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Couples only wanting females!!!
August 17 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have often wondered this as well. I bet none of the coupkes will answer with an affirmation.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The wife is allways listed as Bi....thats why they chase the girls...lol And who is hubby to complain he gets some extra without sharing...a great deal!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Couples in those type's of relationships shouldn't be here as the guy clearly has control/jealousy issues. Why should the guy get all the fun?
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luvsilver
14 years ago
We are both of the belief that we came into this pastime as equals and that is how we will stay.We have not been doing this long but don't need to keep tabs on who has had who etc, and we only play with others as a couple.As long as everyone is having fun then that should be that. We feel that a lot of men are maybe a bit insecure and would not want to see their wife/partner enjoying themselves with another guy hence the seeking woman only or to top it off a FF couple.I like to think we can get past all of the issues and enjoy what this is meant to be-FUN ALL ROUND. Mr luvsilver
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'beachbody' Couples in those type's of relationships shouldn't be here as the guy clearly has control/jealousy issues. Why should the guy get all the fun? You can't blame the guys, they get to swing without feeling jealous and I understand it, but it did seem weird that this girl who they both said was 100% interested in females only, with her claiming she only had eyes for her man, tells me when she's online on her own and had a few bundys that she'd like nothing more than to be lost in a sea of cock!. We got a bit naughty and she wanted to see my cock, then she tells me she'd love it in her with another one at the other end, which made me laugh considering a week before she'd been 100% girls only!.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we have' looking for couples & single women' in our profile but in all honesty we prefer couples to singles but having said that the main attraction for mrs back4 is the other woman of the couple.....it really comes down to personal preference like all things in life. She enjoys playing with other men but at the end of the day another woman excites her far more than any other man could and who am i to complain!?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think it's fair to say that swinging is generally driven by one partner and the other follows for various reasons, there is more often than not one that wants it more than the other. Sometimes the party who wants it less or secretly not at all gets into it after a while and other times they never get into it. So yes, often the profile is driven by the male and often they do look for women because they want the 3 some, they want the chicks and to get laid "on tap" but they are too insecure to let their woman have an mfm (which i might say is my absoloute delight). Thankfully my hubby was more than happy to "gang up on me" with another guy and we had some amazing evenings doing just this. He knew full well that 1. he generally had the best cock in the room and 2. I wasn't going anywhere as he was my everything. I in return was very happy for him to be with 2 or 3 other women in one session (not including me always) because i LOVED seeing him have fun and "do his thang" and i knew he wasn't going anywhere. Relationships are so complicated, it's up to the individual couple what they do and do not do but if you can't allow things due to insecurity that your partner would love to try then your relationship has deeper problems. xx Kitty
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RHP User
14 years ago
The Frist 3 posts are clueless , mmmm & some might think a little bitter ??? not uncommon for 2 of them , the reason alot of couple put they looking for single woman is they fine it hard to fine single woman online , while we get at lease 10 guys aday so i guess other couple do as well , So it very simple , no need to look for guys ,they come to you. ( not that we hate single guys at all ) As for finding single girls , It so much easy , just to go out to a club , I can,t remember a time when we did not play with one. go out to a club , don,t be stress have a great time , things always happen. (-: Have a great slutty weekend to all.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have a single girls profile and I am not part of a couple but I felt the need to answer this anyway... as I'm bi I'm purely into MFF and not the other way around.. so if i was in a couple I would purely be wanting MFF threesomes..... and yes I'm sure my partner wouldn't complain but it just goes to show the couples are not always ruled by the men!!! xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Most couples that I've spoken to both don't want an extra guy. Some women just aren't turned on by spitroasting.The reason for a lot of couples to join the site is because the woman wants to experiment with other females and what guy would say no to two women at once!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm sure that's the case in your situation, and I'm not saying it isn't with other couples either, it just posed the question after the initial conversation when the couple in question were both adamant she was only interested in another girl, yet the minute he goes away she's confessing that she'd love to take on two guys but he'd never go for it. I'm fairly sure there's more than a few girls out there who are being very tactful in their swinging relationships shall we say!.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we dont play with other women....because we dont find the idea a realistic one (Shels bi and would love to, but hasnt seen anyone who catches her fancy). Having said that tho, its Shel who decides who we play with, and when and where....i'm always up for play, its her choice tho...always has been....always will be....
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am sure there are lots of couples out there that have the controlling and jealous guy. Just as there are lots of couples with a very bi female just looking for a extra female. We now have single guys selected in our profile for the time being. Only because Jane has found a few regular guys we get on well with for MMF and no longer needs to look.The single girls are out there and we have met a few on here. Like others have mentioned meeting single girl just by chance off the sight has worked well to.We are all different in what we like. For a couple as long as you can both have the freedom to express your desires openly with each other it will be smiles all round .Tim
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RHP User
14 years ago
No offence darls but I still think your wrong, as to be in this kind of scene most couples have to be very open and honest with each other or else the relationships simply don't survive and I think more couples on here are more secure with their relationships than people in so called "normal" relationships.. I just think the girl/couple you are talking about is an exception to the norm and its a pity she can't be honest with her partner about what she wants.... but like i said i don't think alot of the couples are male driven and you would most liekly be surprised about how many couples are driven by the women...xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Hotsexycouple88'The Frist 3 posts are clueless , mmmm & some might think a little bitter ??? not uncommon for 2 of them , We read that, you are so so cleaver!, trying to hide your personal insults instead of staying on the subject!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am happy not to be invited to join another couple for sex in a private situation. At a private swingers party, no problem at all. Picture this, the couple are having a few problems with their sex life, they invite another male to join them, the wife gets excited by the new man and wants him right or wrong. He may not want her or is happy in his own relationship. Imagine the problems that would cause for all parties concerned. Very nasty.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' I have given up on the idea of a MMF on this site... they don't work, too many gonnas and too many wanna's... NO doers...they all talk and fling emails back and forth....nothing happens... you must understand that its not just one person you have to impress....its two.... so immediately the challenge for you is even harder to overcome........... quite often if you are too 'attractive' one or the other will say no as you may be perceived as a 'threat' (lol yea as if) or on the other hand you may just be not 'attractive enough'. we are here to indulge in fantasy..........and as such our fantasies are pretty particular.....we dont settle for 'second best' in the real world, so here, the bar is raised even higher................
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PartyOrg
14 years ago
Yes there are a lot of couples looking for that all exclusive single girl, but if you look in the right places, a lot of couples are looking for MMF 3sums. I myself have had the good fortune/luck/pleasure of being invited to some. Most couples dont state it on their profile because, they would be bombarded by the single males. While I do agree there are women out there, that want to experience a MMF 3sum, they might be shy, scared or ashamed to let their partner know. In most cases though I simply think it is the choices and decisions couples make together before signing up :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
We said Tim
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just a quick one, OP...but no one is required to sign a contract and none of us, fortunately, sacrifice either the prerogative of choice or how we make them. Most of the profiles are quite clear...and generally I don't question them as to why. | I have had a few very good experiences with couples albeit the selection process is actually much more arduous on both sides. The "2+1 = yes" equation is much more difficult all around...and as is clear here, the last thing you would want to do is meet with a couple that is insecure or in a relationship that was not well grounded so agreement becomes more finite. | I am still enjoying a social relationship with one couple where it all added up and the "between the sheets" exploration ran it's natural course. I also have benefited from meeting a very stable and loving couple in which case the female and I get along like a house on fire. Enough said...and all very good. | It's all about choice...that's maybe the best of all.
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RHP User
14 years ago
What a cool reply Midnight , See guys & the one bitter couple , It,s not that hard to meet people , Just like Midnight said , there no contract , just go out & be cool , coming on here & complaining , get you nowhere , unless that what you into. lol Glad you having a great time midnight (-: Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Just a quick one, OP...but no one is required to sign a contract and none of us, fortunately, sacrifice either the prerogative of choice or how we make them. Most of the profiles are quite clear...and generally I don't question them as to why. | I have had a few very good experiences with couples albeit the selection process is actually much more arduous on both sides. The "2+1 = yes" equation is much more difficult all around...and as is clear here, the last thing you would want to do is meet with a couple that is insecure or in a relationship that was not well grounded so agreement becomes more finite. | I am still enjoying a social relationship with one couple where it all added up and the "between the sheets" exploration ran it's natural course. I also have benefited from meeting a very stable and loving couple in which case the female and I get along like a house on fire. Enough said...and all very good. | It's all about choice...that's maybe the best of all.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we are a couple who have had a quite a few 3somes, all have been with an extra guy to this point. i am the one who picks the extra male to come and be the very fortunate person to enjoy my wife with me. she loves to have two cocks to play with at the same time and we have even discussed the possibility of having more join us at the same time. however, we are on the search for a suitable female as well, and this is a request from my wife, but of course i am more than happy to participate in this. as it is extremely hard to find a real single female to play with us (do they exist here) my wife has started her own page on here to try and attract a participant.
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RHP User
14 years ago
the best part of being an adult is that we do get to choose, but even better is being a couple.........we dont find that we ever have to approach anyone, or ask the question, as its asked of us dozens of times each week, by singles, couples and by groups.........so for us, the options of choice are ours and are many and diverse......and like we said elsewhere, saying 'no' is so incredibly easy, but saying 'yes' is very challenging, to say the least...............
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' I have given up on the idea of a MMF on this site... they don't work, too many gonnas and too many wanna's... NO doers...they all talk and fling emails back and forth....nothing happens... you must understand that its not just one person you have to impress....its two.... so immediately the challenge for you is even harder to overcome........... quite often if you are too 'attractive' one or the other will say no as you may be perceived as a 'threat' (lol yea as if) or on the other hand you may just be not 'attractive enough'. we are here to indulge in fantasy..........and as such our fantasies are pretty particular.....we dont settle for 'second best' in the real world, so here, the bar is raised even higher................ We have discussed this before in my other forum... I do understand that this is a very difficult issue.......very clearly....!! It is not as straight forward as we would all like it to be... I have said before, partners swinging etc, ...it is fraught with danger in my other forum. I don't mind people doing it and I don't condone it, ...but you play these games with risks invloved. There are risks in this sex playing game, we all know it. Cheers xoox Charles the danger is to those who dont communicate well or at all....we talk this thru very carefully and plan each playdate with meticulous care...understanding that this 'play' is just a diversion serves us well....we have so much on elsewhere that this is very much a 'now and again' thing, and not who we 'are'.........we have known each other since 1975, and have built a very strong and honest relationship over a very very long time.....theres nothing we dont share, or anything we dont already know about each other............theres no 'secrets' here..........
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Hotsexycouple88' What a cool reply Midnight , See guys & the one bitter couple , Take note guys, be carefull, we dont want to see your posts deleted again do we? Be good this time on the forums guys.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Guys we have always found going to clubs to pick up single girls easy , other web sites not to bad Swinger or site like this , very hard , & if you not use to picking up single girls pluse on a site like this , it very very hard , so don,t think it,s you . try other way (-:Quoting 'cjtogether' we are a couple who have had a quite a few 3somes, all have been with an extra guy to this point. i am the one who picks the extra male to come and be the very fortunate person to enjoy my wife with me. she loves to have two cocks to play with at the same time and we have even discussed the possibility of having more join us at the same time. however, we are on the search for a suitable female as well, and this is a request from my wife, but of course i am more than happy to participate in this. as it is extremely hard to find a real single female to play with us (do they exist here) my wife has started her own page on here to try and attract a participant.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sorry to tell you all , but most single ladies are here for single guys.We know that after all the years on the scene and owning a club.There are few and far between single ladies that wish to play with couples. They are usually here for the guys and that is why they all come on singles nights and friday nights where the guys are here.If you want to play with a lady in the scene, i always suggest you talk to couples, you see as the post has said, most couples are after ladies and a lot of couples that come to the club are happy for the girls to play while the guys watch without touching.So suggestion to everyone that is looking for that "special " single lady to have sex with.....move on and communicate with other couples and you just might find there is a couple out there that the hubby lets his wife play seperate, we have seen this on hundreds of occassions.LeesaCouples International
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RHP User
14 years ago
Mrs here, I love to play with girls, I love to watch my man fucking another girl, but he is the only man that I want to fuck, I have fucked a man in a cpl swap but prefer to play with the girls with my man ... that is MY choice ... :) K
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RHP User
14 years ago
as a couple my partner lets me be controlled i get to choose, hes straight but we want both guys and girls :) it doesnt bother him it only a small amount of couples where the guy in controll,
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RHP User
14 years ago
Dad is that you , what are you doing on this site , O & stop sending those bitter email as well to me ,( just joking send all you want , we thought it was so funny ) I know it you dad. (-: lol please please tell mum to put on some cloths as well , Sorry Dad have to run , have a good weekend . O i think the your dog is barking , you better go out to yell at it. Quoting 'justenough' Quoting 'Hotsexycouple88' What a cool reply Midnight , See guys & the one bitter couple , Take note guys, be carefull, we dont want to see your posts deleted again do we? Be good this time on the forums guys..... Quoting 'justenough' Quoting 'Hotsexycouple88' What a cool reply Midnight , See guys & the one bitter couple , Take note guys, be carefull, we dont want to see your posts deleted again do we? Be good this time on the forums guys.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
My hubby is not the jealous type at all - he wants me to be pleasured by another man or men - and would like to watch it happen 'yikes' I would rather he did'nt but am happy to tell him all about it - maybe he is not the norm but it really excites him no end
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RHP User
14 years ago
Mr hotsexycouple88, You have my full permission to to copy the email I sent to you guys on the forum.... Hope you got the extra soft touch...really do. Quoting 'Hotsexycouple88' Dad is that you , what are you doing on this site , O & stop sending those bitter email as well to me ,( just joking send all you want , we thought it was so funny ) I know it you dad. (-: lol please please tell mum to put on some cloths as well , Sorry Dad have to run , have a good weekend . O i think the your dog is barking , you better go out to yell at it. Quoting 'justenough' Quoting 'Hotsexycouple88' What a cool reply Midnight , See guys & the one bitter couple , Take note guys, be carefull, we dont want to see your posts deleted again do we? Be good this time on the forums guys..... Quoting 'justenough' Quoting 'Hotsexycouple88' What a cool reply Midnight , See guys & the one bitter couple , Take note guys, be carefull, we dont want to see your posts deleted again do we? Be good this time on the forums guys.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have been lucky to have 2 MMF with me as the extra male, had a great time with both couples. Neither of the males were jealous of me playing with their wifes, the both loved it (as did the ladies haha). You just have to find the right couple, though as GUEST this can be hard work but in both instances it has been well worth the wait. Monkey24
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well from the people we have met on here it is definitely the women who control the scene, we get to say when, where, how often and with whom!!!For us we are happy for each other to play alone as well as together so there is not really any issues with jealousy there we have had FMF and MFM but in the end it is actually a lot harder to find a suitable male than it is to find a female in our experience.I personally think the reason is the whole dynamic of the situation, for some reason it seems to be easier for two ladies to get to know each other and get along than it is for the guys and at the end of the day it is the girls who need to get along in order for things to work, of course the guy needs to be attracted to the 'extra' lady but all in all his 'list' is likely to be shorter With the guys it is a different story, first the two blokes not only have to like each other but they have to be comfortable around one another and naked at that!! then the lady has to find the guy attractive and her list may (or may not) be quite long so the odds of getting the mix right can be quite low.For us we have found it works best for 3somes with other like minded couples that we have had the chance to get to know and played with all together who (as Leesa suggested) also allow each other to play alone that way there is a comfort zone there and everybody is comfortable and everybody has a wonderful time (Mrs)
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RHP User
14 years ago
as a single woman on here who yes - my profile states bi curious i received some mail from couples. which is fine except it is always the male making contact with me and keeping up the contact. in each case i have been 'reliably' told that 'she' is happy for 'him' to keep open the lines of communication. whether by email, text or even camming (she is often in bed). As a single woman who is curious, this bothers the heck out of me. For me being bi curious it is about the woman and not so much hubby, and if it is FFM they are looking for, wouldnt she want to communicate more with me? As the 'other' woman joining in, i say hubby has too much control!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm not jealous as I don't want to be involved in mfm, I'm not even bothered to be honest,I'm definitely not bitter, I'm fully aware it's the couples choice (that was the oxymoron part of the question), I'm just 100% making an observation based on the situation that arose which once again I'll explain.I get talking to a couple, by accident as it happens, they're 100% after a chick, he goes away and she confesses she'd like two guys but would never be able to sell it to him so has never tried, I wondered how common this was and figured as guys often run the show just how many girls are keeping tactfully quiet.It's nothing more than an observation made by a bloke who makes other observations about such things as I wonder how many drips it'll take that tap to fill that sink etc.....Don't let it faze you, don't get upset, it was a question............
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Just a quick one, OP...but no one is required to sign a contract and none of us, fortunately, sacrifice either the prerogative of choice or how we make them. Most of the profiles are quite clear...and generally I don't question them as to why. | I have had a few very good experiences with couples albeit the selection process is actually much more arduous on both sides. The "2+1 = yes" equation is much more difficult all around...and as is clear here, the last thing you would want to do is meet with a couple that is insecure or in a relationship that was not well grounded so agreement becomes more finite. | I am still enjoying a social relationship with one couple where it all added up and the "between the sheets" exploration ran it's natural course. I also have benefited from meeting a very stable and loving couple in which case the female and I get along like a house on fire. Enough said...and all very good. | It's all about choice...that's maybe the best of all. Mate, I think I've covered it all in a general post, but your bit about it being a couples personal choice and there's no contracts etc...kind of missed the point, my point was that I wondered (just wondered) how many women out there are going with the flow rather than admitting to what they want after a girl confessed she was just going with the flow.I'm not bothered that couples aren't looking for a bloke as I'm not interested in mfm in the slightest. It wasn't a complaint, merely an observation.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You've missed the point, by a mile. I'm not interested in being part of mfm, I'm not trying to orchestrate mfm, I'm not complaining about not being involved in mfm, I have no problems meeting people, I am cool and I made an observation about a couple who said one thing as a couple and one thing when apart then wondered how many other couples were being steered by the dominant male, who I don't want to have a mfm with!.Quoting 'Hotsexycouple88' What a cool reply Midnight , See guys & the one bitter couple , It,s not that hard to meet people , Just like Midnight said , there no contract , just go out & be cool , coming on here & complaining , get you nowhere , unless that what you into. lol Glad you having a great time midnight (-: Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Just a quick one, OP...but no one is required to sign a contract and none of us, fortunately, sacrifice either the prerogative of choice or how we make them. Most of the profiles are quite clear...and generally I don't question them as to why. | I have had a few very good experiences with couples albeit the selection process is actually much more arduous on both sides. The "2+1 = yes" equation is much more difficult all around...and as is clear here, the last thing you would want to do is meet with a couple that is insecure or in a relationship that was not well grounded so agreement becomes more finite. | I am still enjoying a social relationship with one couple where it all added up and the "between the sheets" exploration ran it's natural course. I also have benefited from meeting a very stable and loving couple in which case the female and I get along like a house on fire. Enough said...and all very good. | It's all about choice...that's maybe the best of all.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'howdydoodydandy' My hubby is not the jealous type at all - he wants me to be pleasured by another man or men - and would like to watch it happen 'yikes' I would rather he did'nt but am happy to tell him all about it - maybe he is not the norm but it really excites him no end Now pleasuring you and sending you home to tell your man, that is something that I am cool with!.
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RHP User
14 years ago
well we as a couple were exclusively looking for a female and have found one, most other girls seem to be fake or just mess around with long back and forward games which neither of us can stand so we have recently opened up to the idea of couples but due to the very low number of young couples (minus where the female is young and the partner isnt) and the fact that since we are predominantly interested in the female and you might say i am taking one for the team I am going to be extremely picky which seems to bring us back to the original predicament so I think most couples realise its just as easy to hang on in the hope of that extra female to join :P
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RHP User
14 years ago
You know what? Sometimes i am in the mood to have a FFM and sometimes i want a MMF. Sometimes i just want a sexy girl to play with on my own, sometimes i want a cute guy. Sometimes i wanna take hubby to the local sex club or party for an all out orgy, and do you know what? Sometimes when i get there i just feel like dancing and chatting and sitting back and watching .There are times when Mr has been on here for 6 months straight and i havent touched the computer when chatting, and vice versa. I think there are times when each person is steering the other, and times when they are both steering, or no one is (scary) lol.Thats all part of the rollercoaster, right?OP- i understand your question but i think you got fat chance of someone replying saying they are being dominated by their male partner, coz it will be the male partner reading this wont it? Mrs 2ezee xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Our profile is controlled both both parties and was writtin by both of us, we are equals and we both know what we want and where this is going. The idea of a girl was both our idea's but we are also play with couples as well and both enjoy it. Tryit3
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with Fire & Ice that there are many dimensions to the 3 some being successful. Having a certain compatibility with attraction, connection, being relaxed. The thing is I have always been monogamous..... but then I met a man who introduced me to having another man in our bedroom so that he could watch. At first it was rather strange.. but then the beautiful closeness we shared as he took me afterwards bound us together in a new way. Sometimes these things can backfire if the other man is young and extremely attractive and the sparks are really firing and all one wants to do it make electricity. One must have a mature well balanced and secure relationship to be comfortable with a third person knowing where ones loyalty lies and being strong in that love rather than lured by lust. Badiva
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RHP User
14 years ago
yeh, it was great for a while, being the man in the relationship and Marriage of 10 years, but it ended in disaster and now we are separated....I am devistated and now a total mess because of it........It only works if the couple are not truely in love with each other, we were and now were not together......
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think the so called observation is short sighted and no matter how you put it kind of seems like a jealous or immature point, you cannot talk to 1, 2 or even 5 woman in a couple scenario and make a judgement, I dont mean to sound rude but it is true, and I do not like how people form opinions based on a a couple of less experiences. From my opinion, I am a male in a couple scenario on this site, we have discussed mmf and ffm, I think it is her decision, obviously being male I am fine with the ffm, but I believe if its good enough for her to allow this then I should allow what she wants, if she says she is keen to mmf then so beit, if she says no she would rather not then so be that to, but you cannot lable people in this scenario as anything and one or two people who are clearly pressured by insecure men does not make the norm. I might add, no offense but most of the guys on this site are their own worse enemy, imagine your in a loving relationship and just wanting to spice things up a little, so you open the door to a mmf scenario, you then get 50 messages a day from guys, 95% of them are cock pics with msgs about how good he can make your woman feel, we have had guys sending cock pics telling us how she will love his cock and he can do what I cannot. Now seriously? It is highly doubtful his claims are anything more than masterbation on the pc, but when so many guys do this, do you wonder why so many couples do avoid guys on this site? For the record, I am happy if the mrs wants a mmf but id prefer to go to the local pub and pic up someone not trying to force their cock pic down my throat, most guys on this site simply do not get it, sure its a sex site but a nice smile from someone who doesnt look like a creep gets you further than your little weener pic lol :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Cuccy, I (Mrs) totally agree with you! I am the one that is online more, checks, chooses and decides Personally (from much experience) my preference is girls, then couples (with bi females). I have had enough random mmf or other men in the past and the idea of choosing that does nothing for me. I love being with my man and asking another girl to be part of that just makes things different! M x
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have found that a lot of couples on rhp are not quite as open with each other as you might think they should be. I would have assumed that because this is clearly a site where you are looking to fulfill your naughtiest desires, that couples would be open and honest enough to tell their partner what they do and dont like and want to try. Not the case apparently. I have heard of women that wont give oral (or other things) to other men in front of their partner but will in private....because they like it but their husbands think they dont. Same with men who enjoy male to male play who sneak around behind their partners back because they are too scared to tell them that they want to try it. I have also seen lots of couples profiles that say "We only play together" and in the next breath he is telling me how he had been thinking of having an affair and I seem like the perfect person for him to do it with. Where is the open and honest relationship in all of this? I am not so sure that this is a case of control but more of communication...or a lack of it to be more precise.
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
We list as looking for females and couples just to avoid the large number of messages and flirts from guys. When we want a guy we can find one. I reckon a lot of couples list that way for the same reason.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'k_and_o' I think the so called observation is short sighted and no matter how you put it kind of seems like a jealous or immature point, you cannot talk to 1, 2 or even 5 woman in a couple scenario and make a judgement, I dont mean to sound rude but it is true, and I do not like how people form opinions based on a a couple of less experiences. From my opinion, I am a male in a couple scenario on this site, we have discussed mmf and ffm, I think it is her decision, obviously being male I am fine with the ffm, but I believe if its good enough for her to allow this then I should allow what she wants, if she says she is keen to mmf then so beit, if she says no she would rather not then so be that to, but you cannot lable people in this scenario as anything and one or two people who are clearly pressured by insecure men does not make the norm.Thankyou for your off the mark antagonistic response, quite incorrect , but hey you got an insult in and called me a liar. I might add, no offense but most of the guys on this site are their own worse enemy, imagine your in a loving relationship and just wanting to spice things up a little, so you open the door to a mmf scenario, you then get 50 messages a day from guys, 95% of them are cock pics with msgs about how good he can make your woman feel, we have had guys sending cock pics telling us how she will love his cock and he can do what I cannot. Now seriously? It is highly doubtful his claims are anything more than masterbation on the pc, but when so many guys do this, do you wonder why so many couples do avoid guys on this site? For the record, I am happy if the mrs wants a mmf but id prefer to go to the local pub and pic up someone not trying to force their cock pic down my throat, most guys on this site simply do not get it, sure its a sex site but a nice smile from someone who doesnt look like a creep gets you further than your little weener pic lol :) Quoting 'k_and_o' I think the so called observation is short sighted and no matter how you put it kind of seems like a jealous or immature point, you cannot talk to 1, 2 or even 5 woman in a couple scenario and make a judgement, I dont mean to sound rude but it is true, and I do not like how people form opinions based on a a couple of less experiences. From my opinion, I am a male in a couple scenario on this site, we have discussed mmf and ffm, I think it is her decision, obviously being male I am fine with the ffm, but I believe if its good enough for her to allow this then I should allow what she wants, if she says she is keen to mmf then so beit, if she says no she would rather not then so be that to, but you cannot lable people in this scenario as anything and one or two people who are clearly pressured by insecure men does not make the norm. I might add, no offense but most of the guys on this site are their own worse enemy, imagine your in a loving relationship and just wanting to spice things up a little, so you open the door to a mmf scenario, you then get 50 messages a day from guys, 95% of them are cock pics with msgs about how good he can make your woman feel, we have had guys sending cock pics telling us how she will love his cock and he can do what I cannot. Now seriously? It is highly doubtful his claims are anything more than masterbation on the pc, but when so many guys do this, do you wonder why so many couples do avoid guys on this site? For the record, I am happy if the mrs wants a mmf but id prefer to go to the local pub and pic up someone not trying to force their cock pic down my throat, most guys on this site simply do not get it, sure its a sex site but a nice smile from someone who doesnt look like a creep gets you further than your little weener pic lol :) I'm not remotely interested in a bitter response from someone like yourself, I wondered something and that was it, the only thing that makes me bitter is when guys like yourself come on and can't conduct a reply without jamming it full of insults and sarcastic remarks.As I said from the opening post, I'm not interested in sharing in a mfm situation so how am I jealous?, and why would I make something like that up?, clearly I'm not on my own in wondering this either, judging by the follow on post.Good luck, and feel free to keep future venomous comments to yourself.
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RHP User
14 years ago
hay monkey were was my invite thats not nice.. what til i get my hands on u....lol.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting '2ezee'OP- i understand your question but i think you got fat chance of someone replying saying they are being dominated by their male partner, coz it will be the male partner reading this wont it? Mrs 2ezee xxHey Kids, Another honest answer in this thread to the OP question.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I remember a few years back when I was out with my ex. a girl cam and asked her to go back with her and her partner.. My than girlfriend told me all about it saying the girl was just so sad. She asked her.. "why are u doing this? your clearly not happy" she replied with "it keeps him happy" I think there are obviously ladies out there who want females. But I dont like that those guys are happy to go down that path and than not happy to allow the girl another guy if she than wants to try that. This is certainly not all couples but is definitely evident. Apparently as Ive been told that single guys have a bad reputation lol always makes me laugh.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we have listed guys and we get flirts from35 and up and we dont want that so that why we list girls but ur right most of the older man on this site are very pushy and patheric perves, sorry if it offends, im meaning singles guys. and some are jsut complete sleeze bags and time wasters.
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RHP User
14 years ago
my hubby isn't driving my profile...he's doing it for me. it was always mfm with him at my request without hesitation but after the fact there was no companionship for me. it was after we went to a brothel that i realised i was really bi and we have since had fmf thru brothels and escorts but that was too pricy so we joined redhot to see if i could find someone long term and who would provide some companionship for me...a bit selfish on my part but my hubby thinks its all good. so there are women out there who are bi in relationships looking for female partners. having a hubby who is secure with that is a bonus.
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WhispersAndMoans
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' I have given up on the idea of a MMF on this site... they don't work, too many gonnas and too many wanna's... NO doers...they all talk and fling emails back and forth....nothing happens... you must understand that its not just one person you have to impress....its two.... so immediately the challenge for you is even harder to overcome........... quite often if you are too 'attractive' one or the other will say no as you may be perceived as a 'threat' (lol yea as if) or on the other hand you may just be not 'attractive enough'. we are here to indulge in fantasy..........and as such our fantasies are pretty particular.....we dont settle for 'second best' in the real world, so here, the bar is raised even higher................ Wow - Mikeandshel you said exactly what we would have (well mostly)! We've entertained two men from RHP but haven't entertained about 100 times that number, mostly because they couldn't be bothered spending some time getting to know us first!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey Kitty! You are spot on I'm in a relationship and looking for some sexy solo fun but would love to introduce my partner to a sexy time with me and someone hot like you! She always notices fine looking women and loves to please me and if asked would definitely be involved! She would be competitive in bed doing her utmost to please her new lover but if it were you she' d have a fight on her hands cause those breasts and pussy of yours look succulent and juicy! Drop me a line I'm in Newcastle and happy to travel down F3 or for you to weekend it up here! Bye xox
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'naughty3some' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' I have given up on the idea of a MMF on this site... they don't work, too many gonnas and too many wanna's... NO doers...they all talk and fling emails back and forth....nothing happens... you must understand that its not just one person you have to impress....its two.... so immediately the challenge for you is even harder to overcome........... quite often if you are too 'attractive' one or the other will say no as you may be perceived as a 'threat' (lol yea as if) or on the other hand you may just be not 'attractive enough'. we are here to indulge in fantasy..........and as such our fantasies are pretty particular.....we dont settle for 'second best' in the real world, so here, the bar is raised even higher................ Wow - Mikeandshel you said exactly what we would have (well mostly)! We've entertained two men from RHP but haven't entertained about 100 times that number, mostly because they couldn't be bothered spending some time getting to know us first!its not 'rocket science' is it? lol........... as a couple we have each other as back up....we talk openly and honestly about everything, especially sex and attraction.........as such we both understand that we are quite likely not each others 'ideal' partner, but we make a damn good fist of it and enjoy a wonderful life together...this is something for us both to enjoy and like everything else we share, its done properly, and with thought and respect....funs not 'fun' if no-ones smiling.....lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'MasMan8'yeh, it was great for a while, being the man in the relationship and Marriage of 10 years, but it ended in disaster and now we are separated....I am devistated and now a total mess because of it........It only works if the couple are not truely in love with each other, we were and now were not together...... not so......you cant qualify our relationship, based on your personal experience............for all of us, the journey is very different....ours began a very long time ago, and we take everything on board, but together and on our terms....if anything, being here has strengthened our bond, as its allowed us some freedom of both thought and expression.........nothing needs to be hidden between us any more, after being here and indulging our carnal selves so openly.............
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'MasMan8'yeh, it was great for a while, being the man in the relationship and Marriage of 10 years, but it ended in disaster and now we are separated....I am devistated and now a total mess because of it........It only works if the couple are not truely in love with each other, we were and now were not together...... not so......you cant qualify our relationship, based on your personal experience............for all of us, the journey is very different....ours began a very long time ago, and we take everything on board, but together and on our terms....if anything, being here has strengthened our bond, as its allowed us some freedom of both thought and expression.........nothing needs to be hidden between us any more, after being here and indulging our carnal selves so openly............. Very well said and couldn't agree more.We are in the same boat after 13 years together. We are now stronger and a lot more open than ever before. The key for us anyhow is to share everything together and communicate. We still cant understand the couples that are fine doing there own things separately. To us that would be completely pointless as a couple. But each to there own.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi i cannot begin to tell you how other people feel and what they prefer in their relationships but and i havent yet had the pleasure of any ones company yet from this site, and even as a male its not always easy trusting and getting to know other people. But in answer to your question , i feel as though it is a valid question but , i feel that woman AND men in a relationship feel alot more comfortable with having an extra female , than having 2 males. as someone said earlier. who wants to be spit roasted lol , i think also its comes across more threatening to have 2 males do your girl , than have a male and female do your girl . but again we are all different, i couldnt handle my girl being tag teamed by 2 males but i think i could watch lol and on the other hand i dont think i,d last long sitting back watching 2 girls, for me if i was to do either it would be all about my girl and her pleasures. but i think most just feel safer. :) anyway thats my thoughts :)
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DonnaBrett
14 years ago
Don't know how this comment will fit into this thread...but we hae been in the scene for about 12 years..have seen a lot strange, funny and sometimes baffling situations. We have played in 3-somes, 4-somes & more-somes with just girls, just guys and then couples & we also play alone at times. It's all good for us. However we have met couples where for whatever reason a flip out has occurred....either over jealousy or whatever other issue and 95% of the time it has been the guy who flips & in many cases we have had the feeling that it was all his idea to start to swing in the first place...she's a newbie but takes to it like a duck to water and he can't handle it....what does that tell you????????
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RHP User
14 years ago
I honestly think it comes back to how the second male approaches it as well. I can honestly say I havent felt any jealousy from husband whilst I played with wife. It just needs communication. So if anyone does want to play with a discreet male in a threesome or more some, drop me a line Mammabear, I cant wait until you get your hands on me again and I am sure Mammabear can vouch for my talents haha
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WhispersAndMoans
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'MasMan8'yeh, it was great for a while, being the man in the relationship and Marriage of 10 years, but it ended in disaster and now we are separated....I am devistated and now a total mess because of it........It only works if the couple are not truely in love with each other, we were and now were not together...... not so......you cant qualify our relationship, based on your personal experience............for all of us, the journey is very different....ours began a very long time ago, and we take everything on board, but together and on our terms....if anything, being here has strengthened our bond, as its allowed us some freedom of both thought and expression.........nothing needs to be hidden between us any more, after being here and indulging our carnal selves so openly............. What Mikeandshel said! MasMan, we sympathise but you are so wrong. We hope one day you find a relationship that is a true partnership. We have that and honesty and improving our communication are the keystones of that. Improving communication because we are good communicators but not perfect.... recognising that helps to deal with the times things do go a bit off the rails.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i have been on here on and off for a few years..in my experience i seem to get as much attention if not more from the female half of a couple than from single women...its always the same ,, its only listed that they want a woman or a couple .. and its always kept hush hush because hubby wont like it... in lots cases thats the game that is played...
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RHP User
14 years ago
we are a MFF only couple as well, but thats purely the wifes choice... if she changed her mind and wanted a MMF session i really wouldnt care. being bi is part of who she is and i wouldnt change that for the world. i love my wife and making sure she's happy and content is my #1 goal.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we do enjoy threesomes in all ways - mmf, mff as well as swapping partners with other couples and groupsexthere's no jealousy whatsoever and its not driven by him - she is genuinely by and enjoys mff more then mmf guys to join us are easy to find - finding a woman however is kinda hardthats why we state we're looking for women and couples to join usotherwise we would get flooded by messages from guys
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think my main point was that guys use the wrong head to think with, since opening our profile to include 3some (we started as couples only) we have been bombarded with messages and flirts from single men, the theme is always the same...I can help you, here is my cock pic, I can make her scream, I can do things no other man can, I wanna fck your missusYou dont get a nice head shot with a smile and a hi id like to chat see if we click, or a hi happy to meet for a coffee, its always the other way, yet woman do not send this type of message, never get a snatch shot saying I can do stuff your missus cannot.So I am not sorry for my point of view, the majority of guys have themselves to blame for being clueless.Yesterday alone, 39 flirts, 30 cock pics as profile, 9 are no photo, the theme to them all is the same.Hence id rather go pick a random from a pub
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RHP User
14 years ago
my god are you serious?? that just proves how pathetic some men are.....lots of men it seems... life isnt a porn movie lol...wake up you wankas,,,,lol...we are most definatly not all like this....
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RHP User
14 years ago
We see couples and single guys...... we have actually played with more single guys than couples now, never had a reply from a single girl we have messaged, dont bother anymore. We have had a flirt or two from single ladies here but after a few messages and an offer to meet face to face for a coffee they seem to disappear. There are much easier places to find very nice young ladies to play with mff style.
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RHP User
14 years ago
This is my first post - I just had to put in my 2 cents' worth! I'm the chick half of a couple who is most definitely looking for a MFF experience only. And it's not at the guy's insistence, we'd talked/fantasised about it in the past but if anything it's me getting more excited/driving the ship/posting on RHP/keen to make it happen! I've always been very curious to explore my bi side, but I'm also very loyal in a relationship and truly don't actually want to be banged by another guy - it would make ME uncomfortable. There are no insecurity or other issues on his part, this is purely my opinion. ...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Firstly have to agree with Leesa from CI (great place) !! Not all girls want another cock either, although we understand the majority on this site do. We've been lucky enough to have about 4 FFM threesomes now over the last 12 months where the other hubby is happy just to watch and then have sex with HIS wife at the end. My Mrs will touch him and let him just finger her but she doesn't want another cock inside her body at all or oral from or to him. I don't need to penetrate another women, and Mrs doesn't want me to and i'm totally happy with that. i do give and take oral from the other girl with wife's blessing. She is not subservienat to me in any way. No matter how much fun we have with others we leave that final connection of actual sex to be between just us two. We are very much in love and very secure but Mrs loves the touch of another girl and she's happy for me to play along with them both. Of late, just to get a few more offers, Mrs has started just playing with the other guy's cock but she is more interested in mine and playing with the other girl also. There are lots of different variations of threesomes and degress of participation and there's room for all types. Just regarding the point someone raised about only the guys organising the meetings, my wife is a bit shy and very proactive and happy to participate once initial contact has been made by me, she's then keen to talk to the other girl as we know it will put their mind to rest to some extent. Overall it does limit our opportunities but that's the way it is and that's what it is all about. We know by our profile we won't get heaps of offers but we are happy with what we've MUTUALLY agreed on and have had some fantastic times. Twice now we have met couples at house/swinger parties where we have gone back to motel rooms and experienced the FFM thing with the other guy watching and with his minimal involvement but then he'll have sex with his own wife. Also recently we got another two couples we'd met as a FFM threesomes with hubby watching to join us in a motel for a sixsome, again Mrs & I mainly played with the other 2 girls while those couples fully swapped by the end of the night and satsified their full desire. Mrs & I share equally all facets of this website and our pursuit of that elusive FFM fun.........any takers?
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RHP User
14 years ago
totally agree with you. we have had ffm before as well. no jelousy at all so long as its fun all round
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RHP User
14 years ago
It's my choice not to be 'a pig on a spit' and are seeking the extra female to join us. Most guys would curl up in the foetal position if confronted with a MMF where he would be the 'double adaptor' or imagine having another penis in the equation. Although if we decided to advertise for a 'single guy' to join us we would be inundated with requests! We already have many contacting us from all over the country even though we clearly state thats not who we are seeking. I personally have thought about this topic before and I have some pretty strict rules about how we would deal with this issue. I wouldn't do anything like that if my partner wouldn't at least try it once, if I would prefer to bring in another guy. Firstly, as i'm in a relationship with a guy, if we had another bloke in our bed, he would have to (bare minimum) blow my bf before he even thought about starting on me, purely for the power play side of it. Same goes when its a threesome with a chick I make sure she understands that she isnt going to just fuck my fella before she's satisfied me. I once had a threesome with a female friend and she ruthlessly tried to come back and tempt him while i was at work the next day. Female friends often agree to the idea as to get their paws on your guy so choose carefully.
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newyboy70
14 years ago
I have been looking for a male for a 3some for ages with no luck. They appear to be single for reason "they are arseholes". How hard is it to find a guy who is respectful and not pushy.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'newyboy70'I have been looking for a male for a 3some for ages with no luck. They appear to be single for reason "they are arseholes". How hard is it to find a guy who is respectful and not pushy. thats our theory........that theres a reason the guys are single......and its not usually a good one......lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well Firstly all of you that can't find mmf should venture out to a club, secondly I live in a mmf relationship and it is awesome and has been for nearly 3 years now, no jealousy here! Thirdly, I can't stand anyone trashing single guys, yes we were like that 18 years ago before we started on the scene and yes there are a few towards we have met in our journey, but I must say the guys that we have met on here and allowed to come to the club are the most respectful and courteous guys we have ever met, we have never evicted a single guy, but we have evicted couples due to them breaching our rules or arguing about play, and usually it is the guy of the couple that has the problem. So get your rules right as couples enjoy your play by your rules and communicate and your lifestyle choice will be a very positive one. Lastly remember the single guys that come to our club are just as scared as any couple or single lady and they deserve respect too. Leesa xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well Firstly all of you that can't find mmf should venture out to a club, secondly I live in a mmf relationship and it is awesome and has been for nearly 3 years now, no jealousy here! Thirdly, I can't stand anyone trashing single guys, yes we were like that 18 years ago before we started on the scene and yes there are a few towards we have met in our journey, but I must say the guys that we have met on here and allowed to come to the club are the most respectful and courteous guys we have ever met, we have never evicted a single guy, but we have evicted couples due to them breaching our rules or arguing about play, and usually it is the guy of the couple that has the problem. So get your rules right as couples enjoy your play by your rules and communicate and your lifestyle choice will be a very positive one. Lastly remember the single guys that come to our club are just as scared as any couple or single lady and they deserve respect too. Leesa xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
beachbody, are you saying that couples in a certain type of relationship shouldnt be here? im saying that know one should be judgemental on anyone here, my hubby is not the jealous type when it comes to rhp, he is all for seeing me being fucked by another man, the thought of watching this really turns him on, if anyone gona be jealous, it would more than likely be me when he searches for a female as females can and are very complicating, lord knows why! they just areFunPost your Comment
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RHP User
14 years ago
We seek single girls and couples. We both want the same and that's not single guys, each to their own!We do like playing with guys but normally that's ONLY when it's in group/mfmf situation.We dont seek single guys because that's not what we want. We have taken a barman home and had fun but it wasn't as much fun as we liked and he left straight after, wam bam! Couple friends are more fun for us eg; dinners, movies, pubs, clubs & holidays etc and we can do things together ALL NIGHT/WEEKEND!Unless your only into seeing your girl with another guy (and thats ALL ur girl wants2), without enjoying the moment with his girl, why would you be seeking a mmf situation? We fail to see why your complaining about couples not seeking single guys? Would you if you were with a girl who would rather play with couples/girls than single guys?? Plus, there's a great deal more single guys on here than couples. Maybe couples are being picking because they can and those that aren't making the cut are sick of being left out of the loop.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting '40_is_fun' We see couples and single guys...... we have actually played with more single guys than couples now, never had a reply from a single girl we have messaged, dont bother anymore. We have had a flirt or two from single ladies here but after a few messages and an offer to meet face to face for a coffee they seem to disappear. There are much easier places to find very nice young ladies to play with mff style.We get the flirts from single ladies even the odd phone number. But most are so flaky that we tend not to put much effort into the single girls. We just leave the ball in there court and give our mobile number. If there keen and genuine great we will get a call. If not we haven't wasted to much of our time chasing them or email ping pong. Actually we do the same with couples and single guys to. Our theory is if they don't have it in them to call on the phone. Then there is a fighting chance you are ever going to meet in person net alone play.The single girls are out there and from time to time the odd genuine one pops up. Like you said there are easier places to find them.Tim and Jane Quoting '40_is_fun' We see couples and single guys...... we have actually played with more single guys than couples now, never had a reply from a single girl we have messaged, dont bother anymore. We have had a flirt or two from single ladies here but after a few messages and an offer to meet face to face for a coffee they seem to disappear. There are much easier places to find very nice young ladies to play with mff style.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have a slightly different view in that I am married (but wife has no idea I am on this site). Yes get judgemental if you want too. But here is the thing, I find more couples will want to met up with me as they now I can be 100% discreet and I am not there to steal the girl (or guy) It is all good fun to be had and so far so good
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Here4hotfun72'Hey Kitty! You are spot on I'm in a relationship and looking for some sexy solo fun but would love to introduce my partner to a sexy time with me and someone hot like you! She always notices fine looking women and loves to please me and if asked would definitely be involved! She would be competitive in bed doing her utmost to please her new lover but if it were you she' d have a fight on her hands cause those breasts and pussy of yours look succulent and juicy! Drop me a line I'm in Newcastle and happy to travel down F3 or for you to weekend it up here! Bye xox Very sweet of you to say such lovely things particularly when you're only looking at my boobie but hey, i'm not a compliment snob.xx goodgrl (formerly KinkyKittyKat)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Wow you have all missed the point, the topic was never about the dynamics of mmf or ffm or whatever mix ppl enjoy rather its about couples unable or fearful to ask what they really want sexually, the women who says she is bi and only looking for femmes and then behind her partners back says to you she wants two cocks is in a relationship that needs more communication between them, nothing more, there is no magic dynamic for sex only what we make it to be with honesty and transparency and talking about their feelings and needs.
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PartyOrg
14 years ago
Couldnt have put it better myself Petalandpodium
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'petalnpodium' Wow you have all missed the point, the topic was never about the dynamics of mmf or ffm or whatever mix ppl enjoy rather its about couples unable or fearful to ask what they really want sexually, the women who says she is bi and only looking for femmes and then behind her partners back says to you she wants two cocks is in a relationship that needs more communication between them, nothing more, there is no magic dynamic for sex only what we make it to be with honesty and transparency and talking about their feelings and needs.At least you guys get it!, some subjects just die on their arse because people take offense where absolutely none was intended! As I said, I just pondered on who was genuine and who was keeping their fella happy and the BOOM!!!!!!!! I'm just a bitter and twisted reject, it's the only explanation for me asking the question!. One reply even suggested I made it up!, which was funny considering I'm anonymous anyway!.
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