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DEFINITIONS - clarification please!

March 13 2011

"Friends with benefits, no strings attached, fuck buddy & discrete" ............well how many times do we see this on a profile..... Lets talk about what people believe this is??? please feel free to add your comments! ACESO thinks that these mean........ "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" a person to hang out with - do friend things like coffee, movie, parties, drinks....not to act like a couple ( hold hands ....public affection) but to do friend things....and at the end of the day....go home and fuck each other silly no relationship! "NO STRINGS ATTACHED"....You come , you fuck .... you leave ... you dont contact unless u want some fun ! aka- "wombat" eat roots and leaves! "FUCK BUDDY" similar to NSA however you may talk about general day to day stuff after sex! pillow talk & you remember their name ....and they usually are a regular visitor! "DISCRETE" usually means he/she is someone elses.... and well i am not here to judge... i understand most people in these cases are more than happy and in love with thier partner but for what ever reason they are not sexually satisified. I believe that by offering a discrete safe environment for these kinda people to 'scratch the itch! ' they then go home and love their partner even more :) community service! our sexuality is such a big part of who we are i dont believe it is good for the soul to suppress this! so who would agree with me so far???? Now the question...... do men really know what they want???? I dont have a problem with any of the above mentioned situations....infact i rather like all of them.... i have different men in my life that each fit into these catorgries! actually there maybe a few more that need to be there to like "headjob men hahaha! i have been apart of this world for many many years and abide by all rules ...i like to establish what people want straight up and then go from there.... but damn men...do u know what u want??? NSA - dont tell me about your life! hell dont tell me your name! Friends with benefits - I wont fall in love with you just because I'd like to hangout with you and I remember your name! Discrete - then whats good for one is good for all....dont tell your mates!!! and be careful , i am not interested in messing up any relationship and dont want cranky ex's on my door! really am I the only one that thinks that people really use these terms too loosely? I know I am not your average girl, I dont need to "get to know you" first.... sex is sex.... and lust is lust and love is love.... they are all very different things.... men i believe need to understand this a little more and abide by their own rules .... dont do relationship things with your NSA friends! it just makes it all messy! RULES RULES RULES and honestly... i am not a fool...and have learnt first hand that there is only one thing you can put a rule on and that is love...but damn...at least be honest to yourself and if he/she has signed up for one thing and your worried its not goin to stay that way...be up front.... and if that means the end of it ...then so be it! comments welcomed but judgements, you may keep to yourself !

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RHP User

15 years ago

keep it simple what is a NSA? no sex allowed?

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RHP User

11 years ago

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RHP User

5 years ago

Its semantics differentiating between these.

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RHP User

3 years ago

OMG I thought I was the only woman having issues with this shit. I don’t want a man in my house, yes I will fuck you but go away. I don’t want a partner. I’m the same, establish the ground rules before the event. I do have friends on here who I chat to but if I remember your name it’s because I wrote it down so I could be polite

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RHP User

3 years ago

Interesting topic not that I’m experienced at all in this field but I agree with all your comments & feel nsa & fuck buddies are the same thing -meet fuck on a regular or once off occasion. Fwb can get a bit misconstrued as it implies doing friend things together outside of the bedroom which is more of a relationship thing. If your both single & don’t want to be committed & see other ppl then I suppose it’s ok. But not intended for attached ppl or emotional feelings can start to creep in with more expectations. The problem I see is the first 2 are what men find more appealing but women can often be offended by the notion as they want to be treated well & not feel used so more appropriate for attached ppl who need to scratch the itch😜 Now this gets more complicated when I see women making demands & wanting to be treated like a queen. Take me out buy me things spoil me ……..making men having to work for what they really want sex being the carrot for women to manipulate men into getting stuff or spend money on them. That’s for relationships ppl 🤔

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