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Does anyone actually read profiles before flirting or messaging?
August 03 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Donna_Brett I am a smoker and tend not to send flirts or messages to non-smokers, as generally they would rather hook up with someone who doesn't smoke. That doesn't mean that they would never contact someone who does smoke so unless they say NO SMOKERS in their 'what i am looking for' description, I have been known to sent a message/flirt. If you don't want to be contacted by a smoker, then that needs to be in your description. I haven't looked at your profile so don't yell at me please if it is there. If you say in your description you don't want to be contaced by smokers or bi people, then YES they should have the courtesy to have read your profile and not bother you with flirts or messages.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Donna_Brett I am a smoker and tend not to send flirts or messages to non-smokers, as generally they would rather hook up with someone who doesn't smoke. That doesn't mean that they would never contact someone who does smoke so unless they say NO SMOKERS in their 'what i am looking for' description, I have been known to sent a message/flirt. If you don't want to be contacted by a smoker, then that needs to be in your description. I haven't looked at your profile so don't yell at me please if it is there. If you say in your description you don't want to be contaced by smokers or bi people, then YES they should have the courtesy to have read your profile and not bother you with flirts or messages.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Donna_Brett I agree with you wholeheartedly. One of the reasons I have a lengthy profile, is because I want to be clear about letting folks on here know what my intentions are, what I am all about, and what I'm looking for. Your profile is like your CV, so to speak, and I'm surprised more gents (and I use this word very loosely) don't market themselves properly, or take the time to read profiles where people have clearly stated their intentions loud and clear! I don't know if some members are just plain lazy, time poor, wanna kill two birds with one stone, or are just very, very, visual. But I had a gent casually mention that my profile read like a novel. Yes, I agree picture books are much quicker and easier to read and can be found at the adult section of your local newsagent! A lot of members in this community, don't seem to take the time to read what you have gone to great lengths to point out. I clearly state I don't want any involvement with categories of Attached/Married/Ask Me/It's Complicated etc etc etc, but I still get messages and flirts from people who clearly are in this position. I've also stated the age bracket I want to play with, but this falls on deaf ears also. And I'm sorry, but if you happen to live on the opposite side of the continent, chances are distance is likely to be an issue for a either a once off or regular face-to-face meet! Having a great picture, like the one you have on your profile, is both an advantage and disadvantage. In the online dating environment, too much importance is placed on how "hot" a person looks, so you will get a lot of contact from potential suitors, often at odds for what you seek. The disadvantage is you may have a really terrific personality and loads and loads of great qualities, but end up being overlooked time and time again, because you don't have celebrity status looks. In the RHP environment, I strongly suspect, people are just rating you "hot" to "very hot" in the picture rating system, and unless they untick the check box, you will automatically get a flirt in your inbox, for every occasion someone decides to let you know just how "hot" they rate you. Is this the new time management system for 2009? My solution: Delete flirts, and respond to worthy messages :-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sorry, it's the "hot or not" photo system... I just rate each photo and don't check the profiles unless I'm particularly curious.... consequently a lot of guys and gals are getting my "hot message" whether They like it or not. But then I think people should compliment each other more often. Just because I think you LOOK hot does not mean I want to jump in your pajamas. I'm a guy who gets aroused predominantly by pheremones.... Until you're nearby I don't really know if you will do anything for me. However some profiles I read say things that just click with me. They expose the warmth within... but that's extraordinary. Most of the profiles make a boring read so why bother!! Warm hugs gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
In answer to the post, some prob read and decide to try anyway or like us, have missed details when looking at profiles that we didn't realise until later. It is easy to do... We're guilty of sending flirts to men. women and couples when rating 'Hot or What?' pics too lol. Don't send flirts unless we're replying to ones we've been sent, other than that.It seems to us we hear plenty of what people don't want as far as pics go and not enough of what people would like. We like the idea of giving credit where credit is due and have added a clear update to our profile explaining that we mean our flirt as a compliment on their profile pic. The selection of responses even after guys and gals had looked at our profile made us wonder how many had actually read it though lol... but we got a real thrill from those that replied with 'Thanks, flattery will get you everywhere Hugs
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DonnaBrett
16 years ago
Of course the photo is the first point of attraction (or non attraction) but if you like what you see and are "seriously" interested in meeting "real" people then take the time to read profiles in full before sending flirts or msgs. We ALWAYSread the profile in full as well as all stats because there might just be something there that doesn't appeal to us or we know that there's something about us that will not suit that other party. It's not rocket science!
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DonnaBrett
16 years ago
Hey ozrockchick...just wanted to say that we read your profile ...sounds good to us, it is not too long (prob took less than a minute to read it LOL). You made it very clear as to what you're looking for. How can people complain about that? It's simply just a case of people being lazy and therefore they aren't really serious...sigh... Good Luck!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
With the hot or not, I send a flirt if I think your pics are hot, no matter what. It's a positive thing to do and I think some people don't realise just how hot they really are! Whenever I recieve a positive flirt or message, I always then read their profile to try and see if there is a connection. I really don't think there's a right way or wrong way to deal with flirts. If you take the view that flirts are one means of sending out good will, and they are, then what's wrong with flirting even if you don't stand a chance of getting a shag?..... I mean, getting a shag is not always my intention even if I do enjoy it so. And plenty of times I've been invited around for a shag (even with people I've shagged numerous times before - *hugs Edwina*) only to find that the root is more interesting to chat to than to root on that day for whatever reason. Also, sometimes people don't "click" sexually and that's ok with me... I get to meet more people that way! Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
As I said before, it seems to us we hear plenty of what people don't want as far as pics go and not enough of what people would like. etc...But with a high percentage of replies that flirted us back to say "Thanks, flattery will get you everywhere!" or "I just wanted to say I love your profile" I'll be satisfied that there are people that enjoy receiving and returning compliments from and to us even if it's not just because we are "seriously" interested in meeting them lol. IF we're attracted WE ALWAYS read the whole profile as well as all the stats before sending or replying to a flirt/message as we imagine others do too! "It's not rocket science!"... doesn't stop us from being imperfect and missing details now and then (don't mind admitting it). While I admire most of the changes RHP has made to profiles over time... the tabs (not including the More Actions lol) with all the Physical/ Intimate/ Lifestyle/ General Interest/ Sexual Interest and Fetish Interest details is one change that I have mixed feelings about. I like to be able to see all the details at once, including the details that people have either chosen not to 'answer' on the top 3 tabs or what we assume they're not into on the lower 3 tabs (for eg:Kissing).I took a few minutes to enjoy ozrocks profile :-) Loved the paragraphs, lack of CAPS, the attitude and how she addressed points like not being an adrenaline junky, kissing, both details we would like to add to our profile. But, some people are just not into reading and/or understanding things the same way as others which doesn't necessarily label them lazy etc. It does however make it stand out that 'they are not who you are looking for' lolol...HugsMrs
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RHP User
16 years ago
well ....Donna_Brett... I don't think people do.. Cos our profile clearly states.... not looking for sexual partners.. yet we get flirts and messages to the contrary.....when i ask if they have read it.. lol especially when u get a flirt saying exactly what they looking for haha.. they say they have read it.. so i tell em to read it again...Mrs Wacountry
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RHP User
16 years ago
I must admit I have been reading profiles but then again I'm a newbie so maybe thats why. Seems to me that no matter whats in the profile it's a case of if and when you meet you'll know. I'm still finding my way around here and haven't posted a pic yet but after reading this I'm unsure if it's a good thing or a bad thing.
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RHP User
16 years ago
because most of it aint true
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RHP User
16 years ago
It frustrates me when people do not read our profile. We say what we do/ don't want or like and we have our reasons...mistakes happen, things missed, I totally get that and have probably done it myself at some point. Generally if someone sends us a flirt and we are not interested as they do no not match our criteria a simple thanks but no thanks will be our reply, But we have had flirts from people that seem so completely mismatched it is rediculous. All of that said and without meaining to generalise, as the F of the couple I am more likely to read a profile than Andy is and another male told me once that it s a numbers game. His theory being that as generally you do not get much response from flirts, the more you send out the more you get back, then you can shortlist from there...interesting theory I guess. But I argue this...If you take the time to read someones profile and base your message or flirt on something other than their pics there is a good chance you will get a reply simply because you took the time to seem like you care and respect what someone has to say...HINT HINT...I would like that :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
I completely understand why you would want to arbitrarily reject people on the basis of age, sexuality, looks, bad habits, attitude, spelling, star sign and communication skills. I do it myself. I also understand why someone rejected by arbitrary labels may try anyway - if you don't try you don't get ... It is frustrating when someone refuses to stay in their box and seeks to demonstrate they why they might be more than a few lines in a profile. But some men just like to share a picture of their dick since so few people have seen it in real life.
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RHP User
16 years ago
hmm...well, i think that clearly there are people on here who arePFs...Picture Fuckers and of course you also have the CReFToSTs...Can't Read Profiles To Save Themselves...for example, I have searched my profile and nowhere can I see on it that it states seeking men, yet i get flirts from them like BOOM, BOOM, I WANT YOU IN MY ROOM...lmao...like WTF..and yes, I always read a profile before sending a flirt or a message, though am guilty of sending a message because I missed a significant point in their profile...even sent a message to a gorgeous woman who clearly stated "SMOKERS ONLY"...well...I think my butt smokes ...loland push my wrong button and I smoke at the ears!!...*now, where's that damn smoking icon*and sure I understand it's hard (that depends on what you define as "it's hard") for you girls, just delete and block the suckerscheers Joseps...tsk, tsk Blue_Movies...cynicism doesn't suit your gorgeous looks...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Actually, I get a lot of messages from guys who don't match what I'm looking for, who claim they read the profile, but they don't believe it...or they don't believe what people write in there because as Blue Movie said, they believe most of the profiles aren't true. I empathise with that, as there is a huge element of creative truths out there. But I like to think I went to a lot of trouble with mine to come across as genuine which I am. I hate false advertising, so why would I practice it myself? If I'm going to lie in my profile, what's to stop me from writing deceptive messages/emails or speaking half truths on the phone. Personally I don't see the point in being dishonest here since I do actually want to meet people offline if I come across someone interesting.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I do read the profiles, and only send flirts to those that I can tic all the boxes on...The ones I dont tic or not all of the boxes I figure that they will see that I checked out their profile and if they want they will check out mine and decide if they want to take it further...in doing that I have still met a few very nice and interesting ppl. and look forward to meeting a lot more whether just as friends or more..I hope everyone has a fun and sexy day..now lets all get naked and play nice!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Dam people this is a sex site not a book club.. You all no doubt feel very good about your selfs because you have clearly defined in your profile what you believe makes you happy and if all of your forty or so boxes are ticked you will be in heaven...... What a crock of S##T. You are clearly here because you have tried telling your 'profile' story at a club , pub or first date and found your partner bored shitless and asleep half way through.. Wake up people.. If you don't like the messages or flirts cancel your membership and going a dating site with nice lunches and little chit chat....
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Gee you have great tits !!!! What was the question again ?..lol No seriously I read them......Rock on !!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
GoodKinkyfun, the last time I looked, RHP is Australia’s hottest social networking and online dating site. RedHotPie is a premier internet dating site for hot girls, hot guys and sexy couples. Whether you are looking for singles dating or adult personals RedHotPie will help you find friends, romance & relationships. Other features include singles events, adult chat rooms and adult dating for singles and swingers. You’ll also find monthly amateur pics with sexy woman that could well be the girl next door. The e-magazine is full of great dating tips and advice from celebrity columnists Bessie Bardot and Geoff Barker. Also webcam adult chat rooms and parties and events guide that will have you up to date with all the swingers parties happening around Australia as well as all the swingers clubs. To join RHP is free online dating site. From my understanding of that, it is whatever you want it to be, to look for whatever it is you're looking for. Personally for me, I like RHP for the forums, i prefer using a similar site to actually meet people. But I like to keep my options open. Not everyone likes sex that much that they'll do anything and fuck everything that moves at any time WITHOUT ANY PREFERENCES. Some do have preferences on how that sex is packaged, hence the option to allow specifications in the profiles and the desire for people to actually pay attention to it. After all, you could almost see it as a courtesy, if they actually read the damn things, they wouldn't waste their precious email allotments on people who are clearly not interested in them in the first place.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Im sure there are plenty of strictly voyuers on an adult site! so its only a matter of course that people with hot pics get hit on by their pics alone. I can understand that it would give a person the S*ITS with people who dont read the entire profile before flicking off that flirt or " Hi, your hot, wanna.....?? (spoke in bogan!) but there could be just a hint of flattery goin on there too. Just a thought... For the record, I reckon RHP have pretty much got all bases covered when it comes to being able to put what you seek and what your interests are IN PLAIN VIEW for all to READ, and I for one, only contact those that I feel there may be some sort of repore with. And I am always polite and friendly. Yet, there are people out there that it seems can't be bothered enough to even return a polite , thanks, but no thanks. To me, thats just plain rude! But then, aren't we all on here? LOL Enjoy it guys, its better than goin to a nightclub or the pubs tryin to get lucky while puttin up with drunken idiots spillin drinks allover you and your partner, and only goin home with a kebab!
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RHP User
16 years ago
is that even after you take the time to read a persons profile, and send them a message that shows you've read their profile, that they could have the decency to respond to you... rather than just read the email and do nothing.... sorry - tis one of my pet hates... Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't think that Donna_Brett have an issue with the types of messages/flirts they receive just who is sending them. And what is wrong with them not wanting to play with smokers and bi-guys?? That is all that they are complaining about. I mean you have preferences too. Your profile does not specify that you are looking for men to play with, so would you want loads of men contacting you??
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RHP User
16 years ago
I read the profiles but there's no point spending a lot of time reading it and composing a reply, because you could spend all that time, and write a great appropriate message, and the person takes one look at your photo and dismisses you in 1 second (possibly without even reading your message). Therefore it's better to get some sort of expression of interest from the person before spending a lot of time on them.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Haha it's very true, I think if your going to the trouble of mating someone you should at least have a quick read of their profile. It saves you time and effort, furthermore if you MSG someone your are compatiable with they are less likely to ignore your email!! Personally I read profiles before I send a MSG as I think it's a waste of time to not, why wouldyou send a MSG to a girl looking for a girl??
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