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Can we all agree....
May 11 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
..I do try to do as suggested but when someone refuses to listen to a polite thanks but no thanks message and keeps hounding you then I am going to get cranky. I do realise that this is the sort of thing that is in the minority in happening and do recognise the lovely ones who politely respond back with a Thanks for letting me know type message and have evan had the odd going - can you give me some advice on my profile though. My mother always taught me that respect wasnt something that should automatically be given but earned. Sometimes I agree with her then at other times no. i dont expect a life story in the first message but something a bit more beyond 'wanna fuck' 'what are you doing today?' or 'am at x hotel lets hook up tonight' would be greatly appreciated. but yes I do try to respond to them all but if you start to annoy with constant nagging when to meet, trying to change my mind after i have taken the time to politely say no then I am sorry but a curt message followed by an immediate block takes place. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
16 years ago
It's funny how things work out. I had just finished reporting someone for an abusive reply to my rejection message and I find this topic in the forums. I agree with you Wayne. A response is the polite way to go. I always try to respond as nicely as possible but when it is obvious that the person hasn't read my profile then the reply is polite but short. I am so tired of guys that don't read my profile that I am tempted to send something nasty out of sheer frustration.The messages asking if I "wanna root/fuck/meet soon" are replied to in the same manner they are sent. And how many have played flirt ping pong? That one drives me mad. Like Focus I have had one or two ask for advice and I am more than happy to provide it. Courtesy costs nothing so lets spread it around so we all get some of it.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm not sure what you're asking me to do Wayno. At 48 I think I'm as nice as I'm ever gunna get... and well.. everyone's going to have days that they wish would end sooner rather than later. Lots of hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think it is nice for you to post this Wayne..But seriously..You are try to push shit up hill! I am now attched..on my profile but men cannot respect that..I m getting messages from guys asking to meet! These many men care nothing but for themselves sweetpetite41<<<< not impressed..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Being that I am American, I automatically fall in to the obnoxious jerk crowd ( read steroetyping here), so sometimes I give people what they expect. I am currently only a guest here, so cannot really fall into the category of being ignorant other than flirt ping pong which is all I can do at the moment. As far as guys unable to handle rejection: deal with it, SHE DOESNT LIKE YOU, so go in to back up mode and break out that porn video. The ladies sometimes do go in to overkill on being vicious bitches when antagonized ( I like it: ) some guys just deserve the kick in the groin to get them to move on. Sadly, I haven't gotten enough responces to be rejected:(....
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RHP User
16 years ago
Emails....even the ones I find totally offensive and F.O.S are we really ever going to please everyone? Nah, not likely but hey.... keeps forum busy...and gives us something to whinge about. Besides which, having recently road tested another similar site, RHP and it's inhabitants are leagues ahead of the competition in every way!!! Hap Hap Happy Myname
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RHP User
16 years ago
Im fence sitting, because i can see merit in all. So therefore, I believe the problem lies with RHP itself. The dreaded...'Im a guest so i cant reply to more than one a day' needs to be updated to allow rejections - hopefully polite. Because as a bloke on here, trying to raise his hand higher than everyone else, Id appreciate just a reply. Im never rude, but that doesnt stop the silence. Silence is frustrating arrogance if you want my opinion.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Question Mr niceguy, I'd specifically stated on my profile that I won't be replying to mails that don't show a profile pic yes? But If I still keep getting loads of profileless mails, is it an rude gesture then not to reply? I understand the frustration from the men but there are masses of idiots out there that just carpet bomb every chick on the website. To them its a number game, I bet you my right ass they would not even remember whom they had even send the mails to to to begin with. So to these idiots, the answer is no. To the semi idiots, maybe. To you and other nice guys though, definitely! xx Anna xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
oh i have so many questions after all the answers...think i need to start a thread of my own but firstly im with myname i always answer my mail...always..i have no problem at all recieving abuse for a thanks but no thanks reply cause it gives me a chance to let rip hehe and believe me iv never been hounded after that i think if you dont reply back it just plain unfair on the fella.... but like Anna said why should she if she has specificly said she wont for a certain type...they have obviously not read her profile properly and are just looking at the pretty pictures which i find unfair on her so maybe if people just started reading profiles properly some of this wouldnt happen and then no one would be complaining roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was never aware that men actually READ!! Don't they just see the pics and then send messages? It amazes me too how many guys out of my age range (and I mean wayyyy out) still either send me a flirt or message. I use the quick replies when I am not interested or feel they are idiots. If they fall in my range but aren't to my liking...I send them a nice message thanking them for their message. But I can also see why some girls don't answer...as I find the older ones are the ones that call me a slut when I reject them...it does kind of make you feel over it a bit!! But Wayne I agree, if they have actually READ your profile then a nice personal message back is manners. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
sometimes I reply, sometimes I don't. If the email is clearly 'spam', as in he hasn't read my profile, or has but doesn't care ... or is abusive, crude, disgusting etc I reserve the right to 'reply' with my silence. (I have the same view on voting, but don't get me started on that!)If people are nice I usually reply nicely.If I'm not sure if they've read my profile i.e. their message is pleasant but possibly spam, I usually reply and ask them if they've read my profile.And ... I have a pleasant auto-reply just in case - which some people accept and others take serious offense to.So ... even with all that, I still can't please everyone.I might just sneak off to the bedroom and please myself instead :Dlilmiss xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
....all you can do is maintain your standard and accept that other people are different to you. Smile and the world smiles with you (or... they get pissed off that you're happy and they're not) Jx
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RHP User
16 years ago
IF A MAN HAS ACTUALLY TAKEN THE TIME 2 READ MY PROFILE AND GIVE ME FEEDBACK OR ACKNOWLEDGED SOMETHING THATS ACTUALLY WRITTEN N THERE I WILL REPLY EVEN IF THEY HAVE NO PICS UP....IF THE IDIOT MALE HAS SOMEHOW EVOLVED TO UNDERSTAND THE CUT AND PASTE FUNCTION OF HIS KEYBOARD I AINT REPLYIN...AND IF THINKS IM SO DESPERATE FOR NET FRIENDS THAT I DONT HAVE A SOCIAL LIFE AND DROP EVERYTHING 2 GO MEET SOME RANDOM OFF THE NET...IM NOT REPLYIN....BUT IM REALLY REALLY GET GETTIN SICK OF OLD MEN OVER 40 SENDIN ME STUFF WHEN I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO INTEREST IN THEM AT ALL.....I ALSO SEE NO POINT IN A GUEST MALE SENDIN ME ANYTHING SINCE IM A GUEST....BUT THEY STILL DO...IM BLAMING IT ON THE FACT THAT THE MALE SPECIES IS MISSING A CHROMOSOME AND SOME OF THEM A FEW OTHER THINGS 2!!! BUT GOOD LUCK ON YOUR ENDEAVOUR NICEGUY PERHAPS YOU COULD SEND THEM ALL BACK 2 SCHOOL WHEN THEY SIGN UP 4 THIS SITE :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'focusliason' ..I do try to do as suggested but when someone refuses to listen to a polite thanks but no thanks message and keeps hounding you then I am going to get cranky. I do realise that this is the sort of thing that is in the minority in happening and do recognise the lovely ones who politely respond back with a Thanks for letting me know type message and have evan had the odd going - can you give me some advice on my profile though. My mother always taught me that respect wasnt something that should automatically be given but earned. Sometimes I agree with her then at other times no. i dont expect a life story in the first message but something a bit more beyond 'wanna fuck' 'what are you doing today?' or 'am at x hotel lets hook up tonight' would be greatly appreciated. but yes I do try to respond to them all but if you start to annoy with constant nagging when to meet, trying to change my mind after i have taken the time to politely say no then I am sorry but a curt message followed by an immediate block takes place. Kisses Focus Hi Focus, I'd have no issue with politely trying to change a gals mind as email is not the best communication method and not everyone is as good at expressing themselves via the written word - but after two no thanks, I think you need to draw the line and respect the No thanks. Just need to help others understand this. Hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'DominaT' It's funny how things work out. I had just finished reporting someone for an abusive reply to my rejection message and I find this topic in the forums. I agree with you Wayne. A response is the polite way to go. I always try to respond as nicely as possible but when it is obvious that the person hasn't read my profile then the reply is polite but short. I am so tired of guys that don't read my profile that I am tempted to send something nasty out of sheer frustration.The messages asking if I "wanna root/fuck/meet soon" are replied to in the same manner they are sent. And how many have played flirt ping pong? That one drives me mad. Like Focus I have had one or two ask for advice and I am more than happy to provide it. Courtesy costs nothing so lets spread it around so we all get some of it. Hi DominaT, Yes - having read your profile, I'd expect only those into serious BDSM need apply :-) I'm sure you still get the "wanna fcuk" emails though and those are the guys you'd just want to beat senseless and not in a good way... :-) Flirt ping pong is just crap... Courtesy does cost nothing and it's value increases with the more that is given on both sides. Thanks for responding. Hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' I'm not sure what you're asking me to do Wayno. At 48 I think I'm as nice as I'm ever gunna get... and well.. everyone's going to have days that they wish would end sooner rather than later. Lots of hugs Gaz I can't change the world, but if no one tries to change and everyone accepts that change can not happen, then we're all screwed... I'd rather give it a shot and try to lead by example and do my bit to help improve things than sit back and bitch and moan about it - that helps no one at all. As for you being as nice as you're ever gunna get... I'm sure you can improve mate... we all can :-) hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'sweetpetite41' I think it is nice for you to post this Wayne..But seriously..You are try to push shit up hill! I am now attched..on my profile but men cannot respect that..I m getting messages from guys asking to meet! These many men care nothing but for themselves sweetpetite41<<<< not impressed.. Yes - I've had experience pushing shit up hill for a long time... and I've succeeded too at times - as I said above - if we all accept the status quo, and don't try to change then we all lose :-( Might as well give it a shot. Good on ya for being attached - glad you are happy - that is what it's all about isn't it :-) Hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'icumfast'Being that I am American, I automatically fall in to the obnoxious jerk crowd ( read steroetyping here), so sometimes I give people what they expect. I am currently only a guest here, so cannot really fall into the category of being ignorant other than flirt ping pong which is all I can do at the moment. As far as guys unable to handle rejection: deal with it, SHE DOESNT LIKE YOU, so go in to back up mode and break out that porn video. The ladies sometimes do go in to overkill on being vicious bitches when antagonized ( I like it: ) some guys just deserve the kick in the groin to get them to move on. Sadly, I haven't gotten enough responces to be rejected:(.... Mate - I know enough Americans to know that the stereotype "CAN" be accurate, but they can also be so FAR from accurate too. One gent I know from South Carolina is the guy I look up to as the "perfect gentleman". anyway - as to the guys who can't listen - that is the point. Some guys can't/won't change - but if the rest of us lead by example - then we're a step ahead. Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Mynameonurlips' Emails....even the ones I find totally offensive and F.O.S are we really ever going to please everyone? Nah, not likely but hey.... keeps forum busy...and gives us something to whinge about. Besides which, having recently road tested another similar site, RHP and it's inhabitants are leagues ahead of the competition in every way!!! Hap Hap Happy Myname Thank you Spike for being one of the nice girls... oh - hope I've not ruined your reputation there ;-) Glad to hear RHP is ahead of the competition :-) Hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'jackhammer45'Im fence sitting, because i can see merit in all. So therefore, I believe the problem lies with RHP itself. The dreaded...'Im a guest so i cant reply to more than one a day' needs to be updated to allow rejections - hopefully polite. Because as a bloke on here, trying to raise his hand higher than everyone else, Id appreciate just a reply. Im never rude, but that doesnt stop the silence. Silence is frustrating arrogance if you want my opinion. I hear ya jackhammer - you'd like to be able to send more emails. Fortunately for you there is a solution - it involves paying some cash to RHP and upgrading your account. I'm sure we'd all like this for free - but it's not a reality :-( Agree with your comment about silence too... it's frustrating to know a lady has read your email, and not responded.. or that she's been online. I feel into the trap early in the piece of being a little too anxious and learned to just chill :-) Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'AnnabelleJ' Question Mr niceguy, I'd specifically stated on my profile that I won't be replying to mails that don't show a profile pic yes? But If I still keep getting loads of profileless mails, is it an rude gesture then not to reply? I understand the frustration from the men but there are masses of idiots out there that just carpet bomb every chick on the website. To them its a number game, I bet you my right ass they would not even remember whom they had even send the mails to to to begin with. So to these idiots, the answer is no. To the semi idiots, maybe. To you and other nice guys though, definitely! xx Anna xx Yeah - we can't help everyone Annabelle.. unfortunately :-( I think your profile is pretty clear as to what you want, maybe you could setup an autoreply to remind the guys who have locked on to your amazing pics and lost all selfcontrol :-) Guys carpet bomb chicks to play the numbers game. That can only be broken if the chicks respond nicely - yes it takes time to change, but we all play a part on how we are percieved. Thanks for giving your thoughts - appreciate it. hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'geturroxyoff' oh i have so many questions after all the answers...think i need to start a thread of my own but firstly im with myname i always answer my mail...always..i have no problem at all recieving abuse for a thanks but no thanks reply cause it gives me a chance to let rip hehe and believe me iv never been hounded after that i think if you dont reply back it just plain unfair on the fella.... but like Anna said why should she if she has specificly said she wont for a certain type...they have obviously not read her profile properly and are just looking at the pretty pictures which i find unfair on her so maybe if people just started reading profiles properly some of this wouldnt happen and then no one would be complaining roxxy xxx Hey Roxy, yes - I know you and myname answer emails - you've been very gracious indeed - a shining star... (no thats not OBS) :-) I know the idiots do give you fodder for the cannon - life is fun isn't it. Maybe RHP can put a tick box on the emails to say you've read the profile and then elevate those emails in peoples mailboxes... sure it's open to abuse, but it might work... I think too - that some gals take effort to put their profiles together, and others just go with the defaults... I always appreciate someone whose put effort into writing something different in their profile. Hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'lilmissfussy' sometimes I reply, sometimes I don't. If the email is clearly 'spam', as in he hasn't read my profile, or has but doesn't care ... or is abusive, crude, disgusting etc I reserve the right to 'reply' with my silence. (I have the same view on voting, but don't get me started on that!)If people are nice I usually reply nicely.If I'm not sure if they've read my profile i.e. their message is pleasant but possibly spam, I usually reply and ask them if they've read my profile.And ... I have a pleasant auto-reply just in case - which some people accept and others take serious offense to.So ... even with all that, I still can't please everyone.I might just sneak off to the bedroom and please myself instead :Dlilmiss xxx Lilmiss.. no need to go to the bedroom to please yourself, I'll be along shortly after i've responded to the other people on this thread ;-) Seriously though - I agree withthe autoreply - there are ways to word it (a you have) that are great. Now - if only we can get guys to read them :-) Hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'OneBrightStar' ....all you can do is maintain your standard and accept that other people are different to you. Smile and the world smiles with you (or... they get pissed off that you're happy and they're not) Jx OBS - yup - agree we can't MAKE them place nice, but lead by example. accepting everyone is different is part of the solution, but encouraging others by leading and showing that is also a way to help people move forwards... otherwise they just follow the loudest and often incorrect voices... Hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree...it would be nice if we were all courteous and lovely but unfortunately in the cyber world some have taken it upon themselves to act like jerks. I also always reply and try to be courteous. I think there is nothing wrong with showing manners and respect. We are all human after all. I think its another classic case of a few ruining it for the rest of us. Mrs Shy PS: you do seem like a genuine niceguy...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'NO_ME_CINO'IF A MAN HAS ACTUALLY TAKEN THE TIME 2 READ MY PROFILE AND GIVE ME FEEDBACK OR ACKNOWLEDGED SOMETHING THATS ACTUALLY WRITTEN N THERE I WILL REPLY EVEN IF THEY HAVE NO PICS UP....IF THE IDIOT MALE HAS SOMEHOW EVOLVED TO UNDERSTAND THE CUT AND PASTE FUNCTION OF HIS KEYBOARD I AINT REPLYIN...AND IF THINKS IM SO DESPERATE FOR NET FRIENDS THAT I DONT HAVE A SOCIAL LIFE AND DROP EVERYTHING 2 GO MEET SOME RANDOM OFF THE NET...IM NOT REPLYIN....BUT IM REALLY REALLY GET GETTIN SICK OF OLD MEN OVER 40 SENDIN ME STUFF WHEN I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO INTEREST IN THEM AT ALL.....I ALSO SEE NO POINT IN A GUEST MALE SENDIN ME ANYTHING SINCE IM A GUEST....BUT THEY STILL DO...IM BLAMING IT ON THE FACT THAT THE MALE SPECIES IS MISSING A CHROMOSOME AND SOME OF THEM A FEW OTHER THINGS 2!!! BUT GOOD LUCK ON YOUR ENDEAVOUR NICEGUY PERHAPS YOU COULD SEND THEM ALL BACK 2 SCHOOL WHEN THEY SIGN UP 4 THIS SITE :) I hear your frustration... bit by bit we can change the world.... look at Smoking... 40 years ago 90% of the Australian Adult population were smokers... now it's down to 20% or less... sure it's a different cause, but the word is out there... people will change if we try. Hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'shycouple11' I agree...it would be nice if we were all courteous and lovely but unfortunately in the cyber world some have taken it upon themselves to act like jerks. I also always reply and try to be courteous. I think there is nothing wrong with showing manners and respect. We are all human after all. I think its another classic case of a few ruining it for the rest of us. Mrs Shy PS: you do seem like a genuine niceguy... Thanks for agreeing... what I think's interesting is the many that have read the thread and basically said "yeah...right....as if.." They probably don't think you can change perceptions and people... but you can... it takes time and constant effort... that is my point... Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ok so despite my very best efforts Wayne you still are one of the nicests guys I know ..... Didnt we insert that new nasty chip ages ago ?? Have you not upgraded the software ??? as you have replied to everyone elses I am gunna be heart broken when you don't!.... come on be a niceguy ! Ok I agree with just about everyone here ...... just about BUT I have to say worse still is the woman who DO reply to the wanna fuck email aghhhhh aghhhhh aghhhh PLEASE stop it! It's like feeding seagulls at the Beach ! Please stop stop stop stop ! Wayne I am gunna make you nastyguy00068 ...... some day ....... one day I shall succeed! In the mean time folks isn't it nice to have the nice guy back! Sharin the love Brae!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'looking2try3' Ok so despite my very best efforts Wayne you still are one of the nicests guys I know ..... Didnt we insert that new nasty chip ages ago ?? Have you not upgraded the software ??? as you have replied to everyone elses I am gunna be heart broken when you don't!.... come on be a niceguy ! Ok I agree with just about everyone here ...... just about BUT I have to say worse still is the woman who DO reply to the wanna fuck email aghhhhh aghhhhh aghhhh PLEASE stop it! It's like feeding seagulls at the Beach ! Please stop stop stop stop ! Wayne I am gunna make you nastyguy00068 ...... some day ....... one day I shall succeed! In the mean time folks isn't it nice to have the nice guy back! Sharin the love Brae! Brae, Love it... writers cramp... nah - you do realise I've been typing for over 30 years... and I can do 80 to 100 WPM... and I'm almost finished writing my first full book at 650 pages.. You can keep trying to make me nasty - but it ain't gunna work... i'm am who I am and I ain't changing for anyone - the "wife" tried to change me and failed... Enjoy the trip mate. Wayne Hugs to Sarah - you don't get hugs for trying to be nasty ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
he will know already whether Im going to reply or not!If he doesnt match what im asking for...and I think I make it pretty damn clear...but still insists on sending me a crude message...then he doesnt DESERVE a reply!But in saying that...if he doesnt match...but is just saying a polite Hi....then sure...i answer.Oh...it's a fickle world we live in!!JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
and it totally depends on my mood when I read it too.It might be an unofficial "hate all men" day...in which case...it's probably prudent that I DONT reply...lest I say somethinga little bit not nice!BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'MissBJ'and it totally depends on my mood when I read it too.It might be an unofficial "hate all men" day...in which case...it's probably prudent that I DONT reply...lest I say somethinga little bit not nice!BJxxx Get a calendar of the "hate men days" so we know when to not email you ;-) hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
OOHHH THIS THREAD NOW I KNOW WAT YA ON ABOUT :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
be nice just so others fill nice it hadly happens someone says somethink nice just cos they can not cos they should (want somethig in return)
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RHP User
16 years ago
You nailed it. Miss BJ yes we all have crappy days when communications of any sort could be down right dangerous, just wait for a better day to reply. I LIKE IT Bright Star yes yes yes maintain your standards and smile. Let the rest fall around you
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