amaze people to know how many Uni Students studying to become Doctors or Lawyers are in the profession, as the price of going to Uni is so high. I say good luck to all of them...and remember guys...the next female doctor that says "open wide" may have opened herself up wide to you in the past haha. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with most of the posts on this. The past is the past and while it has shaped you into the person you now are it is just the past. If you find someone special you may want to confide in them so that when it comes up, and you can be sure it will sooner or later, that they know and can deal with it. Hopefully they will see you as the person you are now.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I remember during graduate medical school this was one of our discussions... Unfortunately for most of the people involved the conclusion was past activities eg stripping or escort was unacceptable and frowned upon when initiating a relationship. But then again some people had no problem with it sharing the view or many of the other respondents.I do understand your circumstances and only hope you received guidance for your unfortunate experience early in life with a trained psychiatrist. If you did, and your partner does have a problem, It would be easy to take your boyfriend/girlfriend along to have a discussion. Im sure that whoever the person is, if they love you like they should they would understand not only your past life but also yourself more.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'customer69' I was once an embryo, an accidental conception, in a Catholic household!I emerged, as a quiet little child, and later became a woman.I lost my way and married a grumpy bum, who took delight, in taking control of my life.I am now a butterfly and having a wonderful time...I can even travel knicker free through life, with only the bare essentials. I only need hand luggage and a big smile. The kids can carry the rest! Trish you can travel through life knickerless past Earls place any day darl..........ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaEarl
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well, it belongs exactly there, in the past. But what else is there? What else is there to know? - one can only know the past, as the future(the unknown) is yet to come. Stay with me a minute... Knowing where you came from may lead you to be the product of what you are today. But it's how you deal with the experiences that matters. And the experiences of other people important to you. Logically, anyone's past is no direct threat to anyone. It's already happened and gone. What can be residual, is the effect of interpretation of the event/s. What judgement value do you carry as a result. The Sum of who you are and how you 'turn up' for others. N.L.P neurological re-programming can 'over-lay' pleasant images over images unpleasant to remember. Thus giving the memory link new avenues associated to that negative experience. So letting people get over their past.(molestation for example) There are many great books on the mind. As far as accepting an 'Ex Hooker' goes, nothing is wrong with that unless thinking make it so. There's plenty of positives to be had there, you may have to drop a point of view or two, but how about: Everyone is complete, whole and perfect the way they are. Forever in the moment of now.
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RHP User
16 years ago
the past does matter...to varying degrees of course...depending on who, what, when etc. e.g. if a guy told u he used to work in a bank, or as a parking inspector...it'd only be fair to expect u to kick him in the nuts and then run away as fast u possibly can.
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