Better Lovers Born or Made

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Life's like a box of Men, you never know what you're gonna get.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Great question! I really think that people who have a strong desire to explore and find my buttons are the greatest lovers. The "lay back and fuck me" people are more boring than wanking. There's certainly a point in time for that, but you know, some people seem to think that's the start, the middle and the end of the game. What turns my lover on.. That is the mutual quest.... great sex happens when the answers co-incide. That's why I think you can never have a pre-determined plan.... why going with what your senses tell you is the way to go, and why you can worry about exactly what the fuck you were doing later. :) Hugs Stalky

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I think we are always improving as lovers..if we want to of course..some people think they are great lovers doing the same thing over and over again. sure if it aint broke , dont fix it..but there is always room for imporvements !

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  An inquisitive, caring and passionate nature helps i'm sure and you seem to have that in bucket loads. There are plenty of guys who are completely dedicated to really, really impressing their lover and when they are like that it makes me want to do the same thing and when you're both on the same page and out to make the whole thing thoroughly mindblowing, you can't really fail. You can't be in bed with someone who wants to know everything about what makes you tick, what you like and how you like it and not have that entheusiasm as well.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I've found that there are some wonderful men that have truly applied themselves ( must have been gruelling to do the research) to learning about women and what pleasures them. However, some guys will take that knowledge and use it with instinctive and natural passion and there are others that seem to use that information like an impersonal text book of steps to follow. Give me "uneducated" sensory driven , soulful, heated, passion anyday over cold meaningless , "ive watched a lot of porn and got all the moves" processes. Minxy

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ...and we are either always growing or dying on the vine. Not sure that someone would really "die" as such, but if you aren't open to change or are willing to move outside what you know...death by boredom may be even worse. | Mature or rot...Grapes of Wrath.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  as a Leo , i take my sex very seriously :)   practiced for many years (never married so have had lots of variety) , read many books, watched movies, learnt from others, and being in the scene has helped me become AWSOME.. Bernie.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Stalky you hit the nail right on the head. And the big C as in Chemistry. If it is not there, no amount of foreplay or after play or what ever will start my motor. There are some men that are better for the following reasons they kiss you on the lips before and ohhh my god “after sex”. They talk to you while having sex, they do not get you to fill out a list to tick box for what you like, before they even have met you. Just follow the body road map is all you need to do the signs are pretty clear if you pay attention. They linger a little after the pony has bolted from the field. They do not have to ask you if you enjoyed it, they already can tell. Yes experience counts only if you pay attention to what is happening to the woman, not if you have had that cock in ten million and never learnt a thing because you have no thought but for your own pleasure. Some lovers talk the talk but never walk the walk. And funny as this sounds, the best lovers are the ones that actually see you, that can go past the boobs and pussy. Same for women who can go past that monster cock and take care of the man , like give that massage or let him blow on your tits or just let him walk away without clinging to his leg and let him have good memories of that one hot night in the sheets. Lets face its the new the exciting all are catalysts for that hot sexy tryst, if it turned into a long relationship or marriage even then great lovers can become boring fucks no matter how hard they try.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  It really is all about learning. If you share experiences with someone that is open & willing to learn & tell you what they like & dont like then over time you will naturally become a better lover. You grow to understand what works well (& what does not). Being shy about sex & hoping to get the most out of it does not work. I say live learn & love as much as we can.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  a bit of both......you have to have it within you to start with, to be able to understand what it is that you need to do, to be that 'better' lover...... a predisposition to good loving perhaps.... or at least the predisposition to learning, and being able to adapt and modify what you have learnt, to suit all circumstances....some have it...some dont...

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