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Are we missing the point

July 08 2007

I have been on this site for a while now and we are a genuine couple. We took our photo off and put it in our private gallery because frankly we have found these sites to be a waste of time. We have attended couples parties and found them much more fun and enjoyable. At least the majority of paople are there to play. I will try and explain why. We are married and very much in love. We have experienced the swinging scene and find it fun and exciting and yes we do find it spices up our relationship. The problem with these sites is most people want to talk for weeks on end then meet first (no play) then if all are happy meet again and so on and so on. Now we are a young fit couple and are very social so we have no problems making friends. We might have missed the point here but we are after variety and the exciement the swinging scene has to offer and lets face it that means sex, sex sex even if its just same room with people watching. As far as we are concerned if we all find each other attractive lets meet and have some fun. I can't understand why people place, will not play on first meet on there profile. Again "Are we missing the point"? Anyway we are going on a bit too much so we are thinking of attending couples international this weekend. Is there any other young couples attending (14 July). Would love to hear from you. Hey CI any plans for a spa and orgy room? Just returned to CI and was impressed with the new club (even though it was only our 2nd visit to your club. Attended the old venue)

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RHP User

18 years ago

i know your looking for cpls but i would love to play if your ever interested in male as im looking for a fit young cpl as i am young and fit so let me know if you are interested

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RHP User

18 years ago

Hi there, No we will never put in a spa. We did it for years at the old venue and they are disgusting. We and others dont want to sit in soup of other peoples body fuilds.LOL We cleaned them everynight and scrubbed them daily and fully adjusted accordingly and yet they get bacterial ridden after 2 hours of use. If people were to go in clothed it would be different. Our venue is about complete cleanliness and utmost hygine for all our patrons. We have the big brother shower 9 so it all goes down the drain. Right down to packets of chips instead of bowls of chips and individually wrapped mints. We have consulted many companies and they all agree that there is now way of making sure that the bacterial level is good when you have unclothed and sexual actc happening in a spa nighty...hourly...etc Orgy room: There is a queen bed up stairs in the open and gets used often for orgies, so we are unsure what you mean. There is always orgies going on in the rooms up the front as well...and in the voyuer rooms. ( which now has redhot pie web cam active weekly ) All the red vinyl ottomans are there for your use as well and get used a lot for that purpose. Look forward to this weekend. Bryan and Leesa

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RHP User

18 years ago

yeh couples clubs are 10 times better as their are too many dreamers and time wasters on these sites(no offence to genuines). Also there is too many couples with insecure selfish males only after satisfying their own needs. swingers party's rock and there is definitely no pressure.

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RHP User

18 years ago

We have also been on this site for sometime and have found that noone actually does much more than talk.We are both from larger cities where the attitudes are a little more liberal towards sex.Being up here limits us alot as its a small town and attitudes towards sex are to say the least a little strange and reserved.Were coming to Brisvegas on the 3rd and 4th of August and will be attending CI{hope your ready for us }.Cant wait to have some fun with like minded people.

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RHP User

18 years ago

I know what you mean ftcurious..... for me its hard as play as a couple but also a single....as a single i dont always have the time to meet and meet and meet so if i Go to CI i can have fun without having the pressure of trying to organise my time on someone who may never actually meet me.... Might be attanding on sat night although only at a single not as a couple.....not sure if your after girls as well as couples.... Tamara xxx

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RHP User

18 years ago

To be succesful as a couple of here, you need to ne pro-active. To be pro-active you also have to be confident and 100% sure about the 'lifestyle'. You can then easily weed out the 'talkers' pretty much in the first level of communication. If you are seen as 'hardcore'... then you are probably pushing the buttons of the newbies who will never meet people anyways. We have met in a total of 4 years being on this and another site... 6 couples. Yup.. only 6. 5 of those now.. are lifelong freinds as well as shag buddies. Clubs are the single best way to meet other swingers, but then again, you also need to be confident and sociable. Too often you see newbies sitting alone at the back of the room just watching and waiting for someone to approach them. These then become the same people who tell others that they had a 'crap' time at a club. Live a little, and get out to meet some people :) OH and... check our profile, you might find we are suitable ! (Shameless plug) :) :)

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RHP User

18 years ago

True true true!!!! Have been on this site for over a year now. Have met a number of couples now but alas only two have proven to be stayers...all others end up having some kind of issues within themselves. 99.9% of "single" girls on here are actually loser guys pretending...sigh... (no offence to the decent guys on here). We suppose it's daunting for newbies (we all were once), but you'll never know if you like it if you don't try! Clubs are probably a more sure fire way of meeting someone..but then it seems there are a lot of lookers there as well as we have discovered. People who don't swing but just like to watch..which is fair enough if that's their thing but they should make it clear up front to others who chat to them and not wait until an hour into conversation to tell them...that can be frustrating as well. For us, if the ppl we're contacting don't put up facial pics and a direct contact by the second message we pretty much know they aren't serious.

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RHP User

18 years ago

Hi Guys, We have had similar experiences, and as such we will stop communicating with people who are not willing to meet are just a few messages, as we have found these people seem to get off on messages and not on meeting and progressing the situation. We are a genuine, active couple who are prepared to play on first meet if all are comfortable, and we have done so on several occasions. We have found that there are a lot of time wasters and single men posing as couples who always have excuses as to why the partner is not there when you meet, however we have also made some great friends and exjoyed some fantastic friends who we see on a continual basis and have alot of fun with. I do disagree however with the "no Photo" comment in the last post as we both have high public profiles and will not put out any images which can be captured. We are however very willing to webcam with others in the place of photos, but seem to get a lot of resistance to this, which leads me to believe that some people are putting up pics which are non current, if they have posted pics and are not willing to cam, unless of course they cannot cam because children are around. We can only encourage you all to persist and to weed out the time wasters, but if you want to meet up with a genuine couple, please feel free to contact us and we can progress from there. I trust all have a great day JJ & Pete

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RHP User

18 years ago

Just as a further comment which we have noticed, many people have conflicting information in their profiles such as an age group they are looking for in the initial info at the top of the profile such as looking for 18-110 age group, as in your profile and then in the body of the message stating they are looking for 18-35. We have noticed this to be a common occurence and bearing this in mind, there are probably o lot of people who do the same but do not include the second age group in the body of the profile, so a lot of us believe we are within the desired age group, but fall outside of what people are actually looking for, there fore wasting a lot of time for the people doing searches. Some better accuracy in these things would save a lot of people a lot of time. Have a great day all JJ & Pete

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RHP User

18 years ago

As a single guy who enjoys sex as much as everyone else here. I am a friendly broadminded guy who doesn't have problems meeting people. I have been lucky enough to attend a few swingers party as a single guy and have alot of fun. I heard hat the online chat room craze was the new way of meeting people. However I have found it to be just that it is just a chatroom and most people are comfortable just chatting. Unfortunately it seems to me that it is only bi women or bi curious women that are actually meeting or claim to be. The only lady I have met from this site said that inevitably most are just playing out their fantasies online, cheers

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pkympete

18 years ago

well guys , we can say we have met heaps of real people from these sites , believe it or not , we run bikersbuzz and masqueradeball and have met so many people that come to our events , all real ... one piece of advise , we dont contact people if they you dont have a photo on there profile , was caught out once by a single male posing as a couple . We have found , people put " will not play on first meets " as a safe guard , a lot of people will , if there is an attraction , but always an escape if you dont like some one , some people take ," play on frist meets ", as a given , we dont play with people just because they will , or we can , there has to be an attraction .

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SexyZebra

18 years ago

Seems we are not alone. We only come to this site for the forums now. Going to CI on 4th August, hope to see some of you there.

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RHP User

18 years ago

I have been on these sites since last October and have played with 15 to 20 single females or couples. All the meets have worked out really well. Some people are still in my "book" but, of course, some have moved on. The most common story I hear is all girls and couples have almost given up looking because of the time wasters, fakes and no shows. When I first joined the sites and saw the number of guys vs girls I thought it would be a pretty long shot getting match but now I realise 80% or more of the guys are gunnas or fakes! Phil

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RHP User

18 years ago

Speaking on behalf of newbies- We have not had the experience, nor attended a party (Yet)! As a young married couple with kids, it can be a little daunting, yet exciting. We will not meet anyone directly from this site as we do not want to piss in ppl's pockets and waste ppls time. We are not looking to swing, but do get turned on by the thought of another couple in the room which makes us closet voyers i guess. Different people are looking for different things, however everyone should be mindful of wasting others time. That said, we are curious as to how many people view our profile, and the majority have indicated that they are keen to play and not waste time-(Are they fakers??????). I believe that RHP need to set up a system where "Newbies" such as ourselves, can "Waste" time with others, leaving the experienced to get in contact with eachother. Perhaps a forum which is by invite only, so that only those who have played with others are formally invited into the forum. Could sort the time wasters from the keen people. Although we are new to this, we are keen to explore, we just don't know how far we intend to go, and will take things slowly, as we do not want to jeapardise our marriage. thats our 2 cents worth then

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