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Bondage and Submisson or Swinging!!

January 14 2010

I have recently aquired an interest in the area of bondage and submisson..I would even go as far as to say..I'm sub training hahaha.. but I'm fast finding that this subject tends to be a bit of a no go zone for many people! I think it's interesting how so many people talk so freely about partner swapping and wanting mmf or ffm expereinces but when someone says they would like a bdsm expereince it makes many people feel uncomfortable...I'm just wondering why?? Granted it can be extreme but so is having a gang bang :P Has anyone eles found this to be true?? Enlight XXX

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RHP User

16 years ago

hey Enlight i was just introduced 2 the bdsm scene by a guy on RHP and it was great... had the time of my life if u find the right person 2 teach u it is wonderful but make sure u trust them...trust is a huge part of it make sure ur comfortable with whats going on and dont 4get ur security word lol enjoy Roxy there has been other threads on this that might help u but im not sure how 2 get there :-) Enjoy

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RHP User

16 years ago

I'm not opposed to a bit of BDSM, and am a bit of a submissive myself. Not easy to find a partner that is experienced here though

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dazza65811

16 years ago

You are right, people will judge quickly if you start with any bdsm reference, but for every one that is negative, hopefully here you will find someone just as pleased. I find it fun to play the master and take charge, but only once comfortable with the right person. I like too play but not too hard - it's hard to find someone who wants to play but not get - what I consider to be - obsessed with it (and it's makes it hard when you do ;-), luckily I found a good play partner atm). Keep your open mind and your good attitude and good things cum to those who wait Cheers Daz

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RHP User

16 years ago

I think it's just one of those things that some people are totally into, have an appreciation for, just don't 'get it' but figure each to their own or are totally opposed to...and the same could be said for gangbanging too. It's also something that is different for everyone...so many limits, levels, variables...

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RHP User

16 years ago

In my experience one of the challanges is that people into BDSM are often not into swinging and quite resent being mistaken for swingers. Personally I am a swinger at heart but do love a bit of BDSM play. Plus the fetish wear that is often included is sooo sexy. I would often joke with my wife that the BDSM fetish wear is wasted on BDSM'rs if they are not interested in a little swapping or group sex as well LOL. I think the blame is probably on both sides - swingers being a bit closed minded to the fun that BDSM play can be and BDSM'rs can be a closed minded to swinging and keen to make sure they are not mistaken for swingers.

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RHP User

16 years ago

We regularly indulge in this awesome art form, but then we have been marriedfor over 10 years. We started early in the relationship, however even that was tame compared to what we do now (What we do now would still clasify as being tame)Few things you need to remember1-Trust is the most obvious and important part- It's all about pushing boundries, knowing limits, and knowing your partner will stop IMMEDIATELY if you need them to stop, which brings me to the next point2- Safe word- This is a very non descript word that relates in no wa to sex. So use a word like "Pineapple" or the like. Don't use a profanity as this could be mistaken for youjust getting off on it all.3- Experiment -It's supposed to be fun so you can go a little crazy, and you can be surprised at the sorts of toys and things you can get up to.Mrs Rough got very wobbly knees when i told her that 2 of the lads at work had borrowed my hammer- The same hammer we had used the night before. Toys to tease and tantalise, come in all sorts of weird and wonderful sizes and shapeshave fun and stay safe!

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RHP User

16 years ago

From our experience we think its because people in general relate BDSM with pain rather than erotic kinky role play. We like kink (blindfolds/tieups/role play etc etc) but we don't like pain nor do we assoicate our version of BDSM with pain. Maybe its how its perceived. D & R

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RHP User

16 years ago

I think your right akinkytwo4fun.... I'm fast finding that most people consider bdsm play as rought pain related sex!! so far from my expereince this has not been the case and from what I'm told there are many various levels of bdsm... the beginner level which I'm at is very gentle and is more about getting comfortable within your own parameters...I believe it's called d/s = discipline and submission... I dont judge people who find bdsm a big taboo but I wish they wouldnt judge others who are generally interested in it..like anything..the more you know about something the easier it is to show an understading of it :P Enlight XX PS Thanks everyone for your contribution to my topic...I have found your comments useful and entertaining hehe :P

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RHP User

16 years ago

Hi, im a real male stripper seeking a dominatrix, u wont be disappointed

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RHP User

16 years ago

Hi Enlightened_One It is Domination and submission the disipline can come later. You are quite right the level vary in accordance with one want to explore and their existing levels of experiance. LC

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RHP User

16 years ago

Thanks LC :) I knew it was something like that! hehehe I'm still very new to the whole bdsm thing..

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