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January 30 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi there, Im not ashamed to admit that I'm a nympho at my age and loving it, i've a gorgeous husband and we love our group sex but girl do not hide it. I'm a hard to satisfy woman everytime we meet a couple, the wife goes home with a smile on her face but poor old me is waiting for that cock to be hard with her husband, god are there any men out there that can get it up and keep it up.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Fear of the unknown !! Do you swim in the deep in of the pool ? Do you swim between the flags ? Sex is an adventure that is controlled by you Tassie girl..If you dont jump in you will never know...Good luck.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Tassie devil I was also about your age when I decided to let go of my fears and explore my sexuality. However at the time I was fortunate to have a partner who was willing to explore them with me which helped considerably. So I think that as a single woman you are even braver to confront your desires on your own, therefore I can fully understand your fears. I remember the first time we went to a swingers club we were absolutely petrified, expecting god knows what, however we were pleasently surprised and comforted by the fact that the people there weren't two headed deviate monsters but normal people with the desire and fortitude to explore their own previously held fantasies and sexuality. We went to a number of clubs and private parties as well as meeting swingers via ads in the paper and RHP. We soon went from fear and trepidation to slightly nervous finally progressing on to excited anticipation about who or what we might meet up with on the night. Along the way we met some very nice people and had some very exciting sex while realising some long held fantasies. We didn't always play, quite often we would just observe the antics of others and then return home excited to satisfy each other. I still have the same philosophy now as I did then; I don't want to be sitting in my nursing home some years in the future wishing "what if?" Therefore I decided that I wanted to experience as many of my needs, desires and fantasies as I possibly could, all the things I had wanted to do but couldn't during my previous married life or just too scared to pursue. I still have some sexual adventures that I want to experience so I'm not finished yet! You may find it a little less daunting to meet up with a like minded partner be it male or female to assist you in your journey. So I guess what I'm saying is go for it, swallow your fears and you will find that you had nothing to be fearful about in the first place. Life is after all about experiences. And as the old cliche says: "Your'e a long time dead". Good Luck, and hope you find what you are looking for.
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you give in, well, then your fantasy comes true, I gues :). Where you are wanting to meet couples or others to fulfil your fantansies, there is no harm in taking all the due diligence measures you desire. You can scope them out (go Google), ask all the questions you want, etc. Remember, it's your safety you're talking about. Trust must be earned, especially if you're going into a situation where you are likely to be extremely vulnerable. But where you are running away before even giving others a chance ... perhaps you should try meeting them in a very public place first? Give yourself a chance to know people, don't just meet and shag. Maybe that'll help with that? No alcohol during that very first meet and greet, just say hi, how're you going, and have some nice, neutral conversation. It's our approach, but it may not be yours. It works for us, gives us a chance to scope the other couple out, provide some assurance that at face value, we are on the same page. Of course, things may not be so peachy once you get to know more about them, but any subsequent meetings after that are yours to decide if they're bunny boilers or not. Always be safe! Give others a a chance. More importantly, give yourself a chance.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Tassie I have a few mottos I repeat to myself. They usually work. I like, "Shut the fuck up and just do it", and "Don't die wondering but doing". I also say things like, ""whats the worst thing that could happen "? Sure ... it's probably going to be embarassing but hey... so what... embarassment is just a feeling that results in a flush of the cheeks. Red is my favourite colour ! I suggest you find a few lines or mottos that work for YOU. Don't use mine as they need to fit with your personality. Good luck, Have fun, life is tooooo short. xx Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
I also have a few Morris that get me to relax..... "Follow my erection, it knows what it wants." is probably my most consistent mantra. I think you need to be prepared to use your instincts to enjoy yourself as events unfold. No expectations result in no disapointments. This idea is easier said than done. A life's work, like finding eternal happiness! Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have "toughen up and just do it", "never stop till the final whistle" and "winning isn't everything, fun is important too - winning is fun"(I grew up in a rather competitive family and as a result I'm a 'somewhat' competitive person e.g. last 'play ticklefight' I had ended in a body triangle, but reversed so she couldn't escape the foot tickling - or get near mine. Winner by tapout lol, so stupid, but fun :) )
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey if you dont give it a go, then how will you ever know..Your alarm bells will ring if anything is not quite right..Or you'll blow your brains !!
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Bubbaj
16 years ago
First point of gettin over some of the fear....alcohol! A few glasses of wine at a swingers joint let go of some inhibition and thoughts and i just got dragged in! Otherwise that first 3some of mine with a couple...was just a spur of the moment where i thought...ok its organised already...dont let them down!
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is tough one. First everyone is different so there is no one answer.For me it was the honesty and openness of good people and there are some of them here. It is seem like a switch was turned on but now that I think about it the truth is it was a gradual thing. Good luck Hermes
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RHP User
16 years ago
Trish... Got to love those foot tickles.. and Mr Av just gives a foot massage to die for... (Something about him being trained as a masseur...) Tassie... When the time is right you will know... Maybe start off with a nice sensual massage... I know we often use that to soften the mood etc... Mr Av is also happy to just give a massage without anything more... unless the mood swings that way and I love to watch him give the massage. I often sit back and just watch or sometimes join in... all depending on the "patients" mood and desires. So just find a cpl who are willing to work with you and let the fun begin... Mr&Mrs Av... xoxo...
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RHP User
16 years ago
got quite afew but the ones that spring to mind are"theirs no i in team" and "go hard or go home"do they fit in here? hugs Earl.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I appreciate your comments and suggestions. Sexellence, to have a partner to embark on the journey with would be great. It was part of my original reason for joining RHP. Guess I'm going to have to stick with the title of a book I read back in the late 90's "feel the fear and do it anyway". wildgypsydevil haha
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