M65
Denied My Self...
December 10 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
known her for many many years and have had this discussion with her...she hates to receive and hates to give oral..she finds it dirty and disgusting...so apparently the answer to your questions is YES! some people do see oral sex as wrong...for what ever reason... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
alot of the men i have met on here dont do oral even ones iv spent whole weekends with havent gone down on me although yeah i love it i dont really care if i get it or not roxxy
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kassmebits
15 years ago
I know a lesbian friend who feels the same way, they are out there thats for sure!
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RHP User
15 years ago
there are still al lot of people both M and F that see oral as dirty and discustng and yes I know a couple realy well ,,,,,even after showing how good it can be to recieve they still dont change the view that was imprinted them in younger days .and as for the giving its such a no no that they cant even talk about it ( see not even the ORAL of oral sex ) whats a man to do Andy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I could count on one hand the times the ex went down, but he expected it done to him. Said he hated to do it
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kassmebits
15 years ago
yes .. hates the double standard when guys expect it , but wont return the favour.
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RHP User
15 years ago
have I experienced that one a number of times...if you want to receive you should give in return at least my GF doesnt do either...lol...but for me its definately one of the pleasures of life Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Most of the men's profiles say that they love giving oral. When chatting to them they will state that they can give oral for hours........nothing they love more.... But the reality is that they just dont. Until joining this site, each and every man I had been with gave oral until I cum the ones I have meet through this site just dont seem to get around to it. Dont get me wrong here, the guys I see are great, wonderful, fantastic even. I am sure they can and we will eventually get around to me recieving oral............when we run out of other fun things to do!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Experinces that i have been stopped giving my partner Oral as she didn't like it, everyone is different and while I do enjoy it, if she says NO well that is that.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know what you ladies are saying is true...because I have either discussed this subject with mates who have divulged that they are not into it, or my partner herself describing some of her previous lovers either inability or lack of interest in performing oral sex (describing on a couple of occasions where she had to show these guys where her clitoris was located as they had no idea, appalling!!!) But I still shake my head in disbelief that there are still guys out there that either do not know how to, or want too, enjoy the pleasure of pleasuring a woman with oral sex. Seriously, those that do not care enough to pleasure a woman in this way truly have no idea what they are missing out on. I love nothing more than pleasuring my partner in the different variety of methods I have learnt over time. But there again I have learnt because I love performing oral sex on her, and therefore want to know anything and everything I can to pleasure her…Mmmm… mouth is watering now…lol Interestingly, I have a female friend that revealed that she had no interest in receiving oral sex, explaining that she prefers 'a good hard shafting', her words. Which makes me wonder, is this because she has been the recipient of poor oral experiences in the past? Although, god bless her for loving a good hard shafting…lol ;-) And a simple hint for those guys that need to improve their technique, using your tongue, write the alphabet in upper and lower case on, and around, your lovers clit (I cannot claim this as my own, cannot remember what show/ movie I heard it on, but it has never…ever let me down) I have tried numbers but it does not seem to have the same effect… Hope it brings her as much pleasure as I have seen when I have utilised it. And if anyone out there has any other techniques that can help me make my partners toes curl, I am all ears ;-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Only ever came across two girls who didn't want yet was happy to give, one who thought giving or getting was 'dirty', and my old GF of many years who was happy to get - but refused to give. Was a deal breaker. Her friends weren't so precious about it though...
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RHP User
15 years ago
ok ladies Im going to be frank... I dont want to offend but I was talking about this with other guys about 3 hours ago at a bar... these are not my ideas thaey are ideas from the group:not in any order these are the reasons guys will hesitate or refuse based on my discussion tonight:1) smell and taste.... some girls have it some girls dont... if the smell or taste (usually smell noticed first) is too intense a guy is unlikely to go there... I have personally had on e experience where a girl had obviously used perfume or some kind of scented powder/lotion to mask her natural scent...the hard thing about this one for the girls I imagine is how do you know where you stand? I cant imagine u have smelled many others :Pto be on the safe side have something on hand (scented/flavored lube) I love cherry... or better yet... a drop or two (only) of maple syrup....yum.... Id eat that all day :P2) particles... ok.. this isnt physics, but:when you go to the loo you wipe, when you get turned on, then lose the vibe.... there might be residual... um... particles?this one is about texture...if a guy slides his hand down there and is feeling something not quite right n (crusty bits or tp bits) he is unlikely to dive down and take care of it with his tongue.... I know... not a great thought... but what the lads said... it just came up...I guess a possible solution would be to use some lube? (again... flavored?) and apply it yourself before he had a chance to get there? or ask him to give you a wipe down.... I suggesed this and a couple of the lads laughed but then got turned on... the thought of a girl telling them to prepare her for oral was apealing to them.... "get a face cloth... make it warm for me..." idk... havent ever done it.....i guess it is kinda hot tho :Panyway... thats as far as we got... the beer kicked in and we started discussing law... (sounds boring but it wasnt lol)night :)LS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' . Until joining this site, each and every man I had been with gave oral until I cum the ones I have meet through this site just dont seem to get around to it. Dont get me wrong here, the guys I see are great, wonderful, fantastic even. I am sure they can and we will eventually get around to me recieving oral............when we run out of other fun things to do! Fiona majority of the men I have met have been more than willing to give as well as receive (only a few notable exceptions - and they didnt get a repeat performance lol) maybe you are attracting the wrong ones or shouldnt give to them until they give to you...hoild out??? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hold out? Bite your tongue woman. Think of all the other fun I am missing out on.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'andreweagle' there are still al lot of people both M and F that see oral as dirty and discustng and yes I know a couple realy well ,,,,,even after showing how good it can be to recieve they still dont change the view that was imprinted them in younger days .and as for the giving its such a no no that they cant even talk about it ( see not even the ORAL of oral sex ) whats a man to do Andy I will fix that problem for you in a few hours babe...we cant have you missing out now can we????? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mr N&S had never received a BJ until me, so mid 40's. Now he would never deny himself BUT he never ever lets me miss out, he loves giving it and would do it all night if you let him. There has been many times where we have spent hours just pleasuring each other orally, massage and mutual masturbation without the need for full penetration. So I guess they are out there, I have just been lucky to find a good one, my husband But he is available for sharing
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RHP User
15 years ago
Some women don't like receiving oral because they assume the guy will want the same done to him and they aren't comfortable with the idea. For other women it's a self esteem issue or they don't like the way they look "down there". A friend once told me she liked it but didn't like the guy kissing her afterwards so she avoided it. And some women have become bored with it because there aren't many guys that can do it properly.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am expecting to get shot down for this but....a lot of men on here consider the women here to be someonethats only here to be fucked....They are not relationship material....and no way is he gonna put his mouth there...he doesnt know how many other guys have had their cocks there.This of course does not apply to all men...and this is as always...JMO...BJ
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RHP User
15 years ago
Love oral. Consider it a necessary, and highly enjoyable, part of sex. I think there's certainly a degree of quid-pro-quo about it, but I don't get oral I don't kick up a stink (I enjoy giving it that much).
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RHP User
15 years ago
None of those problems apply. How do I know? Because a guy I met not through this site will happily spend hours and hours and .....yes well......I guess it is my fault in a way. We seem to get busy doing other stuff and time just gets away. Oh and we do know if the smell and the taste is not right. Well I do anyway. You seem to spend a bit of time discussing these interesting things over a few beers. LOL.
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RHP User
15 years ago
As for oral I love to give oral as much as she likes I'll stay down there for ages hopefully giving her a multiple orgasm, some have squirted as well... Which I absolutely love At least I know I've done something right lol But I don't expect oral in return I mean sure I love to receive it But I don't mind if I don't receive I make sure they cum first !!!! But
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RHP User
15 years ago
I love giving and receiving, so the thought of refusing or being refused blows my mind totally in all the wrong ways!Quoting 'LeoSteve'maple syrup....yum.... Id eat that all day :Por ask him to give you a wipe down.... I suggesed this and a couple of the lads laughed but then got turned on... the thought of a girl telling them to prepare her for oral was apealing to them.... "get a face cloth... make it warm for me..." idk... havent ever done it.....i guess it is kinda hot tho :P Now here are two rather HOT oral tips! And to think they came from inebriated men! I love it!
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RHP User
15 years ago
ok, here is some advice I once came across....don't recieve if you are unwilling to return the favour..... and don't give if you are unwilling to recieve....
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RHP User
15 years ago
alot of things get discussed with mates.... always good to run things by mates to see what is 'normal' OR 'acceptable' so like Steve, a discussion came up recently on oral sex... one mate has a gal pal and she is seeing a guy or was and he didn't like to perform oral sex and yet expected her to do it to him... seems common given the forum responses... he also has ED problems... as soon as he gets hard he wants sex rather than any lead up for her... and not interested in pleasuring her if he is not aroused. but you get that! Naturally my mate offered his services to fill the gap so to speak... and since they are pals... she declined! lol One of the things that comes to mind... what are we prepared to tolerate? I want a woman who loves oral sex, both willing to give and lay back and take it for as long as they want..... ultimately I wouldn't like to be with a woman long term if they didn't enjoy mutual oral sex! and that goes for all sex!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' None of those problems apply. How do I know? Because a guy I met not through this site will happily spend hours and hours and .....yes well......I guess it is my fault in a way. We seem to get busy doing other stuff and time just gets away. Oh and we do know if the smell and the taste is not right. Well I do anyway. You seem to spend a bit of time discussing these interesting things over a few beers. LOL. yeah I dont think these things are like a standard problem that happens all the time but they are just things that the group I was in (3hetro guys, 1gay and 1bi for a total of 5) were discussing and all mutually agreed on. Other reasons came up and there were arguments for and against based on personal preference but these issues got unanimous agreement.Me personally - I love it... Ive experimented with all kinds of ways to enhance it as much for her as for me... from pouring a lemon ruski over her (I might have been a little tipsy :P - apparently the bubbles tickled) to including food items (grapes are highly recomended... put a couple in your mouth and swirl them about the sensitive bits :P) To other more standard things like chocolate sauce, ice cubes etc etc I discuss all kinds of things with my mates over a beer or two its actually probably the time I enjoy best with my friends and with meeting new people... last night it was courtyard sculptures and horses... tonight it will be something else... who knows... but if the topic lends itself to something that I think the people here might be interested in or have an opinion on Im more than happy to share it :)LS
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